Can still be friends?
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Originally posted by aHGer^83:thanx...i noe u will be dere for me...
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thats the ideal situation.
cant be lovers...at least can be frens.
for me...i will nv let any relationship ended up as enemy...i love everyone and will not hate anyone be it guy or gal. remain as frens sounds not bad...but in the course of friendship..will u want to enter into another form of relationship again? -
thats the ideal situation.
cant be lovers...at least can be frens.
for me...i will nv let any relationship ended up as enemy...i love everyone and will not hate anyone be it guy or gal. remain as frens sounds not bad...but in the course of friendship..will u want to enter into another form of relationship again? -
well... now I don't know... she's the one who suggested the break, and she wants to remain friends, though I feel that she's just saying that to be polite, but in the course of our relationship we never really quarreled and always on good terms... now, she just never look me up anymore, all conversation will have to be initiated by me... sigh... of course... she has a new boy friend now I guess, so she might feel awkward talking to me again.Originally posted by Ric_Ong:True lor...I have encountered it...still friends..but very polite and it's very unnatural...
But guess I rather be friends than lose her forever lor....Maybe if u find another companion...u may then really become 'real friends' with her lor...
find another companion?? long way to go I guess. har har har... well the wounds are still too big and recent... time will heal... -
yar.. he said that above sentence indeed.. but we were engaged in a heated arugement back then.. he MAY have said it in a fit of anger..Originally posted by Ric_Ong:I think u shd focus on this sentence u posted 'He doesn't want to remain frens'.......even though u still want to be friends...he told u this. Have u ever wondered why he said this? If he sincerely willing to be friends, then it's great. If he just wants to be friends bcos he wants favours such as 'asking u for stuffs' then it's not worthwhile..think abt it ya?
whether he meant it, i won't noe..
but til now, 3.5 mths after we went our seperate ways.. he still do ask where i am, or who i'm out with.. when i'm out til pretty late.. he does ask me to go hm since it's late..
i dunno whether it's a game that he's playing with me, but nevertheless, i still tink there's a possibility to remain frens after our breakup. -
For me, i would always hope for the ideal.
But it's not easy to forget the things i've to bear... -
How can both parties who feel so much for each other turn into enemy overnight....even if after they broke up, feelings still linger.
By refusing to be friends, is like trying to escape from the problem.
Give it some time, but don't forget about him/her. Try to stay in touch, but at the same time don't send the wrong signals to him/her.
I've enjoyed tremendous friendship with all (actually 3 only
)my ex-gf, cause they understand me more than anyone else. -
Oh another thing... the chances of remaining as friends also depend on the situation leading up to the break-up. So it's co-related to the other topic inside the forumns abt giving reasons for a break-up.
A mutual and consensual break-up will almost inadvertently lead to friendship
So try to persuade her/him thats things aren't working out instead of telling him'her that you don't love him/her anymore -
yup can still be friend after broke with my ex.we still keep in touch until now although broke for 4 year liao.nothing wrong with it.but treat her as a friend lor.
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So were u able to befriend her immediately after the breakoff or it took some time b4 u 2 contact and make friends again?Originally posted by rovguy:yup can still be friend after broke with my ex.we still keep in touch until now although broke for 4 year liao.nothing wrong with it.but treat her as a friend lor. -
actually,.. it depends on the reason for the breakup..
i personally have one relationship that ended,.. but both parties became closer friends,.. without any intention of getting back together.. sometimes,.. a breakup is not always bad.. its the process of breaking up that determines whether the story ends there,. or it can be the start of a brand new story..falling in love is not about finding the perfect person.. its learning to love an imperfect person,..perfectly.
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Same here... my ex and I aree like buddies coz we know each other's habits too well but we don't have much to talk about other than asking about trivials in life. But we are on very good talking terms and able to joke and tease each other. None of us wants to get back together as we are very comfy with the current status quo.Originally posted by sma||c|ouD:actually,.. it depends on the reason for the breakup..
i personally have one relationship that ended,.. but both parties became closer friends,.. without any intention of getting back together.. sometimes,.. a breakup is not always bad.. its the process of breaking up that determines whether the story ends there,. or it can be the start of a brand new story..
We share similar interests but diff directions in life, hence can only be friends, not lovers.