Trust
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recently, my bf came to know a gal... through another friend... they went out as a group... but the gal seems to be interested in my bf... even though she knew that he is attached... always phone him and ask him out or just to chit chat...
he told me about these... he said that he did not go out with her alone...
actually i've total trust in him... but recently, i found out that the gal is still in contact with my bf... one of my best friends asked me, why am i not angry about it? i just told her, b coz i've total trust in him... but actually i'm a bit upset when i know that the gal is still in contact with him... she told me that he might abuse my trust...
what should i do?
izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply? guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal? or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you? or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone?
will you be really really frank with her??? 
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recently, my bf came to know a gal... through another friend... they went out as a group... but the gal seems to be interested in my bf... even though she knew that he is attached... always phone him and ask him out or just to chit chat...
he told me about these... he said that he did not go out with her alone... actually i've total trust in him... but recently, i found out that the gal is still in contact with my bf... one of my best friends asked me, why am i not angry about it? i just told her, b coz i've total trust in him... but actually i'm a bit upset when i know that the gal is still in contact with him... she told me that he might abuse my trust...
what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply? guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal?
- Ya... better to be honest...
or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you?
- I will... or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone?
- Er... depends... will you be really really frank with her???
- Er... dends on the situation... -
not true lah, he might go out wif her but mayb like a fren/buddy date... actuali quite dangerous as the gal like him... better keep gd watch on ur bf but most impt must oso hv faith in him... gd luck...Originally posted by yi xun:...
what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply?
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as a guy, i would not put myself in any position that my girl would have any doubts about me...
that girl who is "interested" would be met with a cold shoulder and told politely and firmly to buzz off..
and i would not be anywhere near that girl at all.. i do not want the one i love to even have a bit of doubt...
and people will know...
devotion is 100%
love demands it! -
i dont know how the answers to your questions help in what you are facing here. after all, the yes in us doesnt apply the same to your bf.
i admire how you are building this total trust relationship between you and your bf. at least i dont see many girls who practise that these days.
but i suggest you dont apply this idea completely.
feel free to express to him that even with all the trust you have in him, it is a norm for gf to feel disturbed when one's bf is seeing another girl, especially when they are going out alone. -
if u love somebody, mus trust him
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Hire PI and follow him
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but trust also needs to be earned..Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:if u love somebody, mus trust him -
i think overall. it is no point of angry or what ... i feel if both of you are meant for each other. no matter who came into his or your life is ok.
and remeber your bf has his own space and yours too ... dont tell me both of you need to see 24hr X 7 days?
no really right. he has his own pool of friends yours too. so is unnecessary to bother too much. juz know that he loves you.
if he dont, juz too bad for him.
is good that he cheats you now then next time when your heart and soul is totally wif him. thats even worse. -
Dear yi xun,Originally posted by yi xun:recently, my bf came to know a gal... through another friend... they went out as a group... but the gal seems to be interested in my bf... even though she knew that he is attached... always phone him and ask him out or just to chit chat...
he told me about these... he said that he did not go out with her alone... actually i've total trust in him... but recently, i found out that the gal is still in contact with my bf... one of my best friends asked me, why am i not angry about it? i just told her, b coz i've total trust in him... but actually i'm a bit upset when i know that the gal is still in contact with him... she told me that he might abuse my trust...
what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply? guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal? or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you? or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone? will you be really really frank with her???
Noticed that problem doesn't occur when you believe in your relationship - the issue pops up WHEN your friend questioned about your faith and trust of your relationship by asking 'why are you not angry.' I don't blame your friend because she doesn't want to regret never to say anything if something really did happen, but on the other hand, it affects you. Trust is a kind of faith - it cannot be proven, can only be felt.
Let me tell you 'IF YOUR BOYFRIENDS BENDS ON LEAVING THE RELATIONSHIP, absolutely nothing could stop him.' Even if there is no girl around him, he will leave, because he wants to. Love is to be bounded willingly and the minute he is unwilling to be bounded, he leaves - simple as that.
Sian/bored/look for excitement, etc are all relunctant issues to worry for if you fear such elements may befall into your relationship you just have to work it up during the relationship. As again, if he wants to leave because of such reasons - what can you do to stop him? Nothing. Why? Because he wants to.
In theory, nobody can make other party leave the relationship unless they themselves wants to and trust me, to create a scene because of such mundane issue is the first step to potential clashes. You can talk things in a nice way, have confidence and probably dismiss the talk as a joke or a causal conversation - you have to remain your advantage standing as his gf and keep you self esteem strong.
To the question you post - to each his own. But I doubt I would mentioned anything, because I feel its a small thing and because women are quite predictable when it comes to revealing such small 'things' - very petty and badly affected. But main thing isn't about this - it about how I handle it.
Cheers -
thanks folks... =)
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Master Yun blew me away.
Dear yi xun,
Noticed that problem doesn't occur when you believe in your relationship - the issue pops up WHEN your friend questioned about your faith and trust of your relationship by asking 'why are you not angry.' I don't blame your friend because she doesn't want to regret never to say anything if something really did happen, but on the other hand, it affects you. Trust is a kind of faith - it cannot be proven, can only be felt.
Let me tell you 'IF YOUR BOYFRIENDS BENDS ON LEAVING THE RELATIONSHIP, [b]absolutely nothing could stop him.' Even if there is no girl around him, he will leave, because he wants to. Love is to be bounded willingly and the minute he is unwilling to be bounded, he leaves - simple as that.
Sian/bored/look for excitement, etc are all relunctant issues to worry for if you fear such elements may befall into your relationship you just have to work it up during the relationship. As again, if he wants to leave because of such reasons - what can you do to stop him? Nothing. Why? Because he wants to.
In theory, nobody can make other party leave the relationship unless they themselves wants to and trust me, to create a scene because of such mundane issue is the first step to potential clashes. You can talk things in a nice way, have confidence and probably dismiss the talk as a joke or a causal conversation - you have to remain your advantage standing as his gf and keep you self esteem strong.
To the question you post - to each his own. But I doubt I would mentioned anything, because I feel its a small thing and because women are quite predictable when it comes to revealing such small 'things' - very petty and badly affected. But main thing isn't about this - it about how I handle it.
Cheers [/b]
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Originally posted by yi xun:recently, my bf came to know a gal... through another friend... they went out as a group... but the gal seems to be interested in my bf... even though she knew that he is attached... always phone him and ask him out or just to chit chat...
he told me about these... he said that he did not go out with her alone... actually i've total trust in him... but recently, i found out that the gal is still in contact with my bf... one of my best friends asked me, why am i not angry about it? i just told her, b coz i've total trust in him... but actually i'm a bit upset when i know that the gal is still in contact with him... she told me that he might abuse my trust...
what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply? guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal?
in the 1st place i wouldnt go out alone with a girl.. just imagine wad would happen if my gf's best friend sees me with that other girl? no place to hide man... or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you?
no i wouldnt. i'll keep it btwn that gal fren and my gf. or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone?
nope will you be really really frank with her???
if she wants to know i'll tell her... other than that, im just friends with that gal wad... -
true love is when the person you LOVE is in your heart foreverOriginally posted by yi xun:recently, my bf came to know a gal... through another friend... they went out as a group... but the gal seems to be interested in my bf... even though she knew that he is attached... always phone him and ask him out or just to chit chat...
he told me about these... he said that he did not go out with her alone... actually i've total trust in him... but recently, i found out that the gal is still in contact with my bf... one of my best friends asked me, why am i not angry about it? i just told her, b coz i've total trust in him... but actually i'm a bit upset when i know that the gal is still in contact with him... she told me that he might abuse my trust...
what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply? guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal? or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you? or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone? will you be really really frank with her???
if she's in your heart deeply and truly... its very much doubtful u would want to socialise with anybody of the opposite sex other than your partner.
cos u treasure every minute that can be spent with her.
for qn 1. alone... i will NEVER go out alone with a ger on an outing or a date. unless its totally inevitable like a business lunch (no dinners ) or to look at products
Yes. i will tell her... its my business what... and it involves her. no hiding
for qn 2: haha for a gal to like you... you have to at least socialise with them? to go the xtra mile for them? but even so if u are really loyal and avoid stepping onto 2 boats... i'll tell her very firmly that im attached and my heart's secure with someone's else
for qn 3: i wouldnt even chat with a gal on e phone since its my responsibility to prevent any misunderstanding and presence of 3rd party. unless she's really an old frend and purely platonic... but by then my girlfriend will already know her
for qn 4: yes always. because the soul itself is clean. there isnt anything one has to hide. hiding things only serve to complicate matters -
COME BACK!Originally posted by M©+square:Master Yun blew me away.
/me grab MC back. -
*wrong post*
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what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply?
As a singleton-Sauron-type, I can't relate. But guys do get bored very easily with girls, every guy has a limit. But what seperates the jerks from the good guys is their ability/willingness to sustain the relationship so that both parties never get bored.
guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal?
or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you?
or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone?
will you be really really frank with her???
If I had a girl, which I never will, I will definitely be frank with her, because I am frank/candid with everyone, in whatever medium. Probably that is my weakness with people, being too frank. -
Ya...U should have complete trust for ur bf...it's oso true some guys will abuse the trust..bt y ur bf bother chat wif her? juz heck care ma...Originally posted by yi xun:recently, my bf came to know a gal... through another friend... they went out as a group... but the gal seems to be interested in my bf... even though she knew that he is attached... always phone him and ask him out or just to chit chat...
he told me about these... he said that he did not go out with her alone... actually i've total trust in him... but recently, i found out that the gal is still in contact with my bf... one of my best friends asked me, why am i not angry about it? i just told her, b coz i've total trust in him... but actually i'm a bit upset when i know that the gal is still in contact with him... she told me that he might abuse my trust...
what should i do? izzit true that no matter how a guy loves his gf, he'll get sian/bored one day, and will look for other excitement?
will a guy go out with another gal(some kind of a date), even if he still loves his gf deeply? guys, will you tell your gf that you went out alone with a gal? or will you tell your gf that one of your gal friends like you? or will you tell your gf that you chatted with a gal on phone? will you be really really frank with her???
anyway...we outsiders cannot help much...muz depend on ur own decisions... -
few do.. some women will flirt and all that with others and say it's "harmless".. yet when their bfs just talk to someone female, they'll blow their top...
was written about in the newspapers too!
so, how many women can just "heck care"?Originally posted by Do|pHinE:Ya...U should have complete trust for ur bf...it's oso true some guys will abuse the trust..bt y ur bf bother chat wif her? juz heck care ma...
anyway...we outsiders cannot help much...muz depend on ur own decisions... -
huh...no no...think u misunderstood my meanin...i say...y cant her bf just heck care tt ger?Originally posted by the Bear:few do.. some women will flirt and all that with others and say it's "harmless".. yet when their bfs just talk to someone female, they'll blow their top...
was written about in the newspapers too!
so, how many women can just "heck care"? -
dunno.. that, i think they must figure out..
i gave my view on how a gentleman should behave for his girl already
Originally posted by Do|pHinE:huh...no no...think u misunderstood my meanin...i say...y cant her bf just heck care tt ger? -
I'm saved by master yun againzOriginally posted by Yunhaier:COME BACK!
/me grab MC back.
Forever indebted to you -
So ain't you going to yi shen xiang xu to me?Originally posted by M©+square:I'm saved by master yun againz
Forever indebted to you -
he is still in contact with that gal... that gal will still call him sometimes... that gal will also talk to him in icq..... i've told this issue to my buddy(guy), he said its very normal... as they are just friends. hee feels that i should let my bf have the freedom to talk to or to know new friends. regardless of gender...
then i asked him even if that gal likes him, that's why she phone him, etc, also dosen't matter??? he told mi that MUST HAVE TRUST in him... -
but how often they chat? everyday? if jz sometimes should be ok, but jz keep an eye lor....