Scaring myself...
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There's this guy friend I have.... btw I'm a guy oso... we hang out alot... I like to be with him cos he's always so radiant and happy.
Recently though he had started to get "touchy". He started to touch ppl more when he talk and he oso have a charming smile... very cute sense
One of these days I was with him waiting for a friend, we were talking cock.. abt gals and how to attract them. He himself have sort of a "target" to go after.. we were discussing abt his next hot date wif her
He suddenly put his arm ard my shoulder, as if he want to have a hug... I was rather taken aback but I was not aroused at all. The place was rather secluded cos we are waiting for our friend at level b1 in the shopping mall. I allowed him to so call "hug" me and didnt question abt it. I assume we just playing since we are talking abt gals and stuff.
What surprised me is tat the friend tat we are meeting had oso becoming "touchy". How ever he was oni interested in touching him... I just laughed it off... Three of us are good friends... we noe each other for abt 7 mths oready. I was oready starting to feel abit confused abt the touching each other stuff.
Next week we met again the same thing happen and I touched him more this time... we didnt kiss... yucck. I even sat on his leg and waited for the other friend to arrive. (he was always late)
This time the other friend touch him, I felt abit jealous... I was enjoying the moment just now... it reminded me of the nice times I had with my then gf...
Each time we meet the same time happens... yesterday both of us (the late friend and I) even called him "darling"...
Am i attracted to this guy here? I dont feel aroused at all but I really enjoy the hugging and whispering into each others ears stuff... y do i feel jealous? Hmmz... Am I facing a big problem here? I need some help here... thanks
I'm oready 21 both of my friends here are 19 -
Are you scaring yourself? Maybe not.
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Of Cos! Gay couples freak me out... I need some help and reassurance pls.. any kind souls out there?Originally posted by wa|th3r:Are you scaring yourself? Maybe not. 
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its good to be gay
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I dont feel aroused when we touch each other... but I enjoy the feeling of warmth... the kind of feeling I once enjoying with my gfOriginally posted by Master -_-:its good to be gay
Master u are freaking me out
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hm...Originally posted by The Den:There's this guy friend I have.... btw I'm a guy oso... we hang out alot... I like to be with him cos he's always so radiant and happy.
Recently though he had started to get "touchy". He started to touch ppl more when he talk and he oso have a charming smile... very cute sense
One of these days I was with him waiting for a friend, we were talking cock.. abt gals and how to attract them. He himself have sort of a "target" to go after.. we were discussing abt his next hot date wif her
He suddenly put his arm ard my shoulder, as if he want to have a hug... I was rather taken aback but I was not aroused at all. The place was rather secluded cos we are waiting for our friend at level b1 in the shopping mall. I allowed him to so call "hug" me and didnt question abt it. I assume we just playing since we are talking abt gals and stuff.
What surprised me is tat the friend tat we are meeting had oso becoming "touchy". How ever he was oni interested in touching him... I just laughed it off... Three of us are good friends... we noe each other for abt 7 mths oready. I was oready starting to feel abit confused abt the touching each other stuff.
Next week we met again the same thing happen and I touched him more this time... we didnt kiss... yucck. I even sat on his leg and waited for the other friend to arrive. (he was always late)
This time the other friend touch him, I felt abit jealous... I was enjoying the moment just now... it reminded me of the nice times I had with my then gf...
Each time we meet the same time happens... yesterday both of us (the late friend and I) even called him "darling"...
Am i attracted to this guy here? I dont feel aroused at all but I really enjoy the hugging and whispering into each others ears stuff... y do i feel jealous? Hmmz... Am I facing a big problem here? I need some help here... thanks
I'm oready 21 both of my friends here are 19
i presume u haven had a gf b4?
and u haven had chances to tok abt or even sexuality alot. chances r u come from a more conservative background?
so at this age of 21 when one is most... erm.. virile, one becomes more curious and confused abt sexuality, and would like to experiment and feel it for oneself if there is a chance to.
so those kind of "weird" feelings come to u.
i dunno abt the frens of urs - as in whether they r jus as confused as u, they r playing a fool, or they r ... that.
in any case, i think there is a need to recognise this and act on it. u shud noe wat is right and wat is not that right. so recognise those feelings and educate urself properly each time they surface.
oso, i think u shud be more proactive in finding a gf.
u can remain frens wif ur 2 frens, but i think there is a need to refrain from getting touchy.... well.. at least all the gd frens i had were not touchy like u described.
jus my 2 cents.
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I did have a gf before abt 6 mths ago... we were close and enjoyed each other's company until she left me for overseas studies..Originally posted by wuming78:hm...
i presume u haven had a gf b4?
and u haven had chances to tok abt or even sexuality alot. chances r u come from a more conservative background?
so at this age of 21 when one is most... erm.. virile, one becomes more curious and confused abt sexuality, and would like to experiment and feel it for oneself if there is a chance to.
so those kind of "weird" feelings come to u.
i dunno abt the frens of urs - as in whether they r jus as confused as u, they r playing a fool, or they r ... that.
in any case, i think there is a need to recognise this and act on it. u shud noe wat is right and wat is not that right. so recognise those feelings and educate urself properly each time they surface.
oso, i think u shud be more proactive in finding a gf.
u can remain frens wif ur 2 frens, but i think there is a need to refrain from getting touchy.... well.. at least all the gd frens i had were not touchy like u described.
jus my 2 cents.
The two friends are sure making me think they are playing the fool... but maybe I over reacted... btw both of them are single and nvr had a gf b4.
Maybe we are all despos... but all of us desire to have a proper gf and discuss how to make ourselves attractive for the opp. sex to notice.
Once he hugged me she became my gf again, not the friend I play soccer and discuss how awful is serangoon's prata is... or hell wat am i toking abt.. this is beginning to sound like a blog.
I recognise wat is rite and wat's not. The way I let him sit on my lap is morally wrong... even though we are just talking abt the hot date he had just 24 hrs earlier...
I'm always keeping my options open to meet new ppl... but the prob with me is tat I like to pick my own company....
So how? I dont want to be a gay
I enjoy the "touches" cos it reminded me of my ex gf... not bcos they are attractive
If I want them to stop how do I bring it up?
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err.. well. we're not toking abt morally wrong or wat.Originally posted by The Den:I did have a gf before abt 6 mths ago... we were close and enjoyed each other's company until she left me for overseas studies..
The two friends are sure making me think they are playing the fool... but maybe I over reacted... btw both of them are single and nvr had a gf b4.
Maybe we are all despos... but all of us desire to have a proper gf and discuss how to make ourselves attractive for the opp. sex to notice.
Once he hugged me she became my gf again, not the friend I play soccer and discuss how awful is serangoon's prata is... or hell wat am i toking abt.. this is beginning to sound like a blog.
I recognise wat is rite and wat's not. The way I let him sit on my lap is morally wrong... even though we are just talking abt the hot date he had just 24 hrs earlier...
I'm always keeping my options open to meet new ppl... but the prob with me is tat I like to pick my own company....
So how? I dont want to be a gay
I enjoy the "touches" cos it reminded me of my ex gf... not bcos they are attractive If I want them to stop how do I bring it up?
Or do I want them to stop?
to me its simple - if u think and noe u shudnt be doing something (whether its cos u feel its not morally rite or jus cos u feel its wrong) den dun do it and dun yield to peer pressure.
if u dun wan them to do wat they haf been doing, jus avoid those circumstances, or try to shake them off or move away when they try to do it again. it can be difficult and u may feel awkward and make them feel awkward too but its ur life and u dun live it for only 2 other persons.
think u r lonely and looking for outlets. try to widen ur social circle. and find some other things to engage urself in.
but in the end, its all up to you - your choice.
if u want to continue wif wat u r doing, den mabbe tts the way it is. if u noe u shud not be doing all those, den make a move and put a stop to it. -
Thank u WumingOriginally posted by wuming78:err.. well. we're not toking abt morally wrong or wat.
to me its simple - if u think and noe u shudnt be doing something (whether its cos u feel its not morally rite or jus cos u feel its wrong) den dun do it and dun yield to peer pressure.
if u dun wan them to do wat they haf been doing, jus avoid those circumstances, or try to shake them off or move away when they try to do it again. it can be difficult and u may feel awkward and make them feel awkward too but its ur life and u dun live it for only 2 other persons.
think u r lonely and looking for outlets. try to widen ur social circle. and find some other things to engage urself in.
but in the end, its all up to you - your choice.
if u want to continue wif wat u r doing, den mabbe tts the way it is. if u noe u shud not be doing all those, den make a move and put a stop to it.
It is sure awkward trying to break off this thing we started... there's once I told him we're taking it abit far... he told me its okay we're just playing the fool...
Its sure I'm lonely and I stick to the ppl I think I'll enjoy their company...
I'm confused why I feel this way It might be loneliness
Tuesday we'll be meeting and let's c wat happens
Might need everyone's expertise soon...
Am taking your advice -
welcome
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Listen up man... ur not BORN gay... you can be cured.
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hmm... u prob love the feeling of emotional attachment...
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It kinda difficult to convince and explain, but rather none of the above makes you gay unless you choice to follow your soul's energy (In my view, has more feminine energy). Your acts simply signify your subconscious needs - emptiness could be fill by anything. Your attachment to him is just a way to fill your void.Originally posted by The Den:There's this guy friend I have.... btw I'm a guy oso... we hang out alot... I like to be with him cos he's always so radiant and happy.
Recently though he had started to get "touchy". He started to touch ppl more when he talk and he oso have a charming smile... very cute sense
One of these days I was with him waiting for a friend, we were talking cock.. abt gals and how to attract them. He himself have sort of a "target" to go after.. we were discussing abt his next hot date wif her
He suddenly put his arm ard my shoulder, as if he want to have a hug... I was rather taken aback but I was not aroused at all. The place was rather secluded cos we are waiting for our friend at level b1 in the shopping mall. I allowed him to so call "hug" me and didnt question abt it. I assume we just playing since we are talking abt gals and stuff.
What surprised me is tat the friend tat we are meeting had oso becoming "touchy". How ever he was oni interested in touching him... I just laughed it off... Three of us are good friends... we noe each other for abt 7 mths oready. I was oready starting to feel abit confused abt the touching each other stuff.
Next week we met again the same thing happen and I touched him more this time... we didnt kiss... yucck. I even sat on his leg and waited for the other friend to arrive. (he was always late)
This time the other friend touch him, I felt abit jealous... I was enjoying the moment just now... it reminded me of the nice times I had with my then gf...
Each time we meet the same time happens... yesterday both of us (the late friend and I) even called him "darling"...
Am i attracted to this guy here? I dont feel aroused at all but I really enjoy the hugging and whispering into each others ears stuff... y do i feel jealous? Hmmz... Am I facing a big problem here? I need some help here... thanks
I'm oready 21 both of my friends here are 19
As for your case - its a matter of choice. Your ain't sexually turn on by his act or him personally. Biologically, you are born a male (regardless of what you have been in previous life) and have to learn to be one. This is where your freewill is employed to choose the kind of path you wanna walk.
P.S: Nobody can influence you to become gay (although there are factors leading to it); overall, you made the decision yourself.
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You may be bisexual, you may be gay, you may be just feeling lonely, you may just wanted attention. It is ultimately up to you to discover and get to know yourself better, if you're gay or not. No one better than you is able to provide you with the answer.
For sure i do know that i am not, absolutely, and neither do i like being touched, especially by male friends, less friendly pats on shoulders etc. I am definitely not someone who would sit on the legs of someone.
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why let him touch u? & for godsake why u sit on his lap?! Can sit on my lap.
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its time to find yourself another girl......before you really turn into a gay.
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I thought he's gay already?Originally posted by tiggersgd:its time to find yourself another girl......before you really turn into a gay. -
if u feel okay then nevermind lor... but if u feel nt comfortable with the way he is touching u then ask him to stop la... sometimes between gd friends can b touchy... when i and m friends stay over at each other hse... we always end up hugging each other cos there r nt enough boasters to go ard... haha...
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It is comforting to hear something like tat... maybe the topic shld have been "touchy friend"Originally posted by weidev:if u feel okay then nevermind lor... but if u feel nt comfortable with the way he is touching u then ask him to stop la... sometimes between gd friends can b touchy... when i and m friends stay over at each other hse... we always end up hugging each other cos there r nt enough boasters to go ard... haha... -
We met up today.... the "touchy" subject resuraced again...
Its true I missed the feeling of having a proper gf... I used to hold my gf the way I hlod him... maybe my mind is telling myself to use him as a substitue? Btw, I did not get aroused at all... Not a bit
I enjoyed the "holding of each other" stuff... but we didnt do anything like kissing, baring ourselves to each other... etc... nothing dirty...
I discussed it wif the other friend, (the one who is always late)... guess wat.... he told me tat he always try those moves on the ladies when he goes clubbing... someone enlighten me here....
Thank u all for the advice... I'm convinced I'm not gay -
yah. u prob jus wan to relive ur "touchy" feeling u had.Originally posted by The Den:We met up today.... the "touchy" subject resuraced again...
Its true I missed the feeling of having a proper gf... I used to hold my gf the way I hlod him... maybe my mind is telling myself to use him as a substitue? Btw, I did not get aroused at all... Not a bit
I enjoyed the "holding of each other" stuff... but we didnt do anything like kissing, baring ourselves to each other... etc... nothing dirty...
I discussed it wif the other friend, (the one who is always late)... guess wat.... he told me tat he always try those moves on the ladies when he goes clubbing... someone enlighten me here....
Thank u all for the advice... I'm convinced I'm not gay -
Originally posted by wuming78:yah. u prob jus wan to relive ur "touchy" feeling u had.
