what should I do?
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It is so ironic..
one year ago, i caught my bf flirting behind my back.
it almost caused us a break-up as the incident really haunted me & made me lost trust in him..
he gave me his words it would not happen again...that there is nothing between he & the other gal...that it was just a fling.
it really took me beri beri long to forgive him..but i will never forget...simple reason being that i am just any other humans..
one year after on this day...one of my friend living in the same hostel as him told me that she saw he & another gal together..
from her pt of view, they behaved intimately...quite obvious that things going on between them is more than juz ordinary friends..
i am really at a lost..feeling so bitter...
what should i do? confront him? or wait further until my fren observe the situation for me? -
prepare to slaughter him once u got the prove.....
ask XLN to intro u some weapons.
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i recogn tat u dun confront him yet, cos he sure deny n u fren might not be able to give a very solid proof...
meantime just behave as if nothing happen n ask ur fren to observe the situation more.. -
but i have no evidence to prove if there is something or nothing..
perhaps the gal is his ordinary fren?
nothing wrong to mix with the opp sex?
perhaps....perhaps... -
I agreed with Inzaghi, gather enough evidence before confronting him...
Don't let him off this time... -
but i think i am going gi lah from all the thinking...
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how are things between the two of you?
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try not to tink so much. after all they mite jus b casual frens. only wen u hav cnfirmation tt he is truly cheating behind your back thn u go ahead n rack your brains for a revenge plot...Originally posted by CuTiE~~:but i think i am going gi lah from all the thinking... -
i know its hard, but there's nothing u can do about now...unless u have solid proof, u can do anything lor...meantime dun think too much lar..Originally posted by CuTiE~~:but i think i am going gi lah from all the thinking... -
love is blind.Originally posted by CuTiE~~:but i have no evidence to prove if there is something or nothing..
perhaps the gal is his ordinary fren?
nothing wrong to mix with the opp sex?
perhaps....perhaps...
last time i saw a guy puting hand on my ex's shoulder and yet believe tat she told mi tat he was playing. crap.
if u saw them holding hands, and they tell u weather is cold...
u going to take tat bite?
it is time to get rational.
i know u love him but not blind to this extend.
if u can close ur eyes for once, how many times can u tolerate this kind of thing.
even if u can tolerate, will he stay forever with u....
kick him in his ass if he is a bastard.
once lost, forever lost. -
letting your imagination go running won't help the situation.. be patient for the truth to surfaceOriginally posted by CuTiE~~:but i think i am going gi lah from all the thinking... 
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Hi, from what u have stated, is it right to conclude that ur bf is someone who is the "flirty" kind? If that is so, can I conclude again that ur relationship with him has not reach the stable level? If the answers to the above qns are NO, then it may mean he n the ger r really juz frens. I understand how u feel, is like once bitten, twice shy. You can't forget abt the previous incident, so u will feel insecure. What I think u shd do is to drop him a hint? Saying something like "Hey, she told me tt she saw u tt day with a ger leh... ur classmate?" dis kind of thing? Wait for him to tell u the answer, if u know him real well, u will know if he is lying. Don sound like u r confronting him, it's not gd for the relationship, and if u love him alot, u wun want it to break down, esp if it's all a misunderstanding. All the best and try not to think too much.. though it's hard (I know) *Sayangz*
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we have been together for more than 5 years...Originally posted by zh3nzh3n:Hi, from what u have stated, is it right to conclude that ur bf is someone who is the "flirty" kind? If that is so, can I conclude again that ur relationship with him has not reach the stable level? If the answers to the above qns are NO, then it may mean he n the ger r really juz frens. I understand how u feel, is like once bitten, twice shy. You can't forget abt the previous incident, so u will feel insecure. What I think u shd do is to drop him a hint? Saying something like "Hey, she told me tt she saw u tt day with a ger leh... ur classmate?" dis kind of thing? Wait for him to tell u the answer, if u know him real well, u will know if he is lying. Don sound like u r confronting him, it's not gd for the relationship, and if u love him alot, u wun want it to break down, esp if it's all a misunderstanding. All the best and try not to think too much.. though it's hard (I know) *Sayangz*
by right, it shld have been quite stable??
by left, i am wrong...
I am starting to feel that i do not understand him more & more...not knowing what is on his mind... -
What happened in these five years? What kinda person do you know him as???Originally posted by CuTiE~~:we have been together for more than 5 years...
by right, it shld have been quite stable??
by left, i am wrong...
I am starting to feel that i do not understand him more & more...not knowing what is on his mind...
He may have changed two years ago...or recently, you should know better then us.
Anyway, i'm facing another prob...so not in the right frame of mind to talk. Till when i get in form.
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Hmmm... 5 yrs is very long... long enuff for u to know thoroughly abt his personality, but if u r not happy in this relationship, there is no point hanging on, making urself so frustrated. 5 yrs in a r/s does not mean 5 yrs of happiness, and the latter is more impt..Originally posted by CuTiE~~:we have been together for more than 5 years...
by right, it shld have been quite stable??
by left, i am wrong...
I am starting to feel that i do not understand him more & more...not knowing what is on his mind...
Really... find a chance to drop him a hint... and see his reaction, maybe it will help u to understand him better... -
ask your friend to ask him who's his girlfriend in front of that girl. there's a high chance he may lie. hall has the ideal conditions for going astray.Originally posted by CuTiE~~:but i have no evidence to prove if there is something or nothing..
perhaps the gal is his ordinary fren?
nothing wrong to mix with the opp sex?
perhaps....perhaps... -
I stayed in hall (b4) but dun seems like it has any ideal conditions for astray leh ... Or is it just me? Haha.Originally posted by boy in blues:ask your friend to ask him who's his girlfriend in front of that girl. there's a high chance he may lie. hall has the ideal conditions for going astray.
Ops, back to topic ... ...
If you think you can tahan a second time "cheat" from your bf, then do nothing but find out the truth first. Decide what your actions are after knowing the truth abt your bf and this gal. I think best if let your friend confront the gal directly.
Else, if you can't tahan him going astray a second time, I guess its time to let go. Somtimes it is not worth it, even to find out the truth. If he had changed after learning his first mistake, such situation should not have occured. But then, please make sure you can trust your friend jugdement first.
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i suggest that you ask ur fren to find out more abt tt gal for u... b cos, sometimes guys will not say the truth unless u have the proof... so, plan everything before u ask him anything... also, ask ur fren to keep a lookout for u... take care... dun think too much, k? although its difficult... i've been thru this before...
PS: sometimes, the more u think, the more it'll happen... so, TRY not to think too much... -
Hi Cutie~~Originally posted by CuTiE~~:It is so ironic..
one year ago, i caught my bf flirting behind my back.
it almost caused us a break-up as the incident really haunted me & made me lost trust in him..
he gave me his words it would not happen again...that there is nothing between he & the other gal...that it was just a fling.
it really took me beri beri long to forgive him..but i will never forget...simple reason being that i am just any other humans..
one year after on this day...one of my friend living in the same hostel as him told me that she saw he & another gal together..
from her pt of view, they behaved intimately...quite obvious that things going on between them is more than juz ordinary friends..
i am really at a lost..feeling so bitter...
what should i do? confront him? or wait further until my fren observe the situation for me?
1st of all, i will suggest that u calm down and wait for ur fren analysis. Then i will suggest u check it out the situation together with ur fren. If its not true, tts a gd thing to noe. If it is, i think its time u confronted him. (Do this with the company of a fren.)
My tots of the situation: 1stly it hink tt the guy has actually gone flirting behind ur back. I think its too much le. Tts y u lost trust in him. Where is his responsibility as a bf and his responsibility to u? Afterall u are his gf!
But no no worries! =) We are all here to support u all the way! We will help u de! =) And dun cry le, hao ma? Lai, dry ur tears and let ur frens sayangs 
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thks to all~ for all ur replies...
read through the opinions from all of u...I have decided to ask him him abt the gal whom my fren saw him hanging out together with when i meet up with him today...
will ask him who is she...
b'cos i am a clear cut person...
when something is not right, i will not feel at ease...
it will affect me totally...
had a hard day outside yesterday...flashes of what my fren told me came haunting me throughout the entire day...
had a real hard time fighting back my tears...i will not cry outside no matter how bad i feel...
but the moment i reached home, tears just kept flowing down...
now, there are no more tears...i will cry no more...
what is love?
saw 'my house has 4 treasures' @ chanel 8 last nite...what is the world exactly coming to??
i have been faithful for these years...rejected advances from other guys...but yet these are what i get back...
do scream at me if you think my decision on probing him today is wrong...
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Dun confront him. If they r reali juz frens... by doin so wld make him lagi disapointed in u. Cos u simply had no trust in him. Since u had oredi 4given him d other time, dun let d past haunt u.
Giv him d benefit of doubt. Ur doubts might be resulting from past experience... take a break gal.
If its me.... i wun b serious in d r/s... go out n koe mor frens... who koe.. there is sumone out there who is mor suitable for u...
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Originally posted by CuTiE~~:It is so ironic..
one year ago, i caught my bf flirting behind my back.
it almost caused us a break-up as the incident really haunted me & made me lost trust in him..
he gave me his words it would not happen again...that there is nothing between he & the other gal...that it was just a fling.
it really took me beri beri long to forgive him..but i will never forget...simple reason being that i am just any other humans..
one year after on this day...one of my friend living in the same hostel as him told me that she saw he & another gal together..
from her pt of view, they behaved intimately...quite obvious that things going on between them is more than juz ordinary friends..
i am really at a lost..feeling so bitter...
what should i do? confront him? or wait further until my fren observe the situation for me?
there are oni 2 types of guys in the world..guys who have strayed and guys waiting to stray...in the case of ur bf, he has strayed and from the looks of it..he could be at it again...but if he is realli fooling behind ur back... leave him after all he had his 2nd chance..be fair to urself.. -
no matter what.. be strong ok?Originally posted by CuTiE~~:do scream at me if you think my decision on probing him today is wrong...
i have no more tact...i want nothing but the truth... -
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