how to go after a guy?
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sorry..
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I dont know to laugh over these posts or be saddened...
Did I trigger the dislike of others through my overly concerned for one who's in here seeking for advice? I don't know... but I'm sure I've made lotsa of friends along the way...
'Write down the advice of him who loves you, though you like it not at present.' 'A closed mind is like a closed book, just a block of wood,' -
cereal, it is tough helping.. i know.. it's also tough when you're right.. some people will hold on to what they have even when it's wrong because it's all they know... and they will fight tooth and nail to hold it...Originally posted by ^cereal^:I dont know to laugh over these posts or be saddened...
Did I trigger the dislike of others through my overly concerned for one who's in here seeking for advice? I don't know... but I'm sure I've made lotsa of friends along the way... 'Write down the advice of him who loves you, though you like it not at present.' 'A closed mind is like a closed book, just a block of wood,' -
He will not be scared away... but may not cherish u as much as if it was he who chased aft uOriginally posted by jeslin:will he be scared and den run away?
good luck
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You mentioned that you broke and patched with your bf many times and together with your past topics, pardon me for being frank here, afterall advice isn't always conventional and encouraging you to do what you always desire to.Originally posted by jeslin:cereal, dun worry, i'm not that type of girl. i'm going after my bf. =) so i need quite a bit of help here.
You mentioned that you have been with him for 4 years (in definition is not even there - its simply 1 year plus since you mentioned in previous topic, saying that it was that long since the last patch) - my point is that ITS OK if you were to patch with him, provided if he knows what he really wants and same for you as well. Two criticial factor that make you wanna patch back with him.
I) it has been so-called 4 years together. Its may or may not be love, but certainly four years is something.
II) You have been attached for four years and being single is far too scary and terrible to bear. You rather cling with short term vision of your relationship and handle it as it comes.
When you break and patch too many times - this relationship becomes very unfulfilling and is very difficult (and I mean VERY) to even mantain long term. Unless...
I) Substantial amount of rest is there (probably about one year) for both party to lead their own life and probably reflect upon themselves during the time when they were leading the relationship (noticed I mentioned both, not one).
II) Enlightenment from external or internal sources (This is often conjunct with the period of rest that is given)
Correct me if I am wrong - your bf requested the breaking. I always believe in one thing - when a guy gathers enough courage/guts to mention break, it throws a whole new meaning into the relationship. Anytime you heard this word more than a second time (meaning break, patch, break again), statistics has shown that further patching will only resulting in the same outcome. You can try to win him back - but in the end, even if you succeed, which do you think take place: Win a relationship back, or win him?
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Good point.Originally posted by ^cereal^:luckily i remembered, else we will be going one big round providing advice to the wrong route... it's always good to backtrack a little sometimes... -
Too bad, I don't really have much of a heart left.Originally posted by ^cereal^:What are your eyes for if you cant make use of them to read properly...
What is your heart for if you cant feel for one who needs it...
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You're damn right about that point....Originally posted by the Bear:it's also tough when you're right.. some people will hold on to what they have even when it's wrong because it's all they know... and they will fight tooth and nail to hold it... -
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kaoz.. cereal is really a pro AA...
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if only.. if only... if only....... my ex will do wad u're doing. it will be an "OK" reply within 1 second, w/o thinking. not that i hadn't try to get back with her..Originally posted by jeslin:cereal, dun worry, i'm not that type of girl. i'm going after my bf. =) so i need quite a bit of help here.