relationship problem.
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hi there,
i'm a 15 year old boy and i haf a 13 year old stead. we have been together for 4 mths+ comin to 5 mths. We had alot of happy moments together and sad moments. U see, I am a guy who gets easily jealous and quite sensitive. Everytime she mention about a guy, i gets suspicious over lots of things but she says that she only love me. We quarreled over quite alot of things regardin guys.
Today, i was sick and didn't go to school. Suddenly she messaged me and said.. "Dear.. I been wanting to ask you for a very long time liaox.. Do u like another ger? Tell me honestly lehz.. i really wun scold u one." Then i suspected whether was it her anot. Cuz she juz asked me yesterday. Then i said no. I only love her and asked her whether was it her frenz hu sent the message. She said yes. Then i asked her y muz she always let her frenz take her hp and pretend that it was her to sms me? then she said "aiya.. nvm larhx..
anyway also wanted to ask u one.." somemore the person tat sms me was a guy. i was very angry and told her that i dint like it. then she said after tat i also got tell u wad. and now she's angry with me. but the problem is i dun like her lettin ppl sms me using her phoen and pretend that its her and let them read all the smses that i send her lorx. i'm realli veri confused n i love her alot. I'm always the one that apologise. can anione tell me what to do? was it a natural reaction for a guy to get angry over this? am i too sensitive or wad? plz advice me on how to continue the relationship without often quarreling. thankx.
Regards,
Mark
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hmmm... can't help but think both of you are very immatured, esp your gf. But then, can't blame her for her immaturity since she's only 13 yrs old.
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hMmx.. okiex.. thx for that reply. but i realli need advice on how to continue the relationship without quarreling. i realli luv her alot. so.. ppl out there.. plz dun advice me to break wif her.
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WOW 13 yrs old got Handphone sia....so fortunate...
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ignore her a while see hw her reaction
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think u both too young liao lar..she's 13yo, she just wanna have fun n get attention from other guys...
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take easy kiddo, dun take it so hard, go apologize...
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i apologised already. but i dunno if she havin lesson now the never reply or still angry with me. is it normal for my reaction to be like tis or am i too sensitive
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Take this as a fling MARK, u are still young .. the road ahead is bumpy and rough, U will find another when you are more ready and older ...... both of you are still young and needs time to fiddle around before finding the right one. I suggest u don take this relation too serious.
and remember keep your balls in your pants unless u wanna 'makan' rotan! -
i can't. we realli gone through alot. i realli admire my sis as she and her stead has been together for 5 years since sec one till now. i realli wanna be like her and i love my current stead alot. i know u guys will say that tis is puppy luv. but i cant let her go. although she oftens lie to me. but out of all my 3 ex.. i find that i'm happiest wif her and we've gone thru alot includin meetin her parents cuz we were.. sort of.. unexpectedly caught holdin hands by her aunt. then she was afraid that her aunt might tell her mom n her mom will scold her. then i went to talk to the mom and the mom approved to let us be together. i realli cant let go of tis relationship.
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heya kid..5 mths and you've seen ups and downs? i spent 6 mths with my ex and not a single quarrel and argument.. erally honeymoon for 6 mths.. but at the end of the day.. she's my ex...
what i've gotta say is...dun devote yourself so quickly to a girl.. i hear u say u love her.. do you know what that means? i bet no one really know what it means until you feel it. I'm not sayin you are NOT feeling it, if u do.. you're really lucky and fortunate to feel it at that age.
well about your problem, firstly.. girls hate jealous boyfriends.. esp since she's 13, she'll be looking at every single guy that goes by and what are u going to do? get jealous everytime? slap her? hit her? no right? same for you..dun lie i'm a guy too and i can tell u now.. if i ever get married, i'll still be checking out every pretty young thing that walks by.
its human nature and you can't help it. Sadly, being jealous is also human nature... so how like that? i tell u.. have a open heart.. dun be so sensitive.. everytime she does something that you'll get upset and sensitive about, jus go do something else.. for me.. when my(ex) gal goes clubbing(without me of course) and comes home feeling high(goodness knows what she did with who) esp after i told her not to come home to late..(she comes back at 5...) i'd spend the whole day playin cs and ignoring her.. its my way of sayin "i'm pissed but i'm not gonna direct it at you"
i loved her.. and i knew being upset with her was not gonna solve anything.. anyway.. by the time i finished playin.. it'll be at night.. then i'll meet her and we'll kiss and make up.. so u see.. i was pissed but i didn't direct it at her.. i took it out on something else..if u dun play games, go for a jog/swim get fitter build up your bod so that girls will fall at your feet.. and at the end of the day.. your gal wil have to think.. "hey maybe i hurt him as well" and since u didn't take it out on her.. she's gonna be awed by your matureness and then she wouldn bother abt the other small boys that surround her.. sounds good yah?? -
heyx.. thx alot. i felt much better after readin what u posted. there was once she said she wanted to break with me.. i cried n cried.. in the end she also cried and we didn't break. i dunno whether is tis called true love or wad. but my frenz all said that such love do not exist and 99% of young couple will eventually break up instead of getting married. i realli want to be th 1%. but how ? i'm not sure. but thanks for your advice. really. thanks alot.
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still too early to say .. as long as both of you are happy can alreay
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keep on loving each other... overlook each other's faults and always keep in mind.. "why do i love her???" then if u find yourself thinking of the silly moments she has and u think to yourself "oh yah... " then u smile to yourself.. then u know you still got it going..
but dun be blinded by it... if its not there.... then no point holding on to it.....
the best situation is.. u dun have to do anythin special and u still put that weird smile on her face(the smile that she shows YOU and YOU only)...
u know you've got her heart..
sigh... see la.. all your fault now... i'm feeling lonely and unwanted.. sigh... -
oops.. sorry.. heex.. but i realli wanna thank u and everyone alot. you guys realli made me happy and once again.. thankx for all the comments.. however.. keep the ball rollin please.. more advice.. the more the merrier.. thankx. 
Farmer Brown.. Once again.. my apologies. but.. cheer up
cheers,
mark
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mark? haha
nah its ok.. i'll just go milk a cow or something... -
Just a feeling... She can be those easy go lucky type of girl? She don't take things too seriously and is an ok mix with friends of the opposite gender.. IF that's really the case, maybe you should just take things on the lighter side?
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heex.. okiex.. she started to reply my message and said that she was havin dnt lesson juz now and apologised for not replyin. i told her.. "sorry for alwayz controlin u. nw i dun control u liaox. but i hope that things like juz now wun happen again." did i do the right thing ?
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Ur still young lah, nothing to worry about. Concentrate on ur studies should be priority 1.
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aiyo wat u expect she is only 13 ma..
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Let Nature takes its course!! She is only sec 1, at this point of time she would want guys to 'notice' her and if she were to find one slightly better than u...there goes ur Girl!!
Don't worry.....if she is meant to be yours, she will be.... if not no point holding onto it!
When u r in a relationship, its like flying a kite....at times u have to pull a bit n also know when to let go ....
good luck -
Soli.. Gave wrong age.. 1yr older. Lolx.. Me tis yr 16. She tis yr 14.
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These things will happen again n again... just to remind u...Originally posted by lovinghurts:heex.. okiex.. she started to reply my message and said that she was havin dnt lesson juz now and apologised for not replyin. i told her.. "sorry for alwayz controlin u. nw i dun control u liaox. but i hope that things like juz now wun happen again." did i do the right thing ? -
the problem is that she has a god-brother that i dun like.. she's quite close to him. she juz called me and told me that she finish her remedial class liaox. then its always like this.. her god brother will always tell me.. "u dun bully her horx.." .. last yr they were in the same class.. tis yr.. they are in different class. but after her remedial.. i dunno how come she's still able to pass the phoen to her godbro. she says that he was sittin in front of her in the canteen. i dunno whether is that true and my mind will always automaticially think that she was flirtin juz now. she finished lesson at 3.15 but she called me at 3.50. she said that she was in school wif her frenz and didnt haf time to call me. i feel veri jealous. i also dunno y.. but.. i dun like her to get in contact wif guys. i know that tis is too much. but anyway to stop this ? someone plz tell me what to do. after i hanged up the phone wif her.. i felt like crying. i really do not know what to do. i'm scared that she will get into a relationship wif other guys.. she says that she doesn't like her god brother at all. i realli hope thats true. plz help.
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aiyo, i think hor,problem is u abit too sensitive liao le....
u keep such close track of what she's doing and like must report to u every now and then.. such r/ s will not last leh...i understand yr concern over her..but sooner or later she will feel very sian,always have to report to you and u dont trust her at all..and u will also feel tired one day.....
u painted an impression of her that she's very flirtish kindda of ger (which is not wrong, coz any ger at that age will love to seek attention)
try to relaz and let her know that u trust her and hope that she doesnt betray yrr trust.....