relationship problem.
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i know i'm too sensitive.. but.. at least she should tell me where she goin.. n try to tell me when she finish her lessons.. but.. everytime when i sense a guy beside her or talkin to her.. i will feel jealous.. i also do not know y.. but.. i'm realli very confused.. i'm also sort of angry wif her for always passin the phone to her frenz. but she always tells me that its her frenz that snatch the phone frm her. i dun tink thats the case.. i also dunno how. is sensitivity a sickness ? do i need to go for counselling ? i'm very worried that i will lose her.
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You're still young, try to take things on the lighter side? Don't be too paranoid... Your gf's still young and with you having such a mentality? You can easily switch her off and make her detest you in time to come even if nothing is initially wrong...
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Originally posted by lovinghurts:the problem is that she has a god-brother that i dun like.. she's quite close to him. she juz called me and told me that she finish her remedial class liaox. then its always like this.. her god brother will always tell me.. "u dun bully her horx.." .. last yr they were in the same class.. tis yr.. they are in different class. but after her remedial.. i dunno how come she's still able to pass the phoen to her godbro. she says that he was sittin in front of her in the canteen. i dunno whether is that true and my mind will always automaticially think that she was flirtin juz now. she finished lesson at 3.15 but she called me at 3.50. she said that she was in school wif her frenz and didnt haf time to call me. i feel veri jealous. i also dunno y.. but.. i dun like her to get in contact wif guys. i know that tis is too much. but anyway to stop this ? someone plz tell me what to do. after i hanged up the phone wif her.. i felt like crying. i really do not know what to do. i'm scared that she will get into a relationship wif other guys.. she says that she doesn't like her god brother at all. i realli hope thats true. plz help.
still young lah. you so anxious to get married next year is it? play around and trial and error lah, she won't be your last stead anyway. -
frankly, the reason why she behaves this way and why you feel this way is really because the two of you are still kinda young. I understand you feel alot for her etc .... but ask yourself, do you seriously think she will definately tie herself down to you at the age of 14 ??? Are you certain she won;t wanna explore other pastures before settling down...?? She has a long way more to go in growing up so do you ..... the only reason why most people are telling you think is coz it's a stage we had all been through ....... good luck ...Originally posted by lovinghurts:i know i'm too sensitive.. but.. at least she should tell me where she goin.. n try to tell me when she finish her lessons.. but.. everytime when i sense a guy beside her or talkin to her.. i will feel jealous.. i also do not know y.. but.. i'm realli very confused.. i'm also sort of angry wif her for always passin the phone to her frenz. but she always tells me that its her frenz that snatch the phone frm her. i dun tink thats the case.. i also dunno how. is sensitivity a sickness ? do i need to go for counselling ? i'm very worried that i will lose her. 
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i dunno whether will she be my last stead anot.. but i realli hope that she will. any methods on how not to quarrel so often ??
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dun bother so much, den u wont care her so much, den you wont tok to her so much, naturally, u wont quarrel so often... heheOriginally posted by lovinghurts:i dunno whether will she be my last stead anot.. but i realli hope that she will. any methods on how not to quarrel so often ??
you still young la, however, i think that it's good to treat every relationship as the last relationship, all the best... -
Originally posted by lovinghurts:hi there,
i'm a 15 year old boy and i haf a 13 year old stead. we have been together for 4 mths+ comin to 5 mths. We had alot of happy moments together and sad moments. U see, I am a guy who gets easily jealous and quite sensitive. Everytime she mention about a guy, i gets suspicious over lots of things but she says that she only love me. We quarreled over quite alot of things regardin guys.
Today, i was sick and didn't go to school. Suddenly she messaged me and said.. "Dear.. I been wanting to ask you for a very long time liaox.. Do u like another ger? Tell me honestly lehz.. i really wun scold u one." Then i suspected whether was it her anot. Cuz she juz asked me yesterday. Then i said no. I only love her and asked her whether was it her frenz hu sent the message. She said yes. Then i asked her y muz she always let her frenz take her hp and pretend that it was her to sms me? then she said "aiya.. nvm larhx..
anyway also wanted to ask u one.." somemore the person tat sms me was a guy. i was very angry and told her that i dint like it. then she said after tat i also got tell u wad. and now she's angry with me. but the problem is i dun like her lettin ppl sms me using her phoen and pretend that its her and let them read all the smses that i send her lorx. i'm realli veri confused n i love her alot. I'm always the one that apologise. can anione tell me what to do? was it a natural reaction for a guy to get angry over this? am i too sensitive or wad? plz advice me on how to continue the relationship without often quarreling. thankx.
Regards,
Mark
Young love - what can you expect out from it? I don't expect you to be philosophical at that point of age and know alot of about love. In fact, its just our beginning stage in love exploration.
Therefore, this wouldn't be your last stop - probably just another stepping stone to future relationships. I can only say, learn what you ought to learn from this relationship, it will pave a path and direction in your attitude towards BGR.
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TRUST TRUST TRUST and more TRUST ... the basic essence of a relationship ....Originally posted by lovinghurts:i dunno whether will she be my last stead anot.. but i realli hope that she will. any methods on how not to quarrel so often ??
no sure win method to stop quarrals coz everyone have their own differences in their relationship.
i guess it's good that you are serious about your gf and your relationship but you really need to learn to trust, communicate and understand each other. -
Method? No...Originally posted by lovinghurts:i dunno whether will she be my last stead anot.. but i realli hope that she will. any methods on how not to quarrel so often ??
Advice? Yes.... WORK on it.... -
hey Mark!
well, looking at your age and hers, i feel that you should be more open towards your emotions. Dun let your emotions rule you, emotions are not logical. I understand you feel for her deeply, but come to think about it, i mean, to be realistic, is she the one you looking for? Or rather, are you the one she's looking for? Yesh, both of you may have memorable times together, and not to mention sad ones. But this is just part and parcel of life. Who noes, maybe u'll find one when u graduate in about a yr's time or two.
Dun brood over it. Let nature takes its course. Love will find it's way to you. -
okie.. thanks all of you guys for ur reply. u all need not reply after this post already. i'll be tryin to trust her more. and i dun feel so paranoid anymore. maybe its because i stayed at home too much thats y i tink of such rubbish. anywayx. thx again for all ur reply. =)
regards,
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you may be thinking this way but how about her? ever ask her she wanna make this rp last or does she just want a fling? dun be too self absorbed... ask her clearly what she wants out of this relationship. there may be pple who just want to play the field.Originally posted by lovinghurts:i can't. we realli gone through alot. i realli admire my sis as she and her stead has been together for 5 years since sec one till now. i realli wanna be like her and i love my current stead alot. i know u guys will say that tis is puppy luv. but i cant let her go. although she oftens lie to me. but out of all my 3 ex.. i find that i'm happiest wif her and we've gone thru alot includin meetin her parents cuz we were.. sort of.. unexpectedly caught holdin hands by her aunt. then she was afraid that her aunt might tell her mom n her mom will scold her. then i went to talk to the mom and the mom approved to let us be together. i realli cant let go of tis relationship.