still missing ex :(

• thots

  22 Mar 04, 00:54

  Thanks for all the comments. There's no chance in going back to my ex and i have no intention of doing so too.
  I'm just puzzled by my own behaviour and thinking nowadays and therefore seeking advices here.
  Most of you will think that it's been unfair to my current bf which i strongly agrees too. Thus, i have no intention of letting him know about it, to prevent him from getting upset.
  As for my ex, a phonecall is impossible, and maybe that explains why i misses his voice so much at times too. I just hope that this period will be over soon.
• RainbowPrincess

  22 Mar 04, 09:21

  If tt's the case, then whenever u start thinking abt ur ex, replace him wif ur current bf instead.
  
  Whenever such thots of ur ex appears, consciously make an effort to replace those thots wif ur current bf.
  
  Over time, thgs will get better : )
  
  RP
  
  

  Originally posted by thots:

  Thanks for all the comments. There's no chance in going back to my ex and i have no intention of doing so too.
  I'm just puzzled by my own behaviour and thinking nowadays and therefore seeking advices here.
  Most of you will think that it's been unfair to my current bf which i strongly agrees too. Thus, i have no intention of letting him know about it, to prevent him from getting upset.
  As for my ex, a phonecall is impossible, and maybe that explains why i misses his voice so much at times too. I just hope that this period will be over soon.

• FireIce

  22 Mar 04, 11:19

  Originally posted by thots:

  As for my ex, a phonecall is impossible, and maybe that explains why i misses his voice so much at times too.

  why is it impossible?
• HENG@

  22 Mar 04, 12:06

  Originally posted by RainbowPrincess:

  If tt's the case, then whenever u start thinking abt ur ex, replace him wif ur current bf instead.
  
  Whenever such thots of ur ex appears, consciously make an effort to replace those thots wif ur current bf.
  
  Over time, thgs will get better : )
  
  RP
  
  

  agreed.
  takes time but things WILL get better, and faster, if u concentrate on looking ahead.
  
• thots

  22 Mar 04, 13:06

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  why is it impossible?

  That's because he doesn't want to talk to me again?
• thots

  22 Mar 04, 13:07

  Originally posted by RainbowPrincess:

  If tt's the case, then whenever u start thinking abt ur ex, replace him wif ur current bf instead.
  
  Whenever such thots of ur ex appears, consciously make an effort to replace those thots wif ur current bf.
  
  Over time, thgs will get better : )
  
  RP
  
  

  I hope that things will get better too. Thanks RainbowPrincess.
• edithpiaf

  23 Mar 04, 01:35

  Dear tots, i am in the same situation as you are.
  
  i loved my ex dearly and to me, love never dies, you can never fall out of love and it lingers.
  
  I even joined the same school as he did, but it's been a year and 4 months already- and of course, if he wanted to patch things up, it would have happened long ago.
  
  I know that having a boyfriend while thinking about my ex is not fair to my boyfriend, but it's a complicated situation.
  
  I wanted to give myself a chance to start anew and a chance to my now boyfriend.
  
  I don't think i regretted this decision because i find myself loving him more each day, and i've decided to change schools if it means that i won't 'bump' into him along the corridors anymore.
  
  I guess it's just one of the things in life- and you can never be with the person you love most.
  
  remember that.
• foga

  30 Mar 04, 08:10

  give yourself a chance. if u believe that u can never be with the person u love most, most likely u will not, not to mention it's gonna be unfair to whoever u're with. like u said, love never dies, it just lingers on. have u ever wondered why we never seems to really get over a relationship? i believe it's because for every failed relationships we gave a piece of ourselves to the other party, and for every new relationship, we are given a piece of their heart.
  
  between two person in love, there should be a certain level of trust and honesty. i sincerely wish u the best and god bless
  
  

  Originally posted by edithpiaf:

  Dear tots, i am in the same situation as you are.
  
  i loved my ex dearly and to me, love never dies, you can never fall out of love and it lingers.
  
  I even joined the same school as he did, but it's been a year and 4 months already- and of course, if he wanted to patch things up, it would have happened long ago.
  
  I know that having a boyfriend while thinking about my ex is not fair to my boyfriend, but it's a complicated situation.
  
  I wanted to give myself a chance to start anew and a chance to my now boyfriend.
  
  I don't think i regretted this decision because i find myself loving him more each day, and i've decided to change schools if it means that i won't 'bump' into him along the corridors anymore.
  
  I guess it's just one of the things in life- and you can never be with the person you love most.
  
  remember that.