I dunno what is going on
-
It's okieOriginally posted by ChrisYX:Sorry, didn't meant to scare u.
-
I guess I will choose solution 1 ba.Originally posted by RainbowPrincess:Angeline,
Looks like he has yet to give up despite ur having made urself clear to him. Ur bf & ur mum haf the v. best of intentions, & I'm sure u can appreciate tt, No matter how ur bf trusts u, he will No doubt haf insecurities.
There r 2 choices u can make:
1. Take ur mum's & bf's advice & IGNORE the guy. Enlist the help of ur mum to tell him off if necessary.
2. Go ahead & contact the guy, but then drop the bombshell, "Hey, u noe wat, I'm v. v. VERY happily attached to my guy. So, NO other guys will stand a chance as long as I'm wif him."
RP
He even ever sing to me in front of my bf when we went to ktv..
-
Sorry, didn't meant to scare u.Originally posted by IamAngeline:Stalking!!!
Dun scare me leh~~
The reason my mum ask me to keep away from him is afraid that he might do sumthing scary leh...
-
*grinz* That's gd : ) Juz make ur choice & stick to it. Many of us haf problems sez'g No in a firm tone.
Hopefully, he'll get the idea, or worst comes to worst, threaten to sue him for harrassment
RPOriginally posted by IamAngeline:I guess I will choose solution 1 ba.
He even ever sing to me in front of my bf when we went to ktv.. -
ThanksOriginally posted by RainbowPrincess:*grinz* That's gd : ) Juz make ur choice & stick to it. Many of us haf problems sez'g No in a firm tone.
Hopefully, he'll get the idea, or worst comes to worst, threaten to sue him for harrassment
RP
-
Originally posted by IamAngeline:Okie. I have a problem here..
I have this guy friend whom I have known for ard 6 years.
The frenship started when he wanted to know more abt me through my best friend on a christmas nite. His intention was very clear at that time, he had a crush on me and wish to further the r/s.
Things never really work out and everything was made clear by me.
So, we become normal friends like everyone else, but he also ever mentioned abt still having a liking for me after all these years which I didn't really care n bother abt it
Recently I changed my hp no. but I have lost all the no. in my contact including his. and these few nitez he has been calling my hse to look for me, just right I'm out of my hse and he does not have my current no.
My mum was kinda frustrated and actually tried to ask me avoid this guy cos she felt that he is kinda "threatening" to my present r/s as his intention is rather obvious after sometimes of communicating n meeting this friend of mine. And yesh my bf did feel the same way like my mum do.
So now the thing is I tried calling him up to check y he is looking for me, and ever wish to inform him again abt my new contact no. But my mum keep reminding me of not giving my no to him.
Haiz. What should I do? Are they oversensitive? or am I not worrying what I should?
We must understand the different position based on their different roles to see a good picture.
Your bf
He is your bf and of course, he wouldn't like competition. He may not mind competition but when a zero chance competitor gets annoying and affected his gf, the bf will get irritated and pissed. He will request you to ignore him completely and avoid contacts
Your Mum
Your mum, being your mum, would want to protect her daughter. In her heart, if your current relationship has already been established and there for a good period, your mum may see him as a potential son-in-law or my good daughters' good bf. In just case, she would want you to avoid because she fear complication for good or for ill. Standing on her POV, she feel it's unneccessary to contact that guy.
You
As a friend for six years, you feel that giving him the contact has no problem since you have already made known to him that he stand no chance - your conscience is clear. Whether you give or not, doesn't matter so much to you. Just that, even he may have liking for you, he is still a friend.
Verdict?
As long as you know what you truely wants - give or don't give doesn't matter at all. It's only about your preference. You give, you also won't like him. You don't give, you also won't like him. The verdict has already been set years ago. So, it is really up to you.
P.S: Yes, people around you are concerned and paranoid. But you make the choice. In my opinion, it doesn't matter.
Cheers -
U're most welcome, dear girl : )
RPOriginally posted by IamAngeline:Thanks -
Giving him yr phone number or not is smth I cannot decide for u. But if U got any prob, can tell me. I try to help U as much as I can.
-
Maybe he's seeking attention from you? Probably in an indirect way he's having it and may actually be enjoying it...?Originally posted by IamAngeline:Precisely..
But I've tried calling him quite a no of times but he just ans my call.
Isn;t that funny? but then when I'm not at home, he started calling again-> it's been days..
Hp not on-> sms also no use wat
-
Since your friendship has been around for years and it has not been giving you any trouble, by right giving your HP no. shouldn't be much of any issue...Originally posted by IamAngeline:Okie. I have a problem here..
I have this guy friend whom I have known for ard 6 years.
The frenship started when he wanted to know more abt me through my best friend on a christmas nite. His intention was very clear at that time, he had a crush on me and wish to further the r/s.
Things never really work out and everything was made clear by me.
So, we become normal friends like everyone else, but he also ever mentioned abt still having a liking for me after all these years which I didn't really care n bother abt it
Recently I changed my hp no. but I have lost all the no. in my contact including his. and these few nitez he has been calling my hse to look for me, just right I'm out of my hse and he does not have my current no.
My mum was kinda frustrated and actually tried to ask me avoid this guy cos she felt that he is kinda "threatening" to my present r/s as his intention is rather obvious after sometimes of communicating n meeting this friend of mine. And yesh my bf did feel the same way like my mum do.
So now the thing is I tried calling him up to check y he is looking for me, and ever wish to inform him again abt my new contact no. But my mum keep reminding me of not giving my no to him.
Haiz. What should I do? Are they oversensitive? or am I not worrying what I should?
HOWEVER... Based on his recent display of possible 'attention seeking' and revoking possibility... There might be a chance that he might just try to 'leap' further before before... I would agree with your suspicion that he's probably habouring some hidden love feelings for you for the past years... Maybe he tried to keep them in store, or maybe the lost of this 'contact' had somehow triggered him off...
The issue is not to treat him too special, as he is obviously not to you... Most importantly, don't let him feel that way.... You could give him your HP no. if you want (subjected to slight risk I've mentioned above), but try to keep the whole situation PLAIN MILD if you're doing that...? And if you don't? Hopefully he won't go 'attention seeking' again?