Will relationship drift if a couple seldom got time to meet?
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Will relationship drift apart if a couple seldom got time to meet up cos one party haf a bz work schedule? But still maintain contact almost everyday?
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will definitely drift apart....
but if u r bent on making the relationship work...im sure it will
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Originally posted by Prec|ous:Will relationship drift apart if a couple seldom got time to meet up cos one party haf a bz work schedule? But still maintain contact almost everyday?
What's your definition of drift?
Less meetings means you see less of them. Physically, its drifting.
But this doesn't equate to emotional drifting. It only creates possible risk channels of emotional drifting.
Relationship is best to upkeep with a minimum of once a week (CloUdiSm suggestion) and whenever possible during extra/free time if you both could. Anything less than that has negative effect, though strong communication and other factors can prevent it.
P.S: There must be mutual effort to keep love going strong regardless of the frequency of meet-ups.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: What's your definition of drift?
Less meetings means you see less of them. Physically, its drifting.
But this doesn't equate to emotional drifting. It only creates possible risk channels of emotional drifting.
Relationship is best to upkeep with a minimum of once a week (CloUdiSm suggestion) and whenever possible during extra/free time if you both could. Anything less than that has negative effect, though strong communication and other factors can prevent it.
P.S: There must be mutual effort to keep love going strong regardless of the frequency of meet-ups.
Cheers
what's the suggested minimum and maximum frequencies for meeting up, phone conversation and SMS? -
nt reali unless totally no contact, if got maintain contact everday should make up alittle for not meeting up..Originally posted by Prec|ous:Will relationship drift apart if a couple seldom got time to meet up cos one party haf a bz work schedule? But still maintain contact almost everyday? -
Maybe it will drift in anyway but do hope that the bonding is strong. Also understand that it's part of the job that he is concentrating on. Contacts at nite i guess i will be lesser if he work till very late (though i do wait for him to reach home b4 tuning in sometimes). And he will called me if there anything to share of his happy moments.
Juz hope that everything turns well and he had crave a path for his career successfully. -
Meeting time and frequency of meeting up is not the only indicator holding the relationship together. There are also a lot of other elements that can make or break a relationship. One can easily compensate with other forms of communication. So the more likely reason is breaking down of communication rather than less meet ups..
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Phone conversation and SMS is about the same: just enough to stimulate missing and thinking is enough. Really, it differs from people to people: there are people who hates talking on the phone, so its up to their comfortability with each other with these tools.Originally posted by boy in blues: what's the suggested minimum and maximum frequencies for meeting up, phone conversation and SMS? Be adaptable to your own relationship I shall say.
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im ok with SMS and fone calls.......
jus make sure tt when he dun want to meet me, he is not meeting other gers...........hiaK~ -
nope.. wont la.. unless both of u do a part in maintain the r/s there shldn't be a problem, & understanding the reasons for not meeting up freq will help to strenght the r/s in terms of trust too..Originally posted by Prec|ous:Will relationship drift apart if a couple seldom got time to meet up cos one party haf a bz work schedule? But still maintain contact almost everyday?
It depends on wic pt of view ur looking at.. -
HHmmmm......won't one lah.Originally posted by FireIce:im ok with SMS and fone calls.......
jus make sure tt when he dun want to meet me, he is not meeting other gers...........hiaK~ -
i think wouldn't drift if you take the effort to like call the person or once in a while sms the person..or maybe do someting to make the person feel remebered .. yeah.. so ya i doubt will drift if some effort is put in to prevent tat
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Originally posted by M©+square:HHmmmm......won't one lah.
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how u know? unless........Originally posted by M©+square:HHmmmm......won't one lah.
u r the one he is meeting? -
Despite all positive & negative answers.. i appreciate every1's view here. Guess i can only be independent in this respect.
Hopefully it's realli Xian Ku Hou Tian.
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yeah......look on the bright side.........rship is about trust, understanding and determination!
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i think more or less it will ...but really u got to keep ur fingers crossed.
i got one excolleague... her bf 'drifted off' to another girl while studying in australia...
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ya..finger crossed.
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x2.. one more thing to add is honesty.. both sides have to be honest about who they meet as well..Originally posted by FireIce:yeah......look on the bright side.........rship is about trust, understanding and determination! -
yeah i agree too.. its like don't worry la.even if u all never meet very long but trust and understand each other.. can make it one la..Originally posted by FireIce:yeah......look on the bright side.........rship is about trust, understanding and determination! -
Bored.. bored, bored,bored X 10000000000000
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Me & my ex used to live poles apart, one in the east, the other in the west. We had school & such, so could only meet up once a week, at most twice. Kinda strained our r/s because of that. But we had fone conversations every night, even though sometimes we might not have much to talk about. Probably it helped to just be "on the line" with each other.
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Might be.. but gonna be understand toward his bz schedule also.. Work from morning to late nite everyday. Sure tired.. but he make the bit of afford to be online when he reach home. Though conversation tends to be shorter cos he nid to rest, i think i will let him haf his rest than to see him tired out.
So since im the more free-er person, i tink i can make trips to visit him if i can. It realli base on trust like that way he treat me. Juz like when he is finding a job.. im working, he do his own stuff without complain, so now he concentrate his job, i will discipline myself as well.
I do miss him badly, but wat can he or me do? Juz treat it as a better 2morrow then. cheers
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while u all chat online or over the phone...is there like a loss of feelings?Originally posted by Prec|ous:Might be.. but gonna be understand toward his bz schedule also.. Work from morning to late nite everyday. Sure tired.. but he make the bit of afford to be online when he reach home. Though conversation tends to be shorter cos he nid to rest, i think i will let him haf his rest than to see him tired out.
So since im the more free-er person, i tink i can make trips to visit him if i can. It realli base on trust like that way he treat me. Juz like when he is finding a job.. im working, he do his own stuff without complain, so now he concentrate his job, i will discipline myself as well.
I do miss him badly, but wat can he or me do? Juz treat it as a better 2morrow then. cheers
i dont know but nowadyas when me and my bf talk over the phone, we dont seem to b very enthusiastic, if u noe wat i mean....the "i love yous" dont seem very sincere too...
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Personally, I feel this is more like a problem of getting too 'routine'.... Consult Yun for more information....Originally posted by tibirg:while u all chat online or over the phone...is there like a loss of feelings?
i dont know but nowadyas when me and my bf talk over the phone, we dont seem to b very enthusiastic, if u noe wat i mean....the "i love yous" dont seem very sincere too...