I just broke up with my boyfriend
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My best advice is that you go to a park with him, have a nice talk with him. Try to tell him how hurt you are by his action. Also try to listen to his side of story and try to tolerate if he get rage up. TRY to bear with it. Trust me, when a guy gets very vexed, he can do all sorts of funny stuff. If he really loves you, he will make a effort to think through what you have said. DO NOT ask him to do what you EXPECT of him. Let him decide the best course of action what he must do if he cherish this relationship.Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:then can you young guy advice me ..... i plan to settle all this by today.....tomolo i still work in the morning and till now not sleeping yet
Personally, I feel that a real gentleman should not resort force on female..... no matter how bad the situation is. I never ever hit a female before (except my sister, HEY that's call discipline) and it is VERY VERY wrong to do that.
If your bf doesn't repent, maybe both of you should cool off for a while, STAY apart from each other so that nothing terrible will happen because one or both parties does irrational stuff due to this unhappiness.
I know you love him very much, but does he love you as much as you do? I always believe that when both people fall in love with each other, they love their partner more than theirselves. You have done it, but have he done it? If not, just break off. It's useless having such relationship. You are only going to be a victim, not him.
If you are very unhappy about the whole thing, you can always PM me to tell me all about it. I am all welcome for such stuff. Just don't follow my path that's all. -
thanks for the reply anyway.........maybe you can say that i'm insane........i just drank dettol cos of him.......now stomach feeling unwell.........
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think u better talk to someone... pick up the phone and dial.
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call ghost later
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but honestly i feel better.... at least i done something to repay him in the past of the way he took care of me... =)
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u feel better after drinking dettol?
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yup...strange hor.....i dun feel so sad
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it seems to me that this guy likes to be in control and hates being controlled.. and after you have given in so much, he is still not satisfied..
can you accept that kind of character in a guy? have you lost your self-identity because of this relationship? if so, then it's probably not advisable to try to salvage this relationship..
in a relationship, though when two are together, you still have to be two indepedant adults..
give the two of you time to think through the relationship.. whether it has done more harm by staying together.. and if it'd better off apart..
don't give up hope on yourself.. and press on with life.. there are better things ahead for you to look foward to.. -
Dear Hiroyuki Takei,Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:Not that i wanna list all the bad things about him.... i just broke up with him 10 minutes ago...u can't expect me all of a sudden think about him good... his good...he bring me to places where i wanna go to ....fetch me off work and to work sometimes.... No....there's no third party in between us.... the thing that cause breaking up issue is a game.....just a online game.... he tell me that i control too much of him..... but what for.... i don't want him to keep playing this game... cos the game really know how to let ppl spend marnee in it... and other side he complain that he dun have enough marnee every month... as he's still in ns.... he keep saying i'm childish....... i remember the first time..... when i say he's childish...guess what he reply.... " then you go look for someone that's not childish to be together with lor "
1990 - If I am correct, you are only 13 years old and you mentioned that your bf is in NS. (At least 5 years older)
Seriously speaking, you do expect a marriage to happen even what he claims as 4 to 5 years later?
You are so young and so naive; matters of the heart shouldn't be a problem in your life now because of your inability to make good emotional decision and see/understand what man really is.
He mentioned that he wants to break off with you because of an online game - this again throws in very strong hint that he isn't anywhere mature enough for a relationship, let alone something as sacred as a marriage.
You truely believe what he claims about marriage? Lady, don't read too much into his words. Just listen listen, then happy happy. DO NOT expect anything.
You mentioned that you quitted smoking, drinking, remove piercing, etc - seriously speaking, even if you don't do it now - you would probably have to quit later. Such habits are NOT MEANT to be there - there is nothing too great of a sacrifice. In fact, its for your own good.
Why do you want to go back to the relationship? Just solo because you loved him?
What future do you think you can see when you and him patch? And what makes you think that with your Love alone is sufficient to upkeep the relationship with immaturity and 'puppy-love element' present?
You would probably learn alot from this.
P.S: He initiated a break off because of a small lame reason. Imagine if there was a bigger problem - wouldn't he be the first to run off, again?
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Er....the thing is that IS she okay now?
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?Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:call ghost later
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Call me for wat...??? i dun know anything...
im confused myself.... sorie... -
Sorry Im this late. Anyway, what I'm going to say next is definitely not going to be pleasing to the ear. As always, I believe the best medicines always taste bitter. So here goes...
I'm not going to tell you about what guys generally will do, coz I'm not one. I can only tell you about how I view this whole thing (from your post.. so it's going to be quite superficial)
Take it with a pinch of salt and no offence intended whatsoever. Firstly, I concluded that you're being contradictory. Reason for that could be, you're unwilling to let go, yet dont wish to be subjected to further humilation. Next you mentioned in one of your post, 10 mins after breaking off, which is what landed yourself with all the negative points of your 'ex' (I'm calling him your ex bf coz from his viewpoint both of you are no longer together) But surely if you've indeed loved him as what you claimed, you'll be full of praises for him, telling us all how fabulous he is so that we can encourage you to go for it, isn't it not? When you posted all his acts (negatively), little wonders why people ask you to move on with life... it's as simple as that.
How long have you guys been together? Your heart is aching becoz you know soon you'll be faced with loneliness, having to lead a single life again and having to bid your time to find your Mr Right or you're aching becoz you don't want to let go? But then again, if you can't let go, why hate him? Shouldn't you try to convince him to go back to you?
It's your call girl.. we can only offer advice and it's only this much we can go.. You have to decide what you indeed and truly want for yourself. Like you mentioned you're still young, why the hurry?
Bid your time...
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Certainly you can find something better for your stomach?Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:thanks for the reply anyway.........maybe you can say that i'm insane........i just drank dettol cos of him.......now stomach feeling unwell......... -
Wonder if she's still alive to reply.
Personal point of view
Break off lah.... don't waste time with this guy. What marriage in 4-5 yrs when such minor things can trigger a break off. He is just buying time.... I can also tell you that I will married you in 2-3 yrs time but 1-2 yrs later.. I will come up with the worse excuse to break off. He don't even last that long enough to ask for break off liao....
Drink Detol for what.... that's for toiler bowls... not your body. Do you think he will be sad if you died? Oh yes.. maybe... for 4-5 hours? thn find himself another new gf.... and tell her he will married her in 4-5yrs time.
If he serious about you.... will he hurt you mentally and physically?
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i'm still alive here... anyway thx for the help...i have oredi settled it...
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dun b silly gal... he is not worth anything u do for him.Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:i'm still alive here... anyway thx for the help...i have oredi settled it...
b happy n move on for urself. do tings for urself not for him....
making urself ill is not going to make him come back n b nicer to u. he probably dun even care. y let urself suffer in silence? cry if u wan, such basta*ds need a lesson.
if i were u, i'll b planning for my revenge now.... anyone who cross my path, i'll make sure he pays double. get him humilated, embarassed, watever makes u tick..... just do it...
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well i don't think revenge is right... u don't love a person for a long time n suddenly hate him... i think the best method is to let him go... wish him well and move on. if u 2 r truly meant 2 b, u'll get together again.... pls dun try 2 do foolish things. tink abt ur parents, its selfish of u to do that. there so much more love on this earth to look forward to...Originally posted by gala:dun b silly gal... he is not worth anything u do for him.
b happy n move on for urself. do tings for urself not for him....
making urself ill is not going to make him come back n b nicer to u. he probably dun even care. y let urself suffer in silence? cry if u wan, such basta*ds need a lesson.
if i were u, i'll b planning for my revenge now.... anyone who cross my path, i'll make sure he pays double. get him humilated, embarassed, watever makes u tick..... just do it... 
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Glad you are okay and settled yr problems.. not too difficult I hope.Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:i'm still alive here... anyway thx for the help...i have oredi settled it... -
Whew....for a moment u jus MIA ...I thot wat happened....dettol will weaken stomach walls so pls...it's a good thing u're still young...but pls nothing is worth it for u to take ur life...I noe sometimes everything jus seems so dark ....as if there's no path in front of u & u think e best is jus die...When u feel impulsive....jus dun act...really ....e feeling will go away. Take care k sista!Originally posted by Hiroyuki Takei:i'm still alive here... anyway thx for the help...i have oredi settled it... -
Thx ppl for ur concern~~ ^^