can give some suggestions?
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People will change for the one he/she loves. If i were to comment, i would :
Originally posted by boy in blues:
what if she asks you why you don't love her. she promises that for you, she can willingly change for you. she won't feel forced at all. will that make you accept her?
Ask her out for a chat. Tell her that you understand what she meant. If you don't want to involve the other girl, that is not advisable. Tell her honestly. Because what if one day she see you and the other girl walking hand in hand? How would she feel and say?
After you told her, she might cry and keep asking why.
We can give you comments on what you should do and say but it's really up to you. Don't follow us, follow your heart. Say what you want and what you think. Because in the end, the one that would have impact is not us but you. You have to accept what is going to happen for the things that you said and do.
Be calm and say things slow. Take some time to think before starting any sentences. We want to reduce the impact to the minimal right?
Bad habits should change but she is what she is. I know she would be very happy and willing to change for your sake.
Really if she's feel like want to change, we can't stop her because if that's what she feels happy about, so let it be. We all say time will heal all wounds and that's true. It's impossible to reject a person without hurting.
She will still be hurt.
I hope that she will not change to a worse person, thinking that guys are all cheaters and playboys and start to feel about cheating other guys.
I can say, do what she wants to do and be happy about doing it. She will be very sad and hurt at times when she think of this matter but over time, things will get better. It's just how long?
She's always welcome to come in to this forum and tell us about how she feels. We are most willing to listen to her. YuHaiEr will be most willing to give comments.
We try our best not to inflict hurt to others. But it's really impossible, so we try our best not to leave regrets in other people's life.
There's happy and sad things in life, it's how we think and treat the things that comes.
Remember : Don't say sorry. Cause in love, there's no sorry or thank you.
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explain to her that she is not suitable for u lor...is beta to tell the truth beta then when u start a relationship without love...or keeps her waiting for u...
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Originally posted by boy in blues:if you have a close friend who wants to start a BGR now. but you feel that as friend still ok, but to go steady, somehow don't click. then how to tell the person without hurting the person's feelings? guys and gals here, please give advice. quite urgent. thanks.
Be tactful, but tell her the truth. A good friend? Explain in details.
Seriously, I don't see the need to shake her off with an excuse. Like, like lar - don't like means don't like. Furthermore a good friend, should be able to speak better than one that can not much connection to you. She can ask what kind of girl you would fall for - she can change to become like one, but she is NOT one. Like one and being one is like pretty and acting pretty. You enter a relationship with her, but when tension and problems crops in, her facade drops - the real her surface.
Some people are only meant to be friends. Could she be the one? You should know it.
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Tell her you like the way she is as a friend... Tell her you treasure the friendship and don't wanna risk losing it...Originally posted by boy in blues:what if she asks you why you don't love her. she promises that for you, she can willingly change for you. she won't feel forced at all. will that make you accept her?
Tell her that even though she can change, you like her natural and just the way she is... If she changes, you might not even recognise her as a friend? -
I'm gonna ans 2 @ a shot...
1. If the girl is really insistent & asks why u dowan to give it a try & wat is wrong wif her --> Tell her tt she's fine as a fren & v. nice, but u juz dun haf tt feeling towards her, & love can't be forced.
2. If the girl asks why u choose someone else instead of her --> Tell her tt u haf tt feeling towards the other girl, Not her, & tt love can't be forced.
RPOriginally posted by boy in blues:thanks for replying. but what if 2 girls request this of you? what will you tell the girl you need to reject? you can't say it's because you are choosing the other 1. because the rejected girl will still come back and ask you why you can't give her a chance but instead gave to the successful girl. -
haha. since she wants to start a relationship wif u now, that is immediately, means she has already fallen for you. I guess u are stuck and you want to reject her without hurting her? I think it isOriginally posted by boy in blues:if you have a close friend who wants to start a BGR now. but you feel that as friend still ok, but to go steady, somehow don't click. then how to tell the person without hurting the person's feelings? guys and gals here, please give advice. quite urgent. thanks. mission impossible. I think my advice is not an advice and anyway it has probably arrived too late... 
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no advice is too late for me. let's hear your frank thoughts.Originally posted by frank_person:haha. since she wants to start a relationship wif u now, that is immediately, means she has already fallen for you. I guess u are stuck and you want to reject her without hurting her? I think it is mission impossible. I think my advice is not an advice and anyway it has probably arrived too late...