should i wait for her?
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i have known a gal in the net for almost 3 yrs liao.during the 1st yr we were just normal friends when she is having problems or trouble i will try to solve and help her in any way i can. But we were not that close. during the 2nd yr she meet this guy in her school. then she has just join jc and like this particular guy alot in fact that guy was so popular that alot of gals in that jc like him.anyway she like him too and alot in reality, but was shy to tell him. but this guy was like he know about it. but was like always playing with her feelings. that flirting or affair lasted for a few months. then she found out he had a gf all along. she was destroyed. and again i was there to comfort her through the internet and phone. usually spending hours at a time. some times the whole night and i end up not sleeping as the next day for morning lesson. anyway it took almost 2 months for her to partily forget about that guy. but once in a while she will think of him. every time i tell her to concentrade on her studies and not think of that jerk. anyway i continue to comfort her as much as i can. soon after some time i began to fall for her.
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here i continue this silly crappy story.
months passes. we kept chatting on the phone almost daily in fact 4-5 time daily. sometimes when i busy for 3 hrs i will recieve 10 -20 missed calls from her. as i am i am sometimes a forgetful person. i will tell her i will call her when i reach home but end up forgetting about it until the next morning and of cos she will be very angry with me. but we patch up very quickly. anyway this unsteady relationship last and grew. ending up we were more like couples than friends. start to call each other nick names and send love msgs. But there has always been a problem between us. we havent met each other b4. i dunno when ever i try to ask her out she will give me silly reasons like her aunt will not allow. busy with exams.
if its exams i dont mind i ask her to meet after it. she said ok but to change her mind when that day closes. ending up till today we havent meet at all. but she ask if i will wait for her for 3 yrs after her studies overseas to be with her and meet her. till today i havent even seen her pic. which i ask for for the past 1.5 yrs. everytime she will say she sent it but never reach me. the only time that reach me was when she send me her 12 yr old pic. which was like taken 7 yrs back. now i am in a mess should i even wait for her or love her?
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either she have no confidence in her look or she don't like you. treating you like a pastime material..
sorry for these negative comments.. cos i have treated someone like this before.. lol
i hope you won't be angry hor. im sorry
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decision is urs... but 1 thing.. do u love her?
if 1 day u were to meet her, and found out that she is not pretty.. will u still love her? the answer must come out from ur heart, dun deceive urself...
3 yrs is a fairly long time... can u be sure that she is still single? if u are sure, u can go ahead wait for her... show her ur love and concern for her...
time will tell thats all i can say... -
don't have to wait for her le. lame excuses for past 3 years and your still being so patient with her, not worth it. she will do it if she really mean to long ago..
you've wasted 3 years liow lor.. see
if she don't have confidence in her looks or what, i will suggest you boost her confidence and wait for her lor.
please don't love her so deeply first lor, what if ended up no outcome how??
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ya lor... sylvia is right... u still have not seen her... expression can tell alot rather than juz words... thats from my experience lar.. hehe
pull urself out if u can b4 u fall into it more... -
true lor.. if shes not pretty how will you react?Originally posted by shifeng:decision is urs... but 1 thing.. do u love her?
if 1 day u were to meet her, and found out that she is not pretty.. will u still love her? the answer must come out from ur heart, dun deceive urself...
3 yrs is a fairly long time... can u be sure that she is still single? if u are sure, u can go ahead wait for her... show her ur love and concern for her...
time will tell thats all i can say...
and are you sure she have no relationship? if nope, why don't meetup?
possibilities here :
no confidence
having relationship
not interested in you at all
if its no confidence, you have to decide whether you will accept her no matter how she look or simply give her up lor
if shes having relationship, all the more you 'ditch' her
not interested in you at all shows your wasting your time, or in other angle, let her fall in love with you lor..
decisions are up to you..
PS: my sayings may not be true, so please don't get upsetted by my words -
haiz... this thread makes me think alot..
u are better than me... if u did read my thread in chit chat forum... -
yah lor.. shouldn;t be like this long ago..Originally posted by shifeng:ya lor... sylvia is right... u still have not seen her... expression can tell alot rather than juz words... thats from my experience lar.. hehe
pull urself out if u can b4 u fall into it more... -
don't be sad.. there will always be someone who is there for you.. lalalalalaOriginally posted by shifeng:haiz... this thread makes me think alot..
u are better than me... if u did read my thread in chit chat forum...
see? i comforting u wor..
still sing song for you! lalalalaal
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anyway.. which thread ah?
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hehe.. thx wor..Originally posted by ^sylvia^:don't be sad.. there will always be someone who is there for you.. lalalalala
see? i comforting u wor..
still sing song for you! lalalalaal -
thanks for so much of ur help. all that have been said have all cross my mind. that what makes me more mess up. anyway pls feel free to comment i will not feel offenced in anyway.
thanks for the song. lalala elmo song hahahhaa. opps.
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I am dumb block. i am a dumb block.
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Originally posted by IceKachang:i have known a gal in the net for almost 3 yrs liao.during the 1st yr we were just normal friends when she is having problems or trouble i will try to solve and help her in any way i can. But we were not that close. during the 2nd yr she meet this guy in her school. then she has just join jc and like this particular guy alot in fact that guy was so popular that alot of gals in that jc like him.anyway she like him too and alot in reality, but was shy to tell him. but this guy was like he know about it. but was like always playing with her feelings. that flirting or affair lasted for a few months. then she found out he had a gf all along. she was destroyed. and again i was there to comfort her through the internet and phone. usually spending hours at a time. some times the whole night and i end up not sleeping as the next day for morning lesson. anyway it took almost 2 months for her to partily forget about that guy. but once in a while she will think of him. every time i tell her to concentrade on her studies and not think of that jerk. anyway i continue to comfort her as much as i can. soon after some time i began to fall for her.
(to be continued ----------> tired liao)
Seriously, you call that love?
Many people I know are like that - they are there for people but over the time they fell for them. This kind of falling in love is Emotional Connection (EC) in CloUdiSm Remix III - you fell in love with this emotional closeness you find with someone - when people share their emotional problems with you and you find yourself connecting - it may seemed like falling in love, but in reality, you could be just enjoying the emotional intimacy you have with that someone.
If I have EC in me - I would be falling in love so often. And a handful would have come from here.
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She hestitate to meet you because she fear that once she meet you, you won't contact her so much as before. She fear because she cannot upkeep that kind of image you have in her. In the internet world, in this virtual world - you see her as a crush, but what if when you do meet her, her image in you for 3 years is a complete 360 degree difference?
Then how then?
P.S: Its time to move on with life, expand social circle and treat her like a net-friend and leave it be.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
well... ur advices are always like that... i duno about IceKachang... cos only he can feel the "real" feelings... alot of things are exception.. Seriously, you call that love?
Many people I know are like that - they are there for people but over the time they fell for them. This kind of falling in love is Emotional Connection (EC) in CloUdiSm Remix III - you fell in love with this emotional closeness you find with someone - when people share their emotional problems with you and you find yourself connecting - it may seemed like falling in love, but in reality, [b]you could be just enjoying the emotional intimacy you have with that someone.
If I have EC in me - I would be falling in love so often. And a handful would have come from here.
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She hestitate to meet you because she fear that once she meet you, you won't contact her so much as before. She fear because she cannot upkeep that kind of image you have in her. In the internet world, in this virtual world - you see her as a crush, but what if when you do meet her, her image in you for 3 years is a complete 360 degree difference?
Then how then?
P.S: Its time to move on with life, expand social circle and treat her like a net-friend and leave it be.
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Originally posted by shifeng:well... ur advices are always like that... i duno about IceKachang... cos only he can feel the "real" feelings... alot of things are exception.. People only wants to hear the things they want to hear: this is called selective preception.
Advice are usually things they don't want to hear.
P.S: Anyway, his case is completely different from yours. Yeah, so chill a little ya?
Cheers -
clap clap.... well say well say....Originally posted by Yunhaier: People only wants to hear the things they want to hear: this is called selective preception.
Advice are usually things they don't want to hear.
Cheers -
i know wat Yunhaier is trying to say.how i wish i was that simple as a crush. but wat Yunhaier say might be true. but the problem is we confess we like each other. through the phone. opps jhahaha.
but i can say she has alot or problem herself. from family problems to friends. she isnt that friendly . i guess i have tahan maybe all her bad habits liao. so i dont think no matter how bad she looks i dont think i will mind her looks. just that i cant stay this secert or lie between us. i kept asking her out she keeps giving me reasons why she cannot or dont want. all reason that i dunt understand. anyway heard she had an accident in uk yesterday. now i am just very worried about her. wishing and praying that she will get well soon.
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Originally posted by IceKachang:i know wat Yunhaier is trying to say.how i wish i was that simple as a crush. but wat Yunhaier say might be true. but the problem is we confess we like each other. through the phone. opps jhahaha.
but i can say she has alot or problem herself. from family problems to friends. she isnt that friendly . i guess i have tahan maybe all her bad habits liao. so i dont think no matter how bad she looks i dont think i will mind her looks. just that i cant stay this secert or lie between us. i kept asking her out she keeps giving me reasons why she cannot or dont want. all reason that i dunt understand. anyway heard she had an accident in uk yesterday. now i am just very worried about her. wishing and praying that she will get well soon.
OH GOD PLS PROTECT and BLESS HER. A relationship - a love can only be born officially when you do meet up and see each other. Until then, there is little you can do unless she agrees and wants to know the real you and further your friendship to the next level - if not it will always remain in that stage. Stagnant and no progress.
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she's an ang moh? or she went there 4 studies?Originally posted by IceKachang:i know wat Yunhaier is trying to say.how i wish i was that simple as a crush. but wat Yunhaier say might be true. but the problem is we confess we like each other. through the phone. opps jhahaha.
but i can say she has alot or problem herself. from family problems to friends. she isnt that friendly . i guess i have tahan maybe all her bad habits liao. so i dont think no matter how bad she looks i dont think i will mind her looks. just that i cant stay this secert or lie between us. i kept asking her out she keeps giving me reasons why she cannot or dont want. all reason that i dunt understand. anyway heard she had an accident in uk yesterday. now i am just very worried about her. wishing and praying that she will get well soon.
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ya.. perhaps.. wo yi jing zhi sheng nan bao liao... haha, still wanna help others.. *sigh*Originally posted by Yunhaier: People only wants to hear the things they want to hear: this is called selective preception.
Advice are usually things they don't want to hear.
P.S: Anyway, his case is completely different from yours. Yeah, so chill a little ya?
Cheers -
Originally posted by shifeng:ya.. perhaps.. wo yi jing zhi sheng nan bao liao... haha, still wanna help others.. *sigh* Of course, please offer your point of view and if it is constructive - do it.
P.S: We all have different lessons in life. Do not let circumstances de-value you because you seemed and appear little. It's our experience that made us richer.
Cheers
