should i wait for her?
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She is not serious. Confirm. Give up. Move on.
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take ur time..choose carefully , its is better to analise her den to make a haste choice to patch things up wid her & regret in te future....
just lik my tat 5 yrs ex gf...is she come back to me, i wil also be in dilima on whether to accep her or not...not no feeling or love for her but wat IF histroy repet again or she somehow leave me again.....den hv to go through the pain again..get wat i mean..dun tel me u lik that kind of feeling...very headach lea... -
well...since whenever you and her going to meet up and she will turn off ..then i think she is afraid of you...maybe you still haven got her heart...try harder dude..Originally posted by IceKachang:here i continue this silly crappy story.
months passes. we kept chatting on the phone almost daily in fact 4-5 time daily. sometimes when i busy for 3 hrs i will recieve 10 -20 missed calls from her. as i am i am sometimes a forgetful person. i will tell her i will call her when i reach home but end up forgetting about it until the next morning and of cos she will be very angry with me. but we patch up very quickly. anyway this unsteady relationship last and grew. ending up we were more like couples than friends. start to call each other nick names and send love msgs. But there has always been a problem between us. we havent met each other b4. i dunno when ever i try to ask her out she will give me silly reasons like her aunt will not allow. busy with exams.
if its exams i dont mind i ask her to meet after it. she said ok but to change her mind when that day closes. ending up till today we havent meet at all. but she ask if i will wait for her for 3 yrs after her studies overseas to be with her and meet her. till today i havent even seen her pic. which i ask for for the past 1.5 yrs. everytime she will say she sent it but never reach me. the only time that reach me was when she send me her 12 yr old pic. which was like taken 7 yrs back. now i am in a mess should i even wait for her or love her?
anyone out there helllppppppppppppppp. -
Sorry m8, i never read ur post b4 replying...er..u never see her b4...????????bianggggggzzzz...........forget it lar...she no heart to meet u..den u still lik tat , tat torturing urself u know..u lik that does she know, no matter wat u do for her, she may not know,if she willing to meet u wat that's a diff story lea...mayb u tink it tis way, wat if she is tat type fat till no neck er...i mean cannot see neck(no offence)u waited den she appear lik that..u wasting ur time...move on...bo bian 1 lar.this type of things...1.5 yrs..not short.if u r lucky, within tat 1.5 yr, u already could get a gf liao..Originally posted by IceKachang:here i continue this silly crappy story.
months passes. we kept chatting on the phone almost daily in fact 4-5 time daily. sometimes when i busy for 3 hrs i will recieve 10 -20 missed calls from her. as i am i am sometimes a forgetful person. i will tell her i will call her when i reach home but end up forgetting about it until the next morning and of cos she will be very angry with me. but we patch up very quickly. anyway this unsteady relationship last and grew. ending up we were more like couples than friends. start to call each other nick names and send love msgs. But there has always been a problem between us. we havent met each other b4. i dunno when ever i try to ask her out she will give me silly reasons like her aunt will not allow. busy with exams.
if its exams i dont mind i ask her to meet after it. she said ok but to change her mind when that day closes. ending up till today we havent meet at all. but she ask if i will wait for her for 3 yrs after her studies overseas to be with her and meet her. till today i havent even seen her pic. which i ask for for the past 1.5 yrs. everytime she will say she sent it but never reach me. the only time that reach me was when she send me her 12 yr old pic. which was like taken 7 yrs back. now i am in a mess should i even wait for her or love her?
anyone out there helllppppppppppppppp.
It ultimately depends on wat u wan to do but i dun use te word ADVICE, i only say comments & share wid u wat i wil do as...lik tat later 4.5 yrs...u really will wait that long, cos if somehow, during te wait,some1 special appear but u kept ur promise to tat lady but in the end , she never appear again...den u cock liao...
or mayb u ask urself how well u know her, how much can she be trusted,some truth r cruel but tat r facts...Gd Luck.... -
forget it dude...u have been used...move on lah...
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Well, that Portion from Master Yun was a good one.
EC (Didn't know the initial is that. Take down notes).
Love?
Selective Perception. (Wham Bam, Home Run!)
On a serious note. You might have thought that it's difficult to let go of this 'relationship', and afraid she/you couldn't take it.
Ultimately, if you were to count the cost thru all these efforts. It's a No WIN situation...until both parties meets up.
Meeting up will be a whole new ball game altogether. When it reaches the next level. Let me know.
The phone calling, breaking up and patching back are all kiddy play. EC plays a very crucial part in this scene.
It creates mind games and led you to play her game.
(I don't know her personally, so i'm not in the right to tell you if she's cheating on you or not. But I may be right that she could be cooking up stories, not all of it...but a part.)
You're uncontrollably into it, and i attribute to EC.
EC could simply cause a person succumb into Deluded State of affection.
>>>The deluded may have thought he/she know the other party and understands he/her very well.
Deluded felt so close emotionally to the other half that he could trust...believe her.
Lastly, Deluded would not know the Real person he's talking to but chose to believe the virtual person.
My view: You're under her mercy, all requests could be turned down, left you hanging in the air.
A male should not hang in the air for too long...depending on your patience. When the guy hangs too long...it proves the point evenmore that she could control all requests, in fact, everything.
You can go crazy or helpless, for all she care. She doesn't know what the Fish you're going thru.
My Advice: Get a grip, make a decision. Meet up or break up.
Do self check, reflection and learn thru.
If you were to let her go one day, you'd realise that your recovery rate is actually faster then you thought. -
you like her bo? Ask yourself this qns. The ans to this qns will be ur ans.