my dear dear mum is dying of cancer.......
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My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions??? -
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she's probably going through a lot so she will need your support in the best way that you can offer to her.Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions??? -
oh dear...
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My mum succumbed to cervical cancer 8 years ago when I was just 13.
The medication and the suffering her mother is going through is understandable. Cherish all the times you have left with her. However do not think much about when she is going to leave you. That will only bring more sorrow to you and your family.
This is the time for you to show her how much you really love and treasure her. If she scolded you for even the tiniest reason you can think of, just let her be. Do whatever she asks you to do and if she craves for some food, no matter how weird it may sound, try your best to fulfil that.
And certainly, matter of life and death is within the hands of God. Let's hope for a miracle to happen and she be cured of that dreaded disease. Be strong and I pray for her mother's recovery. Have faith in God.
You can give this advice to her. I wish you all the best.
Cheers and warm regards -
sorry to hear that too!Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions???
well wat u can do now is to stay by her side, if she were to throw temper at u, then u juz have to tolerate with it as she is going thru a hard time too and u dun expect her to be cheerful rite....and of coz...she dun have the time for u at the moment as she also wanna to stay by her mom's side...u can always go and accompany her....u can cheer her up by being there for her when she need u, lent her ur shoulder...she will be glad tat u were to be by her side when she needs u...
hope it helps!
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u haf to stay b y her lor.. if she loses her temper at u, n u get pissed, do not express it directly to her.. go 4 a walk, come back after a while, perhaps she'll understand n try to curb her temper...
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You really have to be extremely understanding and sensitive, try and put yourself into her shoes...
its one of the toughest times in life, so you have to stand by her... -
sorry to hear dat, juz stand by her and give her all u got, dun bother bout the lashing u got from her, she is probably going thru a hard time, understand her, console her and take care of her and her mum...Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions??? -
Hmm... maybe spend all your free time with her and her mum.
Only take her out in the night when her mum is asleep.
Don't deprive her of spending time with her mum.
My mum just found a lump.. and i'm scared as hell too.
Sniff.. call me selfish, but i can't deal with a sick mother now. -
sad to hear tt
send my regards to both of them
well.... they may be hot tempered lately
do try to understand their feeling
wad u need to do is to spend more time wif yr gf and her mum
let them feel tt u r always wif them no matter wad happens
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jz b by her side all the time...
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sorry to hear that..Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions???
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Understand your gf's helpless and emotions. Do something you can do together, e.g. stay at home with her, company her mum for check ups. Maybe give her surprised gifts, cards to show you care for her. Do anything for her to smile, she'll be glad.Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions???
I really think she need alot of support from you. -
if you believe in God...do pray for her
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Haiz. Life's precious but usually people learn it the hard way. So cherish your loved ones while they're still safe and healthy yeah?
Sorry to hear bout that. Best regards to all of you all yeah? God bless her soul.
The best thing you can do is as they have said, stand by her and help her stand when she falls. Peace. -
Haiz. Life's precious but usually people learn it the hard way. So cherish your loved ones while they're still safe and healthy yeah?
Sorry to hear bout that. Best regards to all of you all yeah? God bless her soul.
The best thing you can do is as they have said, stand by her and help her stand when she falls. Peace. -
take it easy.
tahan a bit. be sandbag for the time being. -
Oh man. Take care man. Don't break down at this kind of moment. Your mom needs you to be strong, to lead her in this treacherous path.
I believe you need to put in as much time as possible to be with her at this moment. She really need the most care and support from her family. I think you need to put down whatever is taking so much of your time, to just be with her.
Best regards to you. Be strong. -
Stay hapi and cheerful. im sure thats wat yr mum wan to see in you. Have to understand, she's under medication so, relax and when she suddenly flared up or throw her temper, mayb i suggest, look at her, hold her hand and tell her , MUM, I LOVE YOU!.. im sure she will b touched. Stay cool and dun think abt it. If you need a frd to tok to, can email me or ask me out. Zhu ren wei kuai le zhi ben, Remember, we only live once, so does yr mum. Give her what you can and spend more time with her... some things you can give now, but u nvr give, you may not have another chance to give in the future.. good luck to you and may yr mum stay healthy and happy...
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Sorry to hear that...
What she needs most is ur gf support and time with her..
Be with ur gf and stand by her
B regards
Angeline -
Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing.... i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions???
Don't. Even if you must act as if you are strong, do it. When one has fallen, the other must stand firm. The last thing that should happen is both parties succumbing to stress and tension and break down. You are the 'stronger' one - serve to empower your gf in times of needs.
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Hi XKing,
I'm really sorree to hear wat has happened to ur gf's mum. During this time, u hafta be strong for her, even tho u're probably bearing the brunt of wat she's feeling @ the moment -- anger (why is this happening to Mum?), frustration (why can't I do anythg to alleviate her suffering/make her feel better?), sadness, devastation, & a whole lotta other emotions.
Plenty of gd advice has been offered by the posters here. Pls try to heed it.
RPOriginally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions??? -
For your gf, the fear of losing her mum who has been the closest person to her since birth, is a great ordeal to face.Originally posted by xking:My gf mum is dying of cancer.....duno how to help. at times she just throw temper at me.for nothing....i got upset too but in the end...We hardly hav time for each other nowawdays.
I hope to cheer her up. Any suggestions???
Give her encouragement but moreover mutual support. Yes, understandably that she will vent her frustrations at you since she has noone else to turn to. But, now's the time for you to be her pillar of support and just be there and helping her and her mom in any means you can ie driving or calling a cab when visiting the doctor. getting something that will make her mom happy be it a gift or bring her mom somewhere she wanted.
Cancer is one of the most pheared... umm... the treatments you have to go through are harsh. -
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