What to do, help~
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for 4 yrs i have nvr been in contact with any girls at all. now that i am going to poly soon i dunnoe what to do. what if i dun fit in? i also feel tt i look like crap (honestly) and will not get a gf
help me 
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4 years no girls?? Monk?!!!!!
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like what i said in shoutbox...
don't worry about it!!
just believe in yourself... ladies are probably like you, just as shy and all that..
be nice, be yourself, be respectful and courteous to the ladies
and don't worry about anything, just be friends with them.. and think of them not as ladies but as friends...
you'll be fine..
most of all, have some confidence in yourself! -
this is where people with real problems come to ask for help...
if you have nothing constructive to say, don't make things worse?Originally posted by amaro:4 years no girls?? Monk?!!!!! -
haiz, maybe i need to go some kinda course lol -
Hey, Look at me... For 16 years, i have no galfrenOriginally posted by beagle:for 4 yrs i have nvr been in contact with any girls at all. now that i am going to poly soon i dunnoe what to do. what if i dun fit in? i also feel tt i look like crap (honestly) and will not get a gf help me and i'm still surviving... 
Relax guy, Blend in to the surrounding and make more frens so u will fit in... 
And Like Bear said... Have some Confidence in urself... -
didn't need confidence in 4 yrs. now how to have ? u din have gal frens, but did u noe any? cos i din even noe one till few days ago on irc when i went to chat for the first time?lol
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I'm more worse than u... I'm fat and I'm ugly[think so...]Originally posted by beagle:didn't need confidence in 4 yrs. now how to have ? u din have gal frens, but did u noe any? cos i din even noe one till few days ago on irc when i went to chat for the first time?lol
I got like gal but when i told her about my feelings for her, it's like we never talk already... Maybe once in a blue moon then we talk...
It's my fault coz i did not take the initiative when she's near but now... Try making frenz with the people in this forum... They r really friendly and they can help u regain ur confidence slowly... -
die la me i die better
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I've got nothing else to add after all that me and nelstar had just told you in shoutbox.
Its your life man, I'm not obliged to interfere or change it if you deem what you're doing right.
Last words, good luck and regards.
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I wasn't around to read what they wrote in the shoutbox so i'm sorry if i repeat.
I think this is just a case of over-worrying. You said you never contacted any girl in 4 years. I think it doesn't matter. People who attend boys school from pri 1 to sec 4 likely to not interact with girls other than on the streets as well. And then they proceed to JC or Poly or ITE coping fine with the opposite gender as well as their academics. It's like when you never cycled for 4 years, you just need time to get use to the bike again and you'll feel as natural as 4 years ago. You wouldn't actually forget how to cycle.
I think you should just wait until term starts and see how things go. If by then, it really happens, it's still not too late to consult others on what you can do to solve it.
I believe being yourself will be the best option to try to fit in. Just like how you've done it when you graduated from primary school. Don't worry too much. It's always hard to adapt to a new environment. Just know that you're not alone. All the rest probably feels the same way as well regarding the difficulty of 'fitting in'.
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Wanna meet me up someday.....
If you're really a crap then lets get some stuff changed.
If you're lookin fine....then we'll have some practical test.
I'm serious, if you're interested....Private MSG me.
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not to worry...i believe that one day u will get to have a gf...some girls don't go for looks...what is important is that your character must be good...Originally posted by beagle:for 4 yrs i have nvr been in contact with any girls at all. now that i am going to poly soon i dunnoe what to do. what if i dun fit in? i also feel tt i look like crap (honestly) and will not get a gf help me -
lol M©square, what can u do? i can't change the way i look, though i really am crap...
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dun worry, when everyone gathers for a class the first time, everyone will be very quiet. save for a few who are either sec sch friends/ 3mth jc friends or just friends.
so what u shld do on first day first 1hr. smile...go with a light bag say hi although they may not be yr classmates but coursemates. easiest because everyone will be open to knowing everyone. go as a group,anywhere/// -
.. i think when i say hi they will all just ... look at me n walk off
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then do it again!Originally posted by beagle:.. i think when i say hi they will all just ... look at me n walk off
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You see.........boy. The fact that you're really a crap is when you admit that yourself. Gals read thru that instantly. (That's what they're good for!)Originally posted by beagle:lol M©square, what can u do? i can't change the way i look, though i really am crap...
Looks aint everything. STop thinking like a typical guy and have some style can ya?
See...it's simple.
Guys are attracted by physical attributes(Primary)
Women are attracted by personality and Character(Primary). Looks are Secondary.
So if you can crash this mental block and promise yourself to stop being a crap like you do right now.
Improve on what you lack....well....i can tell you that your life will start havin colours.
IF YOU STILL THINK YOU'RE A CRAP AND NOT GOOD LOOKIN,
email me your pic - [email protected]
or show me your friendster picture.
If i agree that you're a crap...then the deal is off. Okay?
Brace up Buddy.
Cheers -
beagle dun bluff lah... u yandao lah
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I not yandao ... ...... and if i'm not mistaken, if u meet a girl somewhere, perhaps in ur CCA, and u ask her for her no. or out for a date, the first thing she will look at are ur looks. if u dun appeal to her she wouldn't even consider that, and if she doesn't cosdier those stuff then she will nvr get to noe me better, and thereofre it seems from here tt looks are primary, before advancing to personality and style, which are secondary.
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Why so desperate? why need a gf? Singlehood is Good!
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I don't mean to tell you that i understand girls very well.Originally posted by beagle:I not yandao ... ...... and if i'm not mistaken, if u meet a girl somewhere, perhaps in ur CCA, and u ask her for her no. or out for a date, the first thing she will look at are ur looks. if u dun appeal to her she wouldn't even consider that, and if she doesn't cosdier those stuff then she will nvr get to noe me better, and thereofre it seems from here tt looks are primary, before advancing to personality and style, which are secondary.
But i'm very sure that your perpection towards women were very deluded.
u ask her for her no. or out for a date, the first thing she will look at are ur looks. - So did you actually try?
Or did you do a scenario mentally?
if u dun appeal to her she wouldn't even consider that - How wicked are the people nowadays....Hai....only select the good looking ones to talk to.
I wonder how those not so hunky(good lookin) ones seemed to always get wonderful lookin babes.
and if she doesn't consider those stuff then she will nvr get to noe me better - You're either really doing the qns and answer thing mentally....or the girls you've met are really damn CMI.
Moreover....you don't get her to know you better by havin her no. or dating her out.
***You'll get her to know you betta at the exact place/moment you spoke to her!!!!!
If she doesn't know you in the first place.
There would be a natural defence/barrier to prevent you from the final quest - Phone number.
All you have to do is to break that barrier by conversation....simple.
It's not about your looks/body/hair or what ever(look at William Hung - he's my personal beachmark ). So you can imagine how i look.
thereofre it seems from here tt looks are primary, before advancing to personality and style, which are secondary. - then the people whom you know will be at face value...cos you can't see beyond that.
Lastly, i want to say...please understand that i'm not trying to be sacarstic, i wanna help you see the other perspective. That it is possible for you to have a changed life.
P.S you haven't post me your photo -
Originally posted by M©+square:
- So did you actually try?
I don't mean to tell you that i understand girls very well.
But i'm very sure that your perpection towards women were very deluded.
[b]u ask her for her no. or out for a date, the first thing she will look at are ur looks. - So did you actually try?
Or did you do a scenario mentally?
if u dun appeal to her she wouldn't even consider that - How wicked are the people nowadays....Hai....only select the good looking ones to talk to.
I wonder how those not so hunky(good lookin) ones seemed to always get wonderful lookin babes.
and if she doesn't consider those stuff then she will nvr get to noe me better - You're either really doing the qns and answer thing mentally....or the girls you've met are really damn CMI.
Moreover....you don't get her to know you better by havin her no. or dating her out.
***You'll get her to know you betta at the exact place/moment you spoke to her!!!!!
If she doesn't know you in the first place.
There would be a natural defence/barrier to prevent you from the final quest - Phone number.
All you have to do is to break that barrier by conversation....simple.
It's not about your looks/body/hair or what ever(look at William Hung - he's my personal beachmark ). So you can imagine how i look.
thereofre it seems from here tt looks are primary, before advancing to personality and style, which are secondary. - then the people whom you know will be at face value...cos you can't see beyond that.
Lastly, i want to say...please understand that i'm not trying to be sacarstic, i wanna help you see the other perspective. That it is possible for you to have a changed life.
P.S you haven't post me your photo
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Or did you do a scenario mentally? : Well, i did do the scenario mentally. Whatcha expect? i dun have any gal friends. lol.
How wicked are the people nowadays....Hai....only select the good looking ones to talk to.
I wonder how those not so hunky(good lookin) ones seemed to always get wonderful lookin babes. - To me, they seem to be damn wicked dude. Somehow i think so because, well, i had several ex pri sch mates, i called her through a no. which all of my classmates had(u see, we had a list that had everyone's phone no. when we left school) and asked her for her HP. no. . Don't have to say much, u shld noe what happened from here.
You're either really doing the qns and answer thing mentally....or the girls you've met are really damn CMI. Moreover....you don't get her to know you better by havin her no. or dating her out. - Well, didn't i say when u first meet her? Maybe at a camp? where u guys meet for only maybe 3 days only but u didn't speak to her much and u asks for her no. on the last day? If you guys don't meet how are u gonna get to noe each other better?
then the people whom you know will be at face value...cos you can't see beyond that. -
***** My pic sucks, what do u wanna do with it? ***** -
Originally posted by beagle:
I'll have your pics and then open accounts in Marriage.com...FindingFriends.com and other .coms. and i'll borrow money from ah Long, show him your photo...
***** My pic sucks, what do u wanna do with it? *****
I'll show your photo to police and tell him that you're a molester.
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haha .. i mean how can u help me ? in what way?