Woman psychology: want and don't want...
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im straight forward lor.. 
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Well it's me again.Originally posted by kaypoh:ok, i truly have something to say on this cos this has always bothered me too.. the apparent, no means yes that all guys are so familiar with.. (i emphasize apparently) i feel that it has to do with wanting the idea of something, (i emphasize idea) but when the idea becomes real, u sort of realise that ur ideals are not going to make it n u're scared its not going to survive reality n suddenly u realised maybe u rather live with the perfection of the ideal than to face the harshness of the reality... what i'm trying to say is that these women REALLY want the IDEA of something, dun want the REAL something... (ok, i risk being humtum but women everywhere...but of cos, not all women do that lah.. alot are more aware than that..) crap? actually... i dun really know.. what do others think?
This theory by Kaypoh really interests me. So to summarize it's that a woman's mind may live in 2 worlds, virtual and real. In the virtual world, they seek an ideal or concept or perfect scenario. However, they'll eventually reconcil the ideal world with the real one and there lies all the conflicts and contradictions. -
Simple formula for local girls and women.
Yes = no
no = yes whenever they speak about something. -
Originally posted by men_@_arms:Simple formula for local girls and women.
Yes = no
no = yes whenever they speak about something.
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Not always. You can't be saying that we mean 'yes' too when we protest 'no' to rapes? LOLZOriginally posted by men_@_arms:Simple formula for local girls and women.
Yes = no
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Nah... if things were this simple.. y r guys having so much trouble understanding gals?Originally posted by men_@_arms:Simple formula for local girls and women.
Yes = no
no = yes whenever they speak about something.
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That depends...
There are some gals who can tell you what they want and what they dun want. They will also let you know if they are angry with you, frustrated about other stuff and such...
So, hmm... but, that only applies to some gals! -
yup! u said it! some gals!Originally posted by donjng:That depends...
There are some gals who can tell you what they want and what they dun want. They will also let you know if they are angry with you, frustrated about other stuff and such...
So, hmm... but, that only applies to some gals! -
i also don understand myself either.
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OK i undertsand the "no=yes, yes=no" theory... but wat about the "Not really" Theory????
Example:
A: U want to be my girlfriend?
B: Not really.
A: ???? 
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OK i undertsand the "no=yes, yes=no" theory... but wat about the "Not really" Theory????
Example:
A: U want to be my girlfriend?
B: Not really.
A: ????
So "not really" =????? -
2 possible ans.Originally posted by edwinSSM:OK i undertsand the "no=yes, yes=no" theory... but wat about the "Not really" Theory????
Example:
A: U want to be my girlfriend?
B: Not really.
A: ????
So "not really" =?????
"not really" = i dun wan to hurt your heart if i give a 'no'
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"not really" = we'll see about that. -
That's wat i'm afraid of... its not a definite answer... I think here think there, still dunno the real meaning...Originally posted by babo:2 possible ans.
"not really" = i dun wan to hurt your heart if i give a 'no'
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I think it is a case by case basis lor...
no one hard and fast rule to fit every gal or even one gal at different times...
maybe that's why we are attracted to gals not guys... -
They should just let us think for them
it be better
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i totally disagree with you...
everyone must think for themselves!Originally posted by Forever84:They should just let us think for them
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no one shld think for others... it will only make u think wrongly...Originally posted by Forever84:They should just let us think for them
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agree...Originally posted by Imperfect:no one shld think for others... it will only make u think wrongly...
i tink i tot who confirm????
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hmm... there is actually no right or wrong and perhaps it is not that complicated but well the society is one and I guess they just have to be this way to blend in?Originally posted by m.c.king:Hey. Just something to spark off some discussion.
Think we guys got a problem with understanding gals of all ages.
You see, gals have this inclination to never state explicitly what they want. I wonder if this is due to social conditioning (gals must be demure and keep things to themselves; not too loud and vocal) or as a personal power bargaining tools (never reveal your trump card).
I don't know if I should classify this under "don't know what they themselves want" or "looking at things from multiple angles and coming to no conclusion." syndrome.
Sometimes, they like something but say they don't like it.
So how should the guy respond???
Sometimes, they want something but say they don't want it.
So should the guy buy and give it to them???
Sometimes, they are interested in a guy but say they're adament against going into any relationship or not looking for anyone.
So should the guy try to make a move or should just scram off since they said that???
So what do they want after all??? Great guys can continue guessing -- and making the wrong guesses and the gals storm off in a angry fit.
Any rule-of-thumb or tips to tell what's on gals' mind? Share your experience.
If a girl keeps being straightforward and ask you to buy, she might thinks that you find her materialistic but deep in her heart, despite all the NO out of her mouth, she still hopes you buy for her if not she will look a bit unhappy but will not storm off else she will be smiling all over. This are the type of gals who seek romance, fairy tale or drama alike style. However, this range of girls belongs mainly to the teenagers type. I hardly see working adults behaving in this way.
Some girls no means no, they have a mind of their own and is independant. This are mostly very ambitious ladies, I would say.
This kind goes for materialism. At one time they want to prove to people they arent such people but the very fact, deep in their heart.. it's mysterious. They storm off, kick up a fuss, say all kind of funny things and you might just be puzzled cos their main purpose is get hold of the thing but could not express openly and felt frustrated.
myths have been pass down from way back ancestors to the modern girls this day of what ought to be done when dealing with guys. The fact is most guys do not treasure what comes into their possession easily but those tt took great effort to earn it. If a gal is too straightforward, what will some guys think? They might dislike, despise or whatever. If they cant say what they want and seems to make the guy to be in a guessing game, some guys feel irritated. The guys cant even seem to know what kind of lady they want.
In fact, both parties are playing guessing game so we always end up assuming each other purpose. Actually, just follow our heart and we will say the right words. Its more like tackling a person. Guys who sweet talk their nv had such problems with gals but they are also the most deceiving kind. -
summury of all i`ve read: NO CONCLUSION!!
gals r too complex aka sophisticated to be define usin words alone.. nv offend them is one lesson i`ve learnt..
tink tt`ll pull u thro for most occassions...
cheers for all the woman and poor guys out there trying to simplify them -
u get what u see... no point simplifying or changing them...Originally posted by BaByBoY:summury of all i`ve read: NO CONCLUSION!!
gals r too complex aka sophisticated to be define usin words alone.. nv offend them is one lesson i`ve learnt..
tink tt`ll pull u thro for most occassions...
cheers for all the woman and poor guys out there trying to simplify them -
if ur gf likes something just buy for her lahz... she wun explicitly state that she wants but will drop hints and hope you will buy for her. it's like that onez lahz~