Does anyone hate ur parents b4?
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i did.. cos they broken their promises to me...but the hatred onli lasted for a few days...afterall, they still my parents... the ones who bring me up..
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yeah.. when i was really young.
not often lar.. quite rare. i think it was more of fear... esp my mum last time.
but now.. they're the most wonderful pple i have ever known! except well.. we don't communicate that much, they're in australia now. -
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Originally posted by whoofwhoof:i did.. cos they broken their promises to me...but the hatred onli lasted for a few days...afterall, they still my parents... the ones who bring me up..
hw abt u guys n gals? care to share....
Hating your parents is like hating NS. You can learn to accept or hate them - but they are still there. -
hw would u feel when u hatred ur parents? i feel am i rite to do so...
logically, i sldnt cos they bring me up.....but haiz..... -
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Ever lah.... Hate just for few hours only then forget it already. Only when kena scolded for the thing i think i have not done wrong loh.
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HI Woof,
I don't see a need to hate our parents although sometimes the things they done makes us feel unhappy and or angry, but whatever they do are for our own good. They want us to have the best!
You should feel lucky to have your parents to love you and care for you. Whereas me, my dad passed away recently and it came quite a shock to me till nw I can't accept the fact that he's left this world!
My advise, treasure what you have with your parents. They will not be with us for life! Don't regret when they are gone! -
when i was younger i really hated my mum? coz she is always working n when she is at home, most of the time she would hit us w/ a cane?
both my parents never really keep their promises to me? but as i grow up, slowly came to terms n understd the reasons y...so all is well now
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I kn tat i sldnt hate them as they r my parents afterall.. but circumstances dun allow me nt to hate them. i hate them cos they had broken their promises... maybe to them, it mean nothin... but to me, it hurts! who can i still trust even my own parents can lied to me..Originally posted by BLIM:HI Woof,
I don't see a need to hate our parents although sometimes the things they done makes us feel unhappy and or angry, but whatever they do are for our own good. They want us to have the best!
You should feel lucky to have your parents to love you and care for you. Whereas me, my dad passed away recently and it came quite a shock to me till nw I can't accept the fact that he's left this world!
My advise, treasure what you have with your parents. They will not be with us for life! Don't regret when they are gone!
i sympathy on u that u lose father's loved....however they r ppl out there who have parents consider no parents.. u get wat i mean..
i have a friend whose mum treat her as if she is a burden. she have 2 step-siblings.. her mum kept askin my friend for $ where my friend onli earn 800/mth. my friend had to gif her mum 400bucks n her mum dun satisfy. her mum kept complaining my friend didnt gif her enough $ where her mum dun gif her allowances at all.. more ridiculous, my friend have home like dun hv home.. she cant do anything in her own home.. she cant switch on her room light, cannot watch tv, cannot use phone..even wanna eat dinner (bought by her own $) peacefully also have to be scolded by her mum...
in this situation, do u think all parents r right?
sometimes i do wanna treasure my parents... but they seem dun appreciate my kindness to them.. wat i can do? i'm reali depressed n i had 5days did nt spoken to my parents... -
......Originally posted by whoofwhoof:I kn tat i sldnt hate them as they r my parents afterall.. but circumstances dun allow me nt to hate them. i hate them cos they had broken their promises... maybe to them, it mean nothin... but to me, it hurts! who can i still trust even my own parents can lied to me..
i sympathy on u that u lose father's loved....however they r ppl out there who have parents consider no parents.. u get wat i mean..
i have a friend whose mum treat her as if she is a burden. she have 2 step-siblings.. her mum kept askin my friend for $ where my friend onli earn 800/mth. my friend had to gif her mum 400bucks n her mum dun satisfy. her mum kept complaining my friend didnt gif her enough $ where her mum dun gif her allowances at all.. more ridiculous, my friend have home like dun hv home.. she cant do anything in her own home.. she cant switch on her room light, cannot watch tv, cannot use phone..even wanna eat dinner (bought by her own $) peacefully also have to be scolded by her mum...
in this situation, do u think all parents r right?
sometimes i do wanna treasure my parents... but they seem dun appreciate my kindness to them.. wat i can do? i'm reali depressed n i had 5days did nt spoken to my parents...
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hmm, from young, my sis was born 1/2 deaf, so my parents would always shower their attention on her, so usually i as the older sibling would feel very neglected. i would always quarrel with my sister, sorta as pay back for taking away my parents from me. it would be very bad, always quarreling, whacking each other. even simple stuff like TV we will always fight.
my parents would also put alot of pressure on me, always comparing me with other people, why i cannot do as well as other ppl, from young, i would always be distant from my family. always shutting myself from family life, leaving the house early in the day till late at night, once i reach home i would shut the door of my room till the next day.
when i first received Jesus and became a christian, family life grew worse, they didn't really understand, so there were even more quarrels, esp when i decided to be baptised. but it was when i became a christian, i learnt to forgive, not forgetting totally, but forgiving was a first step. i would pray for them to understand, and to know what joy i had found thru my faith. it was like finding a cave full of gold and i want to share it with my family. there was enough, certainly for everyone.
God works funny. my dad fell sick, his face was totally swollen, until now we dunno wat is the cause, he went to see the doctor and skin specialists who didn't know what was the problem so they just gave him skin ointments and stuff, but for over 3 months, the condition grew worse and worse.
one day, one of my dad friend, who is also a christian, we all call her aunty cindy. she was training to be a pastor in australia or was it her husband. i forgot, she came back to visit us. my dad was very concerned over my new faith in christ. so she came over to talk to me and share with me a few stuff. and to share with my family as well. then she asked if she could pray for my family. somehow while she was praying, we could, not just me, feel a presence in the room, there was a peace, unable to describe, and a burden lifted. my dad just broke down and cried and we all cried. and reconciled. aunty cindy then invited us, as a family to her church to take a look. so we went the following week.
at the end of the sermon, aunty cindy encouraged my dad to try prayer, since medication didnt work, after prayer, he said he saw hands of light, touching his face and he felt a heat on his face. then he woke up already lying down on the floor. for me. it was like 20 mins seeing my dad on the floor. and the great thing was, my dad condition got better, the sore and pus got lesser and lesser.
and over the week, he was totally back to his old self.
after 2 visits to the church, after the sermon my dad pulled my sleeve and said he wanted to be a christian and receive salvation as a family. so he went up there to be prayed for.
now my family is very close, of course there would be occational quarrel, but none would hv a lasting impact. my sis and i grew closer together, from hatred to indifference, and from indifference to small chats, now we would still chat and talk, small topics of course, but we could stand being in the same room together, and i believe God will still work through in me, and my family, to become closer together..
this is my story.. whats yours?
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more or less..sure got one la..
but now..not really liaoz... -
i do quarrels with my parents n silbings too esp my youngest bro... he is unreasonable and always think he is right for whatever things he did... my mum dote him alot n always think that i as a elder sister sld forgive n forget n cos of my mum pamper on him, my bro gettin worse... Nw, i dun kinda bother him nor talk to him.. i shut myself in my room whenever i reached hm jus to avoid seeing my mum n bro faces...
I do nt believe in christian though alot of my friends even stranger kept tellin me about christian things... i'm buddist but neither i did prayed to my god.. sometimes i felt that even gods cant helped us when we reali needed them..
This time round, i hated my parents to break their promises.. as for what promise, i cant say, jus let me keep to myself cos is something very personal.. i also wanna to have a warmth family but circumstances doesnt allow...
perharp i'll forgotten whatever things when my anger is supressed..... -
hmm.. well.. my God did all that for me. and He isn't bias. He can do the same for everyone.. its just that no one wants Him to work in their lives, cuz they are afraid things will go wrong when it is out of their control.Originally posted by whoofwhoof:i do quarrels with my parents n silbings too esp my youngest bro... he is unreasonable and always think he is right for whatever things he did... my mum dote him alot n always think that i as a elder sister sld forgive n forget n cos of my mum pamper on him, my bro gettin worse... Nw, i dun kinda bother him nor talk to him.. i shut myself in my room whenever i reached hm jus to avoid seeing my mum n bro faces...
I do nt believe in christian though alot of my friends even stranger kept tellin me about christian things... i'm buddist but neither i did prayed to my god.. sometimes i felt that even gods cant helped us when we reali needed them..
This time round, i hated my parents to break their promises.. as for what promise, i cant say, jus let me keep to myself cos is something very personal.. i also wanna to have a warmth family but circumstances doesnt allow...
perharp i'll forgotten whatever things when my anger is supressed.....
i believe when you seek out the real God with all your heart, you will find Him. cause He will never abandon you, leave you, or forsake you. like i said. there is a cave of gold. some of us found it. and we want to share it with you.
for me, it wasn't simply just forgetting, or forgiving.. it was a change of how i look at life. yea i will hv problems, but there is always joy, peace, love, and strength to overcome. PM me if u would like to know more. -
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2 words..who doesn't?
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yeah bt i try 2 like them cos i almost lost my mum and b4 that i didn't speak 2 her for more than 3 months.... Now i'll try 2 be nice 2 her...Originally posted by liyan:2 words..who doesn't? problem is that my sis and my bro are reverting back 2 her own ways so she's getting upset again.... -
Usually parents pamper the younger more....
But the younger siblings will be always worst off then u one.... (spoilt child). -
me before....
cuz they sometimes never let me do stuff...they think im still young when im not their little girl anymore...hmph... -
How are things now?Originally posted by splitchick:me before....
cuz they sometimes never let me do stuff...they think im still young when im not their little girl anymore...hmph... 
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i think people shdn't give in too much for parents who never care for them much when young but demand a lot from them when they are grown up and working. (umm, i mean those parents who nv give a thought for the well being of their child and only treat them as burdens, not those who work hard to provide a good life for their child but dun have much time to be with them)
i think people shdn't feel obliged to take good care of them JUST because they are ur parents... some parents think of their child as a burden and just did the minimum to bring them up...yet demanding a lot in the future...
remember, we dun have a choice on whether to be born or not... and shdn't feel like our lives belong to them...
of course it's just fair and logical for u to take care of ur parents if they had put in love and care for u while raising u... as in this case, u will definitely love them too -
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Originally posted by UandMe:
i'd like to do as u say la... but unfortunately... i am suppose to honour my parents, full stop.
i think people shdn't give in too much for parents who never care for them much when young but demand a lot from them when they are grown up and working. (umm, i mean those parents who nv give a thought for the well being of their child and only treat them as burdens, not those who work hard to provide a good life for their child but dun have much time to be with them)
i think people shdn't feel obliged to take good care of them JUST because they are ur parents... some parents think of their child as a burden and just did the [b]minimum to bring them up...yet demanding a lot in the future...
remember, we dun have a choice on whether to be born or not... and shdn't feel like our lives belong to them...
of course it's just fair and logical for u to take care of ur parents if they had put in love and care for u while raising u... as in this case, u will definitely love them too[/b]