My friend needs help.
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I know I sound like I am defending her..Afterall she is my friend... i simply cant stand the guy. she already told him tt all was jus a lie. Huge quarrels already had taken place than finally still together. What i am so mad about is becos the guy don superficially says get together bcos my friend kick a fuss out of it. he shld stay bcos he believe and hope there might be a chance, because he want to stay... if he chooses to stay... he shld leave past as past and nt raking it up again n again whenever he likes... although i know i cant expect him to forget what happen but if he cants forget... than y hold on bcos my friend "indirectly" forced him to? he chooses to stay.. than pick on her like taking revenge, he makes me feel like he is behaving like a kid.
for example... he question my friend wat she want to eat...
so she said her ans (happen the food she want to eat is in Geylang for eg but she did not make unreasonable demands that she must eat tat... she jus ans his question) he will say sth like $^&%&*, why mus u always choose tt kind of crowded area to eat? he is putting his frustration of the past on sth new and unrelated. the list cld really go on... he do wat he wants and restrict my friend to do wat he is doing. (like leaving the plates there awhile before clearing aft eating, etc) he wld scold her... call her do this do that... and she nv grumbled.
u noe... she didnt do anythink unfaithful ya, jus spouting those rubbish do not deserve treatment that harsh which had been going on for almost 2 years... even paying back with interest... is more than enough...
he shld say or get angry at the right moment not digging the past out of the blue and rattled and vent his anger...
i do not know how true my friend words are but it sounds like he is seeking revenge... ok... u have a scar... but does that means u will pick on tt someone who leave u tt scar for no good reason? -
duh, can answer my question?Originally posted by Angles:I know I sound like I am defending her..Afterall she is my friend... i simply cant stand the guy. she already told him tt all was jus a lie. Huge quarrels already had taken place than finally still together. What i am so mad about is becos the guy don superficially says get together bcos my friend kick a fuss out of it. he shld stay bcos he believe and hope there might be a chance, because he want to stay... if he chooses to stay... he shld leave past as past and nt raking it up again n again whenever he likes... although i know i cant expect him to forget what happen but if he cants forget... than y hold on bcos my friend "indirectly" forced him to? he chooses to stay.. than pick on her like taking revenge, he makes me feel like he is behaving like a kid.
for example... he question my friend wat she want to eat...
so she said her ans (happen the food she want to eat is in Geylang for eg but she did not make unreasonable demands that she must eat tat... she jus ans his question) he will say sth like $^&%&*, why mus u always choose tt kind of crowded area to eat? he is putting his frustration of the past on sth new and unrelated. the list cld really go on... he do wat he wants and restrict my friend to do wat he is doing. (like leaving the plates there awhile before clearing aft eating, etc) he wld scold her... call her do this do that... and she nv grumbled.
u noe... she didnt do anythink unfaithful ya, jus spouting those rubbish do not deserve treatment that harsh which had been going on for almost 2 years... even paying back with interest... is more than enough...
he shld say or get angry at the right moment not digging the past out of the blue and rattled and vent his anger...
i do not know how true my friend words are but it sounds like he is seeking revenge... ok... u have a scar... but does that means u will pick on tt someone who leave u tt scar for no good reason?
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Firstly, I doubt she is going to enter another relationship giving all tt had taken place whether she created them or she was jus a plain victim all over the years. She probably had nightmare and wld jus add on to her insecurities and her self confidence. She probably need a rare species lover to change her... one who understands y she become like tt and tolerate her and use the appropriate med on her but such ppl... is almost impossible.. not that is none.. but maybe not in her life... at least not for now.Originally posted by M©+square:I'll stand by sillyme's answer about that.
Well. Defending your friend is one thing/matter. And i'll respect your decision.
Let's say she's going into another relationship. Rather, if she would happen to enter into a new relationship.
I'm interested to know what would your advice would be. If she's going to do the same thing(drama) again.
I'm interested to know your next cause of action again...
Care to enlighten the people of what your answer will be?
The one advice i will give her : tink before u act, don repeat the same mistake again... u cant turn back time... do wat is right and not regret and try to salvage the situation later. If she insists... i wld tell her straight.. she has to bear the conseqences... but more importantly I will ask is she ready for the relationship>>> don hope into one if u cant let go the past nightmare... everytink jus gonna be the same...
if that is going to satisfy ur queries -
Your friend must be out of her mind to test guys on this issue....all guys would be angry if their gf tell them what she did to another guys.Am i rite Guys??She causes all these problems and she cant blame anyone except her.I doubt no guys will accept her if she does this kind of things which she claims is a lie.
For my point of view,i think the guy is very good to still carry on this relationship wif her given the things she does even though all these she claims is a lie. If she is hurt by relationship many times, I doubt she cant be of any good gal(no offence) given the way she test guy and given the fact she can pop over to guy's house so willingly.
She must be very young rite?High chance not virgin....hehehe