at a Lost: does sex always comes in love?
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i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them.
theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. : -
mayb u should try doing other $saving activities like go beach, play outdoor games, etc... since ur so afraid of getting pregnant, then u should tell ur bf n seriously work something out...Originally posted by peacely: i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them. theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. : -
Cheer !!!!
As always say humans are hard to understand. I believed some time you also cannot understand why you do this and do that right.
The most important is he is truth to you and you love him.
Responsible what you have done. -
get some condoms...that solves everything!
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1. If you people can't control yourselves. Try to avoid petting and such in the 1st place.Originally posted by peacely: i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them. theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. :
2. If you really have to go for intimate behaviors, do it in the PUBLIC so as to avoid further activities.
3. Try to keep some condoms with you just IN CASE. Don't let your bf know about their existence. They're not around for encouragement. Just for emergency.
Regards. -
dosen condom solve everything ?
but i also don wear condom one :-p
i ask around before,, if guys don wear , as long as he ejaculate ouside of women virginal , it's quite safe , there is a chance of being prengant , but the chance is quite minimal. thats all i could say , wanna be 100% safe , wear condom . -
dosen condom solve everything ?
but i also don wear condom one :-p
i ask around before,, if guys don wear , as long as he ejaculate ouside of women virginal , it's quite safe , there is a chance of being prengant , but the chance is quite minimal. thats all i could say , wanna be 100% safe , wear condom . -
Hmm....guys i think there's somebody who's really suffering from emotional stress and torture.
Hey peacely,
To answer your first qns. Does sex always comes with love?
I say yes, when a couple engage in intercourse. It is a form, expression beyond word. Knitting two souls, two body to one. Unexplainable and idealistic thought.
I would still it's a yes, Love and pleasure should be the theme in having sex.
Unfortunately, when man(human) takes things for granted...it'll become Lust and pleasure.
This brings me to the next point.
If you think the both of you have loved one another to a point when intercourse - the forbidden fruit should should engaged.
Just remember that Pre-marital sex has a cost. Are you ready?
I should guess you are still young, fun is ok but too much fun is threading on line ice.
Since it's a metal torture to you to wait for your period.
I think you are really not ready to take up the responsibility should anything happen. And you boy don't know what is he playing with.
You have expressed that the both of you have talked about it. Very good. However the practical part wasn't that successful.
My friend, i had that experience before...it was so tempting to a point when i got to tell my ex that i should go home. Otherwise, somethings would happen again. There were times when the both of us where extremely hurt over the things we did. It's a learning process, just don't let it ruin you.
The more you want to set boundaries the more you'll cross it. Sometimes it's so human for us to do so. That's why i call it the forbidden fruit.
Practice discipline and on top of that. The both of your mindset, needs to be changed....it's not only sex or staying in one another's house. Even though you guys have not much money. It doesn't mean you can't go to beach, kite-flying, strolling along the pavement. or have dinner together in hawker centre. Friend, it's not how much, it's now where you go, not even what you're doing....but ultimately it's WHO YOU'RE WITH
(trust me, i've learnt this the hard way)
You also said that you didn't confide in your circle of friend. Which qualifies him to be your one and only confidant.
Too bad you're a girl. Otherwise i am willing to talk to you. Anyway, you really should open your heart to someone you trust and know that she'll not reprimand you but support you. (sorry for the YOUs used in these para)
I hope you could be a responsible daughter and gf also.
Cause i can tell you that if you're hurt, he'll be hurt also.
On top of that, he might feel guilty hence crippling his senses to comfort and care for you during the time when you need his understanding and love most.
Remedy could be easy yet difficult.
That's to prevent sexual contact. Learning to value and respect one another thru abstainance.
You don't have to brake off to escape this kinda of torture.
Realise that in r/s, things and obstacles comes. Whether can the both of your hands clasp together and brave thru the strom is a question mark the two of you can answer.
I wish you well.
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"Men do love for sex. Women do sex for love."
~Jason -
PLEASE GO AND BUY A PREGNANCY KIT OR DOCTOR TO CHECK IF U R PREGNANT TO CONFIRM if you are scare...anyway please learn hw to control yourself...and him...next time do cCARRy a penknife with you so that you can take it out when the time arrives....
MUST TINK OF CONSEQueuences...u r still young! 1 sec can affect whole life.....THANK u -
When there is love, there would be relationship. And when there is relationship, sex related issues pops up. These three issues never leave each other and is heavily intertwined.Originally posted by peacely: i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them. theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. :
Regardless of how intimate your contacts with one another; pleasure is secondary. What matter most is how you consider for the other party while having the pleasure. No good boyfriend should force themselves on having sex while knowing that their girlfriend will be extremely uncomfortable (worrying, stress, tension, etc). It must be a mutual thing and their post-effect must be neutral/positive and not negative. Guys read this: your girl may be willing, but if their post effect sucks - a good boyfriend will understand and avoid (or at least change alternative - use protection, etc if it can wipe out her worries.).
Your guy lack understanding and empathy on the matter. You have mentioned that you go over to his house very often over the course of one year plus into your relationship. Gradually, this becomes a routine and your relationship become stagnant. There is nothing wrong in enjoying physical intimacy, rather it musn't cause a problem. If it happens, your relationship will be in potential risk.
Advice? He has to see from your point of view. If you are simply not comfortable, he has to know and respect your decision. You could avoid placing yourself in vulnerable situation like going over to his place.
The main battle will come from communication between the two of you. You have to talk - and do not suffer this in silence. Trash this out with him and listen to what he has to say. You may be (or not) surprise by his reply. From this trashing session, you will realise whether this relationship is worth continuing or not.
Quote of the day: Before he can learn to protect you from others, he must learn to protect you from himself.
Cheers -
it is obvious you are not ready to start a family..which is the sole purpose of sex..sex for love is a load of bull, don't ever believe a word of it..if he loves you, he would enjoy doing absolutely anything with you, not just that thing..be firm the next time.Originally posted by peacely: i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them. theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. : -
Ways to prevent this type of activity to happen.
1) Don't go his house stay.
2) Keep going out, see movie etc .. -
dearest peacely,
i personally feel that sex and love are two different things and doesn't necessarily have to come together. you can love without having sex (eg. couples who are 'unable').
i understand your pain of having to wait for your menstruation, because i have gone through that before. even though you didn't exactly have sex with him then, it is only natural that you will worry about getting pregnant.
my advice is that you get a home pregnancy test kit (like the one that has been advertised on television the past few days). this is the only way you can be certain whether you are pregnant or not. if the result is negative, then good for you. but if it's positive, then i suggest you tell your parents.
since you have rather "traditional" parents, it is inevitable that they will lecture you. there is no point trying to hide it from your parents if it's confirmed that you're pregnant, because they'll find out sooner or later. your belly will definately swell.
at this critical point of time, your parents are the only people who can help and advice you on what to do. besides, they are much more learned and experienced than you and your friends.
whether you want to break up with him or not is up to you, but whatever it is, i hope you make a right and wise decision. if you decide to stay with him, avoid going to his place too often. go out and find entertainment outdoors instead! it's much healthier and it will not cause any worries of you getting pregnant.
all the best! -
After reading twice.... guess you are both rather young... YOU are NO longer a VIRGIN... you are worrying of getting pregnant after having sex.... and your bf don't know how to make you worries go away...right?Originally posted by peacely: i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them. theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. :
Answer time (strictly personal views) : Guys are guys.... never good at console ppl...
What's done CANNOT be undone.... I rather you continues to worry about pregnancy cos that will prevent you from engaging in sexual activities and as long as you did it..... there's NO way not to worry about pregnancy.... there's no fool proof way about this.
You can actually prevent sexual activities from happening if you don't create the environment for it. Why go to his house, his room...where you 2 can easily be involved in sexually activties?
I'm never good at consoling ppl, all I want to say is that try not to create opportunities for sexual activeties and got yrself involved in it and create a mental stress for yourself. A good relationship can be without sex.
Be safe not sorry.... best wishes. -
i totally agree with mc-square..he said all i wanted to say~Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm....guys i think there's somebody who's really suffering from emotional stress and torture.
Hey peacely,
To answer your first qns. Does sex always comes with love?
I say yes, when a couple engage in intercourse. It is a form, expression beyond word. Knitting two souls, two body to one. Unexplainable and idealistic thought.
I would still it's a yes, Love and pleasure should be the theme in having sex.
Unfortunately, when man(human) takes things for granted...it'll become Lust and pleasure.
This brings me to the next point. If you think the both of you have loved one another to a point when intercourse - the forbidden fruit should should engaged.
Just remember that Pre-marital sex has a cost. Are you ready?
I should guess you are still young, fun is ok but too much fun is threading on line ice.
Since it's a metal torture to you to wait for your period.
I think you are really not ready to take up the responsibility should anything happen. And you boy don't know what is he playing with.
You have expressed that the both of you have talked about it. Very good. However the practical part wasn't that successful.
My friend, i had that experience before...it was so tempting to a point when i got to tell my ex that i should go home. Otherwise, somethings would happen again. There were times when the both of us where extremely hurt over the things we did. It's a learning process, just don't let it ruin you.
The more you want to set boundaries the more you'll cross it. Sometimes it's so human for us to do so. That's why i call it the forbidden fruit.
Practice discipline and on top of that. The both of your mindset, needs to be changed....it's not only sex or staying in one another's house. Even though you guys have not much money. It doesn't mean you can't go to beach, kite-flying, strolling along the pavement. or have dinner together in hawker centre. Friend, it's not how much, it's now where you go, not even what you're doing....but ultimately it's WHO YOU'RE WITH (trust me, i've learnt this the hard way)
You also said that you didn't confide in your circle of friend. Which qualifies him to be your one and only confidant.
Too bad you're a girl. Otherwise i am willing to talk to you. Anyway, you really should open your heart to someone you trust and know that she'll not reprimand you but support you. (sorry for the YOUs used in these para)
I hope you could be a responsible daughter and gf also.
Cause i can tell you that if you're hurt, he'll be hurt also.
On top of that, he might feel guilty hence crippling his senses to comfort and care for you during the time when you need his understanding and love most.
Remedy could be easy yet difficult.
That's to prevent sexual contact. Learning to value and respect one another thru abstainance.
You don't have to brake off to escape this kinda of torture.
Realise that in r/s, things and obstacles comes. Whether can the both of your hands clasp together and brave thru the strom is a question mark the two of you can answer.
I wish you well.
but in any case or any point of time where u are very uncomfortable with the idea of engaging in intercourse or petting, (especially now that u find it a MENTAL TORTURE) juz tell ur boyfriend openly abt it~if he really loves u he must understand and feel for u and wont force u to do it again or even bring it up or hint to u that he wants "that"..
but at the same time u muz cooperate oso lah,dun lead him on by showing him u want it oso la~
next is, if u guys can actually quarrel over this matter that means he dont understand why u feel how u feel, and to me it simply shows that he juz care abt wat he gets and his own interests..if he really loves u and care for u he would tell u "ok fine, we juz try and stop doing it ok?" and will start bringing u to other places to engage in other healthier activities instead of quarrelling over the matter when u bring it up to him~ juz have a heart to heart talk with him, things should work out juz fine~
im a girl too, so i definitely understand how u are feeling now~ i've been thru similar situations~ but good thing is my bf understands me and how i feel and we discipline ourselves well enough, we are doing very well now, we dont quarrel abt this oso~
and err....lastly, if all else fails and u still loves him and insists on being with him, all i can say is carry condoms with u la~ this is not a solution or to encourage him to do it, its for ur own protection~ u dont wan to be an unwed mummy rite?
dun worry too much, its not good for health~
take care babe.. [/b] -
Originally posted by milkchoc:
i totally agree with mc-square..he said all i wanted to say~
but in any case or any point of time where u are very uncomfortable with the idea of engaging in intercourse or petting, (especially now that u find it a MENTAL TORTURE) juz tell ur boyfriend openly abt it~if he really loves u he must understand and feel for u and wont force u to do it again or even bring it up or hint to u that he wants "that"..
but at the same time u muz cooperate oso lah,dun lead him on by showing him u want it oso la~
next is, if u guys can actually quarrel over this matter that means he dont understand why u feel how u feel, and to me it simply shows that he juz care abt wat he gets and his own interests..if he really loves u and care for u he would tell u "ok fine, we juz try and stop doing it ok?" and will start bringing u to other places to engage in other healthier activities instead of quarrelling over the matter when u bring it up to him~ juz have a heart to heart talk with him, things should work out juz fine~
im a girl too, so i definitely understand how u are feeling now~ i've been thru similar situations~ but good thing is my bf understands me and how i feel and we discipline ourselves well enough, we are doing very well now, we dont quarrel abt this oso~
and err....lastly, if all else fails and u still loves him and insists on being with him, all i can say is carry condoms with u la~ this is not a solution or to encourage him to do it, its for ur own protection~ u dont wan to be an unwed mummy rite?
dun worry too much, its not good for health~
take care babe.. [/b]
So Zhun??? I've said all you want to say?
Hmm...
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ya~very zhun..hee~im serious, u've said all i wanted to~Originally posted by M©+square: So Zhun??? I've said all you want to say?
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Then why are you rolling your eyes?Originally posted by milkchoc:ya~very zhun..hee~im serious, u've said all i wanted to~
And please don't be serious...cannot take serious people.
Care to let me know of your age? Hmm...if you're younger then i betta buck up.
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True true.... i like this quote!Originally posted by Eiizumi:"Men do love for sex. Women do sex for love."
~Jason
btw, peacely how old are you? -
The best way is a painful way... but it's 100% this kind of things will not happen anymore after you do it... it's your choice to do it or not so don't regret after you do it...
Just Chop It Off! -
Girls can never get pregnant during or 1 week after their period, I always do it with my gf right after her period without protection and even ejaculate inside but nothing has ever happened, but to be safer, use condoms. Sometimes sex just happens whether you like it or not........it's like an instinct.
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hmm no sound from her...?
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Generally i feel that love sort of does come with sex. It just seems very natural. Maybe u feel that the more u control the more the two of you wants it even more. It happens when u try to avoid it too much. just talk it out with your bf. if u feel that you are not ready and won't be able to bear the consequence than reject with a firm NO. U won't want to hurt your parents and put them into mistrust for u.Originally posted by peacely: i am really at a loss and its not the first time already.
my bf and i had been together for a yr plus already.
Due to the fact that hes still studying, we cant afford to go out dating every week end. Most of the time, i would go over to his place.
Maybe its becoz both of us r still virgins, he tend to be curious abt sex, but he had nv force on me b4 although at the pt of penetration, i rejected him for many times.
I can say that for the whole of one yr, we didnt really engage in sex coz theres no ejaculation at all. All the while, although i know that its impossible to get pregnant in this way, i have been worrying abt it. I felt very relived when my period came every month. its a mental torture for me waiting for my period to c if i am pregnant or nt.i even had to note down when it started and end so tt i can keep track. this is something i had nv done b4 we r together. and i did tried all sorts of ways to prevent both of us frm engaging in this activity but i can say tt its really very difficult to control ourself. it seems like e more we control, e more we cant be able to control ourself after sometime of restriction.
its a mental torture for him also coz i am nt letting any of my friends know and i could only confide in him.
Recently, we got involved in this activity and its unprotected.For the first time , he ejaculated but he had use the withdrawal method.
i am really scared stiff although all these happen at the ending days of my period which i susposed is safe. But i am still scared.coz i know we could nt bear the consequences. i am from a very traditional family and my parents would kill me if i shd "being disgrace" to them. theres something i just dun understand abt guys. i really feel that they dunno how to console their gf and make them feel better. we ended up quarreling abt this matter. sometimes, i really feel like breaking off with him so that i wun experience this kind of mental torture. :
Guys r not so sensitive as gers, so try to bear with them. they want their pride, that's y they put up a very strong front. actually they can be just a little hai zi qi.they get jealous easily only coz they care for u just like u will cry only for the man u love. they do like attention as much as us gers too just that they feel that they will appear weak and feminine, u know they have an image to keep up. Spare them some thought too, they are just as emotional just that they don't show it
Don't you guys agree? -
Originally posted by ReD_RuBy:Generally i feel that love sort of does come with sex. It just seems very natural. Maybe u feel that the more u control the more the two of you wants it even more. It happens when u try to avoid it too much. just talk it out with your bf. if u feel that you are not ready and won't be able to bear the consequence than reject with a firm NO. U won't want to hurt your parents and put them into mistrust for u.
Guys r not so sensitive as gers, so try to bear with them. they want their pride, that's y they put up a very strong front. actually they can be just a little hai zi qi.they get jealous easily only coz they care for u just like u will cry only for the man u love. they do like attention as much as us gers too just that they feel that they will appear weak and feminine, u know they have an image to keep up. Spare them some thought too, they are just as emotional just that they don't show it Don't you guys agree? you are right that its almost quite impossible to supress feelings for each other for sex. and its extremely difficult to control the kind of urge when its out of control.
To me , this is jus like the addiction for smoking. Its very tough to quit it esp when u are always hanging ard with smokers.
Everytime when i cant control my feelings anymore and i give in to it , i got this kind of extremely GUILTH and SINFUL feeling. It became worse when i became paranoid abt it and start to think of its effects. To me , its jus like a gamble. and its not fun.
my bf cant even help me much when it happens , there is really nothing he can do .
i am jus stuck in the middle of 2 things which are just as important and its very terrible.
its quite useless to talk and discuss abt all these here coz this kind of things has got no real solution to it . but at least, i feel consoled when i knoe there are ppl out there who are willing to hear me out and provide consulation.