Originally posted by AaLviNn:well, i'm going through what u r. how long have u 2 been together? did u do anything to make her very sad or something that might have caused her to stop loving u? gotta ask urself tat...
and does she like someone else already? if she really meant it when she said she got no more feelings for it, chances are, well she just wants to move on with her life, without you. truth hurts, but if u really did something wrong to her, then perhaps take this as a lesson learnt.
my ex broke up with me 3weeks ago. we had a 3yr relationship, and i'm still very upset. it'll take alot time to heal....
Originally posted by 97421:HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i just broke off with my gf, her reason is she lost her feeling towards me. so how can i do to make her love me again
we hav been 1 1/2 yrs, this morning she sms me telling me that she donno what happen and she feeling lost. sometime she will bring up the past and blame on me....i dont knw how to let her get back the feeling againn........Originally posted by AaLviNn:well, i'm going through what u r. how long have u 2 been together? did u do anything to make her very sad or something that might have caused her to stop loving u? gotta ask urself tat...
and does she like someone else already? if she really meant it when she said she got no more feelings for it, chances are, well she just wants to move on with her life, without you. truth hurts, but if u really did something wrong to her, then perhaps take this as a lesson learnt.
my ex broke up with me 3weeks ago. we had a 3yr relationship, and i'm still very upset. it'll take alot time to heal....
thanks bear..... my heart sunken deeply....... how this will get over soon....... cos my exam is near..... i'm afraid that i cant concertrate...Originally posted by the Bear:if i find out how, i'll share my experiences with you, yah?
in the meantime, take care...
as stated earlier, i think she had accumulated all my fault and shoot at me. she had no new love...... so i think i'l try my sincerity to win her back.....thanksOriginally posted by ^cereal^:What caused the breakup?
Who initiated it? (You ex gf probably?)
How long was your r/s?
According to statistics, when a gal broke off with the guy on her own accord, (not taking into consideration if it's the guy who's let her down or what) when she'd made up her mind, nothing more is needed to convince her to change her mind.
You mentioned she told you she'd lost her feelings for you.. one of the reasons why that had happened was becoz she's found someone else to plunge onto, thus leaving none for you. If it's not becoz of new love, then it could be something you've done (accumulated events) to make her devastated or feeling dejected/hopeless/disappointed...
You can't do much except to win her again with sincerity.. then again, will she leave you again for similar faults? I don't know... it's a gamble you have to take and a lesson you have to learn the hard way probably.
I wish you lotsa luck, endurance and patience...
Are you in a hurry to win her back to you? Bid your time and let time be the deciding factor...
i wanted to cry, but i cant. just that i feel veli sad, lost concertrate on everything.......... ARGH....... i'm going to break down any moment..Originally posted by peacekeeper:Bro, i m also out of love. Dont worry you are not the only one..if you want to cry your heart out..pls go ahead...u will feel better.
Originally posted by 97421:i wanted to cry, but i cant. just that i feel veli sad, lost concertrate on everything.......... ARGH....... i'm going to break down any moment..
i knw that too, it hard for me to let go, cos i put in alot of effort to build this r/s from scrap. we go thru thick and thin. i wanted to cry out loud but i think my tears run dry for the past few mths when things happen so badly......Originally posted by peacekeeper:Bro, trust me...its sad in the first place...you cry you will feel better... we broke up last sat.. i cried whenever i think of her. i cried whenever i saw our photos. I hid in the toilet thrice and cried on a working monday. After all the crying i felt better..
Originally posted by 97421:HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i just broke off with my gf, her reason is she lost her feeling towards me. so how can i do to make her love me again
Originally posted by 97421:i knw that too, it hard for me to let go, cos i put in alot of effort to build this r/s from scrap. we go thru thick and thin. i wanted to cry out loud but i think my tears run dry for the past few mths when things happen so badly......
ya u r rite. show her that watever faults u had done to her before, u will not do it again anymore, and make sure u don't. you'd better be fast before she get snatched up(hopefully not). mine got snatched up 2 days after we broke up, but i still want her back despite everyone saying i shouldn't. good luck to you.Originally posted by 97421:as stated earlier, i think she had accumulated all my fault and shoot at me. she had no new love...... so i think i'l try my sincerity to win her back.....thanks
Originally posted by Yunhaier:last time we broke off b4, but it's just one day affair, i talk to her lots of things then she was back to me again. but at time she will be veli metal teeth......You mentioned two criticial point above and I highlighted it. I labelled them point (I) and (II) consecutively.
I) Lost her feelings - there are two types of people when it comes to losing feelings. The first type are those who lose easily and is able to regain back as quickly. The second type is those who don't lose it easily, but once they lose it, its gone forever.
Understanding which type of girl your ex is would prove very important and give clue about how great or slim your chances of getting her is.
II) Make her love me - You CAN'T MAKE people love you. Love is free will and because its free will - you can only influence and hope for the best. In the end, it revert back to point (I) about your chances.
P.S: Sometimes when love is lost - do not panic, cry out for your longing and determined to recover the relationship. Its wise to understand and ponder over the reason and background of why you have lost it - afterall, everything happens for a reason. [b]Knowing why you have lost, is more important than salvaging a relationship without realising why you have lost it prior before. Because if you don't......
...... chances are, you will lose this relationship again.
Cheers [/b]
last time i did, when we hav a tiff, i let her calm down then talk again, but she will say forget the matter.Originally posted by peacekeeper:i m not asking you to give..neither do i m going to give up.. give you and she to calm down and think about your r/s.. find out what's wrong...it is useless to talk if both of you are still strong headed. When you r calm, ask her out and find out wats wrong.
i dont think anyone is going to snatch frm me, cos she hardly got from in sg, only some of her polymates. which all i've seem b4. if i become persistent i'll loose her, if i dont catch up with her, i'll loose her too...... so i'm in a no-no situation. i'm struck!!!!!Originally posted by AaLviNn:ya u r rite. show her that watever faults u had done to her before, u will not do it again anymore, and make sure u don't. you'd better be fast before she get snatched up(hopefully not). mine got snatched up 2 days after we broke up, but i still want her back despite everyone saying i shouldn't. good luck to you.
thanks....... how i wish i can make her thing that way also...sigh... just hoping everything goes on fine.....Originally posted by sillyme:if she wants to give the relationship another try, she will..
the last thing you wanna do is to force her stay in a relationship that she does not cherish anymore.. let her choose..
Originally posted by 97421:last time we broke off b4, but it's just one day affair, i talk to her lots of things then she was back to me again. but at time she will be veli metal teeth......
she is a kind of woman who keep thing to herself, i try digging out the problem, but she kept say she will forget the problem, but when thing happen again, she will bring out the past and shoot me again