Me and my mom.
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It all started when i have a galfren. I'm the only child in the family and my dad pass away when i was only 11. Everything was fine, my relationship with my mom is ok, we chatted sometimes, go out sometimes(like most family). But recently, everything started to change.
I start to find only disappointment in my mom. Normally, parents should be rather excited over her child for bringing a galfren hoe right? But not in my case. First time i bring my galfren home, my mom dun even tok to her.. ok she did smile tt's all. After that i ask her why she act so cold towards her, den she replied "Aiyaaa.. i dun like her la!".. Nevermind.. perhaps she is not used to her. Bring her home again, my mom told mi this "Dun always bring her home can anot?? Everytime bring OUTSIDER home for what?"
I am fumed ok,
WHO THE HELL is the outsider?? I'm your only son yet you are so pissed off when i bring a gf home?? Dont even give mi some face?? You told me to go home early everyday, fine, i bring my gf home so that wun go out so late, yet u still kao pei??
Today was worst.. our new house is coming, so i ask her when is the house gonna be ready. Guess what she says? "The house come den come loh, will inform u when it arrives!" Quite stunned when she say this. HEY, I'M YOUR ONLY SON AND YOUR ARE SAYING THIS LIKE I M OF NO BUSINESS TO THIS??
ok, kinda pissed with her, so i ask her "hey, i'm your son, shouldnt i have the right and the knowledge to know when it is arriving? Have to prepare for the decoration and furniture right?" "You dun need to do anything, dun be kaypo"she replied. Just this sentence... this line.. its enough to hurt my heart so deeply. How she treat mi as? A outsider? I'm so disappointed. I dont even have the right to touch the new house?I told her that. I dont even bother to let her react and i slam my door behind.
I tried to talk to her and ask her why she react like this. She says "Sons ar, getting bigger even more defiant, regret having you.". Again and again, she said those words that hurt mi so deeply. I know she is lowly educated, but i'm her only son you know, i'm her only kin.. New house dont have my name, ok fine, i dun mind, disrespect my idea, fine i pass it. Now, even talk bad about my galfren(My galfren is not ahlian or whatever, she is realli a sweet and understanding lady, even my fren says she is very nice).
Anyone out there.. can help mi.. i am so disappointed.. can tell mi what should i do..? -
Originally posted by SoonKeong:
first of all, i can consider lucky than u
It all started when i have a galfren. I'm the only child in the family and my dad pass away when i was only 11. Everything was fine, my relationship with my mom is ok, we chatted sometimes, go out sometimes(like most family). But recently, everything started to change.
I start to find only disappointment in my mom. Normally, parents should be rather excited over her child for bringing a galfren hoe right? But not in my case. First time i bring my galfren home, my mom dun even tok to her.. ok she did smile tt's all. After that i ask her why she act so cold towards her, den she replied "Aiyaaa.. i dun like her la!".. Nevermind.. perhaps she is not used to her. Bring her home again, my mom told mi this "Dun always bring her home can anot?? Everytime bring OUTSIDER home for what?"
I am fumed ok, [b]WHO THE HELL is the outsider?? I'm your only son yet you are so pissed off when i bring a gf home?? Dont even give mi some face?? You told me to go home early everyday, fine, i bring my gf home so that wun go out so late, yet u still kao pei??
Today was worst.. our new house is coming, so i ask her when is the house gonna be ready. Guess what she says? "The house come den come loh, will inform u when it arrives!" Quite stunned when she say this. HEY, I'M YOUR ONLY SON AND YOUR ARE SAYING THIS LIKE I M OF NO BUSINESS TO THIS??
ok, kinda pissed with her, so i ask her "hey, i'm your son, shouldnt i have the right and the knowledge to know when it is arriving? Have to prepare for the decoration and furniture right?" "You dun need to do anything, dun be kaypo"she replied. Just this sentence... this line.. its enough to hurt my heart so deeply. How she treat mi as? A outsider? I'm so disappointed. I dont even have the right to touch the new house?I told her that. I dont even bother to let her react and i slam my door behind.
I tried to talk to her and ask her why she react like this. She says "Sons ar, getting bigger even more defiant, regret having you.". Again and again, she said those words that hurt mi so deeply. I know she is lowly educated, but i'm her only son you know, i'm her only kin.. New house dont have my name, ok fine, i dun mind, disrespect my idea, fine i pass it. Now, even talk bad about my galfren(My galfren is not ahlian or whatever, she is realli a sweet and understanding lady, even my fren says she is very nice).
Anyone out there.. can help mi.. i am so disappointed.. can tell mi what should i do..?[/b]
when i bring my gf home for my mum to see, she will talk to them
she will try to know more about them and background
and all my ex had passed her stage
but in the end, all relationship didnt work out as planed
ok, back to your problem
maybe your mum is having some problem of her own, and dont wish to make u also suffer with her. mum always wanted their child to be stress free and enjoy
so they dont wish to share their problems with their child, they rather bear with it on their own
as no one is able to change their thinking loh
so u should know why she feel that way
as for your gf, maybe she really dont think she is suitable for u.
maybe she is right or maybe she is wrong, as relationship is the choice that the two of u make that will determine the duration of it.
u are still young, u wont be able to understand how your mum feel now loh
i also being scolded or give bad remarks by my parents
saying i usless
dont study well(as my bro is good at that not me)
i also like that
just dont think to much lah pal
relax abit
dont ger flare up so easily
i know its hard to take it, but still have to do so loh
after all she is till your mum -
why do i have this feeling that she is having difficulty "letting go" of you?
so she's reacting negatively to everything with you...
she sees your girl as a threat that can "take you away from her"..
and she may not even consciously know that she's doing that...
or sometimes, parents think children must unconditionally listen and do whatever they say.. this is wrong too.. children should be allowed to live their own lives..
i have no solution for you... just empathy.. i've gone thru something of the same thing.. it's sad..
it's still a cold war that keeps going on.. but i think with perseverance, i'll "win"... although both sides lose...
good luck man.. good luck
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Originally posted by SoonKeong:
I think mayb ur mum hasnt gotten over ur dad passing away. She may be afraid tt u spend too much time on ur gf and neglect her. i would think shes lonely and under alot of stress to handle things by herself.
It all started when i have a galfren. I'm the only child in the family and my dad pass away when i was only 11. Everything was fine, my relationship with my mom is ok, we chatted sometimes, go out sometimes(like most family). But recently, everything started to change.
I start to find only disappointment in my mom. Normally, parents should be rather excited over her child for bringing a galfren hoe right? But not in my case. First time i bring my galfren home, my mom dun even tok to her.. ok she did smile tt's all. After that i ask her why she act so cold towards her, den she replied "Aiyaaa.. i dun like her la!".. Nevermind.. perhaps she is not used to her. Bring her home again, my mom told mi this "Dun always bring her home can anot?? Everytime bring OUTSIDER home for what?"
I am fumed ok, [b]WHO THE HELL is the outsider?? I'm your only son yet you are so pissed off when i bring a gf home?? Dont even give mi some face?? You told me to go home early everyday, fine, i bring my gf home so that wun go out so late, yet u still kao pei??
Today was worst.. our new house is coming, so i ask her when is the house gonna be ready. Guess what she says? "The house come den come loh, will inform u when it arrives!" Quite stunned when she say this. HEY, I'M YOUR ONLY SON AND YOUR ARE SAYING THIS LIKE I M OF NO BUSINESS TO THIS??
ok, kinda pissed with her, so i ask her "hey, i'm your son, shouldnt i have the right and the knowledge to know when it is arriving? Have to prepare for the decoration and furniture right?" "You dun need to do anything, dun be kaypo"she replied. Just this sentence... this line.. its enough to hurt my heart so deeply. How she treat mi as? A outsider? I'm so disappointed. I dont even have the right to touch the new house?I told her that. I dont even bother to let her react and i slam my door behind.
I tried to talk to her and ask her why she react like this. She says "Sons ar, getting bigger even more defiant, regret having you.". Again and again, she said those words that hurt mi so deeply. I know she is lowly educated, but i'm her only son you know, i'm her only kin.. New house dont have my name, ok fine, i dun mind, disrespect my idea, fine i pass it. Now, even talk bad about my galfren(My galfren is not ahlian or whatever, she is realli a sweet and understanding lady, even my fren says she is very nice).
Anyone out there.. can help mi.. i am so disappointed.. can tell mi what should i do..?[/b]
She might not wan to tell u as she dun wan u to worry.=) One thing u got to get clear, sometimes we children cant interfere in parents matters. Though we may want to help, but we haf to noe tt at times its best to leave things to them. We just be there for them can l. dun worri, she will tell u when she wants to. =) And dun haf to worry, i think she likes ur gf lah, she just mayb dun wan to accept her for now. She lost her hubby rem? Its like someone getting hurt in a rls... and its more than tt... =) cheer up eh?
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To kind doghouse837 and shaunlaw:
I know perhaps she is having some difficulties or problems, but she dun sit down and talk to mi about this, i also cannot help right? Besides, i'm her only son, who else can she talk to? I also hope i can sit down calmly to talk to her, but seems like everytime we end up quarrelling and if not she go away.
Ok, lets put it that "She is not suitable for mi". Have she tried talking nicely to her be4? Have she tried communicate to her be4? If no, who the hell can she conclude that she is not suitable for mi?
Ok, my galfren is 2 years older then mi. When i first break the news to her, she wasnt like that. She was smiling, she did give some sacastic comment like, "wah how come so old?" "you realli sure anot??" Being a mom, isnt it logically she should allow some freedom and respect to her child? Anyway i'm 18 this year, not as young as you all think..
I agree that i will have less time to spend with her, but lets put it this way. Last time, i work part time during holiday. I spend almost the whole day outside. She didnt complain even a bit. Now that i have a gf, which eventually i had alittle more time at home which means i had more time for her, she is blaming my gf for the nelgection?
To the bear:
I also got that feeling that she can't "let go" of mi... but one day i also have to be independent and have a family what, i cant stay like her baby forever. i shall treat this as a selfish act, i rather hope she is being stubborn and not selfish. Becoz i will be disappointed more.
*alot of spelling errors.. i change it anyway..
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Originally posted by SoonKeong:
pal
To kind doghouse837 and shaunlaw:
I know perhaps she is having some difficulties or problems, but she dun sit down and talk to mi about this, i also cannot help right? Besides, i'm her only son, who else can she talk to? I also hope i can sit down calmly to talk to her, but seems like everytime we end up quarrelling and if not she go away.
Ok, lets put it that "She is not suitable for mi". Have she tried talking nicely to her be4? Have she tried communicate to her be4? If no, who the hell can she conclude that she is not suitable for mi?
Ok, my galfren is 2 years older then mi. When i first break the news to her, she wasnt like that. She was smiling, she did give some sacastic comment like, "wah how come so old?" "you realli sure anot??" Being a mom, isnt it logically she should allow some freedom and respect to her child? Anyway i'm [b]18 this year, not as young as you all think..
I agree that i will have less time to spend with her, but lets put it this way. Last time, i work part time during holiday. I spend almost the whole day outside. She didnt complain even a bit. Now that i have a gf, which eventually i had alittle more time at home which means i had more time for her, she is blaming my gf for the nelgection?
To the bear:
I also got that feeling that she can't "let go" of mi... but one day i also have to be independent and have a family what, i cant stay like her baby forever. i shall treat this as a selfish act, i rather hope she is being stubborn and not selfish. Becoz i will be disappointed more.
*alot of spelling errors.. i change it anyway.. [/b]
i am 21 this year
and had just celebrate that
my mum still treats me as a kid like a 8 year old
afaid i sick lah, and i go outside to get into trouble lah
all sort of stuff she can think of loh
i told her i grown up liao, and i consider a adult liao
dont control me so much
but in her eyes, i always a kid loh
i guess your mum also have the same think as my mum,
as i resepect her care for me, but i also wish to have my own freedom, and that is where u and i is facing
mum's care crashing with own freedom of choosing
as i also had older ex before, my mum had also given me negative comment on that loh,(cant really remember what she say last time, me very forgetful one), but mum say its my own life, i made the choice and had to face whatever is going to happen next.
i think u should tell your mum that, u are not going to regrate of choosing her as your gf or maybe your future wife
and u are willing to face all responsiblity and challege all problems that might happen loh.
i guess after u tell her nicely , she will let u two be together
as for her problem, maybe she really thinks u are stil too young to understand or help loh
adults always thought younger ppl are kids loh
cant help much
so your mum might think that too loh
your mum cares for u, but maybe in a different way,
maybe u will understand when u get married in later part of life
u will understand more how she feel now.
as i also quite young, this all (rubbish if u think so) is i can offer to u
always put yourself in other ppl shoe -
Originally posted by SoonKeong:
It all started when i have a galfren. I'm the only child in the family and my dad pass away when i was only 11. Everything was fine, my relationship with my mom is ok, we chatted sometimes, go out sometimes(like most family). But recently, everything started to change.
I start to find only disappointment in my mom. Normally, parents should be rather excited over her child for bringing a galfren hoe right? But not in my case. First time i bring my galfren home, my mom dun even tok to her.. ok she did smile tt's all. After that i ask her why she act so cold towards her, den she replied "Aiyaaa.. i dun like her la!".. Nevermind.. perhaps she is not used to her. Bring her home again, my mom told mi this "Dun always bring her home can anot?? Everytime bring OUTSIDER home for what?"
I am fumed ok, [b]WHO THE HELL is the outsider?? I'm your only son yet you are so pissed off when i bring a gf home?? Dont even give mi some face?? You told me to go home early everyday, fine, i bring my gf home so that wun go out so late, yet u still kao pei??
Today was worst.. our new house is coming, so i ask her when is the house gonna be ready. Guess what she says? "The house come den come loh, will inform u when it arrives!" Quite stunned when she say this. HEY, I'M YOUR ONLY SON AND YOUR ARE SAYING THIS LIKE I M OF NO BUSINESS TO THIS??
ok, kinda pissed with her, so i ask her "hey, i'm your son, shouldnt i have the right and the knowledge to know when it is arriving? Have to prepare for the decoration and furniture right?" "You dun need to do anything, dun be kaypo"she replied. Just this sentence... this line.. its enough to hurt my heart so deeply. How she treat mi as? A outsider? I'm so disappointed. I dont even have the right to touch the new house?I told her that. I dont even bother to let her react and i slam my door behind.
I tried to talk to her and ask her why she react like this. She says "Sons ar, getting bigger even more defiant, regret having you.". Again and again, she said those words that hurt mi so deeply. I know she is lowly educated, but i'm her only son you know, i'm her only kin.. New house dont have my name, ok fine, i dun mind, disrespect my idea, fine i pass it. Now, even talk bad about my galfren(My galfren is not ahlian or whatever, she is realli a sweet and understanding lady, even my fren says she is very nice).
Anyone out there.. can help mi.. i am so disappointed.. can tell mi what should i do..?[/b] Your mum a Taurus? -
Hmm, close to the date of Taurus
But she is a Aries. What about it? -
hey buddy, a word of advise. I believe it goes out the same for everyone out there who has a mum.
I have all my respects to Mums coz they have suffer so much to bring you into this world. The next time when YOU are celebrating yr birthday outside with yr friends, do take just a few moments to understand this, YOU are now celebrating the date your Mum has went thru, the greatest pain in delivery you out of this world. 10 mths of burdens and a few hours of extreme pain is not an easy task for a woman. Whatever your Mum has done or behaves, you have to take steps to note the problems. Take it as a challenge for you and yr GF. Sit down and discuss with her what might be the problem. Also, understand how she feels from the way yr mum treats her. We, man, are the most pitiful creatures on earth if we are ever stuck between 2 women, Mum and Wife... get it clear. Life sucks BIG TIME!!! : -
Your mum is also protecting you from getting hurt. Although her way of doing is way out of hand and too over protective.
As your dad has passed away and you are the only one she has in her life, she loves you and you should be lucky. As regards to you bringing your gf home, have you discuss with her before you bring her home to show your mother?
If you want your mum to respect you, you have to respect her by discussing with her on what you want, example, bringing your gf home. Maybe she can't let you go although as you grow up, she has to let you go but maybe she's dealing with your dad's death. Although it's been a long time but her feelings for your dad, you can never understand.
Try to talk to her calmly and tell her what you want and let her know that no matter what happens, you will always be there for her. -
There is a chinese saying...
"Shou Xin Shi Rou, Shou Bei Ye Shi Rou."
It is hard not to take sides.
However you are to your mom, the one and only product of her marriage life and the only offspring, you should try to be more understanding.
Mothers are always concern for their child no matter what age they are in asian society. Your relationship with your mother is quite common in these days.
Talk more to her, give in a bit, then try reasoning. Good luck! -
my mum olso like yours but luckily i have no galfren...so no 1 to bring home. she also treats me like a kid....come back late olso need to call back to inform
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Yap i agreed too. As ur her only son, she might be upset that ur getting older day by day, therefore leaving her soon. At the first place u shldn't confront ur mom abt her attitude towards ur gf, this will only make her think u take ur gf more importantly then her. Thus making her very disappointed & heartache. As ur mom i guess she has a little right to show her displease or disapprove of any particular girl u bring home.Originally posted by the Bear:why do i have this feeling that she is having difficulty "letting go" of you?
so she's reacting negatively to everything with you...
she sees your girl as a threat that can "take you away from her"..
and she may not even consciously know that she's doing that...
or sometimes, parents think children must unconditionally listen and do whatever they say.. this is wrong too.. children should be allowed to live their own lives..
i have no solution for you... just empathy.. i've gone thru something of the same thing.. it's sad..
it's still a cold war that keeps going on.. but i think with perseverance, i'll "win"... although both sides lose...
good luck man.. good luck
Spare a thought for her. When she get old she can only depend on u to be there for her( ur father is no longer ard). She is ur mom that brought u up in a single parent family all these years. Being rude to her cos of ur gf is the last thing u shld to do her.
Think again ur mom that brought u up all these years or a gf u know for years? -
From my point of view, the ONLY reason why she react in such a big way when you bring your gerfriend home is that SHE IS SO USED TO BE WITH YOU AS YOU ARE THE ONLY CHILD, AND THAT SHE SCARE THAT WITH A GIRLFRIEND, SHE MIGHT START TO 'LOSE' YOU.
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SoonKeong, how old are you anyway?
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he's 18. my classmate.
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I'm 28, married and staying alone (coz hubby overseas for 1.5 years) and my mom still cares alot about me. She would call me EVERYDAY at least TWICE to ask if I've taken my meals or do my work or whatever.
The good thing is I've trained her well over the years to respect my choices and privacy. When I was younger, I used to create big hoohas if she didn't treat me like an adult. It was tough for both of us but she learnt to do things MY WAY for my matters!
In essence, you must make it known to your mom what you are thinking and what you dislike! Don't just assume she should know or she will know. Communicate with her well. Tell her straight in the face if there are things you don't like or things which you think should be done otherwise. It might be a shock to her but if you reason it well, she will accept it!.
No fight no gain! -
As long as he is not 21, the mother has the right to control him.
Sometime mother knows best what is right for her son.
Maybe she does not want her son to settle so soon without establish his career yet.Originally posted by blue_kelvinsg:he's 18. my classmate. -
To Daiki:
I understand what you mean. I DO respect my mom. She is my onli kin now in this world. Say if i dont care about this, i wouldn't even have this emotion, wun have post this problem in the forum right? It's not like.. 1 time.. nor its 2 time.. it's hell lot of time i have been tolerant.
Actually those who is close to me, like my relatives. They all know about my mom's attitude. She is one stubborn woman. Imagine your own mom saying my father's side uncles "wu lai" and aunties as "those who onli like to eat people's money".. how will u feel? She always have the concept that my father's side relative is out to "eat us up". Seriously we dun have any valuable thing to steal loh. And, my father's side is always the one taking care of mi, being more understanding den my mom's side. My uncle have always tried talking to her, saying logical stuff, explaining that they are concern about us. Instead of being gratitude, she treat them as "hypocrite". I tried to defend my mom, says because her education level is not high, so cant blame her. But even sometimes, i myself also cannot tahan her ignorance.
To BLIM and bjork:
I told her about my galfren before i bring her home. She was the one that wants mi to bring her home. When my galfren came, its quite cool. But i realli dunnoe wad happen to her when my galfren goes home? I remember once, my mom says this "Dont always bring a stranger home hor.. hen jian(despicable) ni dong bu dong?" Once again, she is setting my galfren as an outcast where my galfren did absolutely zero things to agitate my mom.
If i have the chance to talk to her, i already did. Like i said earlier, we either will end up quarrelling or she will simply walk away. These days i have been very tolerant. I already minimise my anger, tell myself not to quarrel with her anymore. I talk to her nicely yet she says i very noisy.
Talk about greiving over my decease dad, i hav to add there is this "uncle" who often come to our house. I know they are obviously having an unusual relationship. Base on my knowledge and the things i caught them doing. I tried to act blur, i try to cover up. I told nth to my relatives because i dont wanna invite gossips. She bring someone home, fine.. so be it. I bring galfren home, she bu shuang?
To Homebody:
I will try again. I know everyone is inperfect.. I also wish i could settle this once and for all. But things just dun go my way.. what to do?
To 798:
Thanks for pointing out. She did mention that i didnt have a career yet and still going out to find a galfren. I mean, please loh, what generation is it now? Wait until got career then find galfren? When until rich den find galfren? 10 years later? 20 years later? Oh god, i cant wait that long.
And i already found her.. realli realli love her.. cant lose her now... Anyway i think my galfren is the source of motivation that makes mi work hard now... serious. -
I still feel she worry and concern about you. Who know what may happen to you and your gf. Anyway have you served NS yet? Do your gf has stepped into working life?
Your own fate will be depend upon your decision. Remember your only kin is still your mum. A gf will left in turn of trouble but a mother will never disown her child.Originally posted by SoonKeong:To 798:
Thanks for pointing out. She did mention that i didnt have a career yet and still going out to find a galfren. I mean, please loh, what generation is it now? Wait until got career then find galfren? When until rich den find galfren? 10 years later? 20 years later? Oh god, i cant wait that long.
And i already found her.. realli realli love her.. cant lose her now... Anyway i think my galfren is the source of motivation that makes mi work hard now... serious. -
Thanks...Originally posted by 798:I still feel she worry and concern about you. Who know what may happen to you and your gf. Anyway have you served NS yet? Do your gf has stepped into working life?
Your own fate will be depend upon your decision. Remember your only kin is still your mum. A gf will left in turn of trouble but a mother will never disown her child.
Nope, i still have 2 years to go before i serve NS. Galfren also currently studying. If gf will left when trouble arise, i wun even hav chose her. Time will prove our relationship
Sometimes, i think it's better to trust galfren then to trust my mom..? At least my galfren give mi sensible answer and not just some insults and craps... haiz
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i hear you saying repeatedly that you are the only son. You are very hurt by your mother's behaviour. I too, am of the opinion that your mother feels threatened that she might be losing her only son to another woman. And perhaps the reason she behaved badly despite agreeing to have your GF come visit is because your GF is really good! the better your GF, the higher the chances of losing you. And perhaps why she didn't want your name in the new flat is becaues security is a very important thing to her. Especially when she lost her husband, the main breadwinner years ago. As much as she might yearn for a companion (like you), she cannot bear to let you go. I know that you are feeling very angry, and ?betrayed. You'd rather seek your GF for comfort. However, remember, whatever happens, the mother-son relationship cannot be undone. But any BGR, any marriage, can.
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Like all others have said, ur mom might feel that ur gf is a threat of snatching ur attention to her away, so that's y she feel so negative abt u having a gf...
Basically, I believe everything can be sort out if you should have enuff patient to persuade or convince her. Most important, you must understand her situation of bringing you up alone after ur dad's departure. Every single parents would want the best for their children especially in bringing them with happiness. But too, they would most wanted their kids to understand them.
Perhaps ur mum belongs to the type that keeps problems to herself so as not to let you worry/ even stress out. Therefore she chosen not to tell you, but she herself to bear everything..
Try to spend more times with her.. and step into her world.
Perhaps you can also ask ur gf to tok to her nicely step by step.. and gain her trust.. I believe everything will go fine for you. Afterall, everything is all worthwhile
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dear brother soon keong... seeing ur problems reminds of me... i too came from a broken family... and wats worse i lost both of my parents... to the extend that i hav to live alone...
the point that i am trying to tell u here is that ur mum really cares for u... there may be times when she cant understand or say the right things... dun be angry with her because of that... but rather understand her and show her patience....
u have to understand... all in ur family, she only has u... i dun find it starnge that she treats ur galfren as an outsider... that is because in her world, in her mind, there is only u. u, her only kin and son...
i am sure u find it strange wen she say she regretted having u rit? that is because in her mind she has a veri perfect image and thought of u... she hope that her son will be an obedient and good child... one that will do her proud... which is why wen u quarrel with her, she will be hurt... as u r not as perfect as she hoped...
trsut me... ur mum needs u and she cares for u... she doesnot desert u... at least not from wat i can see....
for my case, my parents doesnt even giv me a penny... all i can do is to live of myself... i hav to pay my school fees all by myself... my dad, who won my custody from the lawsuit, gave my custody to my uncle... leaving me with my farking uncle who doesnt even giv a damn to me... my mum dun even call or talk to me at all... u r much fortunate than me soon keong... treasure ur mum wen u still can...
lastly... dun worry bout the galfren thing.... she will come to realise that u hav grown up.... she will trust me...
ivan...