The second guy's story...
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yup! at least, B will know the true reason of rejection and not pondering abt it. In most cases, the chances of being friends with B is very high!
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My prince broke my heart again...I think there is no point in me asking him anymore whether he likes me or not...he was talking to me online just now and the other girl signed in halfway and you know what he did? He stopped talking to me. I was puzzled why he did that until an hour later I saw his sign in name has been changed to,"My dearest friend (fill in the girl's name here) it is so nice to talk to you again." I just broke down at that moment. I really cried in front of my comp. It is like the moment she came on, he will forget all about me. All about what I have done for him. I am hanging on for someone who doesn't love me at all. I am doing things for a person who doesn't appreciate it. I guess it is time to move on. Thanks guys for all the support. I guess I should make myself hate him now. I am going to sever all ties with him. Means avoiding him for the rest of my life. Yes, I am damn angry right now.
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good good.. make your mind and stick to your decision... move on and forget about him.. he dun deserve it at all...Originally posted by icyprincess:My prince broke my heart again...I think there is no point in me asking him anymore whether he likes me or not...he was talking to me online just now and the other girl signed in halfway and you know what he did? He stopped talking to me. I was puzzled why he did that until an hour later I saw his sign in name has been changed to,"My dearest friend (fill in the girl's name here) it is so nice to talk to you again." I just broke down at that moment. I really cried in front of my comp. It is like the moment she came on, he will forget all about me. All about what I have done for him. I am hanging on for someone who doesn't love me at all. I am doing things for a person who doesn't appreciate it. I guess it is time to move on. Thanks guys for all the support. I guess I should make myself hate him now. I am going to sever all ties with him. Means avoiding him for the rest of my life. Yes, I am damn angry right now.
start by blocking out all his contacts now.. in MSN, email, ICQ etc...
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yea i have done exactly dat hehe block out his name in my msn heh
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very good.. next is block all his email address in all ur email accrt...
delete his HP/Home number from your handphone and forget abt his HP num. totally sever all contacts wif him... no point leaving some unclosed linkages for him to contact/find you again... -
hehe..consider dat done
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gd gd.. next thing is only ur mind.. FIRM your mind and everything should work out fine..Originally posted by icyprincess:hehe..consider dat done -
Originally posted by icyprincess:So last week I posted about this guy whom I like a lot. And I dunno whether he likes me or not. Blergh. But I know there is another guy here, let's call him B, who is interested in me. He has been asking me out to lunch, dinner, supper, movies, you name it, he has asked me to it...
Of course if Ilike him back it wun be a problem. But you all know I like another guy. And I try to make myself like B. I have gone out with him as a friend and I find him to be a really nice guy...but sumhow I just can't 'feel' for him the same way I do for the other guy *sigh*
So I dunno le...sometimes I go out with him just to make sure the guy I like jealous (he really did once, when I came back late with B and then he asked me a lot of questions)..but I feel bad cos dats like using B. I know it is not fair but I feel sorry if I reject him all the time too. Sometimes even when I dun wan to go out with him I will just say yes because he keeps asking me to.
Haih. Really dunno wat to do. Any opinion??
Seriously speaking, everyone make use of everyone in matters of love, especially when they are not the main cast in the person's heart.
You can make clear to him that you and him is impossible? No chemistry, no feelings. Going out with him doesn't mean anything - it doesn't mean that you have to fork out certain percentage of your heart to him just because you went out on private dates. It's for companionship and company - he has to know about this point? And at anytime when you are not comfortable, no time or anything - don't hestitate to reject him and make known to him that it doesn't mean anything.
Friends will be friends - draw the line clear in the beginning to prevent ambigious claims later on.
P.S: Side cast (people you have no feelings for) shouldn't cause any problem at all. Don't implicate situations with side cast - it creates unneccessary problems.
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Princess...you know what will happen? You will start to feel bad and then you wll reverse all the changes you made..Y?? Bcos i was there once, i deleted everything that reminded me of her only to realise that i loved her more then anyone else....
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Judging from my own experience, I blocked off all contacts with that person for about 2 weeks to let myself cool down and think about the next step I should take.
After 2 weeks of cooling down, I unblocked everything. This is to confirm to myself that I have already leave the affairs of the heart behind.
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No use deleting all stuff. I also deleted the 'friend' number after realising he back stab me. But in my mind i still remember his number after a few months. try to forgive and forget.
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same case w me.. i nv even called my fren for half a yr.. juz to accidently meet her in the street these days to remind me of everything abt her...Originally posted by Misogynist:Princess...you know what will happen? You will start to feel bad and then you wll reverse all the changes you made..Y?? Bcos i was there once, i deleted everything that reminded me of her only to realise that i loved her more then anyone else....
ur love will nv die.. unless u really choose to..
and icy, nv nv nv cheat on B cuz i`ve been in his shoes b4 too.. i tell u. even u tell him to wait 10 yrs.. don be surprised.. he may actually do it..
u r juz a duplicate of B.. u know how it feels..
juz tt the guys need to spend more $$..
spend some time to tink abt wat u reallly want in ur life.. to love or to be loved.. the choice is urs.. -
x2.. been thru it and still in it..Originally posted by Misogynist:Princess...you know what will happen? You will start to feel bad and then you wll reverse all the changes you made..Y?? Bcos i was there once, i deleted everything that reminded me of her only to realise that i loved her more then anyone else....
i guess e only n best way is to put ur mind to forgetting tt person lor.. it will be useless if u delete everything relating to him/her but in tt small little corner of ur heart.. he/she is still living in there.. n icy.. from my opinion la.. i tink u shld spend some time tinking abt everything tt happen.. and in e meantime.. shut urself to both ur prince n B.. tink abt wad u really wan lor.. n ya.. u were angry wif ur prince.. cos he forget all abt u once e other girl come on.. but somehow sub-consciously.. u r also 'making use' of B ma.. so i tink it's quite unfair to B.. if u really wan to know if B like u.. maybe u can get ur frens to test him..? but since u already dun like him.. so y bother.. if not.. u can just tell him during one of ur 'dates'.. "i'm really glad i have u this fren.. n i hope we will always remain frens.." this shld be able to save both of u from embarassment.. n also lessen e hurt ba..
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I never asked him to spend any money for me, everytime he wanted to buy something for me, I will ask him not to. I am trying not to like him now, I mean I just got out of an intense liking for my ex-prince, I dun wan B to be like my rebound. I might like him later on, I dunno, maybe I will if he perserve and does something that touches me deeply. But right now I definitely know I am blocking off my ex-prince from my life...Originally posted by BaByBoY:same case w me.. i nv even called my fren for half a yr.. juz to accidently meet her in the street these days to remind me of everything abt her...
ur love will nv die.. unless u really choose to..
and icy, nv nv nv cheat on B cuz i`ve been in his shoes b4 too.. i tell u. even u tell him to wait 10 yrs.. don be surprised.. he may actually do it..
u r juz a duplicate of B.. u know how it feels..
juz tt the guys need to spend more $$..
spend some time to tink abt wat u reallly want in ur life.. to love or to be loved.. the choice is urs.. -
Tian Ya Lun Luo Ren~
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u sure u blockin him from ur life??Originally posted by icyprincess:I never asked him to spend any money for me, everytime he wanted to buy something for me, I will ask him not to. I am trying not to like him now, I mean I just got out of an intense liking for my ex-prince, I dun wan B to be like my rebound. I might like him later on, I dunno, maybe I will if he perserve and does something that touches me deeply. But right now I definitely know I am blocking off my ex-prince from my life...
u sure for how long 1 weeks,
2 weeks? or 1 mth??
seriously u need to identify the aim of ur life.
otherwise u won be able to live in peace.
it`ll come back to huant u..
now we await wat YUN has to say..
she`s my master.. but i tink ur situation very messy..
only a clear aim in life will bring u far..
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from wad i can see.. u're just lying to urself.. "I mean I just got out of an intense liking for my ex-prince" and "But right now I definitely know I am blocking off my ex-prince from my life..." if this can happen so easily.. tt mean ur feelings for ur ex-prince isnt tt intense to begin wif..Originally posted by icyprincess:I never asked him to spend any money for me, everytime he wanted to buy something for me, I will ask him not to. I am trying not to like him now, I mean I just got out of an intense liking for my ex-prince, I dun wan B to be like my rebound. I might like him later on, I dunno, maybe I will if he perserve and does something that touches me deeply. But right now I definitely know I am blocking off my ex-prince from my life...
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Actually not that messy afterall.Originally posted by BaByBoY:u sure u blockin him from ur life??
u sure for how long 1 weeks,
2 weeks? or 1 mth??
seriously u need to identify the aim of ur life.
otherwise u won be able to live in peace.
it`ll come back to huant u..
now we await wat YUN has to say..
she`s my master.. but i tink ur situation very messy..
only a clear aim in life will bring u far..
sorry..
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I noticed that sgboy gave especially good advices this time round.Originally posted by sgboy2004:better to hav him sad now then when he has fallen into your grasp deeper then he sad -
How long have you known A and B?
Maybe the chat with A and this other gal of his, maybe they're good friends? -
A likes the other gal for a long long time already.Originally posted by :How long have you known A and B?
Maybe the chat with A and this other gal of his, maybe they're good friends?
I thought there's another thread about Icyprincess. A more complete version of what happened. =How to tell if a guy is interested in a girl..= -
When i first came across this thread, i was shocked... because i believed i'm in the same type of situation, except that i'll be B... For a while there, i thought icyprincess may be the girl i like until i saw her profile.
My situation will be almost exactly similar to B's. I came to like one of my female classmates and we became quite close, smsing, chatting online at night or on the phone every day. I then decided to get along with chasing her. I started asking her out solo, instead of with a whole group of friends. The response then was favourable, or so i thought. I knew she had a breakup fairly recently in December though. I bought her a present when i went on holiday. I made a point of remembering little details about her, such as her favourite drinks, food, her behaviour. It seemed to surprised her when she came to knew i was observing her but i thought then that she was pleased. I was quite obvious about my feelings through, even though i never said that i like her out loud. Our exams was at the end of last month and i've already decided a while back to ask her out after the exams and told her about my feelings face to face (i've always believed that it's better to say these words face to face rather than through the phone). I've even asked around for romantic spots to do this.
Unfortunately, as we neared the exams, how she behaved towards me seemed to have changed. When i asked her out a few times, she always said she was busy. I thought that it could be the exams bothering her, though at the back of my mind, i wondered whether it could have been her relationship problems came back to bother her. But i still decided to go ahead with my original idea, since i did not like to beat around the bush (plus she had once long ago made an off-hand remark that guys should expressed their feelings if they like someone).
So after the exams, i asked her out the very next day. She again said she was not free. And so on for the next day. Then, i met her online on msn. Her words were very... stiff, not like all the previous times when we chat. Then she made a remark. "Do u believe in out of sight, out of mind?"
I knew something was bothering her. I asked her whether i can meet up with her. Her reply broke my heart. "No, i do not want to meet u". I tried to chat a bit of other things with her but my heart wasn't into it, and i finally made an excuse and disconnected from the chat.
That was then. From then until today, she did not smsed or called me, nor did she came online. It was a far cry from before, when hardly a day went by without contact. I did not attempted to make any form of contact myself, hoping everyday that she would call, that her words "out of sight, out of mind" was not meant for me to stop contacting her and put her out of my mind. But nothing so far...
I'm still feeling upset. It was not because she rejected me, since she has every right to do so and towards the exams, i was already bracing myself in case of a rejection. It was because this happened just when i was about to tell her that made it unbearable. Maybe that's why i'm writing out my story here. As i read icyprincess's story, i'm beginning to realise that maybe, i was in B's exact same shoes.
Icyprincess, i've always believed that girls are very perceptive creatures. If B really likes u, u will know and sense it. He may be in my shoes, trying to find a suitable time to express it. If u decided not to accept him, be nice in the rejection, don't just ignore him like u said u might do. It's better for him to know your true feelings, rather than letting him wonder what had happened to make u suddenly ignore him. If he had been nice to u, he at least deserved that. Take care. -
I guess if girls were guys..I reckon we guys would wack them up good and proper for the malicious stuff that they do to our hearts...
We may be men but we still possess a heart of flesh..
Have a care, the world does not revolve around you,ladies.. -
Then, apparently, the prince which our icyprincess falls in love with, is not a prince, but a princess!Originally posted by Misogynist:I guess if girls were guys..I reckon we guys would wack them up good and proper for the malicious stuff that they do to our hearts...
We may be men but we still possess a heart of flesh..
Have a care, the world does not revolve around you,ladies..
Gender does not play a part in relationship problems. Its the ppl, whom themselves, contribute to the problems!