What do u think is the most common cause for breakups??
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Imagine yourself on a trip out at sea... Sometimes there'll be storms... Big ones... Small ones... HOT killing weathers...? Sometimes REAL beautiful scenery... UPs and DOWNs.... Just like life... Love exist in life... No surprising that it has such a 'changing' property of life... When the storms hit you, some people think they can make it... While others think the boat would just be torn apart...? Separate judgements.... Faith tested.... But let's be REALISTIC... Sometimes even faith alone is not enough...Originally posted by brian:Hi.. i'm so confused... well... i'm wondering... the longer two person are together... the harder it is to maintain. The passion, the love, the sparks and all seems to fade slowly and disappear.. What do you guys do if this does happens between you and your partner? I find it hard to end the relationship, although i cant give her the happiness i use to give, its very hard for me to just let go of everything, everything that is built since day one... but it doesnt seems right to keep dragging. Breakup or not... you are still hurting the other side... puzzled.. -
sometimes its human nature..... everyone also want more in anything.... including love....Originally posted by brian:Hi.. i'm so confused... well... i'm wondering... the longer two person are together... the harder it is to maintain. The passion, the love, the sparks and all seems to fade slowly and disappear.. What do you guys do if this does happens between you and your partner? I find it hard to end the relationship, although i cant give her the happiness i use to give, its very hard for me to just let go of everything, everything that is built since day one... but it doesnt seems right to keep dragging. Breakup or not... you are still hurting the other side... puzzled..
why some r/ship eventually turn cold, one of the reason might due to the person is still not contented.... he/she thinks that its not enuff(irregardless of love, care, concern etc) thats y slowly become more demanding or some turn cold against their partner....
another reason is because we did not try hard enuff.... sometimes things that we used to do for eg. giving surprices(dropby her workplace, house etc, buy little presents, focus totally while toking etc) we did not do it anymore..... thus the actions that u do become monotonous..... juz like binary either 1 or 0.....
to me.... i personally think that wat shld makes a r/ship works will be one party shld gif and the other shld take... no human are perfect... its how we gonna accept the facts... but of cos.... if u hv tried too hard and max out urself... do sit down and "re-evaluate" ur r/ship before steping further into it....
my 2¢ of thots....
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communication? lost of feeling??actually everyone is a very different individual...it takes 2 hand to clap lor..if one party is the only one giving n e other party juz take...sooner or later break up one...the one who give will b very tired...
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ok... When my ex-bf or my bfs dump me, I know it's over. No point harping over something you probably can't get back. Right?Originally posted by Prec|ous:can explain more?
But ex-potential Bfs are a different thing, esp those I really liked. Those who like me and I didn't really feel for them are not a problem cos I'll treat em as a friend. Now I still treat em like frens.
Those that I really liked, I also treat em like frens but I once had "more than friendly" feelings for them. But due to some circumstances such as "we were both attached at the same time" or "it was long distance", etc we never got together in the end. Sometimes the feeling still lingers between both parties and sometimes you think - "what would've happened if we got togther?", "would i be happier then or am i happier now?". Then the more you think about it, the less interest you'll have in your current relationship. Sometimes you even start to regret and stuff.
yeah lor this kinda things lor... potential causes for breakups.
Oh yeah.. and i don't believe in the "lost of feeling" excuse. How can you lose a feeling in a r/s? I think it'll be more appropriate to say that the r/s reached a stagnant point and you just gotta come up with creative ways to revive it. -
I used to have a few friends who went 'what would have happened if we got together'? We talked quite alot about it... Think a bit about it... But we simply don't do it... We just joke around abit and remain as friends... Though there'll be many question marks over our heads but the feeling was kinda neutral... At least we can talk without the pressure of being a couple and the obligations to 'perform'?Originally posted by peiyi:Those that I really liked, I also treat em like frens but I once had "more than friendly" feelings for them. But due to some circumstances such as "we were both attached at the same time" or "it was long distance", etc we never got together in the end. Sometimes the feeling still lingers between both parties and sometimes you think - "what would've happened if we got togther?", "would i be happier then or am i happier now?". Then the more you think about it, the less interest you'll have in your current relationship. Sometimes you even start to regret and stuff. -
IMO .."Lost of feeling" is not an excuse, maybe he/she is not feeling for each other and does not think there is a need to be together ... Why be attached to a person when u don't have any feeling for him/her and u feel that he/she is not the one to spend your life with after all this years.Originally posted by peiyi:Oh yeah.. and i don't believe in the "lost of feeling" excuse. How can you lose a feeling in a r/s? I think it'll be more appropriate to say that the r/s reached a stagnant point and you just gotta come up with creative ways to revive it.
Just my thought of what others may be feeling.
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one more.....non-commitment.Originally posted by Parka:1. adultery
2. suspicion
3. being broke
4. loss of feelings--> this one is kinda hard to substantiate
5. new love(almost same as adultery but less the actions )
6. rumours
7. lack of trust
8. jealousy
9. lack of communication
10. misunderstanding
11. differing dreams and aspiration
12. ex boyfriend/girlfriend
13. religion/racial differences
14. status difference -
Only 2 causes - either the girl or the guy
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Originally posted by gasband:Only 2 causes - either the girl or the guy
and the third cause is, both the guy and gal. -
Both aren't heading towards the same goal in the relationship.
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WHEN THERE IS TOO MUCH UNBEARABLE NONSENSE
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err....maybe need some personal space?
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Originally posted by thhong22:WHEN THERE IS TOO MUCH UNBEARABLE NONSENSE
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oopsOriginally posted by Devil1976: 
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What do you think is the most common cause for breakups?
Human desire. (I got many other reasons, but dis 1 beats them all hands down...) -
cheating
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Howdy man...Originally posted by loneryu00:What do you think is the most common cause for breakups? Human desire. (I got many other reasons, but dis 1 beats them all hands down...)
How's things for ya boy? -
i was talking to a fren last nite n she saw her ex yesterday and she told me e ex very jia lat one......one held her hands once during e period of 2 months they were together....furthest they went is orchard...so what can i say ???
Some guys deserve it......
but e "he never hold my hand even thou we might be in a dark place etc...."
is really a first.... -
Its never either or! iT both parties at fault. IT takes 2 hands to clap.Originally posted by gasband:Only 2 causes - either the girl or the guy -
Yo... As usual... rotting... So dats "man" or "boy" U callin...?Originally posted by Devil1976:Howdy man... How's things for ya boy? -
Hehheh... Not sure? You TELL me?Originally posted by loneryu00:Yo... As usual... rotting... So dats "man" or "boy" U callin...? -
oh. miscommunication. definitely.
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communication breakdown...loss of trust..lack of understanding towards each other...relationship not strong enuf...third party...other party has sumone else in mind or still remembers the ex...loss of feelings....parents oppose...many other reasons..
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3) BetrayalOriginally posted by Ric_Ong:My personal opinions, the most common causes are:
1) Loss of Feelings (a very common excuse by either party for breakups..)
2) 3rd Party
4) Not honest with each other -
Haha! Lets put dat aside & let da ppl here concentrate on da topic here...Originally posted by Devil1976:Hehheh... Not sure? You TELL me?