Feelings are back, what to do???
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I broke up with my gf 1 year ago. At first I don't feel so much beside the lack of someone beside me. Maybe because I was very angry with her then. But now, 1 year later, I start to feel all the feelings I have for her again. Patching back is near impossible. What should I do???
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do nothing lah. continue with life
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maybe u r lonely? well....u jus gotto move on...
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today took a test. topic was to describe my girlfriend/ideal girlfriend in a foreign languauge.....
i wrote about her..eventhough it was history...her features and so on as expected by the question. the feelings came back for a moment.
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Alone i dont think so lah... coz the feelings come back not just when i am lonely and it is not for a while only too... i know got to continu with my life but i would like to have some help to get through it faster and with less troubles...
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Feelings are back likely because when the both of you are still together...something happened which cut short the life of the r/s,
hance you might feel that you are not through with what you want to do....it just seemed incomplete, making it letting you think you're not able to move on.
Advise: Sort things out with her....do not patch back with her until the both of you have got the right perspective.
If it's a one sided feeling. Tell her....sort it out. Do it the right way, if it means losing her...at least what seemed incomplete will end there and then.
Cheers
Rushing out liao....got duty. Talk about it again. -
duty??Originally posted by M©+square:Feelings are back likely because when the both of you are still together...something happened which cut short the life of the r/s,
hance you might feel that you are not through with what you want to do....it just seemed incomplete, making it letting you think you're not able to move on.
Advise: Sort things out with her....do not patch back with her until the both of you have got the right perspective.
If it's a one sided feeling. Tell her....sort it out. Do it the right way, if it means losing her...at least what seemed incomplete will end there and then.
Cheers
Rushing out liao....got duty. Talk about it again. -
I'm still serving my National Service.Originally posted by NeonTetra:duty?? -
Thanks and appreciated
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well...try talking to her? she might feel the say way as u? never try never know
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oh i see....sorry NSman here......Originally posted by M©+square:I'm still serving my National Service. 
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not really sure what to do
May need to think more before i act
she may not think the same
after all when a couple breaks, people will always persuade the girl to forget the guy and to carry on with her own life and try not to patch back -
well...Originally posted by Imperfect:not really sure what to do
May need to think more before i act
she may not think the same
after all when a couple breaks, people will always persuade the girl to forget the guy and to carry on with her own life and try not to patch back
if u ask, u got 50% of a chance...
if u dun, u got 0% of a chance... -
Time... heals all wounds... most of the time.
But then the more you try to forget something, the more it comes back to you -
true....true....just live as per normal and don think of her...or try to forget...Originally posted by MooKu:Time... heals all wounds... most of the time.
But then the more you try to forget something, the more it comes back to you -
Sometimes some things are out of our control. You can believe that you've forgotten someone, but that person will just appear in your dreams one night and all those efforts just *plonk* goes down the drain..Originally posted by NeonTetra:true....true....just live as per normal and don think of her...or try to forget... -
That is....if it's possible.Originally posted by NeonTetra:true....true....just live as per normal and don think of her...or try to forget... -
wat i can say is sometimes fate does plays a trick on humans...
to say that the patch back is near impossible will depends on wat actually happened b/w the both of u, at wat age n mentally did the r/s happened n ended?
pple do change, grow up etc...things that u r not mentally prepared or not matured enuff to deal with that time might be otherwise now
but most imptly both partners must feel the same n try to sort things out...like i say, fate might be such that God wants the both of u to walk in circles, gained experiences n to learn to treasure things more b4 putting u2 together again? but then again this kind of stuff is subjective
fr my pt of view, maybe u could juz start off as frds again? start to know her once again right fr the beginning to c if both of u r really suitable for each other....dun build up the frdship fr where u left off in the broken r/s...but start a brand new frdship and c wat will lead on fr there?
juz my 2 cents worth of advice...hope tt helps...
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Originally posted by Imperfect:I broke up with my gf 1 year ago. At first I don't feel so much beside the lack of someone beside me. Maybe because I was very angry with her then. But now, 1 year later, I start to feel all the feelings I have for her again. Patching back is near impossible. What should I do???
What makes you think that she still has feelings for you? What makes you think she is still the 'same-old' her? What makes you think patching back will be better than previously? Your feelings for her - sure its love and not anything else? (Lonely, etc)
This is what I always tell people who wants to patch back after like one year kind of thing. Reality check; you have to address such question FIRST, before you should even attempt anything. If you can reply to yourself - you already hold the answer.
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All these are the things that I am not sure... and will try to find out... but i guess 'how to' is the problem... sometimes thinking too much doesn't do anything good...Originally posted by Yunhaier: What makes you think that she still has feelings for you? What makes you think she is still the 'same-old' her? What makes you think patching back will be better than previously? -
Thanks they do helpOriginally posted by hopy:wat i can say is sometimes fate does plays a trick on humans...
to say that the patch back is near impossible will depends on wat actually happened b/w the both of u, at wat age n mentally did the r/s happened n ended?
pple do change, grow up etc...things that u r not mentally prepared or not matured enuff to deal with that time might be otherwise now
but most imptly both partners must feel the same n try to sort things out...like i say, fate might be such that God wants the both of u to walk in circles, gained experiences n to learn to treasure things more b4 putting u2 together again? but then again this kind of stuff is subjective
fr my pt of view, maybe u could juz start off as frds again? start to know her once again right fr the beginning to c if both of u r really suitable for each other....dun build up the frdship fr where u left off in the broken r/s...but start a brand new frdship and c wat will lead on fr there?
juz my 2 cents worth of advice...hope tt helps... v -
Originally posted by Yunhaier: What makes you think that she still has feelings for you? What makes you think she is still the 'same-old' her? What makes you think patching back will be better than previously? Your feelings for her - sure its love and not anything else? (Lonely, etc)
This is what I always tell people who wants to patch back after like one year kind of thing. Reality check; you have to address such question FIRST, before you should even attempt anything. If you can reply to yourself - you already hold the answer. well i'm going thru the same thing as imperfect....thanx
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great...that will b 100 bucks thank youOriginally posted by Imperfect:Thanks they do help
hahaha...nah...glad to b of a service to pple in distress -
its all in the state of mindOriginally posted by M©+square:That is....if it's possible. -
the mind commands the body, the body listens
the mind commands itself, and meets resistance
the mind commands the heart, and meets rebellionOriginally posted by hopy:its all in the state of mind