4give n 4get?
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As above, how many of you can actually do tt in a
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- marriage?
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its easy to 4giv bt u can nvr 4gt...
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it is better to take life easy... instead of harping on it... let it go... u will feel better...
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even in friendship level.. forgive... its possible.. but forget takes time..
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quite a challenge. something which i always fail to do.
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x2Originally posted by skeujin:its easy to 4giv bt u can nvr 4gt...
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Then what do u do??
carry on w the r/s? or otherwise? -
well trust takes alot of buildg up bt oni a single mistake to tear it all down. if u tink tt the r/s is worth saving n u hav the patience to start fresh. thn go for it.Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:Then what do u do??
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x3Originally posted by True_Xerion:x2 -
how abt forgiving urself and forgetting the mistake u made??
i think its not ez .... -
i nvr 4giv or 4gt my personal mistakes. this way ill remember nvr to do thm again...Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:how abt forgiving urself and forgetting the mistake u made??
i think its not ez .... -
But if u dun forgive and forget ur mistake .. u'll always be guilty and always feel bad ... which doesn't make the r/s any better?
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x4Originally posted by AdAptAliS:x3 -
x2Originally posted by skeujin:well trust takes alot of buildg up bt oni a single mistake to tear it all down. if u tink tt the r/s is worth saving n u hav the patience to start fresh. thn go for it.
I seem to be agreeing to everything others say.
My friends just quarrelled due to one breaking the trust. Real bad mistake. But i think they should be getting over it soon. Or at least i hope. -
u shd always feel bad if u hav dissapointed yr partner. its up to her to forgive u n for u to make her hapi n in turn, her hapiness will b yours...Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:But if u dun forgive and forget ur mistake .. u'll always be guilty and always feel bad ... which doesn't make the r/s any better? -
In what way is forgiving self? I don't know but i don't forget my mistakes, that is if one is kind enough to tell me about it, so that i won't commit them again.Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:how abt forgiving urself and forgetting the mistake u made??
i think its not ez .... -
I made a mistake once in the r/s, detrimental one i must say. But he forgave me and we almost never talked abt it.
However, after all these while, i've never been able to forgive myself, i simply can't get over it. -
I forget them all, even forum quarrels or personal snipe which I ignore.
Forget about them, and move on. Life goes on anyway.
Dont sweat the small stuff!
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not forgettin one's mistakes in a r/s helps set the bar for the future of that r/s & IF it doesn't work out in the end, at least it'll be a reference point for next r/sOriginally posted by p|gGyPeN:But if u dun forgive and forget ur mistake .. u'll always be guilty and always feel bad ... which doesn't make the r/s any better?
Forgiving well, i guess it depends on the severity & context yah?
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i can almost always forget the small and unhappy stuffs in my life coz i m bo chup. yet i can't do it this time.Originally posted by laurence82:I forget them all, even forum quarrels or personal snipe which I ignore.
Forget about them, and move on. Life goes on anyway.
Dont sweat the small stuff!
I think it's unhealthy never to bring things up again (not tt i want to) but ... its like running away from what has happened. -
Its human to err. That mistake has happened, the only thing you can do is to prevent it from happening again ma. Its not running away from it, its accepting the presence and then prevent prevent and prevent.Originally posted by p|gGyPeN:i can almost always forget the small and unhappy stuffs in my life coz i m bo chup. yet i can't do it this time.
I think it's unhealthy never to bring things up again (not tt i want to) but ... its like running away from what has happened.
Your partner should be with you because of the unlimited happy moments with you ma. So, i guess when your partner forgave you already, shows that he/she loves you for who you are and knows that you will never commit the same mistake again.
Cheers. Just try to forgive yourself though its not easy.
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ppl used to remember those mistakes we made
ppl always tend to forget those good deed we done...
forgive and forget is easy to say
but it takes time to do it well -
4give possible
4get impossible
jus too bad -
What have you done that you cant forgive yourself? Two timing?
well, you cant change the past you can shape your future. If you love him and want to keep the r/s, best dont even tink abt it, it will give you nightmare, if u feel guilty and cant get over it no matter how, its better u drop the r/s and move on and make sure you nv make the same mistakes again. No point self torturing yourself. After all, thr is scar in your r/s, you cant promise nth is going to happen to the r/s or his surroundings affecting him that might change him. I once read an article... a gal left her bf for another guy, she came bk.. the guy forgive her and do his best to trest her like a little princess but some day, he met this another gal and decided to leave the gal.than again diff ppl diff approach.... just like some ppl accept non virgins as partners while others cant tk the fact tt one they love had slept with so many ppl. -