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yes?Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm...
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oh dear..Originally posted by Prec|ous:Annoucement : We haf break up. He say he is very pressurize..he realli dun haf time to commit in BGR rite now..He told me that he heart had not change but we are still frenz.
it's a sad and miserable feeling to be out of love..
take care of yourself..
give both of you some time to think things through.. someday both of you will find happiness again
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Dun think we will think thru also....he still got say we should haf break that time & no chance given. all craps.. i think after a few mths later, he will find a beta ger than me more...someone who wun quarrel wif him, more understanding, nice & caring etc. I think im realli no gd lor, if not, it wun haf resulted in this way. i dun hope for anything rite now. i only blame myselfOriginally posted by sillyme:oh dear..
it's a sad and miserable feeling to be out of love..
take care of yourself..
give both of you some time to think things through.. someday both of you will find happiness again -
if someone doesn't appreciate you for who you are, then it's no point yearning for his love.. if he cannot accept who you are, how long will the relationship last?Originally posted by Prec|ous:Dun think we will think thru also....he still got say we should haf break that time & no chance given. all craps.. i think after a few mths later, he will find a beta ger than me more...someone who wun quarrel wif him, more understanding, nice & caring etc. I think im realli no gd lor, if not, it wun haf resulted in this way. i dun hope for anything rite now. i only blame myself
what's important for you now is to heal your broken heart.. and come out stronger -
appreciate me is one thing. I still nid to changed n improved. i cant let o so, but wat can i do? i realli cant imagine next time he will be holding others hand, sleeping wif them, having a r/s wif them......Originally posted by sillyme:if someone doesn't appreciate you for who you are, then it's no point yearning for his love.. if he cannot accept who you are, how long will the relationship last?
what's important for you now is to heal your broken heart.. and come out stronger -
so i hope you come out of this stronger..Originally posted by Prec|ous:appreciate me is one thing. I still nid to changed n improved. i cant let o so, but wat can i do? i realli cant imagine next time he will be holding others hand, sleeping wif them, having a r/s wif them......
it may take you days, weeks, months or even years to get over this.. if you think this relationship is worth salvaging, stand and fight for it..
if not, take the bite and let it go.. sometimes you can't help it but imagine things.. you imagine that he's with someone else and many other things.. but then, you'll realise that it isn't gonna help.. it's not gonna help to keep on worrying..
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Thanks for it.. i will try...even if is the r/s is worth salvaging, but he wun gif me the chance, it is pointless only. I think we both nid peace for all the happenings especially him. If one fine day, he still haf me in his heart, he will be back. If he is fated to be mine, he will be mine, if not..haiz...but i dun think he will wann continue wif me anymore since he say until like that we should haf break last time. he shouldnt be given me chances n i think he proved that his theory is correct. Im not gd enuff for him to maintance the whole r/s. He wun haf time for me. I really regretted for supporting him wif this job as well. Everything changes...why everytime when i reall put effort into a r/s, it strains. Other couple could alway break n patch break n patch n therefore live happily everafter.But not mine...Originally posted by sillyme:so i hope you come out of this stronger..
it may take you days, weeks, months or even years to get over this.. if you think this relationship is worth salvaging, stand and fight for it..
if not, take the bite and let it go.. sometimes you can't help it but imagine things.. you imagine that he's with someone else and many other things.. but then, you'll realise that it isn't gonna help.. it's not gonna help to keep on worrying..
live on and you'll be fine
I noe i should move on, im doing so...but at heart matters, i dun think that will heal fast.Im juz a pathetic failure whose veridct is death penalty now. Thanks for all ppl here giving me all advices to n fro, realli appreciated all.. thanks again -
we're all here to help
you're not a failure until you give up on yourself.. so don't give up! -
I think i should go n cool myslef down n relect or soul searching wat had gone wrong...other things can come later if got fateOriginally posted by sillyme:we're all here to help
you're not a failure until you give up on yourself.. so don't give up! -
How old are you? Comings and goings are part of life... You can't really blame on yourself... Then again, you can if you want to?Originally posted by Prec|ous:yes?
I feel that at this point it's of not much use to tell you much... One fine day you'll just walk out of it... And of course you can choose to drag on and this day might seemingly be forever for you...
I tell you now you also probably won't understand? When the day is here you'll see? Ask around the others in this forum? Some of them are sort of like you... Till they realise life is much more than just that point of their life?
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Hear hear!Originally posted by Devil1976:How old are you? Comings and goings are part of life... You can blame on yourself... Then again, you can if you want to?
I feel that at this point it's of not much use to tell you much... One fine day you'll just walk out of it... And of course you can choose to drag on and this day might seemingly be forever for you...
I tell you now you also probably won't understand? When the day is here you'll see? Ask around the others in this forum? Some of them are sort of like you... Till they realise life is much more than just that point of their life? -
Things are not always your fault. One should nvr go into a r/s expecting another person to change.
Yes, it will take time to get over. And it takes lots of courage and guts to lead life on ur own again. Luv urself...for if even u wil not luv urself then who will. I took a very long time to get over my first luv....4 yrs, and I was miserable for 4 yrs. But after 4 yrs, when my ex tried to get back together with me...I finally look ovr the r/s after 4 yrs, i realise we were nvr meant to be and will nvr be.I was too possessive and he needed the kind of freedom which I will nvr be able to give and he would nvr have the kind of time which I needed a guy to commit in a r/s with me. In fact, I should nvr change him...he will be happier the way he is. So I rejected him...and then suddenly the whole burden was taken of me.
Look at me....I m now happily married with kids. After my ex, I nvr thought I could find someone. I was cautious to a new r/s for a very long time. But my husband, then boyfriend was patient, kind and perserved. He gave me time to slowly accept a new relationship and I found someone who was willing to commit the time to nurturing a r/s w me. Yes, my husband and I are bz, I work close to 12 hrs a day, he works too and many times overnight, but we make sacrifices just to sustain the r/s. Yes...I luv my hubby more n more each day. My ex....he became my very good friend...he is also happily married to a woman who does not need him to commit time. I m good friends w his wife too....and when I look at her, I realise I will not be able to be like her, she is truely meant for him.
Now looking back, the first relationship didn't work out not because I was at fault or he was at fault. We just had different views on what was to be committed into a relationship, if anyone had changed our views for the other, we would have been miserable. Yes, in a relationship, couples do compromise sometimes, but nvr to the point u become uncomfortable...or feel that is not worth it. And it takes two to clap.
No one is asking u to start a new r/s. But just don't close ur heart when the next one comes along...u nvr know....the next one might be the right one. I m not asking u not to cry, do cry...vent ur frustrations and allow time for ur heart to heal.
Remember, there are always pple who luv u and care for u. -
NICE... Thanks...Originally posted by lyling:Things are not always your fault. One should nvr go into a r/s expecting another person to change.
Yes, it will take time to get over. And it takes lots of courage and guts to lead life on ur own again. Luv urself...for if even u wil not luv urself then who will. I took a very long time to get over my first luv....4 yrs, and I was miserable for 4 yrs. But after 4 yrs, when my ex tried to get back together with me...I finally look ovr the r/s after 4 yrs, i realise we were nvr meant to be and will nvr be.I was too possessive and he needed the kind of freedom which I will nvr be able to give and he would nvr have the kind of time which I needed a guy to commit in a r/s with me. In fact, I should nvr change him...he will be happier the way he is. So I rejected him...and then suddenly the whole burden was taken of me.
Look at me....I m now happily married with kids. After my ex, I nvr thought I could find someone. I was cautious to a new r/s for a very long time. But my husband, then boyfriend was patient, kind and perserved. He gave me time to slowly accept a new relationship and I found someone who was willing to commit the time to nurturing a r/s w me. Yes, my husband and I are bz, I work close to 12 hrs a day, he works too and many times overnight, but we make sacrifices just to sustain the r/s. Yes...I luv my hubby more n more each day. My ex....he became my very good friend...he is also happily married to a woman who does not need him to commit time. I m good friends w his wife too....and when I look at her, I realise I will not be able to be like her, she is truely meant for him.
Now looking back, the first relationship didn't work out not because I was at fault or he was at fault. We just had different views on what was to be committed into a relationship, if anyone had changed our views for the other, we would have been miserable. Yes, in a relationship, couples do compromise sometimes, but nvr to the point u become uncomfortable...or feel that is not worth it. And it takes two to clap.
No one is asking u to start a new r/s. But just don't close ur heart when the next one comes along...u nvr know....the next one might be the right one. I m not asking u not to cry, do cry...vent ur frustrations and allow time for ur heart to heal.
Remember, there are always pple who luv u and care for u. Do stick around with us? -
Do you want me to close this thread for you?Originally posted by Prec|ous:This thread is closed.