Marry someone with 6 yr old daughter?
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Nvr ever abandon ur families no matter how strong ur reason mayb. G is not such a gd guy afterall. He noes A has a daughter and cant accept her. Wat then makes G able to give A a gd living when A will live in the shadow of being a heartless mother?Originally posted by Ah Ma:this girl A due to shotgun at 15 yrs old marry B and give birth to her daughter D. after she give birth not long, A and B divorce.
now her D is 6 yrs old & along the years A found a guy G who loves her and wana marry her but due matters of face, he has gave her one condition.
that is to leave her daughter..her daughter will leave under A's parents care & change status, & register to be A's sister instead of daughter.
If you are A , will you forsake your daughter & go ahead marry G?
if you are a guy, will you marry a divorced lady with a 6 yr old daughter?
In my opinion, A shld leave G. Look for someone who can accept both her and her daughter. One who doesnt will not noe wat is called acceptance of ppl's past. -
I agree. D will haf a bad childhood and she is aready 6 yrs old. She noes who her mum is. And she can see things. SHe may grow up to be a totally diff person if tt really happens as in A marries G.Originally posted by Ah Ma:in the end A choose to be with D, rejecting G offer as she realises that D is most important to her than anyone else.
end up till nw A's mother kpkb saying that she is divorced & somemore with a kid, should be happy that someone wants her & should have chosen G offer.
bt anyway i support A decision of being with D. Imagine when child has a bad childhood & grows up & know what her mother is like & A is sure to regret. Somemore, i think A wont have the heart to forsake her daughter..she work on her own... doesnt care hw ppl call her as single parent...supporting her own daughter....
I support A's decision too. G is not as good as mentioned. If he is, why cant he accept D? A's mom is also abit overboard though she wants the best for her daughter. Being a mother, i am not sure uf she feels the same way as A. Will she haf given up A is a similar situation occur to her? I feel she shouldnt tell her to accept G.
A did the right decision!
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supportedOriginally posted by shaunlaw:Nvr ever abandon ur families no matter how strong ur reason mayb. G is not such a gd guy afterall. He noes A has a daughter and cant accept her. Wat then makes G able to give A a gd living when A will live in the shadow of being a heartless mother?
In my opinion, A shld leave G. Look for someone who can accept both her and her daughter. One who doesnt will not noe wat is called acceptance of ppl's past.
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according to Chargaff's Rule....A should look for T and C look for G.Originally posted by shaunlaw:Nvr ever abandon ur families no matter how strong ur reason mayb. G is not such a gd guy afterall. He noes A has a daughter and cant accept her. Wat then makes G able to give A a gd living when A will live in the shadow of being a heartless mother?
In my opinion, A shld leave G. Look for someone who can accept both her and her daughter. One who doesnt will not noe wat is called acceptance of ppl's past. -
It's okay to carry on as a single mother mar. I've had 2 of my ex's had single mothers (coincidence lar, not any freakish preference of mine). And they've turned out wonderfully fine! Just give A lots of moral support, and of course practically financial support also, then i'm sure things will be just fine.
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i dun mind.....
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i dun mind.....
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Originally posted by Ah Ma:this girl A due to shotgun at 15 yrs old marry B and give birth to her daughter D. after she give birth not long, A and B divorce.
now her D is 6 yrs old & along the years A found a guy G who loves her and wana marry her but due matters of face, he has gave her one condition.
that is to leave her daughter..her daughter will leave under A's parents care & change status, & register to be A's sister instead of daughter.
If you are A , will you forsake your daughter & go ahead marry G?
if you are a guy, will you marry a divorced lady with a 6 yr old daughter?
If A wanna give up her daughter because of that man, she is being utterly foolish and stupid. Its not about values, not about business-like-profit-minus-cost-become-damn-bo-hua - its about she making her FIRST major mistake of having unprotected pre-maritial sex with her ex-bf, who became her ex-husband due to society standard/pressue/effect, where she decided psychologically, emotionally and spiritually that she would want to raise the child.
It would become her SECOND major mistake if she were to accept that proposal.
Mentioned before by other forum mates - if he can't accept her daughter, his love to her is very superficial. Then how?
She can only wait to see if fate allows her to bring her a man who sees her as herself and not of her status (divorced) & possession (child) - if fate doesn't give her that, then her reward would come from her daughter when she grows up, mature and recongise the hardship that her mum took in exchange for this happiness.
P.S: Having that society-disapproved status DOES NOT MAKE HER ANY LESSER/INFERIOR in terms of a love, therefore her mum's comments is invalid. She has the right and authority to find and choose a guy who appreciate, treasure and look beyond. In eyes of love, all is equal.
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*Double post*
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again, i say that the woman's mother is a failure as a mother..
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Originally posted by sgboy2004:
Will u separate them?
woooohooooo! heck no, babe! i'd keep them all even if she has quadruplets. -
Originally posted by Ah Ma:in the end A choose to be with D, rejecting G offer as she realises that D is most important to her than anyone else.
end up till nw A's mother kpkb saying that she is divorced & somemore with a kid, should be happy that someone wants her & should have chosen G offer.
bt anyway i support A decision of being with D. Imagine when child has a bad childhood & grows up & know what her mother is like & A is sure to regret. Somemore, i think A wont have the heart to forsake her daughter..she work on her own... doesnt care hw ppl call her as single parent...supporting her own daughter.... obviously, this guy ain't worth half a damn. he loves his precious face so much more than the lady that he can resort to making her live forever in guilt for sacrificing her daughter's happiness to save her own. he loves his face too much to live with the thought of people knowing he claimed second-hand goods. the lady won't need to wait too long for a much better deal to show up. she would be seriously mistaken to believe this guy even loves her at all. -
If i were A, dump the guy straightaway.. Come on, the daughter is her own flesh and blood, she made a mistake, born her into this world, it's A's duty to care for her daughter till at least she turns 21..
If the guy really loves A, he would love her as who she is, accept her daughter and her family members.. If the guy can so easily forsake someone, there will come a day where he will just dump A.