daily chat with your bf/gf....
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do u get tired of it?? having to call up/sms your bf/gf daily at least once??
if u are tired of calling up, what can u do abt it??
if u are tired of been called up, what should u do?? -
No gf...
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hmm....u mean u get tired of calling/sms to someone u love...? if it's really too much for u then try telling her how u feel tactfully...
if it fails, tell her u going overseas/chalet for a day or 2...so can avoid communication until u "come back"
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Originally posted by tibirg:
if a person isn't someone chatty, especially to some guys out there, i'm sure such situation will occur. it's just hard to put it tactfully.....because your bf/gf probably noe u well enff to noe what u mean
hmm....u mean u get tired of calling/sms to someone u love...? if it's really too much for u then try telling her how u feel [b]tactfully...
if it fails, tell her u going overseas/chalet for a day or 2...so can avoid communication until u "come back" [/b]
the chalet excuse a bit lame. i dun want to tell lies to my partner. -
a sms or a little chat just to know how's his day and whether he's ok is good enough.
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yessss.......but i'm also tired of it how??Originally posted by Churra:a sms or a little chat just to know how's his day and whether he's ok is good enough.
actually is because i find that it's boring to sms the same sms day in, day out sometimes. e.g. beginning with how your's day?? + +
i find myself boring, that's the problem -
huh.. wat do u all talk abt?
actually, if u do chat daily, there should be more things to talk. for example, some updates of wat's happening at home, school or work. and usually, you can follow on from there everyday.... -
nowadays her holiday very the unhappening........nothing to chat abt.......somemore always i take initiative ask her, she can ask me 1 but seldom.......i also sian.....or maybe she going to say bye bye soon liaoOriginally posted by Churra:huh.. wat do u all talk abt?
actually, if u do chat daily, there should be more things to talk. for example, some updates of wat's happening at home, school or work. and usually, you can follow on from there everyday.... -
Just tell her you are not in the mood to talk & leave it as that until she inquire more details from you. -
samE samEOriginally posted by KrU:No gf... -
I find it funnyOriginally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:do u get tired of it?? having to call up/sms your bf/gf daily at least once??
if u are tired of calling up, what can u do abt it??
if u are tired of been called up, what should u do??
i had a phone friend for 4 years
we chat almost every night
and seldom will run out of topics
so i dont think there would be any problem if u really love the person
u sure had more topics to talk to compare to me
i just a simple phone friend of her
so i sure u have lot more to talk to her loh -
I used to have the same problem and we often argue over it. (we quite open, -one party say nothing to talk and want to hang up, other party gets upset or angry - may lead to quarrels)Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:do u get tired of it?? having to call up/sms your bf/gf daily at least once??
if u are tired of calling up, what can u do abt it??
if u are tired of been called up, what should u do??
But come to think of it, is impossible to have different topics everyday with ur bf/gf going for many years and each call last for more than 1hr.
is easier to talk to a friend....i often talk to other friends over the phone and normally we just utter rubbish..."suaning" each other, we do it in fun way....(topics include suan friend's fav soccer club or even fav singers etc...and also discuss latest gadgets).
my suggestion,
1) maybe try to talk abt 15mins instead, (note any interesting happenings during the day, which u may share it with ur bf/gf -even if is problems with friends, family...but be tactful, dont let ur emotions carry away which may affect your bf/gf)
2) talk a few times per week instead.
3) you do not need to talk everyday to keep a relationship going, it is really the "communications" that helps. (note:communication refers to understanding of each other's needs and tries to accept and accomodate each other)
so maybe, every weekend go out to "pak tor" and really cherish that moment and enjoy it.....both of u will then look forward to the next date.
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my suggestion... both to pick up a new hobby and learn to appreciate what each other is doing, so that there will be more things to talk about.. Both can even share the same new hobbies but do it together or with different friends... Need to start arousing the interest of each other, and have a some time everyday for yourself to do what you like and share the experience with your partner...
One thing is that when you get tired of communicating, it may be the start of breaking up because of the lack of communication and assumption that both your lives are monotonous... -
im ok with no verbal communication......
jus need to SMS me whereabouts can liao.....
usually i dun call.......wait for him to call me.....
tok about wat u/me do today.....discuss next meet up is when, do wat.....share gossip..... -
I will call my bf whenever I reached home... and he'll do the same. If I'm going out with friends I'll just inform him my whereabouts and we chat on the phone almost every nite just b4 bedtime....
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thanks ppl for all your suggestions.......actually my life is not monotonous but however, i dun feel the need to tell her all that i do especially those "man" things because part of the reason is i dun want her to worry. similarly, she also dun tell me things i feel i have a need to noe until i probe maybe because of the same reason dun want me to worry.....but i find it hard to overcome this barrier because both me and she are not good communicators.....seriously i nd help in this department
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nobody to sms to, anyone volunteer for me to sms to?
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i think SMS helps....some things not necessary have to be verbally expressed......Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:thanks ppl for all your suggestions.......actually my life is not monotonous but however, i dun feel the need to tell her all that i do especially those "man" things because part of the reason is i dun want her to worry. similarly, she also dun tell me things i feel i have a need to noe until i probe maybe because of the same reason dun want me to worry.....but i find it hard to overcome this barrier because both me and she are not good communicators.....seriously i nd help in this department
a simple msg can mean a lot......
u can oso use MMS....a picture says a thousand words...... -
sms the girl u r with to the gf?Originally posted by FireIce:i think SMS helps....some things not necessary have to be verbally expressed......
a simple msg can mean a lot......
u can oso use MMS....a picture says a thousand words......
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hmmmm imho i think it depends on how your gf think..... i used to get upset when my bf didn't call me to chat on the phone as much as he was courting me and that when we do chat it doesn't seem as interesting.... but after some time i came to think of it in a positive light--- that when he calls me but even though there's nothing to talk about but just some plain happenings at his workplace or some other random stuff it's actually becos he's thinking of me or that he's missing me and i'd think it's really sweet of him to just call and say bo liao things although i'd find it a bit 'fan' sometimes when he keeps calling....
sometimes you don't have to say a lot of things to keep a relationship burning, sometimes a simple sms "i miss you" will speak for itself a thousand times over but of course you have to let her know that you're a man of few words but some thoughtful sms will normally keep a girl contented...
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my gf noes tat i m the type who dun like to tok much, so we seldom chat over the fone...
a simple sms a day is enuff... -
You said both you and your gf ain't good communicators, then probably you gotta open up more to her.. There's not really a need to chat with each other everyday, depending on each other. If you're not the one to talk everyday, and she likes to chat with you, then probably you got to let her know, or drop subtle hints about it.
I, don't really like to chat over the phone, and one of my ex loves to chat over the phone, mostly about himself... so sometimes when he calls, i didn't bother to pick up the phone, and shuts off the cellphone sometimes.. and i guess he thought i wasn't interested and this'll strain the relationship.. so whatever you do, don't try the avoidance method, it'll be best to talk through things. -
its quite a pleasure to just be able to listen to each other's voice every day.. even though there ain't much to say. its more of like.. being there on the line kind of thing..
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er.. confuse.. u are the 1 tt is sian abt these things or her?
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Y not put it dis wae? U get tired of living? Yr heart gets tired of pumping? U get tired of eating? Wat if 1 dae U decided to stop? or da heart decide to stop? U decide to go on DIET?! Ok... dis is a bit off, but da theory is da same. No matter how "boring" or mono it seems, U go on. Unless U decide to end it... dat I nth to sae...Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:do u get tired of it?? having to call up/sms your bf/gf daily at least once??
if u are tired of calling up, what can u do abt it??
if u are tired of been called up, what should u do??
U sae U need help? communication doesnt have to go thru da mouth... actions do help too... like wat Bear said, pick a hobby or get an activity to do... thru it, U 2 can communicate oso... U dun have to "chat" daily, even seeing each other without "toking" is good enuf.
Everydae we r learning & we shld be glad we r blessed wif MANY luxuries b4 us. Cherish them... Compare to those who lives in poverty, times of war, disabled (no puns intended...), those who may die b4 they noe it, we r lucky. U get wat I mean.