Advisable to hav a GF if doesn't earn much???
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A single n available male Chinese Singaporean at my mid 20s earnin slightly above 1.5k. Not veri attractive but not very jia luck also. It is time for me to settle down???
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ditto....
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u may settle down with a ger tt can provide for herself
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hypothetically, are u gotta be the sole breadwinner?
if yes, i would say hard, very hard. but not impossible. -
ya very hard....
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why not.... work hard together wif her...can be done
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sorry to say but its kinda hard..nowadays earnin $1.5k only can survive 1 ppl if u wanna get married ,ya wife gonna wk oso lor..imagine got children how? muz pay so much things..house, milk powder,bills etc...
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1.5k cannot survive 2 people lah... unless both of u everyday scrimp and save. maybe should wait another few more years... see whether got improvements...
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can one lah.. i know alot of ppl doing that now.. just that u wont have 5Cs lah... but as long as u are happy then ok what... if not..... move to JB lah.. then come back to sg work everyday... i know ppl that do that too... so they got 3000 to spend over there. haha.. got house and car.. no problem. hahaOriginally posted by He77AnGeL:sorry to say but its kinda hard..nowadays earnin $1.5k only can survive 1 ppl if u wanna get married ,ya wife gonna wk oso lor..imagine got children how? muz pay so much things..house, milk powder,bills etc... -
kaoz so chiam for wat everyday move in n out of JB jus to have a better life..Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):can one lah.. i know alot of ppl doing that now.. just that u wont have 5Cs lah... but as long as u are happy then ok what... if not..... move to JB lah.. then come back to sg work everyday... i know ppl that do that too... so they got 3000 to spend over there. haha.. got house and car.. no problem. haha -
Ask the government? If wife not working, husband has to give maintenance... Have to give maintenance to children... Who wanna give birth? No wonder people say Singaporean guys are out of the league...?Originally posted by He77AnGeL:sorry to say but its kinda hard..nowadays earnin $1.5k only can survive 1 ppl if u wanna get married ,ya wife gonna wk oso lor..imagine got children how? muz pay so much things..house, milk powder,bills etc...
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Only if you want to settle down.Originally posted by BellySiaoOn:A single n available male Chinese Singaporean at my mid 20s earnin slightly above 1.5k. Not veri attractive but not very jia luck also. It is time for me to settle down???
There is never a "right time" or "right situation". It depends on the girl you are with now and what stage you are in your life. Even when money is not an issue with me now.
So when you've found the right person, it doesn't depend on how much money you have or something. It's what you and her feel. -
Hmm...$1,5k if get gf can mah..(((provided she stay at her hm.noting wrong at al)))),but is the later part, if u still $1.5 but going to live together or married to settle down...
then......................
$1.5 k is not enough,i almost living wid my other half for bout 5 yrs. $1.5 k really not enough....u say u mid 20s.about 26?i 22 nia, but i share wid u wat i gone through..some may sound offensive but its the facts if u wan to settle down wid $1.5k if she never work. but i tel u the facts of the can say is cohibiting lah.The reply is al i went through,almose ROM & til getting a house for we 2...
1.)If u smoke lik me, i day $9.50 liao, i month is $285,
2.)No need to eat ah? U expect to eat wat, maggie mee?porriage?even i so rubbish i also bring my other half to eat in cryatal jade,jap resturant, the IGOR's at kallang(at $70 per person),at night lea, dun tel me u dun chiong,or go out, at night go home den eat?if u & her female friends go out eat, is normal tat a guy pay mah, i can say if eat hawker cte, so oily, her friends sure will say tings behind u lah...lik me, i'm not rich,i rather dun eat but let my other half hv better meal,tat is cal "fu chu" a typical meal for 2 is at least $25 in a better place....al least must sometime bring her go blow sea wind,eat seafood ,den u no car, taxi got midnight charge,also money....ya..the parsir ris park, the " elisers park"(dunno how to spell),stingrey $10(so little, where can full),drinks-$3,vegatables-$6-$8,dun tel me u eat lik tat only,2 rice, i vegatables, i stingrey? a meal can set u $30 to $40 liao...
3.)Move to JB, u wan to let ur wife to live there mea?not say low standerts but make her travell here & there?tink bout it,if she pregnent, u wan her sit bus push here push there ah?Bus 170 lea.Although getting a car in singapore very "bo hua" but something is "bo bian"tat's y i every month tahan til"face abit green"lolsome time can...but if R lik me as in my other post u red,the "powerful quotes needed tat 1, den u know ,i really siao"
4.)U get a house in singapore, 2nd hand normal 4 room at $195k to $220 k.monthly how much instalments, pub bills?hp bills? who give?you get $1.5 k /mth, after u eat, transportation /etc, u need to save how long den can pay for the house deposit.but if u rich den i go noting to say lar, or ur parents give 1st...den u very lucky.
5.)Raising a child in singapore is not cheap, 1st month after ur wife gv birth, the nanny come is counting at $1k & above,pampers not cheap, unless u willing to wash the cloth diapers lar, milk power is also not cheap,not is not lik last time i tin the wat Dumax cheap & so big tin, now 1 milk power tin so small so expensive,u would'nt wan to gv ur child entry level milk power rite..
6.)mayb after u read te above, u tink tat abit"siong",but if she pregnent lea???(my other half go for abortion,cos i dun want my child to come into this world to suffer,i know i very rubbish,but in the mist of it, u also must get her te best)ppl go for class B 3 or class C,but i go for class A,cos some hospital dun allow ppl to stay, some can depend...class A single,air-con, u wan do wat can do wat, i stay wid her through the whole process,eating wah lan,,so expensive, but a tip, pay hospital & eat their food, cheaper by bout $20 for 5 days.u need to provide $500 cash money to let them deposit if u choose class A,den te rest Medisave,den they return u the $500 deposit when she leave te hospital....abortions is not really lik wat u see in video tapes,so fake, i also can act,its VERY VERY VERY the painful,they insert dunno wat tablet that make ur other half womb contract,i see liao also regretted wat i done,it wil automatic tears come down,seeing ur other half suffer,i ask doctor how is te pain lik.is it lik tattoo?cos i got tatto mah, she say no, is lik decay tooth,if u got decay tooth b4, den u wil know liao..tat time i still dunno,till 1 yr ago, den i know wat is hell abortation is lik.very hard for ur other half..
Save $$ 1st,get married only $26 at ROM,take safety measure, if pregnent it wil be tough on u.
This is base on wat i gone through, mayb u win TOTO den u can hv 3 kids also no problem.As wat other reply, if she is comfortable wid u or willing to suffer wid u, den ok,but in ur mind, u wil not wan to let her suffer if u wan to be long wid her,cos lik me,2004 starting of 5th yr, say long not long, say short not short,no matter wat,i tink u wil try to gv her te best.even if u hv to sacrifise a lot.
If somehow ur gf pregent, born ur child, work 18 hours also must tahan, cos lik that ur wil hv a better family for yourself, i dun wish to know there wil be another guy to be lik te state i'm in now....
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hmmm... u earn 1.5k is on da surface.. on the other hand how much saving u haf?
savings do a big part in marriage, u will plonk all ur savings when get married like dinner and baby. and u need a flat for u and ur wife... dat haf to do with $$ oso... -
Well, you can get a gf regardless of wat you are earning. I dun believe tat u need to pay to make friends. But if you are planning to settle down, tatz another story. I intro myself, I'm 25 this year(of posting this reply), male and single. So basically I'm only about the same age as you do so you know where you stand.Originally posted by BellySiaoOn:A single n available male Chinese Singaporean at my mid 20s earnin slightly above 1.5k. Not veri attractive but not very jia luck also. It is time for me to settle down???
Sad... but the truth always hurts. So I'm going to hurt you now rather then to let you suffer in the future if you are planning to get married now.
If u get married, is 1.5K going to support ur family?? I tell u, I'm earning 1.7K a month, I'm single, still living with my parents and itz not even enough for me to spend, for your info, I dun go "chiong" often... only once in a blue moon or got promotion.
And how r u goin to feed your spouse?? Your future children?? Their education?? Wat about transport?? You and your families' daily meals and needs?? Your flat?? The bills?? Ok, you got an 18hr job, but how long can your body take it?? Wat happens if you fall sick?? I tell you, you can only start a family if you are earning 3k and above, lower then tat, I guess u need to live with your parents, or alone.
If I were you, I rather save up the money and get a better piece of paper(diploma, degree, masters, etc.) to show to my hiring manger at an interview.
If you love her, dun marry her and dun let her suffer with you if you think you earn too little.
I apologise if I'm being too harsh. But best to be harsh now than to see another low-income family suffer.
P.S.: I admit, although I doesn't like materialistic gals, after reading through wat I've just wrote(above), I'm beginning to understand them. Itz a materialistic world. -
To Mr Bo Liao n Mr Boo777. Thanx for the reply. I guess u al r the master of this field, wat u all said really express wat singapore guys are tinking n facing. I totally agree on the facts u al state. The reality is cruel. I guess the low-incom guy like us should jus stick to our parent, provide them the best we can, look after them n n leaed a lonely life till death.
I hav a colleague who kana shotgun, he marry his wif few years back. They lov each other veri much. They use to cheong veri thiam, but bcause of the kid, they cut down completely. Nw they stayin at his parent's hse. My colleague earn $1.9k+- n his wif $1.5+-. Accordin to my colleague, he say can tahan lar, but only quite restricted. During a talk cock session, I ask him whether planin for the 2nd kid. He say I siao, where got extra $, extra sperm hav plenty lah. Bt I ask den the only kid wil get lonely, he say no choice lor, his parent no $ mah wat to do.
Theres a comment by my ex-colleague which I remember forever. "IF U DON'T HAV $, DON'T GIV BIRTH, OR ELSE NEX TIME UR KID WANT TO BUY TOY U NO $ TO BUY, HE WIL QUESTION U WHY U NO $ GIV BIRTH TO HIM FOR WAT." -
if your girlfriend doesn't mind, why not settle down asap and go through thick and thin as one? if that girl minds, she won't settle down with you even if you want to.Originally posted by BellySiaoOn:A single n available male Chinese Singaporean at my mid 20s earnin slightly above 1.5k. Not veri attractive but not very jia luck also. It is time for me to settle down??? -
Can u bear to see ur loved one suffer? I'll rather i suffer myself and let my loved ones have all the pleasure. I know my parents dun have a lot of money to spend themselves, so whenever they ask me whether i got $ to spend, I dun have also say have.Originally posted by boy in blues:if your girlfriend doesn't mind, why not settle down asap and go through thick and thin as one? if that girl minds, she won't settle down with you even if you want to.
The problem is in Singapore, once u leave the house, u have to spend $ liao, take bus 60cents, take MRT, $1.50 - $2.50. Eat at foodcourt, $3.50 - $5. Watch movie, $6.50 - $8.00. If play until too late, TAXI, $10. Therefore one day out of the house can cost at least: 60cent + $2 + $4 + $7+ $10 = $23.60. -
no gf now..High chance to be a bachelor..
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Originally posted by edwinSSM:
you should also be a loved one to your gf. and she should also want to share good and bad with you. as i mentioned, she doesn't mind. her emotional needs of being appreciated and respected are stronger than material needs. the former, i can afford.
Can u bear to see ur loved one suffer? I'll rather i suffer myself and let my loved ones have all the pleasure. I know my parents dun have a lot of money to spend themselves, so whenever they ask me whether i got $ to spend, I dun have also say have.
The problem is in Singapore, once u leave the house, u have to spend $ liao, take bus 60cents, take MRT, $1.50 - $2.50. Eat at foodcourt, $3.50 - $5. Watch movie, $6.50 - $8.00. If play until too late, TAXI, $10. Therefore one day out of the house can cost [b]at least: 60cent + $2 + $4 + $7+ $10 = $23.60. [/b] -
When love hits u, u're Not gonna sit by pondering whether or Not it's advisable *laffs* That wld be too analytical
And perhaps, mebbi mercenary? 
If a woman loves u, she wun care whether u earn alot or a little. Trust me, I noe, my guy doesn't "earn much" either.
Wat's impt is tt she's willing to stick wif u, & u wif her, for the rest of ur lives. There's No "advisable" or "Not advisable", u can always find a way out wif love.
RPOriginally posted by BellySiaoOn:A single n available male Chinese Singaporean at my mid 20s earnin slightly above 1.5k. Not veri attractive but not very jia luck also. It is time for me to settle down??? -
If you think your partner is the right one and both of you want to settle down and have a family of your own, I dont see why you can't.
If you cannot afford a house... you can rent/stay with parents
If your income is too low to cover your daily expenses, you can take 2 jobs/your partner won't mind helping out.
Most importantly is whether or not you are READY TO settle down. -
good woman who dun mind guy dun earn much..Originally posted by RainbowPrincess:When love hits u, u're Not gonna sit by pondering whether or Not it's advisable *laffs* That wld be too analytical And perhaps, mebbi mercenary?
If a woman loves u, she wun care whether u earn alot or a little. Trust me, I noe, my guy doesn't "earn much" either.
Wat's impt is tt she's willing to stick wif u, & u wif her, for the rest of ur lives. There's No "advisable" or "Not advisable", u can always find a way out wif love.
RP
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*laffs* I wun profess to be a gd woman. But I noe my guy makes me wanna be a better person : ) And we love each other, so tt's all tt matters.
I wldn't trade him in for someone who earns more : )
RPOriginally posted by karaokeaddict:good woman who dun mind guy dun earn much.. -
u loser issit, just because u earn slightly above 1.5 K u need to find gf who earns reasonable money?? U know there are many frends from the Malay community that provides well for their family of 6-7 people even if when they are earning 1.5K or even less? Chinese the problem with them is the have not balls to do something...think of this lah think of dat lah... wtf..dun throw chinese's face by admitting you are one...Originally posted by BellySiaoOn:A single n available male Chinese Singaporean at my mid 20s earnin slightly above 1.5k. Not veri attractive but not very jia luck also. It is time for me to settle down???