MAJOR SETBACK in love
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i really dont know what shall i do about this..... Last thursday night, i sms my gf n told her to stay away from the guy because that guy r trying to take advantage of her but she insist that they r just playing. but instead, she told me that we should cool down for 3 days. ok i wait.... monday, when i met her i tried to explain to her but she was trying to ignore n keep advoiding me. then on the same day i told her i will send her home, she agreed, but she left without telling me. on that night she told me she will give me a chance to prove i will return to my normal self in 3 days. i promised her. but now the problems is will she really give me a chance? also today when i tried to sit next to her she also advoid me by changing place. when 1 of my friend ask "if i sit next to u will u change place?" she replied "no" that really hurt me. that time i think my life not worth living for.......
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Bro... maybe she's angry over smething... but if she continues to behave like tt... give her up man...
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give her up? u joking man..... all i want is to b with her.....
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really dont know what shall i do about this..... Last thursday night, i sms my gf n told her to stay away from the guy because that guy r trying to take advantage of her but she insist that they r just playing. but instead, she told me that we should cool down for 3 days. ok i wait.... monday, when i met her i tried to explain to her but she was trying to ignore n keep advoiding me. then on the same day i told her i will send her home, she agreed, but she left without telling me. on that night she told me she will give me a chance to prove i will return to my normal self in 3 days. i promised her. but now the problems is will she really give me a chance? also today when i tried to sit next to her she also advoid me by changing place. when 1 of my friend ask "if i sit next to u will u change place?" she replied "no" that really hurt me. that time i think my life not worth living for.......
Sounds a lot like what I experience everyday at school, funny how I am not even this girls' friend yet along "boy-friend" and I get shunned.
Anyway, what guy are you talking about? Is it a friend of hers? Part of being in a romance involves trust, just because you are her boyfriend does not mean you can control who she meets. It sounds like you get worked up easily, if she has to ask you for a cool-down period.
My point and advice: simple, ignore her for now, even if this friend of hers (this guy) is the devil, let her see that for herself, watch her come on in her own. Don't force anyone (even your gf) over what kind of people they can meet. Sometimes, people need to wait for damage to be done, even though warnings have been given countless times. -
that time i think my life not worth living for......
Y get upset over a gal? love is not everything... -
what guy?
persevere... sincerity is everything!
good luck! -
i dont wan to get upset over this too... but she is my 1st love........ n the girl i love................
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if any1 of u wanna get the full story or wanna know the outcome of will she give me a chance pls e-mail at [email protected]
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Y get upset over a gal? love is not everything...
Only the one who has everything else but love will find that love is everything. Don;'t say something so silly again.
Sotong, what "guy" are you talking about. It sounds to me like your envious, over envious even. What do the ultra-minute population of girls on this forum think? -
Wa... still got full story n outcome... writing novel ah?Originally posted by mr_sotong:if any1 of u wanna get the full story or wanna know the outcome of will she give me a chance pls e-mail at [email protected] -
that guy is actually her friend.....
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Originally posted by men_@_arms:
Ya i dun have love... n i think there are many other things than love... that's my feelings n i dun think its silly...
[b]Y get upset over a gal? love is not everything...
Only the one who has everything else but love will find that love is everything. Don;'t say something so silly again.
Sotong, what "guy" are you talking about. It sounds to me like your envious, over envious even. What do the ultra-minute population of girls on this forum think?[/b] -
you and her are officially a couple?
if so, i dunno... seems like the guy very buey zhi dong.. and your girl.. to be blunt.. doesn't seem to take your relationship very seriously..
a touch of immaturity maybe?
sorry i'm blunt...
i hope the grandmaster Yun will step in.. the rest of us in AA just try to help along the way..
best of luck againOriginally posted by mr_sotong:that guy is actually her friend..... -
*sigh*..... tomorrow night i will sms her n ask if she willing to give me a chance........ lets hope for the best now...........
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All the best...Originally posted by mr_sotong:*sigh*..... tomorrow night i will sms her n ask if she willing to give me a chance........ lets hope for the best now...........
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Take SMS for granted?Originally posted by mr_sotong:*sigh*..... tomorrow night i will sms her n ask if she willing to give me a chance........ lets hope for the best now...........
C'mon, give her a call instead. That's more sincere. -
hmMmm...if there's somethin wrong or wad..u should try to tok to her n settle? if she says nuthin...n kip ignorin u...i think u gif up oso...Originally posted by mr_sotong:give her up? u joking man..... all i want is to b with her..... -
agrees...Originally posted by KrU:Bro... maybe she's angry over smething... but if she continues to behave like tt... give her up man... -
Originally posted by KrU:
but love can gif one a power le...!
[b]that time i think my life not worth living for......
Y get upset over a gal? love is not everything...[/b] -
*nod*Originally posted by the Bear:what guy?
persevere... sincerity is everything!
good luck! -
there is always many other gers in the world...there are nicer gers out there...juz tt fate not yet there onli...reali...Originally posted by mr_sotong:i dont wan to get upset over this too... but she is my 1st love........ n the girl i love................ -
*nods*Originally posted by Do|pHinE:there is always many other gers in the world...there are nicer gers out there...juz tt fate not yet there onli...reali... -
yeah... why waste your time with a girl that wastes ur precious youth?Originally posted by Do|pHinE:there is always many other gers in the world...there are nicer gers out there...juz tt fate not yet there onli...reali... -
Originally posted by m@Rki:yeah... why waste your time with a girl that wastes ur precious youth?
tt's not the way to c luv as wor... -
Your insecurity steps in because you subconsciously realise that your relationship could be walking into turmoil - you demanded her not to hang around that guy. However, the strange thing is that she replied your demand with three days worth of cooling down.Originally posted by mr_sotong:i really dont know what shall i do about this..... Last thursday night, i sms my gf n told her to stay away from the guy because that guy r trying to take advantage of her but she insist that they r just playing. but instead, she told me that we should cool down for 3 days. ok i wait.... monday, when i met her i tried to explain to her but she was trying to ignore n keep advoiding me. then on the same day i told her i will send her home, she agreed, but she left without telling me. on that night she told me she will give me a chance to prove i will return to my normal self in 3 days. i promised her. but now the problems is will she really give me a chance? also today when i tried to sit next to her she also advoid me by changing place. when 1 of my friend ask "if i sit next to u will u change place?" she replied "no" that really hurt me. that time i think my life not worth living for.......
Obviously something is wrong with your relationship - why need to cool when there is nothing wrong with you, apart from being paranoid. Noticed that she used avoidance and ignoring tactics and claim to give you a chance if you 'return' back to normal.
There could only be either/both of the two reasons for such happening:
I) Its with you - your paranoid nature had irritated her not once, but several times prior before this. You belong to the possessive group and apt to invaded personal freedom and privacy. Her behaviour is the result of your character and she felt that trashing your flaws wouldn't get anywhere better.
II) Its with her - There could be some funny affair going on between the guy and her. Not neccessary two-timing, rather, she could have developed feelings for him OR the other way round. Her avoidance and ignoring tactics buys her time to reflect, ponder and think about her next move and the relationship possible future.
P.S: Any critical problem your relationship undergo in the past? How long have both of you been together? How old are the both of you?
Cheers