The second guy's story...
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So last week I posted about this guy whom I like a lot. And I dunno whether he likes me or not. Blergh. But I know there is another guy here, let's call him B, who is interested in me. He has been asking me out to lunch, dinner, supper, movies, you name it, he has asked me to it...
Of course if Ilike him back it wun be a problem. But you all know I like another guy. And I try to make myself like B. I have gone out with him as a friend and I find him to be a really nice guy...but sumhow I just can't 'feel' for him the same way I do for the other guy *sigh*
So I dunno le...sometimes I go out with him just to make sure the guy I like jealous (he really did once, when I came back late with B and then he asked me a lot of questions)..but I feel bad cos dats like using B. I know it is not fair but I feel sorry if I reject him all the time too. Sometimes even when I dun wan to go out with him I will just say yes because he keeps asking me to.
Haih. Really dunno wat to do. Any opinion?? -
if u dun wanna be with B, knowing tat B likes u alot, dun give him false hope lah...dun toy wif his sincerity lah...
Just be nice to Croco can liao
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I say go with your instincts and for the guy that you love with feelings, rather then the one you try to build feelings.
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"never get into another relationship before i can put down the previous one" is somethin i always remind myself. it's not fair to either parties.
dun use B to make Blergh jealous.Originally posted by icyprincess:So last week I posted about this guy whom I like a lot. And I dunno whether he likes me or not. Blergh. But I know there is another guy here, let's call him B, who is interested in me. He has been asking me out to lunch, dinner, supper, movies, you name it, he has asked me to it...
Of course if Ilike him back it wun be a problem. But you all know I like another guy. And I try to make myself like B. I have gone out with him as a friend and I find him to be a really nice guy...but sumhow I just can't 'feel' for him the same way I do for the other guy *sigh*
So I dunno le...sometimes I go out with him just to make sure the guy I like jealous (he really did once, when I came back late with B and then he asked me a lot of questions)..but I feel bad cos dats like using B. I know it is not fair but I feel sorry if I reject him all the time too. Sometimes even when I dun wan to go out with him I will just say yes because he keeps asking me to.
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wat thanks for superfast replies
Anyway it is not that I want to toy with his feelings le...I just feel bad if I reject his invitation all the time ma...just want to treat him like friend but scared later give him false hope also and then he will say I try to lead him on...*sigh* 
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better to hav him sad now then when he has fallen into your grasp deeper then he sadOriginally posted by icyprincess:wat thanks for superfast replies Anyway it is not that I want to toy with his feelings le...I just feel bad if I reject his invitation all the time ma...just want to treat him like friend but scared later give him false hope also and then he will say I try to lead him on...*sigh*
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then i reject him all the time a? dats like make him pai seh leh...and i hate to disappoint him le...he is very nice to me...arrgh
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but u will be given him the false hope, and in the end, the pain will be worse for him...leave him alone and he will continue with his life... the more u "pity" him, the more u r going to hurt himOriginally posted by icyprincess:then i reject him all the time a? dats like make him pai seh leh...and i hate to disappoint him le...he is very nice to me...arrgh
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if u wish to give B and urself a chance, forget abt the other B guy.
but goin by ur reply, my take is that, love and pity are 2 dif things.Originally posted by icyprincess:then i reject him all the time a? dats like make him pai seh leh...and i hate to disappoint him le...he is very nice to me...arrgh -
this thing so susah le...why can't I like someone who likes me back???Why must I like someone who dun like me?? Gahhhh...tension. I hate him now. Why must I fall for him. Why must I love him so much. Even a simple sentence from him can make me happy. Like today I told him I will have a lot of exams next week and he said he will pray for me to get good results. And can you believe I was in clouds nine the whole day because of that one sentence???B can say that sentence to me 10 times and I won't feel anything. Stupid, silly me. Silly, silly princess.
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hahah.. it's like that lar.. it's like that.
welcome to life and enjoy it.
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That's why the term "Unconditional Love".
Personally, i rather you tell the guy you like that you like him. At least that will settle loads of stuff instead of pondering the question within you forever and you can move on too... -
tat is the strangeness of loveOriginally posted by icyprincess:this thing so susah le...why can't I like someone who likes me back???Why must I like someone who dun like me?? Gahhhh...tension. I hate him now. Why must I fall for him. Why must I love him so much. Even a simple sentence from him can make me happy. Like today I told him I will have a lot of exams next week and he said he will pray for me to get good results. And can you believe I was in clouds nine the whole day because of that one sentence???B can say that sentence to me 10 times and I won't feel anything. Stupid, silly me. Silly, silly princess.
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you shouldnt be going out alone with B unless he knows very clearly how you feel about him.Originally posted by icyprincess:So last week I posted about this guy whom I like a lot. And I dunno whether he likes me or not. Blergh. But I know there is another guy here, let's call him B, who is interested in me. He has been asking me out to lunch, dinner, supper, movies, you name it, he has asked me to it...
Of course if Ilike him back it wun be a problem. But you all know I like another guy. And I try to make myself like B. I have gone out with him as a friend and I find him to be a really nice guy...but sumhow I just can't 'feel' for him the same way I do for the other guy *sigh*
So I dunno le...sometimes I go out with him just to make sure the guy I like jealous (he really did once, when I came back late with B and then he asked me a lot of questions)..but I feel bad cos dats like using B. I know it is not fair but I feel sorry if I reject him all the time too. Sometimes even when I dun wan to go out with him I will just say yes because he keeps asking me to.
Haih. Really dunno wat to do. Any opinion??
jiang xin bi xin..do you know that B was on cloud nine for a few days simply because you went out with him? should B deserves to suffer such hurt just because he likes you?
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got free meal , free movie to watch, everything free..of course he is nice..i also wan to be treated like that...but i'm not interested in him..oh...just making use of him or be a normal fren only.. but i dont want to reject so often...paiseh ma
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frankly, mi got a friend is just like B now...the gal just making use of him (mostly $$$ ), ask mi friend to fetch her to here and there....but no love him lor
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hmm...i dun wan to 'use' him la...i know it is not good...but is going out as a fren considered using a guy? Am I giving him false hopes? After all he shouldn't be thinking too much right? I maen...just take it as I am treating him like a friend...
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But, unfortunately, he doesn't think so.Originally posted by icyprincess:hmm...i dun wan to 'use' him la...i know it is not good...but is going out as a fren considered using a guy? Am I giving him false hopes? After all he shouldn't be thinking too much right? I maen...just take it as I am treating him like a friend...
Dun do that to others as you dun want others to do that to you.
Imagine if the guy you like, does that to you...
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so I should ignore him altogether? I know if the guy I like do that to me, I will be very hurt also....how aa????
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Well, you have to make it plainly to B(the guy who likes you) that you only treated him as a fren, but, will go out with him if he needs company and nothing more than that.
Coz, if you dun tell him, he will think that he got a second chance.
As for the person you like, its up to you to tell him in the face, or drop subtle hints, or wait patiently liao... -
Well, you have to make it plainly to B(the guy who likes you) that you only treated him as a fren, but, will go out with him if he needs company and nothing more than that.
Coz, if you dun tell him, he will think that he got a second chance.
As for the person you like, its up to you to tell him in the face, or drop subtle hints, or wait patiently liao...
Hope that helps!
In my case, I avoided the person who likes me, TOTALLY! -
the thing is...he hasn't actually told me he likes me yet. He only does things that makes me think he likes me. Like he usually dun go out a lot but recently he has been 'attaching' himself to me on any outdoor activities...but bcos he hasn't told me yet...then i can't really reject him...if not he says I think too much, maybe he wants to be friends only after all...
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ahh... this kind of stupid situation again!
I was trapped in this kind of situation before.
I told the person directly how i felt for him. I told him directly that " I like you more than a fren! what about you?" and, i got my answer...
Guys, at this stage, are like more or less the same situation as gals. Nobody wants to declare their feelings for each other for fear of rejection. Its normal.
If you can't bear the fact of telling him face to face,
SMS or MSN him.
But, you must also keep in mind that after confessing your feelings to him, and that he replies that he likes you too(hopefully), nothing may comes out of the relationship too. As in, he may not be prepared to be in a relationship yet.
But, are you, in the first place too?
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Here's a tip, tell mr B this "What you seek....I cannot give it to you".
This allows the both of you to exit gracefully.
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thanks for the reply evone...i just dunno how to bring this up to B...think I should tell him that I like another guy? then mebbe he will give up on me.