i like her...she likes me not....
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hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do??
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u already has an answer ur own dilemma.Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do?? -
u already had an answer for ur own dilemma.Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do?? -
hmmm since you already made known yr feelings to her, then you should know the possible outcomes.... either she accepts or rejects....
sometimes there is just no sparks btw 2 people so a relationship just can't happen.... or maybe she's not ready to be in a relationship at tt moment. 
However as you said she's having her exams rite now so don't think it's a good time for you to ask her coz she might be quite stressed up.... instead just continue to be good friends wif her and see how it goes! In the meantime don't be so sad, there are a lot of others girls out there so open up to them as well!! Good Luck! and God Bless! 
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Since you already got your answer, no point asking agian...
If you kept asking, she might find you a pian in the arse... so better remain as friends, let her get to know you better and let the feelings develop before asking again. -
I dun think u shld ask agian. Conc on ur exams bah. Ask le also wont make any difference. And u might scare her away and even not be frens anymore. so jia you for ur studies.Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do?? -
If you can't get her as a girlfriend, then accept the next best thing - a good friend. Surely you don't want to turn her off with your 'already-made-known' advances?Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do??
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rejected alreadi just be frens...but still care for her as before..cannot be petty..Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do?? -
hmmz guess all of u suggest that i shldnt say it out.... i also know that i shldn't....maybe not at this time.... hmmz but then i like ...how to say... dont feel gd abt this....of coz i still wanna b at friends with her.... but then.... it is like so close yet so far~ that feeling is not a gd feeling.... haiz....
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Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do??
for the time being, just give her a break and recoup your strategy. if she does badly for her exams, she might blame you. its unlikely for anyone to intercept you during this crucial period. -
U stil dun get it? DUN ASK her anymore!!!! Get tt question out of ur mind!!!! SHe aready told u she dun like u le!! Dun u get it? If u dun like the feeling of so near yet so far, then go away lor!Originally posted by pringles99:hmmz guess all of u suggest that i shldnt say it out.... i also know that i shldn't....maybe not at this time.... hmmz but then i like ...how to say... dont feel gd abt this....of coz i still wanna b at friends with her.... but then.... it is like so close yet so far~ that feeling is not a gd feeling.... haiz.... -
but then feelings can b developed over time rite?? there r a lot of such cases where people got together coz they got gan jue for each others.....though may wat b strong but at least the mindset must b there mah...in the sense though dont like him/her a lot at first..but feelings sure will develop over time???
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hmm...guess that we are in the same situation...i've actually resigned myself to just being friends with the gal...but it hurts most when she is very sweet towards you...but deep down...u know tt both of u can only be friends...haiz...life sucks...but it still goes on...cheer up lah...Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do?? -
Shuan Le Bah...........
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gan qing shi bu ke yi mian qiang de....
mian qiang shi mei you xing fu de....
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hmmz i know i shldn't b doing this now but then i always hear people say that u shld always try yr best in whatever things u do... i sorta of remember this phrase... "Don't give up when u still have smthing to give...nothing is really over until the moment u stop trying... i know that is a bit yi yi gu xxing.... but then.... i still wanna try??
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ah boy dont waste your time, you have many things ahead for you
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Technically, you have already failed since she rejected your outrageously.Originally posted by pringles99:hmmz i know i shldn't b doing this now but then i always hear people say that u shld always try yr best in whatever things u do... i sorta of remember this phrase... "Don't give up when u still have smthing to give...nothing is really over until the moment u stop trying... i know that is a bit yi yi gu xxing.... but then.... i still wanna try??
Well, you could say that as long as she is not married, you still stand a chance. But reality sinks in - do you really stand a chance?
She has drawn the line and told you (I hope politely), that it's impossible between the both of you. You blew that line; you risk the friendship between you and her forever.
You are doing selectively preception: Clearly nobody is supporting you with post to go after her and they have good reasons to do so. Your self denial will eventually ruin the friendship between her if you were to persist in that thought. You can try, no doubt because this is your life and the way you govern is not of my concern - however the possible price you pay, if you can't take it - then don't attempt.
P.S: Are you a Pisces or a Libra?
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
hahah I am also guilty of selective perception..chosing to believe what I want to believe...but have to wake up liao...else you will be getting on the other party's nerves without you realising...thus making the whole frenship so akward...
Technically, you have already failed since she rejected your outrageously. Well, you could say that as long as she is not married, you still stand a chance. But reality sinks in - [b]do you really stand a chance?
She has drawn the line and told you (I hope politely), that it's impossible between the both of you. You blew that line; you risk the friendship between you and her forever.
You are doing selectively preception: Clearly nobody is supporting you with post to go after her and they have good reasons to do so. Your self denial will eventually ruin the friendship between her if you were to persist in that thought. You can try, no doubt because this is your life and the way you govern is not of my concern - however the possible price you pay, if you can't take it - then don't attempt.
P.S: Are you a Pisces or a Libra?
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hmmz but i let it like that...isnt it sort of avioding the problem?? that is y i was wondering r there any ways o go abt it? confessing my feelings n yet doesnt spoil the friendship... maybe to others i am like courting my own death...but well i juz following my heart here? but maybe i have to let things be.... hmmzz....
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What do you wish to achieve by confessing your feelings for her?Originally posted by pringles99:hmmz but i let it like that...isnt it sort of avioding the problem?? that is y i was wondering r there any ways o go abt it? confessing my feelings n yet doesnt spoil the friendship... maybe to others i am like courting my own death...but well i juz following my heart here? but maybe i have to let things be.... hmmzz....
Do you wish to achieve anything at all...?
How old are you by the way...?
It's TIME to WAKE UP.... No doubt what you've said about feelings developing for someone you don't love at all is possible... But your PERSISTENT ADVANCEMENT probably won't make her feel appreciative but more like IRRITATING... Though there're also instances where girls would like a guy to be more persistent in their actions but that is probably a different case from yours... If she's really gonna love you in the future, you probably won't be missing out on that... INSTEAD, making any harsh moves now would only further destroy your 'future cahnce' with her... IF there is gonna be ANY...
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Standard girls' attitude: Once rejected.... 90% of the time would stick to it. Hence no matter how much a guy likes the girl, the guy will not stand a chance once the girl outrightly rejects.Originally posted by pringles99:hi everyone... newbie here has a bit of problem... the thing is that i like a gal recently? but then i was rejected by her already...but the feelings are still in my heart... smtimes i juz feel so sad that we r juz friends...i know that some things r not meant to mian qiang but then... i really hope that things will turn out rite... then now is the exam period le... i was thinking whether shld i ask her again?? but then i am scared that she might b affected by this... what shld i do??
Don't count on to 10% for her to change her heart. It's tougher than a sex change. So, just change target and move on! Period! -
u said that she has made the choice...so if u really likes her...shldn't u respect her decision?
to like a person is tough...to wonder if the person likes u anot is is not easy either...
but 4 ur case, u already got the ans...and now the choice is up to u...u can either
1) hang on to it, make ur life miserable..
2) get over it! its tough (nobody says tt will b easy) but hey...the pain of letting go wld not last as long as if u chose to keep holding on to it..
the choice is urs...
as usual...my 2 cents worth of advice v -
Originally posted by Devil 1976:
What do you wish to achieve by confessing your feelings for her?
Do you wish to achieve anything at all...?
How old are you by the way...?
It's TIME to WAKE UP.... No doubt what you've said about feelings developing for someone you don't love at all is possible... But your PERSISTENT ADVANCEMENT probably won't make her feel appreciative but more like IRRITATING... Though there're also instances where girls would like a guy to be more persistent in their actions but that is probably a different case from yours... If she's really gonna love you in the future, you probably won't be missing out on that... INSTEAD, making any harsh moves now would only further destroy your 'future cahnce' with her... IF there is gonna be ANY...
WAKE UP...
actually i am tired of the whole thing also...but i know that if i dont do anything abt it...i am afraid my inner self will like ask me to give up... smthing like si xin...that is y i am still trying to struggle now... -
[quote]u said that she has made the choice...so if u really likes her...shldn't u respect her decision?
to like a person is tough...to wonder if the person likes u anot is is not easy either...
but 4 ur case, u already got the ans...and now the choice is up to u...u can either
1) hang on to it, make ur life miserable..
2) get over it! its tough (nobody says tt will b easy) but hey...the pain of letting go wld not last as long as if u chose to keep holding on to it..
the choice is urs...
as usual...my 2 cents worth of advice v[/quote]
i respect her decision... like i said in my previous post i am bit tired of the whole thing le...perhaps i should really let go now... for now....
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