Trust

• BrUtUs

  5 Oct 03, 02:59

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• Yunhaier

  5 Oct 03, 13:00

  Originally posted by yi xun:

  he is still in contact with that gal... that gal will still call him sometimes... that gal will also talk to him in icq..... i've told this issue to my buddy(guy), he said its very normal... as they are just friends. hee feels that i should let my bf have the freedom to talk to or to know new friends. regardless of gender...
  then i asked him even if that gal likes him, that's why she phone him, etc, also dosen't matter??? he told mi that MUST HAVE TRUST in him...

  He is right.... half.
  
  The main person you should express your concern over would be your boyfriend. Tell your boyfriend that it is affecting you and you don't feel too good about this.
  
  Then leave the decision in his hands and just keep your trust in him.
  
  The problem doesn't lies with you - its with him. Therefore, since you have made known to him about your feelings, its up to him to handle with relationship with that girl. NOT NECCESSARILY he would avoid her or similiar, rather, he would think of your stand first before anything.
  
  Cheers
• calibataire

  5 Oct 03, 13:33

  i ever had a frend who told me over casual chat that for a ger to 'bian xin' is pretty rare and hard.... once a ger sets her mind and heart to luv someone, she does it whole heartedly.... but for a guy, its another story.... dunno how true isit...
  
  well i think to be in a r/s with total trust can be possible but it also depends on individuals.... if there is any reason for you to suspest anythig, dun just keep quiet abt it.... a r/s does not tolerate poor or no communication.... communication between a couple is the foundation of a steady r/s.... i suggest u speak to ur bf and deliver ur concern to him... at least i practise such, to my frends too.... and it is doing well.... so why not try... no harm...