shd i be DISAPPOINTED & UPSET with my bf...?
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i dunno why but my bf has been going back on his word these days.
he always said he will buy this stuff for me or buy that stuff for me cos i like them. but somehow they never came true. wadever he has promised me at that time seems to be forgotten over time. (it's not that he doesn't have the money btw)
then last time he proposed and got promise me on v-day he'll appear at my doorstep with a bouquet of red roses to bring me out to celebrate. now that v-day is drawing near, he starts to make other plans instead. instead he wanna me to go look for him at his house instead. imagine a gal going to a guy's hse and bring him out on v-day instead!!!
when i sorta reminded him about this previous plan, he said he'll need to re-consider. 
why is it that he din fulfill whaever he has said to me. did he say them just for fun? but he looked serious when he said them to me. it's not that i crave after these things. it wont have mattered if he never said about buying them for me or doing something for me. but he did say and when his words never materialised, that's when it mattered and hurt.
shd i be disappointed and upset with him? or shd i forget it since the things he promised me are not cannot-do-without-with things. when i tried to talk to him about keeping his word, he in return tink i very materialistic and keep wanting him to buy stuff for me. but the point is that i never budged him to buy or do those stuff for me! he volunteered...!
very sad now....
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r u a young girl.... from wat u post makes me think dat u r very young.....
anyway no need to be upset or watever.... -
oh... den it means shd just leave things the way they are izit...?Originally posted by Me0w Me0w:r u a young girl.... from wat u post makes me think dat u r very young.....
anyway no need to be upset or watever.... -
You and ur bf how old?
Are ur schooling or? -
if u dun really need those things dat he said dat he want to buy for u then just forget it... but i noe girls will anyhow think how come last time he wiil buy but now never buy liao.... then u try to ask him again loh...... use another way to ask him... dun let him think dat u r materialistic lah.... for the v day thing maybe he has more romantic and wonderful plan leh....
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still schooling...Originally posted by ditzy:You and ur bf how old?
Are ur schooling or? -
things....
things....
i read the post, it seems like both are nowhere near mature enough to handle a lasting relationship -
hmmm how to use another way to ask him? any advice or suggestions?Originally posted by Me0w Me0w:if u dun really need those things dat he said dat he want to buy for u then just forget it... but i noe girls will anyhow think how come last time he wiil buy but now never buy liao.... then u try to ask him again loh...... use another way to ask him... dun let him think dat u r materialistic lah.... for the v day thing maybe he has more romantic and wonderful plan leh....
actually this is our 1st v-day together so i wanna it to be more romantic... but i feel dat i can't do this on my own... he everytime always leave things to me, let me decide...... at 1st i feel ok about this cos he maybe busy so i plan things by myself but gradually when it happens everytime and become a habit and i starting to feel that he's not putting in effort.... -
yes... i agree with bear....
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oh... den how would u define the maturity needed to handle a lasting rp?Originally posted by the Bear:things....
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i read the post, it seems like both are nowhere near mature enough to handle a lasting relationship -
At your age, its natural that you guys don't have much spending money. Should be understanding that if your bf ain't working, dun expect much. What he promise you he can definitely make it come true in time to come only. He still loves you definitely.Originally posted by Coco_Coco:still schooling... -
the way u talk.... the tone u using..... phrasing of the sentence.... it make alot of different..... and oso attitude....
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ermmm to be precise i'm the one who is still schooling and my bf is in NS...Originally posted by ditzy:At your age, its natural that you guys don't have much spending money. Should be understanding that if your bf ain't working, dun expect much. What he promise you he can definitely make it come true in time to come only. He still loves you definitely. -
oic... haiz i still young... i really need to build up on my level of maturity.... but how to do this???Originally posted by Me0w Me0w:the way u talk.... the tone u using..... phrasing of the sentence.... it make alot of different..... and oso attitude.... -
Guys will be guys lah. Its natural for a gal to feel that a guy ain't putting in the effort.Originally posted by Coco_Coco:hmmm how to use another way to ask him? any advice or suggestions?
actually this is our 1st v-day together so i wanna it to be more romantic... but i feel dat i can't do this on my own... he everytime always leave things to me, let me decide...... at 1st i feel ok about this cos he maybe busy so i plan things by myself but gradually when it happens everytime and become a habit and i starting to feel that he's not putting in effort....
All I'm getting my gf this v-day is a card with somethings i wrote inside. She loves flowers but she hates to see them wilt. So no flowers for her. She loves gifts from me but she hates seeing me spend unnecessarily on them.
By the way, love is definitely blind. -
u r too free liao so have time to anyhow think....
just be more considerate cos ur bf in ns... very stress one... everything takes time to learn.... -
NS is damn lousy pay. 100% he dun even have enough money for himself to use.Originally posted by Coco_Coco:ermmm to be precise i'm the one who is still schooling and my bf is in NS...
But its true that you're still at a tender age to realise what a real relationship is all about. But slowly you will.
You have to taste the bitter before you enjoy the sweet. -
a real relationship.... wad is its true meaning?Originally posted by ditzy:NS is damn lousy pay. 100% he dun even have enough money for himself to use.
But its true that you're still at a tender age to realise what a real relationship is all about. But slowly you will.
You have to taste the bitter before you enjoy the sweet.
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agree with ditzy..... so must learn to man zu.... dun ask for too much... happy can liao...
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izit zhi zu chang le...?Originally posted by Me0w Me0w:agree with ditzy..... so must learn to man zu.... dun ask for too much... happy can liao... -
yes...
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are you two on for long term as, planning to be together for good?
then got to learn to deal with the quirks each other have..
each has to learn to change for the better too...
have you been pressuring him? does he feel he has to make such promises? do you look for things from him? or does he just say things to make you happy? does he know you do not need him to buy you things?
stuff like that..Originally posted by Coco_Coco:a real relationship.... wad is its true meaning?
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True love, is very very very very very hard to find.Originally posted by Coco_Coco:a real relationship.... wad is its true meaning?
any personal experiences to share?
Its the one thing that you will enjoy the most and its the one thing that will hurt you the most.
I can tell you truthfully I have shed alot of tears to find the meaning of true love. I can tell you truthfully that I found it but one wrong move will cause me to lose it all.
Over time, you and your bf will truly understand what each other is looking for in a relationship. From what you described above, it still seems abit like honeymoon period. Beyond that, its really up to the 2 of you to make things work.
Its a really tough journey, but the rewards that you earn at the end of this journey can never be taken away by anybody else.
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thanks... i get wad u mean... but sometimes one can't help having a certain level of expectation...
and 1 thing is that he got give flowers to his ex and uso to the gals he wooed... but just not to me.... haiz....why huh....
haiz... i should really learn to take things easy ahz... otherwise really zi tao ku chi. -
agree with bear.....