What do u think is the most common cause for breakups??
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Any comments?
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lost of trust
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the joint not strong enuff...so break lor
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no more feelings.
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Appearance of a third party.... can't look beyond each others' flaws... family oppose... So many reason, impossible to list them all!
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Simple....One party is having a crush on that guy and the guy happens 2 like her...those kind of relationships NEVER last cos they are based on feelings....which is BS in my opnion....real raelstionships are not based on this factor alone
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miscommunication
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lost of interest, take each other for granted, lack of respect for each other, conflicts, different personality, different values and view, no chemistry, frequent quarrels, lack of understanding, flirtous, materlistic, commitment, etc.....
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1. adultery
2. suspicion
3. being broke
4. loss of feelings--> this one is kinda hard to substantiate
5. new love(almost same as adultery but less the actions )
6. rumours
7. lack of trust
8. jealousy
9. lack of communication
10. misunderstanding
11. differing dreams and aspiration
12. ex boyfriend/girlfriend
13. religion/racial differences
14. status difference -
lost of trust lor, den quarrel, den 3rd party come in.. and gone she goes...
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My personal opinions, the most common causes are:
1) Loss of Feelings (a very common excuse by either party for breakups..)
2) 3rd Party
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Originally posted by Ric_Ong:Any comments?
When fates end, all kinds of excuse could be used to execute the break-up.
Break-up consist of internal and external factors. To explain this, would mean another topic altogether. Most of the time, it is a mixture of both.
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This is from my view points
the most important factor is communication, and it's clear communication, not things that you make other people making inference. This will promote the trust, the understanding and reduce the number of fights and suspicion, because we get clear signals of the thoughts and intentions of each other. Will mean both people will need to open their ears and LISTEN (not hear), and both need to speak their views. You need to be able to accept opposing views too.
the second most important factor is novelty. Both party should never spend their time solely for each other, but retain sometime for yourself and friends on a daily or even weekly basis. Do things that you would do alone, and learn new things to get more experience to share with your partner. It is to arouse the interest in your partner that you do not just have routine life with is all so predictable and lead to boredom of the relationship. This is why it's easy to for someone to come in between a r/s that's at least a year old, and especially a r/s that is even longer than a year. -
They say "Knowing other each puts them together... Understanding someone pulls them apart..."Originally posted by Bear:This is from my view points
the most important factor is communication, and it's clear communication, not things that you make other people making inference. This will promote the trust, the understanding and reduce the number of fights and suspicion, because we get clear signals of the thoughts and intentions of each other. Will mean both people will need to open their ears and LISTEN (not hear), and both need to speak their views. You need to be able to accept opposing views too. -
miscommunication
Hear hear! Aye plus the LACK of it is also of prime concearn here.
Communication is the most important. Feelings and emotions will always die out just as we age, we must recognise that fact, communication helps to slow down the losing of interest in both parties.
Illustration, communication is the means to solving problems, without it, no problems can be solve. Analogy, to u ns people, if the radios of both fronts break down, nothing can be worked out. -
i agree relationships shldn't be solely based feelingsOriginally posted by AE86tofu:Simple....One party is having a crush on that guy and the guy happens 2 like her...those kind of relationships NEVER last cos they are based on feelings....which is BS in my opnion....real raelstionships are not based on this factor alone -
xin ge bu he.....
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Lots of reason, it all varies b/w couple to couple.Originally posted by Ric_Ong:Any comments? -
getting sian/tired of the other partner/relationship... different interests/character/personality... lost of trust... no more feelings in each other... lesser topics to talk about and lack of "laughters" when together...
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I guess if it were in my case, it would be cos of "exs". Not ex-bfs, but ex-potential bfs... only those that i had feelings for, but we didnt' get around to "get together". Maybe it's cos of the "what if" and "what could happen" factor.
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One very stupid reason is unable to commit. This was the silliest reason my ex gave to me when she wanted a break off. I was stunned to hear tt reason cos if shes not readt to commit, y start in the 1st place?
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can explain more?Originally posted by peiyi:I guess if it were in my case, it would be cos of "exs". Not ex-bfs, but ex-potential bfs... only those that i had feelings for, but we didnt' get around to "get together". Maybe it's cos of the "what if" and "what could happen" factor. -
So should based on wat factor? care to explain more?Originally posted by AE86tofu:Simple....One party is having a crush on that guy and the guy happens 2 like her...those kind of relationships NEVER last cos they are based on feelings....which is BS in my opnion....real raelstionships are not based on this factor alone -
Hi.. i'm so confused... well... i'm wondering... the longer two person are together... the harder it is to maintain. The passion, the love, the sparks and all seems to fade slowly and disappear.. What do you guys do if this does happens between you and your partner? I find it hard to end the relationship, although i cant give her the happiness i use to give, its very hard for me to just let go of everything, everything that is built since day one... but it doesnt seems right to keep dragging. Breakup or not... you are still hurting the other side... puzzled..