BGR problems. . .
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What will you do if your gf/bf hang out with his/her friends until very late, say after 12am, almost everyday...
What will you do?
If you wanna find him/her when you are lonely, you always can't reach him/her(didn't ans your call, didn't reply your sms)... What will you do?
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Dump him/her.Originally posted by yi xun:What will you do if your gf/bf hang out with his/her friends until very late, say after 12am, almost everyday... What will you do?
If you wanna find him/her when you are lonely, you always can't reach him/her(didn't ans your call, didn't reply your sms)... What will you do? -
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let them be, u go find another one...too tired to be angry almost everyday..Originally posted by yi xun:What will you do if your gf/bf hang out with his/her friends until very late, say after 12am, almost everyday... What will you do?
If you wanna find him/her when you are lonely, you always can't reach him/her(didn't ans your call, didn't reply your sms)... What will you do?
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Are you sure he/she is still yr bf/gf? the person seems to be living a life of a single...
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*sigh*
i don't know what to do... don't wish to let go... can't bear to do it... but... -
i dont mind if she doesnt mind me doing likewise..
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i'm a person who dosen't stay out late... unless its holiday... but i will not stay out till past 11pm, unless i'm with my partner...Originally posted by www:i dont mind if she doesnt mind me doing likewise.. so i'm not sure about it... whether my partner will mind a not... -
everyone has a reason for doing something.Originally posted by yi xun:i'm a person who dosen't stay out late... unless its holiday... but i will not stay out till past 11pm, unless i'm with my partner... so i'm not sure about it... whether my partner will mind a not...
to behave like how you described in the first post is not exactly a norm between most boy-girlfriend.
let your partner explains. if satisfactory, take it. else, u know what to do. -
if its too much for u to handle this kind of person, let it go... no point holding on to some1 who upsets u everytime...Originally posted by yi xun:What will you do if your gf/bf hang out with his/her friends until very late, say after 12am, almost everyday... What will you do?
If you wanna find him/her when you are lonely, you always can't reach him/her(didn't ans your call, didn't reply your sms)... What will you do? -
Did u talk to him abt his actions or did u hint to him that ur misses him & u feel neglected? U shld tell him abt it. If he dun realise that he is not treating u like a gf. DUMP HIM!
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Wats the point being a bf gf then?Originally posted by yi xun:What will you do if your gf/bf hang out with his/her friends until very late, say after 12am, almost everyday... What will you do?
If you wanna find him/her when you are lonely, you always can't reach him/her(didn't ans your call, didn't reply your sms)... What will you do?
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sounds like my friends r/s problem...
One cheongster, one homely person.... -
does he try to spend time with you??
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Oh man, what a guy. One or twice stay out late its still okey, everyday is a big minus man. He is not there when you are lonely, another big minus. My suggestion is try to speak to him and tell him how you feel. If he is understanding and tries to change, enjoy your relationship. Or else, slap him and leave.
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no need to slap lah... just a kick in the balls will do..Originally posted by marzguy:Oh man, what a guy. One or twice stay out late its still okey, everyday is a big minus man. He is not there when you are lonely, another big minus. My suggestion is try to speak to him and tell him how you feel. If he is understanding and tries to change, enjoy your relationship. Or else, slap him and leave. 
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hmmm... i did talk to him... well, we had an argument... he said that it's just my feeling... he can't do anything to it... but then when i tell him how i felt, he didn't "shoot" me back... so i just told him that i don't ask much from him... i only want him to inform me of his whereabouts. That's all... simple as that... hope he gets what i meant...
(i didn't even complain about him going out everyday till very late then come home... cos i feel that he has his own freedom... hope he'll appreciate that... as i know, guys don't like gals to 'control' or nag about them too much) -
These are effect of unseen roots taking place - I seriously think that the real issue doesn't lie within these thingy - something else contributes to this reaction.Originally posted by yi xun:What will you do if your gf/bf hang out with his/her friends until very late, say after 12am, almost everyday... What will you do?
If you wanna find him/her when you are lonely, you always can't reach him/her(didn't ans your call, didn't reply your sms)... What will you do?
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This sounds exactly like what happened to a friend of mine too. Din know that it's actually so common. Anyway my friend eventually broke up with her but it was really hard on him.
My view on it would be that, you are in a lose-lose situation. any path you take, you're going to lose. My advice: find a friend with a good listening ear and a comfy shoulder and call it off with your bf. Coz it's obvious he doesn't care about you anymore. Dragging the situation on would just make it worse on yourself when the truth finally dawns on you. Good luck and take care. -
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Hi Yi Xun,
I think perhaps i used to be in yr shoes also. Anyway, i'm gonna share with you my story, one that had been a very painful lesson to me.
I ROM this lady on Nov 21st 2000 (my birthday). Though i was still a NSF that time. We dun mind having to go thru hard times as long as we are together. For her, i went AWOL (Absent Without Official Leave) to work P.T just to save up money for the wedding band. Yes, we got married eventually and i thought that well, i'm a family man afterall. Things didn't went out smoothly for me then. I found a job in a Fish Farm as assistant and has to work till wee hours everyday. I did not suspect anything at all as she will still call me everyday after work and even visits me at workplace. One fateful, i was with a friend and try calling her, but she never answered my calls. Thinking that she might be in trouble or anything, i tried calling her home too but just can't get her. Later that night, she told me that she wants a seperation, i was devasted! I couldn't believe my ears. I kept asking myself wat have i done wrong. Afterwhich, i got to know from her that she has been dating this guy for a few months. This guy even fetches her to work every morning. I went to look for her that night, she wouldn't answer the door. I peeped thru the woman and saw her talking on the phone with that guy.. it really hurts. Her parents came out and gave me a trashing... saying i'm useless and will not be able to feed their daughter. I left her wedding gown and photos at the doorsteps, went to the lift and bang my head onto it.. i could not endure the pain anymore. I was admitted to hospital with actue stress. For 7 months, i couldn't bring myself back together. I just keep myself in the room and rot.
There's too much to continue but i just wish to tell u something.
U have to learn to let go when u can.. coz life isn't about all these. Just treat him as a passer-by in yr life who taught u a lesson to be a better person. It's always easier to say than do, but if i have let go.. i think u can do it. Dun keep yrself in a box.. learn to look out of it and u will live happily. Good luck to you and best wishes to you. -
u are brave enough indeed ..... to face this ...Originally posted by Daiki:Hi Yi Xun,
I think perhaps i used to be in yr shoes also. Anyway, i'm gonna share with you my story, one that had been a very painful lesson to me.
I ROM this lady on Nov 21st 2000 (my birthday). Though i was still a NSF that time. We dun mind having to go thru hard times as long as we are together. For her, i went AWOL (Absent Without Official Leave) to work P.T just to save up money for the wedding band. Yes, we got married eventually and i thought that well, i'm a family man afterall. Things didn't went out smoothly for me then. I found a job in a Fish Farm as assistant and has to work till wee hours everyday. I did not suspect anything at all as she will still call me everyday after work and even visits me at workplace. One fateful, i was with a friend and try calling her, but she never answered my calls. Thinking that she might be in trouble or anything, i tried calling her home too but just can't get her. Later that night, she told me that she wants a seperation, i was devasted! I couldn't believe my ears. I kept asking myself wat have i done wrong. Afterwhich, i got to know from her that she has been dating this guy for a few months. This guy even fetches her to work every morning. I went to look for her that night, she wouldn't answer the door. I peeped thru the woman and saw her talking on the phone with that guy.. it really hurts. Her parents came out and gave me a trashing... saying i'm useless and will not be able to feed their daughter. I left her wedding gown and photos at the doorsteps, went to the lift and bang my head onto it.. i could not endure the pain anymore. I was admitted to hospital with actue stress. For 7 months, i couldn't bring myself back together. I just keep myself in the room and rot.
There's too much to continue but i just wish to tell u something.
U have to learn to let go when u can.. coz life isn't about all these. Just treat him as a passer-by in yr life who taught u a lesson to be a better person. It's always easier to say than do, but if i have let go.. i think u can do it. Dun keep yrself in a box.. learn to look out of it and u will live happily. Good luck to you and best wishes to you.
Guys try so hard to get wad the girl wants but the effort seemed to be going down to the drain ..
Who say there's no good guys in the world ?
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Originally posted by Daiki:Hi Yi Xun,
I think perhaps i used to be in yr shoes also. Anyway, i'm gonna share with you my story, one that had been a very painful lesson to me.
I ROM this lady on Nov 21st 2000 (my birthday). Though i was still a NSF that time. We dun mind having to go thru hard times as long as we are together. For her, i went AWOL (Absent Without Official Leave) to work P.T just to save up money for the wedding band. Yes, we got married eventually and i thought that well, i'm a family man afterall. Things didn't went out smoothly for me then. I found a job in a Fish Farm as assistant and has to work till wee hours everyday. I did not suspect anything at all as she will still call me everyday after work and even visits me at workplace. One fateful, i was with a friend and try calling her, but she never answered my calls. Thinking that she might be in trouble or anything, i tried calling her home too but just can't get her. Later that night, she told me that she wants a seperation, i was devasted! I couldn't believe my ears. I kept asking myself wat have i done wrong. Afterwhich, i got to know from her that she has been dating this guy for a few months. This guy even fetches her to work every morning. I went to look for her that night, she wouldn't answer the door. I peeped thru the woman and saw her talking on the phone with that guy.. it really hurts. Her parents came out and gave me a trashing... saying i'm useless and will not be able to feed their daughter. I left her wedding gown and photos at the doorsteps, went to the lift and bang my head onto it.. i could not endure the pain anymore. I was admitted to hospital with actue stress. For 7 months, i couldn't bring myself back together. I just keep myself in the room and rot.
There's too much to continue but i just wish to tell u something.
U have to learn to let go when u can.. coz life isn't about all these. Just treat him as a passer-by in yr life who taught u a lesson to be a better person. It's always easier to say than do, but if i have let go.. i think u can do it. Dun keep yrself in a box.. learn to look out of it and u will live happily. Good luck to you and best wishes to you.
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Originally posted by m@Rki:no need to slap lah... just a kick in the balls will do.. nice move dude
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Originally posted by Daiki:Hi Yi Xun,
I think perhaps i used to be in yr shoes also. Anyway, i'm gonna share with you my story, one that had been a very painful lesson to me.
I ROM this lady on Nov 21st 2000 (my birthday). Though i was still a NSF that time. We dun mind having to go thru hard times as long as we are together. For her, i went AWOL (Absent Without Official Leave) to work P.T just to save up money for the wedding band. Yes, we got married eventually and i thought that well, i'm a family man afterall. Things didn't went out smoothly for me then. I found a job in a Fish Farm as assistant and has to work till wee hours everyday. I did not suspect anything at all as she will still call me everyday after work and even visits me at workplace. One fateful, i was with a friend and try calling her, but she never answered my calls. Thinking that she might be in trouble or anything, i tried calling her home too but just can't get her. Later that night, she told me that she wants a seperation, i was devasted! I couldn't believe my ears. I kept asking myself wat have i done wrong. Afterwhich, i got to know from her that she has been dating this guy for a few months. This guy even fetches her to work every morning. I went to look for her that night, she wouldn't answer the door. I peeped thru the woman and saw her talking on the phone with that guy.. it really hurts. Her parents came out and gave me a trashing... saying i'm useless and will not be able to feed their daughter. I left her wedding gown and photos at the doorsteps, went to the lift and bang my head onto it.. i could not endure the pain anymore. I was admitted to hospital with actue stress. For 7 months, i couldn't bring myself back together. I just keep myself in the room and rot.
There's too much to continue but i just wish to tell u something.
U have to learn to let go when u can.. coz life isn't about all these. Just treat him as a passer-by in yr life who taught u a lesson to be a better person. It's always easier to say than do, but if i have let go.. i think u can do it. Dun keep yrself in a box.. learn to look out of it and u will live happily. Good luck to you and best wishes to you.
Oh man, you are brave indeed dude. She is one girl that is hard to satisfy. But fear not, there are always better ones for you out there. The best to you man. 