Is it true that guys are different b4 & after...
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To answer this question, we should understand this:Originally posted by Prec|ous:Is it true that guys tends to change after finally courted the ger (as in as gf ). They will not be romantic, certain things when they tends to do like hold hands, constantly ask the ger out, wan to do things wif the ger, will not feel fed up easily wif the ger, will do things for the ger willingly etc... do they changed???
'Are we so sure that they have changed, or it's actually their usual character, the side we never knew when we were just friends?'
You could probably seek a big clue from his best friend - asking how he treat his ex.
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Im his firstOriginally posted by Yunhaier:To answer this question, we should understand this:
'Are we so sure that they have changed, or it's actually their usual character, the side we never knew when we were just friends?'
You could probably seek a big clue from his best friend - asking how he treat his ex.
Cheers -
so what exactly are different b4 and after in ur case? sometimes issit u being over sensitive?
if i do 10 things for my gf, she expects me do 11... if i do 11 things, she expects 12... and the list goes on and on... if miss out, she will say i changed, not like b4
so how? -
List of examples:Originally posted by kira2004:so what exactly are different b4 and after in ur case? sometimes issit u being over sensitive?
if i do 10 things for my gf, she expects me do 11... if i do 11 things, she expects 12... and the list goes on and on... if miss out, she will say i changed, not like b4 so how?
Before - After
1) hold hands - Never
2) caring - no
3) Will tok nicely - fedup tone
4) Will ask the ger out - now no..the ger will nid to ask
5) Will do things together - prefer to do alone always
6) More talkative - Less interactive
7) help ger do things willingly - when ask to help, face turn black
etc -
then i agree with u, changed liao
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never hold hands?? woah...i think he changed too much liao....think u need to really talk to himOriginally posted by Prec|ous:List of examples:
Before - After
1) hold hands - Never
2) caring - no
3) Will tok nicely - fedup tone
4) Will ask the ger out - now no..the ger will nid to ask
5) Will do things together - prefer to do alone always
6) More talkative - Less interactive
7) help ger do things willingly - when ask to help, face turn black
etc -
mostly they will change,bcas they will think that the girl is already his and he will take things for granted and love is like this when time past the love will also wear and tear.Originally posted by Prec|ous:Is it true that guys tends to change after finally courted the ger (as in as gf ). They will not be romantic, certain things when they tends to do like hold hands, constantly ask the ger out, wan to do things wif the ger, will not feel fed up easily wif the ger, will do things for the ger willingly etc... do they changed??? -
In or out of a relationship, people DO change... It's just a matter of how often it happens based on one's character and the need to do so....Originally posted by Prec|ous:List of examples:
Before - After
1) hold hands - Never
2) caring - no
3) Will tok nicely - fedup tone
4) Will ask the ger out - now no..the ger will nid to ask
5) Will do things together - prefer to do alone always
6) More talkative - Less interactive
7) help ger do things willingly - when ask to help, face turn black
etc
Like I've mentioned earlier... If you feel that things are getting a little out of hands, then DO something about it.... No point sitting down here just complaining and comparing? It won't do the relationship much good just by pin-pointing your partner and without doing your part to work things out (whichever side you think the problem might lies...)...
Why all the complaints? Are you hoping that the relationship would last? Or are you just hoping that he'll treat you much better...? -
sometimes true. even worse after the girl slept with the guy and he just dump her.Originally posted by Prec|ous:Is it true that guys tends to change after finally courted the ger (as in as gf ). They will not be romantic, certain things when they tends to do like hold hands, constantly ask the ger out, wan to do things wif the ger, will not feel fed up easily wif the ger, will do things for the ger willingly etc... do they changed??? -
Then of course, nothing to compare, he will feel nothing is wrong with him unless he is told. People who never had a relationship before never knew how it would be to be in one. During their first relationship, yes, they finally gotten the girl they chased so long, so what next?Originally posted by Prec|ous:Im his first
How they should maintain, how they should lead and how they should treat the relationship has to be TAUGHT and discovered through experience, exploration and enlightening. A part of this lesson is placed heavily on you, his gf.
So where's the communication part to let him know about these? Keep communication mode up and let him know what is happening or even how you are feeling. In case of a man, always heed this advice: YOU NEVER SAY, HE NEVER KNOW.
Cheers