how to go after a guy?
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alright.. it has been guys going after and wooing girls since centuries ago. but i really like this guy, but how should i go and do about it, which i mean woo him? maybe some ppl will feel that this is not right and degrading. but i think i should look for my happiness. =) how should i do it, i really like to know. i can't possibly call him every single day and buy him flowers. plz help.
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be friends with him, then slowly tell him your intentions
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will he be scared and den run away?
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not every guy's the same... some will..
just like not every woman's the same...
slowly, slowly.. be his friend first? that's about the best way i know..
also, depends on if he's also interested...
lots of ifs... i think it's best to win his heart with your honesty and sincerity
again, good luckOriginally posted by jeslin:will he be scared and den run away? -
You had posted on the following:
14th July: how to let your bf cherish you more
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52053
20th July: how to cope with breakoffs
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52576
6th Aug (today) You're asking on how to go after a guy? hm.. in short, the 4 yrs of r/s which you spoke off, takes you less than mere effort in forgetting it?
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oh wow... cereal remembered.. i didn't.. my bad
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cereal..well..to each its own...yah..? well..maybe it's time for her to look for another happiness or maybe she's trying to help a frenz to post the Q..?Originally posted by ^cereal^:You had posted on the following:
14th July: how to let your bf cherish you more
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52053
20th July: how to cope with breakoffs
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52576
6th Aug (today) You're asking on how to go after a guy? hm.. in short, the 4 yrs of r/s which you spoke off, takes you less than mere effort in forgetting it?
well jeslin..i dunno how to help u..but ermm..tryt o be frenz wif the guy..den slowly slowy get to noe him better..dun engage in relationship tt fast yah..? be frenz first..no hurry though..
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Take off your clothes...IF u got the assets,that is...
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yeah of coz i'm not against anyone seeking for their own happiness then when you look back and read the posts, cant help but wonder if it's just a mere crush or rebound.
By helping her going after the guy, will we be ruining her and resultant is that she'll come back posting on how life suxz coz she feels the guy is not whom she is seeking out afterall?
There are alot of repercussion/consequences involved.... just my 2 cents... no offense intended whatsoever...Originally posted by Angel^_^:cereal..well..to each its own...yah..? well..maybe it's time for her to look for another happiness or maybe she's trying to help a frenz to post the Q..?
well jeslin..i dunno how to help u..but ermm..tryt o be frenz wif the guy..den slowly slowy get to noe him better..dun engage in relationship tt fast yah..? be frenz first..no hurry though.. -
cereal, dun worry, i'm not that type of girl. i'm going after my bf. =) so i need quite a bit of help here.
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then it's a different set of answers altogether - wooing your 'ex' back and wooing a friend into your life..Originally posted by jeslin:cuz i'm chasing him back~!
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same guy?
hope he appreciates the lengths you are going toOriginally posted by jeslin:cereal, i'm not offended. n dun worry, i'm not that type of girl. i'm going after my bf. =) -
i think i have to try very very hard.. but if in the end, he doesn't appreciate, den.. dot dot dot..Originally posted by ^cereal^:then it's a different set of answers altogether - wooing your 'ex' back and wooing a friend into your life.. -
keke..yep cereal..she asked for our suggestions..and all we can ever do is to give her advices..in the end..she's the one who made the decision..Originally posted by ^cereal^:yeah of coz i'm not against anyone seeking for their own happiness then when you look back and read the posts, cant help but wonder if it's just a mere crush or rebound.
By helping her going after the guy, will we be ruining her and resultant is that she'll come back posting on how life suxz coz she feels the guy is not whom she is seeking out afterall?
There are alot of repercussion/consequences involved.... just my 2 cents... no offense intended whatsoever...
there's up and down yah..? there's no perfection in this mother earth..if she failed..well..den she'll hv to learn to accept and do it over again..
yep cereal..it's understandable tt u're trying to minus off her sufferings.. hope jeslin noe at tt.. 
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aiyo..den u should hv said tt u're trying to patch back wif yr ex mah..kekeke..Originally posted by jeslin:cereal, dun worry, i'm not that type of girl. i'm going after my bf. =) so i need quite a bit of help here. -
luckily i remembered, else we will be going one big round providing advice to the wrong route... it's always good to backtrack a little sometimes...Originally posted by the Bear:oh wow... cereal remembered.. i didn't.. my bad
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keke..yah..totally different leh..keke..ut hey jeslin..good luck to yah..Originally posted by ^cereal^:then it's a different set of answers altogether - wooing your 'ex' back and wooing a friend into your life.. -
i noe i noe. actually, i'm glad that someone's truely concerned. thanks cereal. ^.^
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den now how? i should do what? give him alot of time to rest? den how should i approach him and tell him? i very gan chiong... btw, u guys are great, really. a big big thank u from deep deep of my heart. =)
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give him time and don't lose contact with him?
i'm going through the same thing.. hoping that i'll win her back, so i know the feeling...
i hope i'm telling you the right thing.. coz i'm trying to do the right thing myself...
i love her... and i know you love him too... you are trying very hard
again, good luck.. may love, peace, joy and serenity be yoursOriginally posted by jeslin:den now how? i should do what? give him alot of time to rest? den how should i approach him and tell him? i very gan chiong... btw, u guys are great, really. a big big thank u from deep deep of my heart. =) -
What should you do?
If it's meant to be, you don't have to be gan jiong about it, coz after going in rounds, you guys will meet and be back together again. If it's not meant to be, why allow yourself the chance to be subjected to yet another heartbreaking event?
You're still very young.. May I suggest you bid your time coz you're not in a hurry to anywhere... let time be the deciding factor. Move on with life first, make the best and fullest of your own life. When he realise you're too good to be missed from his life, he'll come back to you. Trust me, you shouldn't let him take you for granted, by wooing him now, it gives him more opportunity to think that you cannot do without him.. it should be the opposite... He should be addicted to you, your presence, your everything... Only when you make him realise your importance, will this r/s be unlike the one you went through with him... Don't send yourself to him and let history repeats itself...Originally posted by jeslin:den now how? i should do what? give him alot of time to rest? den how should i approach him and tell him? i very gan chiong... btw, u guys are great, really. a big big thank u from deep deep of my heart. =) -
i find u a tad too busybody-ish and annoying for my liking but nobody is perfect anyway..and thats my opinion..Originally posted by ^cereal^:You had posted on the following:
14th July: how to let your bf cherish you more
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52053
20th July: how to cope with breakoffs
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52576
6th Aug (today) You're asking on how to go after a guy? hm.. in short, the 4 yrs of r/s which you spoke off, takes you less than mere effort in forgetting it? -
i'll try... thanks cereal and bear. it's really nice talking to u. me dun have elder siblings. u both seem like great bros to me....Originally posted by ^cereal^:What should you do? If it's meant to be, you don't have to be gan jiong about it, coz after going in rounds, you guys will meet and be back together again. If it's not meant to be, why allow yourself the chance to be subjected to yet another heartbreaking event?
You're still very young.. May I suggest you bid your time coz you're not in a hurry to anywhere... let time be the deciding factor. Move on with life first, make the best and fullest of your own life. When he realise you're too good to be missed from his life, he'll come back to you. Trust me, you shouldn't let him take you for granted, by wooing him now, it gives him more opportunity to think that you cannot do without him.. it should be the opposite... He should be addicted to you, your presence, your everything... Only when you make him realise your importance, will this r/s be unlike the one you went through with him... Don't send yourself to him and let history repeats itself... -
What are your eyes for if you cant make use of them to read properly...
What is your heart for if you cant feel for one who needs it...
Originally posted by Taufiq:i find u a tad too busybody-ish and annoying for my liking but nobody is perfect anyway..and thats my opinion.. -
it's what we are kinda driven to do
and cereal's a ladyOriginally posted by jeslin:i'll try... thanks cereal and bear. it's really nice talking to u. me dun have elder siblings. u both seem like great bros to me....