How will you get over it?
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How will get over a long term relationship break up?
The relationship lasted for close to 5 years.
Any suggestions? -
Accept your fate and face whatever might be related to the relationship... Running away/not thinking about it won't solve the problem but it will only worsen it.
And let time do the job.................................................. "| -
pls grief as much as u can for a few daes.
as long as u r determined to stop griefing totally after tt, and move on wif ur life. -
one day at a time...
be well yah? -
time, might be a few days, mths and even years, depending on how much u value tt r/s and wat coz the break up..
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You can enter into a 5 years relationship and all it takes is 3 days for you to get reasonably well. You can also enter into a 6 months relationship and takes you slightly more than a year to get reasonably well.Originally posted by ontrack:How will get over a long term relationship break up?
The relationship lasted for close to 5 years.
Any suggestions?
P.S: Don't count the years as a basis to get over - measure the quality in those years.
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Some couples lasted for 1 year before they break up. Some couples lasted for 5 years before they break up. Some couples lasted for 10 years before they break up. Some couples got married for a couple of years before they divorce.
If you are not meant for each other, better to break up.
Breaking up is hard to do, staying unhappily together is lagi worst.
Look on the bright side. You'll find someone that's right for you later. But it takes time to find that someone. Just be patient. -
take care.. slowly
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What suggestions you want? When you've gotten over it, you'll know it....Originally posted by ontrack:How will get over a long term relationship break up?
The relationship lasted for close to 5 years.
Any suggestions? -
for me 2 month will take 1 yr.
if current one i m unsure. longer i think -
the length of the attachment matters less as compared to the depth of the attachment.
even if its a 1 month attachment, but feelings were very very strong, then it would take longer to get over. -
Mine more than 10 years, still didn't really get over her.Originally posted by ontrack:How will get over a long term relationship break up?
The relationship lasted for close to 5 years.
Any suggestions?
But life goes on, no point hanging on to something/someone that is never meant to be yours.
Keep your head high. Show him/her that you are better off without him/her. -
Thanks for all the suggestions.
Let time heal all wounds. -
once again.. its onli time can heal.. jiayou..
mine 1 1/2 yr alreadi miserable liaoz i wonder wads the feeling of 5 years.. anyway jiayou.. -
Seek for another lover
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I believe time can heal all wounds.. Just like what the rest has said.. pastures is always greener on the other side.. No point dwelling on it, you will only hurt urself even more.. Hope u take things well my fren... Someone will gradually come along to mend ur broken heart...
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as for mi last relationship half a yr but still trying""
ppl do says time will heal the wound
but it is berry hard to forget someone u love
if ppl can easily forget the person he/she love
i feel tt tt is nt true love
even when u saw someone tt looks alike yr ex
u will stare at him/her for a few secound and walk away
or those places tt u ever went to ... thing u ever did b4
all those events will easily let u think of the past memories
something i will like to share:
|f you Love h|m
Set h|m Free
|f he CoMes Back 2 yOU
|f You Won h|s HearT
|f He Dun
Let |t Be ....
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Nobody ask u to forget that someone who has left a footprint in you.. Time is to heal the wounds that had once hurt u deeply.. and allows to u to move on.. No doubrt memories will still be there.. May it be sad or good ones.. but as and when u look back.. it will only be just a reflection of your past and a few lessons learnt....Originally posted by jolin80:as for mi last relationship half a yr but still trying""
ppl do says time will heal the wound
but it is berry hard to forget someone u love
if ppl can easily forget the person he/she love
i feel tt tt is nt true love
even when u saw someone tt looks alike yr ex
u will stare at him/her for a few secound and walk away
or those places tt u ever went to ... thing u ever did b4
all those events will easily let u think of the past memories something i will like to share:
|f you Love h|m
Set h|m Free
|f he CoMes Back 2 yOU
|f You Won h|s HearT
|f He Dun
Let |t Be .... -
same feeling when juz broken up.. but kinda numb liaoz..Originally posted by jolin80:as for mi last relationship half a yr but still trying""
ppl do says time will heal the wound
but it is berry hard to forget someone u love
if ppl can easily forget the person he/she love
i feel tt tt is nt true love
even when u saw someone tt looks alike yr ex
u will stare at him/her for a few secound and walk away
or those places tt u ever went to ... thing u ever did b4
all those events will easily let u think of the past memories something i will like to share:
|f you Love h|m
Set h|m Free
|f he CoMes Back 2 yOU
|f You Won h|s HearT
|f He Dun
Let |t Be ....
hope u get over fast.. -
Hmm.. not long.
as soon as you find the next person.
i think you never really forget the last one until you found someone else!
Anyway, just keep thinking of the bad times together and how much you hated that person. -
well... its not the length of a r'ship that affects the grieving period. Nobody can tell u to get over it. Nobody can tell u HOW to get over it. its all up to u buddy.. if u want to, *snap* its as easy as that...but if u don't wanna and u insist on clinging on to it, you'll never be able to let go of it..
i'm not saying that its wrong to hold on to it.. i'm just presenting options that u have to think for yourself carefully before adopting. u're prob gonna go thru the *one moment all happy and fine, not bothered or hurt* phase only for it to be shattered by a song that reminds u of her and soon you're in the *just kill meeeee pleeeeaaaasssee* mood..
u've got to reassess yourself and just decide what's best for u. i mean for all u know, just hanging on to those feelings but moving on with life could one day bring the both of u back. but the bottom line is.. *slap* snap out of the grieving mood... que sara sara, whatever will be will be.. u can't possibly control everything but u can definitely control how long u grieve. when i say grieve i mean the period where u just cry yourself to sleep everynight and just feel nonchalant about everything.. cut that out.. its enough carry on with life... u can still feel sad.. hey its normal... but if u continue carrying with this positive attitude.. u'll be bouncing back to normal soon enough.. take care dude and we'll always be here for u...right my fellow forumites?? -
time.Originally posted by ontrack:How will get over a long term relationship break up?
The relationship lasted for close to 5 years.
Any suggestions?
Try not to remind yourself to forget abt her.
Just let time do the work yea?
TIME~~~ -
slowly waiting for the next person..Originally posted by Lingos:Hmm.. not long.
as soon as you find the next person.
i think you never really forget the last one until you found someone else!
Anyway, just keep thinking of the bad times together and how much you hated that person. -
You will cry.
You will be angry.
You will be in grief.
You will even be tempted to contact her again.
For me, I felt all the above, and more. For 6 months, I was living in emptiness, thinking mostly of her. Things like, how many things we could have done, how we could still do many things, and how we could get back together, etc. But things were just not meant to be.
A few days ago, I lost control, and sent an sms her, telling her how much I missed her. She never replied, and the next day morning I saw her, she was just, well, herself. That reply never came. Of course, I never expected any reply from her. But deep down, I still hoped that she still felt something for me. However, circumstances showed me the answer.
That moment onwards, the final tie I felt that held me to her was finally severed. Initially, I felt empty, numb. I felt that I had finally hit rock bottom. And since there was no more way to go down, I went back up. By the end of the day, I felt as though something had been taken away from me. I felt relieved. I had never felt so relaxed for more than half a year. It was like all the grief and sorrow had been removed finally. I felt new. Refreshed. I could finally start anew.
These few days, there has been no relapse. So I believe the negative feelings are gone for good. And I will no longer want to get back together with her again.
So my point being, you will ask. My point is this. You need to do something/s that will make you severe the ties holding you to her. She most probably doesn't give a damn how you feel. Most probably she has no ties holding her to you. You can cry, you can be sad. But to stop the negative feelings from controlling your life, seek some ways to cut them off.
For me, that final cut was the last sms, and her no reply. For you, I dunno. You will know. And after you have done it, you will be released, just like me, and be able to start afresh.
I wish you well, and hope that you recover soon.
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Out of sight, out of mind.. think u need to totally not see each other for a period of time, helps heal faster.
