Should i end the frenship?
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Ok guys, i'm going for work now. Keep ur suggestions coming n. I'll check it when i'm back from work. You all really made my day by helping me solve my prob. Thanks a million.
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Can you live with the regret that you will never know if the two of you could have been together if only you had confessed your feelings to him?Originally posted by Foolish Gal:I think my pride is preventing me from confessing to him.....
If he don't like me, it will be very awkward for me to face him n his fren next time
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Originally posted by Foolish Gal:Hi all, this is my first time posting in this forum. I need help from those out there who are experiencing the same prob with me either now or b4 or anyone who can help me.
I have been liking this guy for 7 years. At first it's jus a crush but as days grew by, i love him more n more. In order for me to control my feelings for him, i ask him to b my god bro but it doesn't seems to be helping. I sacrificed a lot for him, when he got prob, i'll be by his side to console him even if i'm very tired. I'm always willing to do whatever he ask me to do. But recently i found out that he likes a girl n i'm very sad. I know it's no use being sad cos he had told me that he only treat me as a sis. That's why i have the urge to end this frenship bcos i noe that i won't be able to face him if he really go into a relationship with other girls n it will be easier for me to forget him too. If we continue to be frens i won't be able to 4get him. It's hard for me to put up a brave self infront of him when i'm actually bleeding inside. What should i do? Does anyone encourage me to end the frenship or any beeter solutions?
7 years? Usually with regular contacts, love would have vanished and stable friendship would have form and crystalized. After a long period of time, normally, one side cannot picture themselves having a relationship with the other. Sometimes, it's because they are so used to them being as friends, others, purely because of platonic purposes.
I have to say this: Your initial decision to become 'sibling' relationship is a route you took to foster better relationship with him subconsciously. Its like a stairs - when you walk finish level 2, you can't just remain there. You created your own dimension of relationship through 'kor-mei' relationship and in your heart, you wished to get closer to him. So you were around when he was down and all that. But your plan backfired because you ended up nowhere.
Now that you realise all this effort was in vain to get him, you rather retreat beause you can't take the full blow to see him getting intimate with other girls. This is physical evidence of my point above because if you return back to the original objective of having this 'sibling' relationship with him is for your emotional control as you claim to do so - it has never serve its purpose at all.
You should have already woke up and prick your bubble dreams many years back. Your hope is constantly fed by your subconscious desire, even though the result has already been set. This is a classic case of people following their heart and dull their mind - so now, have you gain anything? Reject possible suitors? Pro-long unneccessary emotional hurts?
P.S: Stop this. Its time to leave your self-conjured shelter just to make sure he is well everyday and learn to plan your own route now. Don't even have to end this friendship because friendship are priceless - end your overwhelming hope and desire. Stop catering to his wants and needs and carve out a fresh life. Explore other options and alternative.
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Hey yunhaier, wat you say is really true lor. I can see why i'm reacting that way at the beginning...why i decided to start as bro n sis first. You r rite, i shld break all the bubbles that i've been blowing for the past few yrs.
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Heh....a girl who knows subconciously but never had the courage to tap on that forbidden solution. Till Master Yun unleashed his divine sword and show her the way......Originally posted by Foolish Gal:Hey yunhaier, wat you say is really true lor. I can see why i'm reacting that way at the beginning...why i decided to start as bro n sis first. You r rite, i shld break all the bubbles that i've been blowing for the past few yrs.
Another success by Master Yun. -
You made me sound like a taoist vampire hunter that rings bell in the night to walk the vampires with talisman on their forehead.Originally posted by M?square:Heh....a girl who knows subconciously but never had the courage to tap on that forbidden solution. Till Master Yun unleashed his divine sword and show her the way......
Another success by Master Yun.
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Originally posted by Foolish Gal:Hey yunhaier, wat you say is really true lor. I can see why i'm reacting that way at the beginning...why i decided to start as bro n sis first. You r rite, i shld break all the bubbles that i've been blowing for the past few yrs. Sources of love misery always come from ourselves. We are so self-absorbed that we concentrate on worshipping our target, unaware of the consequence or refusal of long term intangible benefits.
Foolish girl? You should begin anew by registering a new nick because the old you should have vanish by now.
Welcome to Aunt Agony. Enjoy your stay.
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Everytime Master Yun comes out, all the advices can stop le.
Frankly, i am very enlightened by your every single post to help people in agony even though i'm not the person on the receiving end. I'm pretty amaze by the way you put things into perspective.
*Thumbs up* *Applause*
You're good!
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Psss...Originally posted by AdAptAliS:Everytime Master Yun comes out, all the advices can stop le.
Frankly, i am very enlightened by your every single post to help people in agony even though i'm not the person on the receiving end. I'm pretty amaze by the way you put things into perspective.
*Thumbs up* *Applause*
You're good!
/me whisper "Thanks for the post. As planned, I will send your cheque later. I will cash it into your bank account.' -
"ok ok. I'll be waiting."Originally posted by Yunhaier:Psss...
/me whisper "Thanks for the post. As planned, I will send your cheque later. I will cash it into your bank account.'
"Do it in small denominations, if not will rouse suspicions"
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its like comparing a forest of small trees to a lone big tree. because you have been investing all your fertilizer onto this lone big tree and neglecting the other small trees, you feel great loss when this big tree fails to bear fruit. but take heart that its not too late to start cultivating your own forest of small trees from now on. invest your fertilizer evenly on each of the small trees and see how they blossom before choosing the healthiest one among them. don't stop giving fertilizer to that big tree. just don't pamper it with too much but share unbiasedly among the others. because for all you know, this big tree may just be a late bloomer.Originally posted by Foolish Gal:Ya i noe " bu yao wei yi ke shu fang qi zhe ge sen lin" but i never own a forest, in my eyes there's only one tree.