How to tell if a guy is interested in a girl..
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This is actually a very simple question...how do you tell if a guy is interested in you? Like how do you know if he is flirting with you or is just being friendly? Anyone can answer this, you can be a guy or a girl who has experienced this. Will appreciate any opinion and feedback!
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Don't really care unless he come tell me straight that he likes me or whatsoever.
I dun like guessing games.
Unless u r also interested in him, else why will u wish to know how he feels for ya?
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Originally posted by icyprincess:This is actually a very simple question...how do you tell if a guy is interested in you? Like how do you know if he is flirting with you or is just being friendly? Anyone can answer this, you can be a guy or a girl who has experienced this. Will appreciate any opinion and feedback!
Don't bother to guess/assume/presume if you are amateur in reading that kind of situation. The best course of action is to wait until he express himself and keep your options open. Even if you like him, still - there would be a day when he couldn't contain anymore and release them IF he has feelings for you.
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that feeling u sure can feel it lah
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alright, I asked this because there is currently a guy I like. He is my close friend. We used to be very close; he would tell me his thoughts that he would not tell others. But the problem is he likes another girl. He told me about her and although it hurts me a lot, I still tried to help him to go after the girl. I helped him to select gifts for her, wrote love letters to her (which he never sent actually), a lot of silly things that I know I shouldn't do. But he is my best friend and I promise I will always help him when he needs it. I always feel so comfortable with him, we have gone to movies, dances, watched sunset/sunrise together, and the best thing is I can talk to him for a long time and never get bored. He was there to calm me down when I was sad and made me laughed again. However I do not know whether he likes me or not. And I do not know if I should tell him that I like him a lot because of fear it will ruin our friendship. Any ideas??
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Originally posted by icyprincess:This is actually a very simple question...how do you tell if a guy is interested in you? Like how do you know if he is flirting with you or is just being friendly? Anyone can answer this, you can be a guy or a girl who has experienced this. Will appreciate any opinion and feedback! this is NO way a simple question.
I have seen and gone through the phases where people misunderstand each other because they were unwilling/reluctant/scared
to ask. i guess no one in this forum can answer this question of yours. only HE can answer this question, whether it is through his own confessions or you asking him personally -
u never ask, u never know...Originally posted by icyprincess:alright, I asked this because there is currently a guy I like. He is my close friend. We used to be very close; he would tell me his thoughts that he would not tell others. But the problem is he likes another girl. He told me about her and although it hurts me a lot, I still tried to help him to go after the girl. I helped him to select gifts for her, wrote love letters to her (which he never sent actually), a lot of silly things that I know I shouldn't do. But he is my best friend and I promise I will always help him when he needs it. I always feel so comfortable with him, we have gone to movies, dances, watched sunset/sunrise together, and the best thing is I can talk to him for a long time and never get bored. He was there to calm me down when I was sad and made me laughed again. However I do not know whether he likes me or not. And I do not know if I should tell him that I like him a lot because of fear it will ruin our friendship. Any ideas??
since u like him, why not... tell him how u feel ... good luck
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I never believed in beating around the bush
yea the silly games are fun to play and it gives u that warm feeling inside that all of us really like...but if you're really dying to know, there's only ONE way to find out...
ask. -
i know...i have wanted to ask a lot of times...and I think I have had a lot of chances to...esp when we were having those one-on-once conversations at night in my place...got privacy...but somehow I never dare to because maybe I think too much. I am afraid of losing him as a good friend. Actually I got hinted to him once..I asked him how he would feel if a good friend asked him to become her bf...he said he wouldn't mind...I should have asked at that moment, at that time but I lost my courage again...until now I have never had it back...do you think it is worth it to sacrifice the friendship just for the slim chance he might like me back the way I do?
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wat makes u think it will sacrifice the friendship... maybe both will go on to the next level...think positively... maybe he is just waiting for u to ask tooOriginally posted by icyprincess:i know...i have wanted to ask a lot of times...and I think I have had a lot of chances to...esp when we were having those one-on-once conversations at night in my place...got privacy...but somehow I never dare to because maybe I think too much. I am afraid of losing him as a good friend. Actually I got hinted to him once..I asked him how he would feel if a good friend asked him to become her bf...he said he wouldn't mind...I should have asked at that moment, at that time but I lost my courage again...until now I have never had it back...do you think it is worth it to sacrifice the friendship just for the slim chance he might like me back the way I do?
Dun delay...ask...and let us know the results, ok
Good luck
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what makes me think I will lose the friendship is because...he might still love the other girl. He has waited for dat girl for nearly 5 years. I don't think he will change his mind just like that. I don't know when this will end. Sometimes this hurted so much that all I want to do is to just forget him. Forget every single memory that we have shared, it will be easier that way. I have even tried going out with another guy who likes me. But nothing works. A year later I am still in love with him. Even more so now. I have no idea why....
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I don't see how this can be a simple question at all...? Simple question which require very complicated answers...?Originally posted by icyprincess:This is actually a very simple question...how do you tell if a guy is interested in you? Like how do you know if he is flirting with you or is just being friendly? Anyone can answer this, you can be a guy or a girl who has experienced this. Will appreciate any opinion and feedback! -
see u shouldn even drop hintsOriginally posted by icyprincess:i know...i have wanted to ask a lot of times...and I think I have had a lot of chances to...esp when we were having those one-on-once conversations at night in my place...got privacy...but somehow I never dare to because maybe I think too much. I am afraid of losing him as a good friend. Actually I got hinted to him once..I asked him how he would feel if a good friend asked him to become her bf...he said he wouldn't mind...I should have asked at that moment, at that time but I lost my courage again...until now I have never had it back...do you think it is worth it to sacrifice the friendship just for the slim chance he might like me back the way I do?
love's not a game... there are no winners there are no losers...contrary to what people think... our pride and our ego MAKES love a game. Just ask him... -
PrincessOriginally posted by icyprincess:what makes me think I will lose the friendship is because...he might still love the other girl. He has waited for dat girl for nearly 5 years. I don't think he will change his mind just like that. I don't know when this will end. Sometimes this hurted so much that all I want to do is to just forget him. Forget every single memory that we have shared, it will be easier that way. I have even tried going out with another guy who likes me. But nothing works. A year later I am still in love with him. Even more so now. I have no idea why....
Being sensitive to your friend's feelings is a good thing, but not when u are emotionally involved. Things not said out would never be known to the other party.
At least let him know that there's a girl right beside him waiting for him, and let him ponder about the choices he had before him, you or the other girl. If he choose to wait for the other girl, then fine, say you will be a friend and support him all the way. No hard feeling and no more guessing where his heart is. If it's you he choose then congratulations.
Since you are such good friend with him, I'm sure it would not break just because u confess your feelings to him. Pick up tthe courage and ask, or in time you may regret the day u didn't.
Live a life without regrets, it's hard but attainable only if you try.
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Originally posted by icyprincess:what makes me think I will lose the friendship is because...he might still love the other girl. He has waited for dat girl for nearly 5 years. I don't think he will change his mind just like that. I don't know when this will end. Sometimes this hurted so much that all I want to do is to just forget him. Forget every single memory that we have shared, it will be easier that way. I have even tried going out with another guy who likes me. But nothing works. A year later I am still in love with him. Even more so now. I have no idea why.... Seriously, what do you have to lose? Nothing.
He waited the girl for 5 years and of course, the girl he is waiting doesn't really give much damn about him. Somehow, people never realise that plain waiting without vision of plans will attribute to complete failure. Friendship wouldn't be ruin overnight because of the expression of feelings - rather, it is how two parties handle the situation.
Tell him as in an informative way. By letting him know and you not expecting anything. You could can still remain good friends and everything - as long as you don't act like a weirdo and everything else. Be yourself even after expressing - trust me; if you are not going to do that after say 5 years already - when are you doing to do it? Anyway you just wanna let him know, it doesn't mean you two has to be together ya? Well, if he feels that it is impossible, then so be it. Close this chapter and move on with life. By hanging in the air, what makes you think it will be better?
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For info sake 18 Body Language Clues That Say He's Interested
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I dunno wat r U doin... but if I were YOU, I wld hint again. Maybe somedae let him noe of it, subtly NOT suddenly. I dun bother to decipher wat he doin, wat U doin. Hiao NOT even wat da gal he waitin for 5 yrs doin. I juz wan U to noe dat to try, U get 50%. No try = 0%.Originally posted by icyprincess:what makes me think I will lose the friendship is because...he might still love the other girl. He has waited for dat girl for nearly 5 years. I don't think he will change his mind just like that. I don't know when this will end. Sometimes this hurted so much that all I want to do is to just forget him. Forget every single memory that we have shared, it will be easier that way. I have even tried going out with another guy who likes me. But nothing works. A year later I am still in love with him. Even more so now. I have no idea why....
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hey thanks peeps for all the replies
I was just away for a night and suddenly I saw that a lot of people have been giving really good response to my post I have tried to tell him before to give up on the girl in a subtle way actually...I told him maybe he wants to try looking for other girl who treats him nicer, who actually will like him back. But he kept saying the other girl is the one for him...I wonder who is more 'blind' here..me or him..or mebbe it is the both of us... -
maybe u can try to be more direct??Originally posted by icyprincess:hey thanks peeps for all the replies I was just away for a night and suddenly I saw that a lot of people have been giving really good response to my post I have tried to tell him before to give up on the girl in a subtle way actually...I told him maybe he wants to try looking for other girl who treats him nicer, who actually will like him back. But he kept saying the other girl is the one for him...I wonder who is more 'blind' here..me or him..or mebbe it is the both of us... -
you like him? then tell him. no more waiting. -
easier said than done actually. Maybe because I am someone who think a lot about the consequences of my actions. I know by telling him there is a chance he might accept me as more than just a friend..but there is also a chance I might lose him. And so many of my friends who have tried this before said they ended up losing the friendship. Both parties will agree that nothing will happen to the friendship but...somehow the declaration always will do something to it. I don't know. I am afraid of losing him I guess because even though he might not know it, he means a lot to me. And I am going to live next to him this summer break (by coincidence)...but after that I would move away already so I won't see much of him anymore after this summer. So it is either I have to take action fast or just let time erase all the memories...
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Den good luck to U.
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ask... so that you wun regret in future for not asking
ask... so that at least things can get going rather than be in a guessing game situation
ask... so that if the reply is good, you can sleep better every night
ask... so that if the reply is bad, you only endure a few sleepless nights
ask... cos you do want to ask.. and you want to know..
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hey u know wad princess ? i have the same problem as you , just that im the guy. Troubles...
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*sigh* I wish I am not such a coward...anyone else with this problem? Share your woes here..and maybe we can find a solution together...