MAJOR SETBACK in love
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both of us just 17.and this is the 1st problem lastly we have been in the relationship for abt 3 weeksOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Your insecurity steps in because you subconsciously realise that your relationship could be walking into turmoil - you demanded her not to hang around that guy. However, the strange thing is that she replied your demand with three days worth of cooling down.
Obviously something is wrong with your relationship - why need to cool when there is nothing wrong with you, apart from being paranoid. Noticed that she used avoidance and ignoring tactics and claim to give you a chance if you 'return' back to normal.
There could only be either/both of the two reasons for such happening:
I) Its with you - your paranoid nature had irritated her not once, but several times prior before this. You belong to the possessive group and apt to invaded personal freedom and privacy. Her behaviour is the result of your character and she felt that trashing your flaws wouldn't get anywhere better.
II) Its with her - There could be some funny affair going on between the guy and her. Not neccessary two-timing, rather, she could have developed feelings for him OR the other way round. Her avoidance and ignoring tactics buys her time to reflect, ponder and think about her next move and the relationship possible future.
P.S: Any critical problem your relationship undergo in the past? How long have both of you been together? How old are the both of you?
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three weeks.. no wonder la. take it easy man
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Take it easy? every1 said that. that said it is normal for new relationship. i was wondering was it a lie?
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During the starting for a new relationship, we often do not have the 100% trust in out gf/bf. This is the thing that comes in. You feel insecure because you feel that your gf is not fulfilling your questions and things like not going with your way which really hurts you.Originally posted by mr_sotong:i really dont know what shall i do about this..... Last thursday night, i sms my gf n told her to stay away from the guy because that guy r trying to take advantage of her but she insist that they r just playing. but instead, she told me that we should cool down for 3 days. ok i wait.... monday, when i met her i tried to explain to her but she was trying to ignore n keep advoiding me. then on the same day i told her i will send her home, she agreed, but she left without telling me. on that night she told me she will give me a chance to prove i will return to my normal self in 3 days. i promised her. but now the problems is will she really give me a chance? also today when i tried to sit next to her she also advoid me by changing place. when 1 of my friend ask "if i sit next to u will u change place?" she replied "no" that really hurt me. that time i think my life not worth living for.......
Try ponder about why your gf react this way? They dun react like this for no reason.
If you think it's your fault, think about it and apologise, forget about it and move on with life. Do not like this affect your relationship.
If you think its her fault, tell her about it and see what she says. After all, relationships are all about giving and taking. I believe your gf is just mad about you for being paranoid. In a relationship, isnt it so that each party is responsible for letting the others feel secure and safe 
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actually it is very easy.. stop all these guessing and avoiding games and just sit down and have a good talk with her. tell her all your inner feelings about the situation and ask for her feelings too.Originally posted by mr_sotong:Take it easy? every1 said that. that said it is normal for new relationship. i was wondering was it a lie?
if this relationship means anything to her, she will open up. it is important, somebody has to break the ice and start to talk about it, and when i say talk, i mean a real serious talk.
often it is these communicating sessions that make or break a relationship. do not underestimate the power of communication!
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I think the girl is childish! Her actions actually it's like flirting. woman mind can never be understand.
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i agreed wif kru... "love is not everything"Originally posted by mr_sotong:i dont wan to get upset over this too... but she is my 1st love........ n the girl i love................
ur parents gif u life not ur gf........ does it worth to give up ur life for e sake of her....
in this situation, i think she had no feelin on u... so she is tryin to avoid u as possible.. that gals always behave...hw i kn cos i'm gal too.... n this is what i always behave when i lose interest in the guy..... life arent fairness so do r/s.... -
they're 17, they're "going out" for 3 weeks...
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Since its only three weeks and considering her behaviour towards such issue (note that I mentioned nothing about your age), I doubt her maturity of entering into a relationship is for the serious basis.Originally posted by mr_sotong:both of us just 17.and this is the 1st problem lastly we have been in the relationship for abt 3 weeks Let me guess - you knew her less than 3 months before becoming as a couple?
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hello guys.... bad news...... its over between us....
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Good for the both of u... seriously... both of u still young... u 2 will be exposed to more ppl n r/s...Originally posted by mr_sotong:hello guys.... bad news...... its over between us....