HArd to FinD Guys ThaT aRe FaIthFuL ThrUOut The R/s??

• Prec|ous

  28 Jan 04, 02:06

  A fren once told me that no matter how guai or how decent a guy is, guy is still guy, they will not resist to temptations & in their whole life.. they will at least commit a mistake (ie adultry,fling,ONS etc) in their life. How true is this?
• ditzy

  28 Jan 04, 02:08

  Its too soon to say now, only time will tell.
• xiao_p

  28 Jan 04, 02:11

  y always guys guys n guys one...
  wat about girls?
• skeujin

  28 Jan 04, 02:13

  there r still nice guys in the world. jus tt they r either broke or ugly n those materialistic gals wnt even luk at them...
• ditzy

  28 Jan 04, 02:16

  Originally posted by xiao_p:

  y always guys guys n guys one...
  wat about girls?

  From what I gather, girls always go ' wun one lah.' Ask any guy, you get the same reply. From my POV, this issue is somehow, somewhat slightly biased towards either sex.
• Prec|ous

  28 Jan 04, 02:20

  i muz admit that that there are indeed much more temptation out there for guys. Gers nowadays noes how to make up, doll themselves up, wear sexily, show affectionate etc.. of all these, how can any guys resist? It is not a biased qns. but sad to say, when in a r/s, gers tends to put in more feeling than guys n guys are more bo chup after a long r/s.
• Yunhaier

  28 Jan 04, 02:21

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:

  A fren once told me that no matter how guai or how decent a guy is, guy is still guy, they will not resist to temptations & in their whole life.. they will at least commit a mistake (ie adultry,fling,ONS etc) in their life. How true is this?

  Depends on how evolved this guy is.
  
  And who tells you that a guai/decent guy will be faithful?
  
  Faithful is a quality that demonstrate from within.
  
  Guai/decent are impression based on preception and social standards.
  
  Both are mutually exclusive.
  
  Seriously speaking, if faithfulness is the solo quality that a girl look for - then they wouldn't end up with guys that their mind had already warned them of the obvious hurts they will be suffering in the future. Furthermore, faithfulness is a quality that cannot be measured. I could be a flirt now, then I have a partner, I would become faithful. Or I could be damn faithful, as in the sense that I don't like anyone else apart from my gf/bf - but I lay hands on woman I could find in bars. (Faithfulness? Correct what, never like anyone. Just touch them only wor... also never like them )
  
  So what now?
  
  Ask yourself one simple questionl: How much you trust your partner then? This is the best gauge on his measure of faithfulness. Don't question his personality first if it wasn't a reoccuring thing for him, question your trust.
  
  Cheers
• Prec|ous

  28 Jan 04, 12:39

  [quote]Originally posted by Yunhaier:
  
  
  Seriously speaking, if faithfulness is the solo quality that a girl look for - [b]then they wouldn't end up with guys that their mind had already warned them of the obvious hurts they will be suffering in the future. Furthermore, faithfulness is a quality that cannot be measured. I could be a flirt now, then I have a partner, I would become faithful. Or I could be damn faithful, as in the sense that I don't like anyone else apart from my gf/bf - but I lay hands on woman I could find in bars. (Faithfulness? Correct what, never like anyone. Just touch them only wor... also never like them )
  
  Faithful is defined as remianing truthful and sexual loyalty to their own spouse or own lover. So how can it be u like this person but yet touch others or even engage sexual affair wif others.
  
  If the person truly love a person.. no matter how many temptations ard...he /she will stay true to the person ONLY
  
• KopiKia

  28 Jan 04, 12:50

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:

  A fren once told me that no matter how guai or how decent a guy is, guy is still guy, they will not resist to temptations & in their whole life.. they will at least commit a mistake (ie adultry,fling,ONS etc) in their life. How true is this?

  Its very true here in china. guys are never faithful to their spouse. It very common for a guy to have a mistress in another city other than his own.
• sgboy2004

  28 Jan 04, 12:51

  Originally posted by KopiKia:

  Its very true here in china. guys are never faithful to their spouse. It very common for a guy to have a mistress in another city other than his own.

  bao er nai
  
  
• Devil1976

  28 Jan 04, 13:11

  Originally posted by skeujin:

  there r still nice guys in the world. jus tt they r either broke or ugly n those materialistic gals wnt even luk at them...

  
• sillyme

  28 Jan 04, 13:20

  being faithful comes from within.. it's a choice
  
  there are faithful guys around.. just that when a guy gets caught.. all attention is directed at him.. it is not helped by the media highlighting unfaitful partners on tv or movies..
  
  the juiciest news is the grapevine.. nobody is interested in faithful, loving couples.. they exist.. but are left unnoticed..
• the Bear

  28 Jan 04, 13:22

  we're hard to find... because we are not "dangerous", flashy, exciting or anything like that...
  
  wallflowers who are always dismissed... and will be ignored by women who go for the flashy ones..
  
  when burnt (and they will be), they will complain bitterly that all men are bastards...
  
• Inzaghi

  28 Jan 04, 13:52

  cant say guys will be always guys this kinda thingy lar...
  
  these days more n more gals are having affairs..wat r u going to say??
• antoh

  28 Jan 04, 13:53

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:

  A fren once told me that no matter how guai or how decent a guy is, guy is still guy, they will not resist to temptations & in their whole life.. they will at least commit a mistake (ie adultry,fling,ONS etc) in their life. How true is this?

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• bjork

  28 Jan 04, 13:56

  quite true leh.. but i guess it implys to both genders..
  sigh....
• Inzaghi

  28 Jan 04, 13:58

  Originally posted by bjork:

  quite true leh.. but i guess it implys to both genders..
  sigh....

  hmm..i guess shouldnt do it if u r married or attached lor......
• bjork

  28 Jan 04, 14:32

  somethings u follow ur heart..
  just like man some cant control their little brother therefore they do wat their didi wans...
• Inzaghi

  28 Jan 04, 14:35

  hmm..quite true..but at the split sec, if u can move away, everything would be fine....but if u still hang in there, will be pretty tough to get out liao....unless the gal is not ur type...
• s|nNeD

  28 Jan 04, 15:35

  sad to say... but it happens... in fact to both sexes... its just in our nature coz we are not made perfect or rather we were once perfect until something happened...
  
  It comes from within... its how you control your own feelings and emotions... lust... It wouldn't be this way if you know how to control your feelings...
• UandMe

  28 Jan 04, 15:50

  Originally posted by Prec|ous:
  A fren once told me that no matter how guai or how decent a guy is, guy is still guy, they will not resist to temptations & [b]in their whole life.. they will at least commit a mistake (ie adultry,fling,ONS etc) in their life. How true is this? [/b]

  a whole life is a very long time, thus it is possible, especially when both husband and wife are at middle age and he no longer finds her sexually appealing...
• the_don

  28 Jan 04, 15:52

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:
  
  Ask yourself one simple questionl: How much you trust your partner then? This is the best gauge on his measure of faithfulness. Don't question his personality first [b]if it wasn't a reoccuring thing for him, question your trust.
  
  Cheers [/b]

  wah.. cheem siah.. but i agree.
  
  aside: question, what if you trust him totally to be faithful, then one day he hide things from you and when you discover these things, he maintains he didn't touch/kiss/do-it? then how? should still trust him or not? (note: things not thing hor)
• the_don

  28 Jan 04, 15:57

  Originally posted by sillyme:

  being faithful comes from within.. it's a choice
  
  there are faithful guys around.. just that when a guy gets caught.. all attention is directed at him.. it is not helped by the media highlighting unfaitful partners on tv or movies..
  
  the juiciest news is the grapevine.. nobody is interested in faithful, loving couples.. they exist.. but are left unnoticed..

  i am interested in faithful loving couples leh. i want to know how they remain faithful and trust each other completely. sadly got such couples meh? even have i think all go meet God liao.
  
  but of cos also interested in single guys that can be faithful lah.
• the_don

  28 Jan 04, 16:03

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  we're hard to find... because we are not "dangerous", flashy, exciting or anything like that...
  
  wallflowers who are always dismissed... and will be ignored by women who go for the flashy ones..
  
  when burnt (and they will be), they will complain bitterly that all men are bastards...
  

  "we" are endangered but still can find.
  
  "we" also want to chose "dangerous", flashy, exciting women. so sadly wallflowers who are interested in "we" also dismissed and ignored by "we" who go for flashy ones.
  
  when burnt (and they will be), they will complain bitterly that all women s|uts...
  
  
• the_don

  28 Jan 04, 16:04

  Originally posted by Inzaghi:

  cant say guys will be always guys this kinda thingy lar...
  
  these days more n more gals are having affairs..wat r u going to say??

  i would say "ho say!" finally men get a taste of their own medicine