Originally posted by m.c.king:
Hey. Just something to spark off some discussion.
Think we guys got a problem with understanding gals of all ages.
You see, gals have this inclination to never state explicitly what they want. I wonder if this is due to social conditioning (gals must be demure and keep things to themselves; not too loud and vocal) or as a personal power bargaining tools (never reveal your trump card).
I don't know if I should classify this under "don't know what they themselves want" or "looking at things from multiple angles and coming to no conclusion." syndrome.
Sometimes, they like something but say they don't like it.
So how should the guy respond???
Sometimes, they want something but say they don't want it.
So should the guy buy and give it to them???
Sometimes, they are interested in a guy but say they're adament against going into any relationship or not looking for anyone.
So should the guy try to make a move or should just scram off since they said that???
So what do they want after all??? Great guys can continue guessing -- and making the wrong guesses and the gals storm off in a angry fit.
Any rule-of-thumb or tips to tell what's on gals' mind? Share your experience.
hmm... there is actually no right or wrong and perhaps it is not that complicated but well the society is one and I guess they just have to be this way to blend in?
If a girl keeps being straightforward and ask you to buy, she might thinks that you find her materialistic but deep in her heart, despite all the NO out of her mouth, she still hopes you buy for her if not she will look a bit unhappy but will not storm off else she will be smiling all over. This are the type of gals who seek romance, fairy tale or drama alike style. However, this range of girls belongs mainly to the teenagers type. I hardly see working adults behaving in this way.
Some girls no means no, they have a mind of their own and is independant. This are mostly very ambitious ladies, I would say.
This kind goes for materialism. At one time they want to prove to people they arent such people but the very fact, deep in their heart.. it's mysterious. They storm off, kick up a fuss, say all kind of funny things and you might just be puzzled cos their main purpose is get hold of the thing but could not express openly and felt frustrated.
myths have been pass down from way back ancestors to the modern girls this day of what ought to be done when dealing with guys. The fact is most guys do not treasure what comes into their possession easily but those tt took great effort to earn it. If a gal is too straightforward, what will some guys think? They might dislike, despise or whatever. If they cant say what they want and seems to make the guy to be in a guessing game, some guys feel irritated. The guys cant even seem to know what kind of lady they want.
In fact, both parties are playing guessing game so we always end up assuming each other purpose. Actually, just follow our heart and we will say the right words. Its more like tackling a person. Guys who sweet talk their nv had such problems with gals but they are also the most deceiving kind.