V-DAy Hoo Ha...(a tot from me)
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Valentine's Day, does anyone know how it's derived?
Of cos! V-Day could mean business, cash, money to Steak Houses-Florist-Hotels-Restuarants-Godiva!!! /Chocolate Hawkers-Sex Shops~-Gift Shops-Card Shops-WomenÂ’s' Accessory Boutiques-Jeweler Boutiques and the list goes on and on.
But why is it that on this day, couples should get together and BE/Extra romantic specifically on the coming v-Day???
Puzzling to me.... I struggled to explain to my partner that she didn't need to have Special day to prove my love for her. She didn't need to have that day to see the presents I’ve ‘specially’ (emphasis) prepared for her, that'd seem as if my expensive gifts on any other days did not have as much magic/importance as the V-day gift.
If I were to love her.... any other day would be right. Other days could be just as loving.
She argued that if relationships on other days were fine and nice. Then V-day should be exceedingly Wonderful, Beautiful and stuff. A day when the loving woes could be said again.
However she also quoted that there's no need to spend much money on her...that I think the last comment is redundant. Heh.
Let's come back to real life.
How many couples in the world are looking forward for this day? My take is...
Almost majority of people would be planning for the 'special' day.
When two people can look eye to eye, smiling so sweetly as if that would be the only day they could do so.
Concluding Conclusion.
V-day happened to be such a powerful day for couples. Is because they thought it was made to become.
I could only think of one word for the cause of it. - Expectations.
Let me carefully say that majority of expectations comes from the female gender.
The female gender's expectations on this Day would influence/pressure the male gender to plan for something great.
Sub-consciously or Consciously, our culture and peers have placed this pressure onto
I felt indignant when there are people who get agitated or feeling upset over his/her partner not making enough effort to plan for V-Day. I personally think that it once again have proven that my point when V-day is led by expectations of people.
It doesnÂ’t really matter if you know the depth of what that day meant or not, but at least understand the rationale behind doing it.
The whole big point that I want to present is, what is this big HOO HAA about Valentines Day man? -
In an age of water-soluble marriages, is there a big hoo ha about a day which celebrates what is for a large part of the romatic population nothing more then overblown puppy love?
How many people who say that they *heart* their stead 4ever actually last even a year? -
Hey, you should have your tots posted here too!
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i thiNk it's to0 commErcialisEd n0w.
thE trUly happY peepS ce|ebrAting thiS dAy are thE fl0rists and reStaUrant oWneRs -
My question in return would be: Are you then going to make it a point to be less romantic on this one day of the year? If so, get over your cynicism - it's stunting your growth.
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Originally posted by Gedanken:
You're not getting me.
My question in return would be: Are you then going to make it a point to be [b]less romantic on this one day of the year? If so, get over your cynicism - it's stunting your growth.[/b]
Anyway...to answer you're question.
I'll be romantic as i've always been.
But not to work that up my partner's expectation sake.
Some people may enjoy doing so ....cos they might just be lucky and get their sweet bonus at night.
Haha...it's not really a cynicism....but rather, its a disturbing social movement. And yeah i'm growing well...thank you. -
MC2, please don't take that as any form of criticism of you - I was making a point against a reactionary approach to the mood of the season. For myself, if you take a look at the "V-Day.. Crap or the real deal?" thread in this forum, you will see that I hold similar views against the commercialisation of Valentine's Day.
If you're not going to be any less romantic than you are on the other 364 days of the year, that's excellent. What I'm talking about is the reactionistic approach to go completely against the trend.
However, if your girlfriend has a certain picture in her mind of how romantic this day should be, and if it were to be any more romantic than any other day of the year, would you indulge her? -
Hi Dunno Wat Maths Formula:
If u're oredi in love, & u're happee ev. day, then why Not juz celebrate V Day for fun?
Yesh, u dun need to, but why struggle so hard to "be different from the crowd"? : )
It's thgs like these tt add extra fun to a r'ship : ) So why Not? Juz make it such tt u pamper ur girl EXTRA MUCH!
RPOriginally posted by M©+square:
Valentine's Day, does anyone know how it's derived?
Of cos! V-Day could mean business, cash, money to Steak Houses-Florist-Hotels-Restuarants-Godiva!!! /Chocolate Hawkers-Sex Shops~-Gift Shops-Card Shops-WomenÂ’s' Accessory Boutiques-Jeweler Boutiques and the list goes on and on.
But why is it that on this day, couples should get together and BE/Extra romantic specifically on the coming v-Day???
Puzzling to me.... I struggled to explain to my partner that she didn't need to have Special day to prove my love for her. She didn't need to have that day to see the presents I’ve ‘specially’ (emphasis) prepared for her, that'd seem as if my expensive gifts on any other days did not have as much magic/importance as the V-day gift.
If I were to love her.... any other day would be right. Other days could be just as loving.
She argued that if relationships on other days were fine and nice. Then V-day should be exceedingly Wonderful, Beautiful and stuff. A day when the loving woes could be said again.
However she also quoted that there's no need to spend much money on her...that I think the last comment is redundant. Heh.
Let's come back to real life.
How many couples in the world are looking forward for this day? My take is...
Almost majority of people would be planning for the 'special' day.
When two people can look eye to eye, smiling so sweetly as if that would be the only day they could do so.
Concluding Conclusion.
V-day happened to be such a powerful day for couples. Is because they thought it was made to become.
I could only think of one word for the cause of it. - Expectations.
Let me carefully say that majority of expectations comes from the female gender.
The female gender's expectations on this Day would influence/pressure the male gender to plan for something great.
Sub-consciously or Consciously, our culture and peers have placed this pressure onto
I felt indignant when there are people who get agitated or feeling upset over his/her partner not making enough effort to plan for V-Day. I personally think that it once again have proven that my point when V-day is led by expectations of people.
It doesnÂ’t really matter if you know the depth of what that day meant or not, but at least understand the rationale behind doing it.
[b]The whole big point that I want to present is, what is this big HOO HAA about Valentines Day man?
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Hello Gekanken,Originally posted by Gedanken:MC2, please don't take that as any form of criticism of you - I was making a point against a reactionary approach to the mood of the season. For myself, if you take a look at the "V-Day.. Crap or the real deal?" thread in this forum, you will see that I hold similar views against the commercialisation of Valentine's Day.
If you're not going to be any less romantic than you are on the other 364 days of the year, that's excellent. What I'm talking about is the reactionistic approach to go completely against the trend.
However, if your girlfriend has a certain picture in her mind of how romantic this day should be, and if it were to be any more romantic than any other day of the year, would you indulge her?
no i wasn't getting too defensive over your statements.
In fact. It feels great for forumites like SingaporeTyrannosaur and yourself who prefers to indulge in threads which were more insightful or gives opportunity discuss topics indepth to read and comment on my thoughts.
Good or bad...it doesn't matter.
I'm glad that people from other forums read up posts in Aunt Agony!
Commercialisation in V-Day. The industries keeps getting better every year.
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My partner does have a perfect picture of how the day is going to be like.
She told me that one of her classmate had booked a package night stay in Carlton Hotel for his gf, looking so envious.
I explained to her that there's no need to spend for a room....there's nothing we could do expect to rest.
I'm glad that she agreed.
But i know she's still a girl...
Just dangerous when these expectations are spreading like wild fire.
When people just go 'Wah!!! Your Boyfriend/girlfriend is So Nice!!!'
Hey! Their bF/Gf are struggling to make V day a romantic day too! -
Hi, Princess.Originally posted by RainbowPrincess:Hi Dunno Wat Maths Formula:
If u're oredi in love, & u're happee ev. day, then why Not juz celebrate V Day for fun?
Yesh, u dun need to, but why struggle so hard to "be different from the crowd"? : )
It's thgs like these tt add extra fun to a r'ship : ) So why Not? Juz make it such tt u pamper ur girl EXTRA MUCH!
RP
Not struggling hard to be different. I'm just stating my tots, something which i observed in this tread.
I realised that i'm subtlely drawn into all these V Day thingy.
Maybe MTV awards is fun.
Maybe you can suggest how can i 'pamper ur girl EXTRA MUCH!' -
V Day means different thgs to ev. body. I'm Not sez'g u hafta adopt the attitude we haf in our r'ship : )
In the same way, it depends on ur girl wat she wld define as EXTRA MUCH pampering
This yr, to pamper me extra much, my guy actually had in mind to cook me a really nice dinner, then we were to match a DVD, sharing a blanket & peppermint choc chip ice cream & cuddling AND I'll get extra kisses too
Unfortunately, 2 days ago, his stupid boss called & told him he has to work on Sat, so he was really disappointed... No matter, we shifted our V Day celebration to Fri (which will be Sat in SG). So we'll be celebrating V Day wif the SGreans. Now tt's special, alrite, since I do miss my loved ones & frens in SG : )
RPOriginally posted by M©+square:Hi, Princess.
Not struggling hard to be different. I'm just stating my tots, something which i observed in this tread.
I realised that i'm subtlely drawn into all these V Day thingy.
Maybe MTV awards is fun.
Maybe you can suggest how can i 'pamper ur girl EXTRA MUCH!' -
i remember its actually cuz last time got this crazy king set this rule abt marraige or smth. so alot of ppl cannot get married. but this monk name valentine secretly married all of them on the same day. thus the vday
its a case for urban legends. heh -
squall happy valentine Day!
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no nid spend so much...something simple will do...like cook mi a simple meal...
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*nodz nodz*
Simple meals can be extra yummy : ) After eating all the rich food, sometimes all u wan is somethg qing1, like porridge
My personal fave is the Pork porridge, add 2 eggs
But I digress... After he's cooked u a meal, make it extra romantic by having him feed u As u watch him carefully blow on the food before spooning it into ur mouth, ur heart sure meltz
RPOriginally posted by ^mm^:no nid spend so much...something simple will do...like cook mi a simple meal... -
It's not a MUST or HOW.... But just a day to be reminded again of LOVE... Sometimes we lived, we walked... And we forget....
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Everyday should be valentine's day...
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x2.. everyday is v-day if u cherish the moment u both together.Originally posted by JeweL81:Everyday should be valentine's day... -
Originally posted by JeweL81:Everyday should be valentine's day...
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X2.Originally posted by Devil1976:It's not a MUST or HOW.... But just a day to be reminded again of LOVE... Sometimes we lived, we walked... And we forget....
V-day is purely a reminder to ponder more about love and relationship. You will be surprise by the number of people taking love for granted and this day is to 'remind' them. -
haiz... i'm facing the same problem as you. just that i'm the female party here. yepz yepz what u said is exactly what my bf said. i told him my hope that v-day would be romantic (cos it's our 1st v-day together) den he rebutted indignantly that my expectation is too high and i'm too idealistic and that v-day is just a passing day to him. haiz... wad can i do... just accept it and dun expect too much lohz...
haiz seems that guys really think the same (most on same wavelength ahz)... and of cos gals too.
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just to add a comment on here.... for my bf's case, it's no-no... no indulgence of me.Originally posted by Gedanken:MC2, please don't take that as any form of criticism of you - I was making a point against a reactionary approach to the mood of the season. For myself, if you take a look at the "V-Day.. Crap or the real deal?" thread in this forum, you will see that I hold similar views against the commercialisation of Valentine's Day.
If you're not going to be any less romantic than you are on the other 364 days of the year, that's excellent. What I'm talking about is the reactionistic approach to go completely against the trend.
However, if your girlfriend has a certain picture in her mind of how romantic this day should be, and if it were to be any more romantic than any other day of the year, would you indulge her? -
origin of valentine's day (source: www.yahoo.com)
The Catholic Church recognizes three different saints named Valentine who were martyred on February 14, and all date from very early in the church's history. One was a priest in Rome, another was the bishop of Interamna (modern-day Terni in Italy), and the third died in Africa. Some suggest the first two are the same person. The holiday was inspired by the bishop of Interamna or a combination of the bishop and the priest of Rome.
Many kind, sometimes miraculous acts are attributed to St. Valentine. One of the most popular legends concerns marriage. The reigning Roman emperor, Claudius, was recruiting soldiers to go to war, but many men didn't wish to leave their wives or girlfriends, so the emperor outlawed new marriages. Valentine defied him by secretly marrying couples, which earned Valentine a prison sentence and, ultimately, death. Another tale (sometimes mixed in with the first one) recounts Valentine's stay in prison, during which he cured the jailer's daughter of blindness. He fell in love with the woman and sent her a final letter signed "from your Valentine." This is why lovers call each other their "valentine."
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Happy Valentine Day to AH MA!!!!Originally posted by Ah Ma:squall happy valentine Day! -
hmmmz... farmer's in this thread now.. haha
k... v-day.. i'm not pro v-day.. neither am i anti v-day. i think it was quite sexist of u to say that the ladies apply the pressure on men. i think its a two way thing and i'm not sayin its wrong. u guys might think i'm anti vday cause of my thread "Vday? Crap or the real deal" but my case is that v-day is a day to celebrate LOVE. not just romance.
i hope u all can distinguish the difference. in addition, i think u shouldn't have rebuked your gf so strongly about vday. i mean its a day of importance to her. though it isn't to u, u should atleast respect that and not try to change her views. the least u could do is change your perspective that vday is just any other day.. and that u coincidentally decided to do something extra on that day. whats wrong with going that extra mile eh? haha.. and as gendy and RP are doing on this vday, its something simple nothing super extravagant. yet it generates that warmth and affection that connects two souls in mysterious ways...
well.. i hope u and your gf have a wonderful vday in your own special way.. cheers!!