hmmm.....wait and see.Originally posted by raingal:But it's like, no doubt we do get along very well at work, I had never fallen for him at all in the past few months. Only when he started to ask me out on solo dates, then I realised he likes me, then I started feeling awkward, then I'm started confused with my own feelings, then I started to think of him at night...
If I like him also, how am I going about telling him? This few days, he act normal, no more making any advances, so what shud I do?
Its risky to assume your feelings or even your thoughts about him just because you knew about his feelings for you. Many a times, its not what we actually felt - rather, its the constant thinking that made us feel subconsciously we may have a small crush on that person.Originally posted by raingal:I have this colleague at work who is very nice to me, that day he ask me out for dinner, I was not prepared so I decline him. I didn't know he had fallen for me. What shud I do now? He is a very nice guy, a few years older than me, I think I had started to like him but I'm not sure with my own feelings. So do I really like him? I don't know. And he is leaving this company at the end of the month.
Another thing is it is never the same eversince he ask me out that day. I feel awkward facing him, I dunno why I am feeling this way. But at night, like now, I do think of him or misses him.
What should I do now? I know either I take him (that is if I like him) or let it be (let him leave at the end of month then no need to think anymore)... take it or leave it? I'm confused...
Originally posted by raingal:I have this colleague at work who is very nice to me, that day he ask me out for dinner, I was not prepared so I decline him. I didn't know he had fallen for me. What shud I do now? He is a very nice guy, a few years older than me, I think I had started to like him but I'm not sure with my own feelings. So do I really like him? I don't know. And he is leaving this company at the end of the month.
Another thing is it is never the same eversince he ask me out that day. I feel awkward facing him, I dunno why I am feeling this way. But at night, like now, I do think of him or misses him.
What should I do now? I know either I take him (that is if I like him) or let it be (let him leave at the end of month then no need to think anymore)... take it or leave it? I'm confused...
Love and chemistry cannot develop if u dun take interact with him off work.Originally posted by raingal:Somehow I do agree with Yunhaier, it's not love nor true chemistry. One thing, I know nothing much about him and he knew nothing about me. How could he had fallen for me? Just bcos we get along well at work? And if he knows about my past, will he still like me? I was a very unhappy girl in the past and I had depression, and now I'm back on medication.
Welcome to the world of love - In this world, logics aside and heart is used to do the thinking. When you fall in love, it doesn't mean that he has to know every single thing about you to fall in love - he does because his emotions just flow unconsciously.Originally posted by raingal:Somehow I do agree with Yunhaier, it's not love nor true chemistry. One thing, I know nothing much about him and he knew nothing about me. How could he had fallen for me? Just bcos we get along well at work? And if he knows about my past, will he still like me? I was a very unhappy girl in the past and I had depression, and now I'm back on medication.
Originally posted by Yunhaier:When he likes you, he have to like everything about you - its a package, nothing can be taken out. The other thing is that, it's HE who fell for you and not you falling for him - therefore, heed the advice in my previous post above to see if he is suitable for you.
P.S: Are you a Gemini or Virgo?
Cheers
Askin u out for dinner ..doesnt mean anytin...unless he himself has told or hint u that he likes u ...wants u to be his gf....dun jump into conclusion 1st....juz go out for dinner as normal like u go out dinner wif ur frds....dun think so much wat he gotta to says...JUZ BE URSELF...TAT VERI IMPORTANT...if not u sms him that does he has any feelins for u....for me I can says im veri frank...if i like or love the guy ...i will either tel him straight in his face or sms him..the worst thing....the guy gets so awakard cos he does have feelin for me too....BE URSELF JUZ DO IT....
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Its you who choose your partner. If you never take enough time to look at the potential package you could have - who can you blame?Originally posted by birdbird:if there's really someting u cant accept in ur partner,do u still force urself to accept it as a package???
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Its you who choose your partner. If you never take enough time to look at the potential package you could have - who can you blame?
Acceptance? Once you are in a relationship itself, you have indirectly sign an agreement. This agreement works in both ways - acceptance from you and effort to improve from her. Either one fails, agreement backfire, conflict arise, problem occurs.
Classic example: Typical guy cannot accept non-virgin girl, enters into a relationship with one. Extremely down and unable to accept - love her very much, however, can't accept mentally. In the end, he learn to love and treasure her or to leave her eventually. [b]Everything comes together with a package, you can't make her virgin again - you just have to love her the way she is.
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Originally posted by birdbird:guess u r rt.i really din take enough time to understand her b4 committing.![]()
Originally posted by raingal:I didn't know he had fallen for me. What shud I do now?
Originally posted by raingal:I have this colleague at work who is very nice to me, that day he ask me out for dinner, I was not prepared so I decline him. I didn't know he had fallen for me. What shud I do now? He is a very nice guy, a few years older than me, I think I had started to like him but I'm not sure with my own feelings. So do I really like him? I don't know. And he is leaving this company at the end of the month.
Another thing is it is never the same eversince he ask me out that day. I feel awkward facing him, I dunno why I am feeling this way. But at night, like now, I do think of him or misses him.
What should I do now? I know either I take him (that is if I like him) or let it be (let him leave at the end of month then no need to think anymore)... take it or leave it? I'm confused...
Remember one thing in the mind... watever u have decide or you have done...U gotta to think thrice...if not you will be paying for a high price for wat you have done... Oways start as a friend relationship dun jump into BGR so fast...Crush is oways happen to everyone...it only a tempoary type of feelins. You nid to get noe the person well......As i have mentioned the eariler reply b4.... I think u r old enuff to decide things for urself...we as a strangers or friends can only give some advices here....Decision is still within you....Dun be so confused, focuse on where are you heading to , wat do u wants....![]()
thot u always say u got a lot of MEIZZZ????Originally posted by sh|nY_BoY:no girl like me la....they wont call me out nor they even drop a SMS... sigh....
Two people usually always start as strangers... No matter if you both know each other well, the point is... Are you interested in him too? If your interest is there, no harm staying in contact with him so that both of you can get to know each other better..? No obligation or anything... Just knowing someone a bit better and stepping into a different part of life... Provided that you're psychologically perpared? Afterall, you must understand that this ain't a perfect world?Originally posted by raingal:Yeah, he has fallen for me. My other colleagues knew he is interested in me and has hinted me before. But I'm so busy with my work that I didn't get the hint.
But anyway, I'm already used to being alone (but not lonely) all these years. I am very independent and I've learnt how to take care of myself, despite I have a past.
So well, I dunno, I can't imagine if I've got a bf, also I am a lot smarter and mature than he think I am, I still think he dunno me well.