My stead doesn't wanna forgive me.

• lovinghurts

  2 Mar 04, 20:27

  Hi Guys,
  
  I've been together with my current stead for abt 6 mths already. During the second month, i did sth that i knew i shouldnt have done. I really regret it alot now. I went out wif a girl and the gal held hands with me. Its not really as in hold hand. She juz held onto my arm. But i didn't do anything.
  
  I remember telling my stead that she did hold my hand. And hugged me at the end when i was taking cab. but she insistefd that i didn't tell her. She also say that i lie to her and she doesn't even want to talk to me now.
  
  Since yesterday night when i send her home, she have been ignoring me until today. All the smses i send her, she only replied 8 or 9 smses. Cuz of my remedial today, i couldn't goto her school and wait for her to finish school. Therefore, after my remedial, i went to her house and waited for her.
  
  In the beginning, when i told her that i was going to her house, she say dun need. Shes already at home. Then when i reached her house downstairs, she said that she is not at home and ask me to "GO HOME!". After that, i knew that she was at home. Then, i stayed downstairs and she came down with her mom.
  
  In the end, i had to run. I ran into the lift and went up to 12 storey. Then i told her that i will wait for her. But ask her not to be afraid cuz no one will see me there. She keep on asking me to "GO HOME ! I DUN WANNA SEE YOU !". I say that i will continue waiting for her even if she feels that i'm irritating.
  
  Then all of a sudden, she smsed me and say that "GO HOME LARX.. i also neber say going to break wif you.. GO LAR !". Then i had no choice but to go home. I dunno whether does she realli mean it or wad. But.. until now.. I call her, she hang up. I sms her she never reply. I msg her in MSN, she also never reply.
  
  I really do not know what to do and our six month anniversary is coming soon. I really treasure this relationship alot and hope that she will forgive me. Can anyone tell me what to do ?
  
  Thanks,
  Mark
• AdAptAliS

  2 Mar 04, 20:42

  Was reading and feeling sorry for both of you. But guess your sigg answered a lot.
• sgFish

  2 Mar 04, 20:45

  6 month anniversary? 6 month of going steady arh? how long you know her for?
• Farmer Brown

  2 Mar 04, 20:48

  uh...i'm sorry but... u really dun have to do all that. she's gonna be put of by it and if she does forgive u thru your "actions", its out of pity not out of forgiveness. Yea she's pissed but u dun have to go to that extent. All u need to do is let her know you're sorry sincerely and that you only have eyes for her. Doing those kinda crazy things show you're obsessive, freaky, insane, loony, nuts and would really really scare some people away.
  
  first of all. why did u let her hold on to you? were u crossin the road? was a herd of bulls running past her? was she going to fall over a ten km cliff? u know what i'm driving at don't you. yea some girls find u irresistable and all but u should know better to gently nudge her away instead of letting her hang on. next. if she's a really good friend, she should know you're attached and just keep her hands to herself. about the hug, i do get hugs from friends(girls) from time to time irregardless of whether either of us are attached. but if your girl is the type that gets jealous at the sight of u smiling at a girl, please... either u tell your gf to grow up or just stop huggin them. i'm sure your gf will be ok with a handshake(which is also a sign of friendship)
  
  girls get jealous at these sorta things so you should be expecting that kinda reaction from your girlfriend. even if u did tell her all that, the most is she'll take a bit longer to realise she needs to get jealous. but the thing is. if she really likes you, she'll forgive u eventually as long as u show you are genuinely sorry and have truly given your heart to her.
  
  she'll forgive you in a few days time but in the meanwhile...just show you're sorry..not that you're a loony
  
  
• lovinghurts

  2 Mar 04, 20:48

  I known her for 8 mths.. stead for 6 mths le.. i know some of you find it short.. but i really treasure tis relationship alot. so plz help.. thankx..
• lovinghurts

  2 Mar 04, 21:00

  okiex.. thanks. i juz hope that she wun continue ignoring me for as long as she wants.
  
  about the holding hands one.. i admit it was my fault.. sometimes its juz normal reaction. but now i know i shouldn't do it anymore. juz really hope n pray for her forgivness.
  
  thanks..
• I-like-flings(m)

  2 Mar 04, 21:07

  wah lau.. puppy love leh 6 mth only.... haha. anyway.. u got learn any thing from this?????? the moral is... never tell gf the truth about this kind of things... they die die will remember it one...they will forgive but not forget
• claud

  2 Mar 04, 21:16

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  I known her for 8 mths.. stead for 6 mths le.. i know some of you find it short.. but i really treasure tis relationship alot. so plz help.. thankx..

  as u said ur 6th mth anni is coming.. do the best u can for this special day, some how or another, she will be touched.. must be damn sure its special & touching.. its a always a gals soft spot
• lovinghurts

  2 Mar 04, 21:21

  What i'm afraid of:
  
  1) She'll break wif me even b4 our 6 mth anniversary.
  
  2) She might not want to go out wif me on tat day.
  
  3) I dunno what to do to make that day special.
  
  
• KeN3

  2 Mar 04, 21:21

  Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):

  wah lau.. puppy love leh 6 mth only.... haha. anyway.. u got learn any thing from this?????? the moral is... never tell gf the truth about this kind of things... they die die will remember it one...they will forgive but not forget

  wah, sounds like sme expert at work...
• lovinghurts

  2 Mar 04, 21:24

  In the meantime,
  
  Should i continue smsing her ?
  
  or
  
  Should i not bother about her ?
• AaLviNn

  2 Mar 04, 21:26

  you should know better than to go out with a girl 1on1 when you have a gf. maybe your gf felt that she couldn't trust you as much anymore. which girl will like her boy to go out with another girl.. whether she held your hand, or you held hers, i think that's beside the point.. i hope you guys will settle this misunderstanding soon, and don't repeat your mistakes...
• I-like-flings(m)

  2 Mar 04, 21:27

  Originally posted by KeN3:

  wah, sounds like sme expert at work...

  kena dump and hurt too many time what. haha..... anyway... about your signature.. haha "with pride we lead"...... my batch always added " got time we sleep" "got banana we eat" haha.. heard b4??
• AaLviNn

  2 Mar 04, 21:28

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  In the meantime,
  
  Should i continue smsing her ?
  
  or
  
  Should i not bother about her ?

  she didn't want to pick up ur fone, maybe bcos she wanted to have some time for herself. maybe to cool down before she makes an impulsive decision. i'm sure u don't want that..
  
  you can leave her an sms, telling her to have a good night's rest, and you'll sms/call her again tomorrow. and maybe also how sorry you are... i dunno.. all these depends on u..
• WrX_STi

  2 Mar 04, 22:07

  on the 1st hand, the ger held ur arms u shld do smthing liao mah.. u are attach and dis things dun work well for ur gf lor..
  
  gers kinda get petty very fast when u talk about another girls.. moreover its the ger who held ur arm.. more jialat rite..
  
  right now, let her cool down b4 solving the problem. sovling problem with hot heads wont help, will make the matter worst. and prepare to listen to each others, let one finish 1st b4 interupting..
  
  last, gd luck to u.. ( girls sometimes need to pamper abit. )
• WrX_STi

  2 Mar 04, 22:10

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  What i'm afraid of:
  
  1) She'll break wif me even b4 our 6 mth anniversary.
  
  2) She might not want to go out wif me on tat day.
  
  3) I dunno what to do to make that day special.
  
  

  surprise her on the 6mth annivasary..
  order 1 flower send to her home..
• WrX_STi

  2 Mar 04, 22:13

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  In the meantime,
  
  Should i continue smsing her ?
  
  or
  
  Should i not bother about her ?

  drop her 1 or 2 msg a day lor.. dun bomb her coz she will feel very irritated and piss.. let her cool down at the moment..
• dumbdumb!

  2 Mar 04, 22:17

  i'd tell u serves you right, but tts too cruel.
  
  why u nv shake her off when she hug u?
  
  does she know u are attached?
• Farmer Brown

  2 Mar 04, 22:20

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  In the meantime,
  
  Should i continue smsing her ?
  
  or
  
  Should i not bother about her ?

  i can't really tell u what to do... u need to put yourself in her shoes then u might get a feel of what to do
• Yunhaier

  3 Mar 04, 01:46

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  Hi Guys,
  
  I've been together with my current stead for abt 6 mths already. During the second month, i did sth that i knew i shouldnt have done. I really regret it alot now. I went out wif a girl and the gal held hands with me. Its not really as in hold hand. She juz held onto my arm. But i didn't do anything.
  
  I remember telling my stead that she did hold my hand. And hugged me at the end when i was taking cab. but she insistefd that i didn't tell her. She also say that i lie to her and she doesn't even want to talk to me now.
  
  Since yesterday night when i send her home, she have been ignoring me until today. All the smses i send her, she only replied 8 or 9 smses. Cuz of my remedial today, i couldn't goto her school and wait for her to finish school. Therefore, after my remedial, i went to her house and waited for her.
  
  In the beginning, when i told her that i was going to her house, she say dun need. Shes already at home. Then when i reached her house downstairs, she said that she is not at home and ask me to "GO HOME!". After that, i knew that she was at home. Then, i stayed downstairs and she came down with her mom.
  
  In the end, i had to run. I ran into the lift and went up to 12 storey. Then i told her that i will wait for her. But ask her not to be afraid cuz no one will see me there. She keep on asking me to "GO HOME ! I DUN WANNA SEE YOU !". I say that i will continue waiting for her even if she feels that i'm irritating.
  
  Then all of a sudden, she smsed me and say that "GO HOME LARX.. i also neber say going to break wif you.. GO LAR !". Then i had no choice but to go home. I dunno whether does she realli mean it or wad. But.. until now.. I call her, she hang up. I sms her she never reply. I msg her in MSN, she also never reply.
  
  I really do not know what to do and our six month anniversary is coming soon. I really treasure this relationship alot and hope that she will forgive me. Can anyone tell me what to do ?
  
  Thanks,
  Mark

  You must be very young.
  
  Went out with girl, nothing wrong.
  
  Even if she held your arm - nothing wrong. (Seriously)
  
  Then she hug you. I still don't see what's the big hoo-haa about it.
  
  And the craze thing is that you actually told your gf about it - like you held her hands, etc.
  
  If there is one thing you have to learn from this it would be this: You only tell her if you are feeling gulity about things - if you percieve this scenario by not betraying her emotionally (which is to fall for her) and that all the physical thingy is merely act of good friendship - there's no need to mention anything. There is a good difference between censoring of information and telling a lie. Telling a lie means being questioned and you replied with UNTRUTH. Censoring simply means not initiating to convey.
  
  It can be your best friend, your god-sister, your friends's gf or any other girl in your social network. By mentioning any form of physical thingy you had in words (both written or expressed) to your gf, you are out of your mind. You are not a girl; you will never imagine the power of jealousy that exist in every girl. These amount of energy is enough to destroy themselves and wrack much havoc in your life to call for mercy.
  
  Cheers
• BrUtUs

  3 Mar 04, 01:57

  Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):

  wah lau.. puppy love leh 6 mth only.... haha. anyway.. u got learn any thing from this?????? the moral is... never tell gf the truth about this kind of things... they die die will remember it one...they will forgive but not forget

  agree but when they find out... the end...
• RaiNtReE

  3 Mar 04, 02:07

  hhhmmm....... u are in deep trouble... hehe... shall not dig u on tat... firstly i wanna say all views i give is juz my personal feeling on this lar so no cfm tat she will think the same way...
  i think all u can do now is treat her ultra nice and stuff like tat... buy her stuff and make her happy... but pls.... if she say go away... pls dun wait for her downstair her block like some stalker!! its damn irritating for a gal... and u already made a mistake to run when u see her mom... her mom will nv haf a gd impression of u... i feel tat if u are really sincere... u should stay and let her mom scold u or wat loh.... her mom wun kill u also wat...
  if u continue pissing her off only make her give up on u... i dun think u wan tat to happen... actually last time my ex and me break liao he still got abit of chance de... he come my hse downstairs wait lar... i dun go down he stay there for dunno how many donkey years den in the end say i dun go down he go let car knock... i say go ahead den he come up knock door and dun wanna leave... its tat time tat i get totally pissed... hope tat doesnt happen to u
• boy in blues

  3 Mar 04, 05:00

  Originally posted by BrUtUs:

  agree but when they find out... the end...

  if you tell her... the end. if she finds out... also the end. so which do you choose? for me, i will never confess.
• boy in blues

  3 Mar 04, 05:10

  Originally posted by lovinghurts:

  In the meantime,
  
  Should i continue smsing her ?
  
  or
  
  Should i not bother about her ?

  you've probably said or tried to say all you had to. so don't annoy her anymore by bombing her SMS and such. let her cool down and let the memory fade a little 1st. meanwhile, get to know other girls and get on with your life happily. but don't let her know that. there are too many better girls out there to waste precious time on someone who refuses to respond. so who cares about her? next.
• lovinghurts

  3 Mar 04, 06:29

  i juz smsed her wishing her good morning.. and askin her nt to ignore me anymore. but.. no reply. .