Friendship at stake
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hahaha sorry sorryOriginally posted by bearx:Hello.. what are u implying here.. I'm a guy... please lor... dun take ppl at face value... gay my foot.. *pUuehh* -
*bOX BoX* ... a Christmas gift from me.. waHAhaah!!Originally posted by dumbdumb!:hahaha sorry sorry
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... still sounds gayish lol.. sorry.Originally posted by bearx:I dun take that as normal frens. I would consider him as a best fren. But i think now with all the support and advice from yr guys, i know where i am standing now. Being his best friend, i shall stand behind him so as to give him all of my best support. He's the only friend who i can really talk to inside out, so this is something i would wan to keep and treasure. I shall jus be his punchbag bob haha.. and be there for him whenever he needs me as a friend. That's what happens when he has got conflict with the girl. =) So happy to be back! He is not mine i know but i think at times of trouble, i shall be there for him.
well, yea! being a good friend is to be there.. regardless.
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You like very lame lor! Or are you jus HOmophobic! waHahaa. And im not horny. I just set friendship as my top priority in life. So must know how to choose a friend wisely. I have alot of other best friends too you know, many are female! He's not e only best friend. I just find him comfortable to be lOr. Flexible.. can go out watch movie until late late and play basketball. Gerls.. like soo many restrictions.. hahha... sure got curfew one. Later i scared, i go out with her.. her bf thinks she 2 timer. Bad man!!Originally posted by dumbdumb!:... still sounds gayish lol.. sorry.
well, yea! being a good friend is to be there.. regardless.
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U seem to have grasp da meaning of when to hold tight, when to let loose. Its like fishing... To catch da fish U have to rein in & let loose so dat da line wun break. Da "line" here is wat we can refer to as "Frenship"...Originally posted by bearx:Im not too sure if im should let it go. This friendship is like a fulfilled desire which i have always wanted all my life. A great friendship which i should hold on. But to think of it, i should allow it more space for him and myself to breathe. That's what im currently doing, although it's painful to see e bond loosen up. Resemblance of water molecules losing it cohesive bonding.
Remember, some things cannot be rushed, da more U desire, da more it may slip thru yr grip... take it easy. no GREAT frenship is brom from a dae. it takes time. learn to trust him & he will trust U in return. Dats how I kept my frenship wif frens & da longest 1 is 12 yrs old (after we met 15 yrs ago...)
Merry Xmas!
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Not as sticky as da LOTR hobbits... -______-Originally posted by audlenelee:reminds me of 2 frenz... they (guys) are together like almost everyday... almost like partners...
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haha i'm always lame. =)Originally posted by bearx:You like very lame lor! Or are you jus HOmophobic! waHahaa. And im not horny. I just set friendship as my top priority in life. So must know how to choose a friend wisely. I have alot of other best friends too you know, many are female! He's not e only best friend. I just find him comfortable to be lOr. Flexible.. can go out watch movie until late late and play basketball. Gerls.. like soo many restrictions.. hahha... sure got curfew one. Later i scared, i go out with her.. her bf thinks she 2 timer. Bad man!!
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Giving him more space and time doesn't necessarily means that you'll have to let him go?Originally posted by bearx:I have meet a friend who i think really has brought life to and shine the light of hope on me. My previous friendships with people who i treasure turned out to be a fiasco becoz of many reasons like one-sided relationship and love relationship which clashes.
So, now it's basically deja vu again. A friend who i think i have been looking for, because he is special and has meet my expectations of what a friend is, is now sort of in love with a girl. I do get abit jealous as times becoz i don't get the attention. There's one night where i can say it's e happiest night becoz of the declaration we've made for each other but then it lasted for onli 2 days.. before things starts to fall apart. His love is in conflicts with our friendship!
Now i need help. The friendship that i've always wanted is now falling apart. Should i save this friendship? or just let it go? This would also means that i have to give him more space for him and his new found gf. Am i being selfish by being protective of him? It hurts to see our bonds getting loose especially when he is "the one".
Having a friend is not all about possession of him. It's also about respecting his time and life. His need to have a gf and his need to have time for such.... Also about caring... About how he feels? -
Passing your diamond around to show your friends doesn't necessarily means that you're gonna lose it. And in the event if you do, GRABBING it in your hand as a sign of POSSESSION of it certainly doesn't mean that it's gonna be yours to keep forever?Originally posted by bearx:I guess i am. haha. Analogy: Imagine u're a poor girl who always wanted a diamond. And u've got one! Both of you are gonna be inseparable. Same goes here.. jus that its humans we're talking abt. Oh well... i -
devil is wise...
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Gee, thanks alot for the great advice!! I feel so much better now. (despite coming from a lucifer.. hehe )Originally posted by Devil1976:Giving him more space and time doesn't necessarily means that you'll have to let him go?
Having a friend is not all about possession of him. It's also about respecting his time and life. His need to have a gf and his need to have time for such.... Also about caring... About how he feels? -
The one? If he is the one, would you chose to see him make his best happiest decision or forsake everything and probably chose you?Originally posted by bearx:I have meet a friend who i think really has brought life to and shine the light of hope on me. My previous friendships with people who i treasure turned out to be a fiasco becoz of many reasons like one-sided relationship and love relationship which clashes.
So, now it's basically deja vu again. A friend who i think i have been looking for, because he is special and has meet my expectations of what a friend is, is now sort of in love with a girl. I do get abit jealous as times becoz i don't get the attention. There's one night where i can say it's e happiest night becoz of the declaration we've made for each other but then it lasted for onli 2 days.. before things starts to fall apart. His love is in conflicts with our friendship!
Now i need help. The friendship that i've always wanted is now falling apart. Should i save this friendship? or just let it go? This would also means that i have to give him more space for him and his new found gf. Am i being selfish by being protective of him? It hurts to see our bonds getting loose especially when he is "the one".
If its about friendship only, its applies as well. IF his happiest decision is with you, then congrats. But if it doesn't, would you be happy if you see happiness in his face?
HOWEVER
To your case, there is a little variation - he did declare his feelings for you, Under CloUdiSm, once declaration of feelings is made, friendship ain't 100% the same anymore. Its about not conflicts or issues to settle, its about getting used to the mindset of looking at him/you as a friend with the thought of knowing that you both like each other.
Before that, everything was innocent, pure, one-sided and illusionary - Now everything was confirm.
P.S: I suspect you may be overeacting and he could be indecisive later on. You deja vu comes from self-fulfilling prophesies - what happen will happen again. Cease this thinking and disallow your actions to influence you course of decision to repeat history.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Nicely said. I have to agree.. Oh well... my philosphy of " criticism is the best way to change oneself" do have to come in here. I have to admit im being abit "overbearing" or overreacting. I suppose this is the lesson to be learnt.
The one? If he is the one, would you chose to see him make his best happiest decision or forsake everything and probably chose you?
If its about friendship only, its applies as well. IF his happiest decision is with you, then congrats. But if it doesn't, would you be happy if you see happiness in his face? HOWEVER
To your case, there is a little variation - he did declare his feelings for you, Under CloUdiSm, once declaration of feelings is made, friendship ain't 100% the same anymore. Its about not conflicts or issues to settle, [b]its about getting used to the mindset of looking at him/you as a friend with the thought of knowing that you both like each other.
Before that, everything was innocent, pure, one-sided and illusionary - Now everything was confirm.
P.S: I suspect you may be overeacting and he could be indecisive later on. You deja vu comes from self-fulfilling prophesies - what happen will happen again. Cease this thinking and disallow your actions to influence you course of decision to repeat history.
Cheers [/b] -
You will be fine.Originally posted by bearx:Nicely said. I have to agree.. Oh well... my philosphy of " criticism is the best way to change oneself" do have to come in here. I have to admit im being abit "overbearing" or overreacting. I suppose this is the lesson to be learnt.
Cheers