A sad love story tat developed from Sgforums...
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U win.Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm...you should really read Dating Tips advices.
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she will b my course mate in poly...she is tat some1 special from poly...only tat we met earlier den we shld...bcos of fate ba...
n she likes me too...so i will b waiting for her...
if there is some1 special in poly...tat has to b her... -
You'll never know.Originally posted by bladez87:she will b my course mate in poly...she is tat some1 special from poly...only tat we met earlier den we shld...bcos of fate ba...
n she likes me too...so i will b waiting for her...
if there is some1 special in poly...tat has to b her...
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Originally posted by M©+square:You'll never know.
X2.
Don't always presume things will always remain the same for love.
Cheers -
dun be a rebound case
never never never -
hmm.. personally.. i just tink tt even if u 2 get together.. it will be like fireworks.. intense.. beautiful.. but extremely short.. n if u really love her.. yes.. by all means.. go woo her.. but ultimately e choice is hers.. xuan ze bu shi ni gei de.. er shi ta zhi zi de.. u've already told her how u feel.. u've already told her to b wif u... but there's no conclusion up till now.. so even if she get back wif her ex.. there's nothing u can do.. except to wish her well n get on wif ur life..
i wun give u all e things abt 'loving her means let her go..' or 'she happy u'll also be happy..' cos basically i tink most people will never wanna give up on a person who they love a lot.. cos ppl will always wanna be wif the person who they love a lot.. so wad u can do now.. is just to wait n bide ur time.. try not to contact her for e time being.. spend more time wif ur frens la.. u'e still young.. have fun n make merrY~! -
y don b rebound?
wat is rebound?
wat will happen in a rebound?
how to cfm this situation is a rebound? -
sighz...
her mom noe me chasing her
her cousin noe me chasing her...
her fren noe me chasing her...
she noe i chasing her...
juz now she come tell me...me n her will never b together...
what m i to do? -
Poor thing! If she likes you, why would she say that?....Originally posted by bladez87:sighz...
her mom noe me chasing her
her cousin noe me chasing her...
her fren noe me chasing her...
she noe i chasing her...
juz now she come tell me...me n her will never b together... what m i to do?
You must learn to get over it~ -
wish you luck xiao di diOriginally posted by bladez87:this is a story abt my relationship with a gal from whom i met from Sgforums.we chatted for a while n clicked very well.soon i fell for her,her personality.we have known each other for like 2weeks now...
1st day) she msg me via frenster den we exchange numbers.den i called her.we soon tok n tok n tok.we tok until like quite late b4 i had to hang up n go out.i enjoyed juz toking to her bcos we clicked spontanously.
2nd)i called her early in the afternoon.bored ma.den she oso bored.wanted to go cyndi fanmeet.but alone so don wan.den jio her go she don wan.den after tat we chatted until like 6pm+.unknowingly grew attracted to her...
3rd)wanted to go cyndi fanmeet at PS.again alone,so jio her again.oso no go...den in end chatted until a long long time.saw her pic...not clear tho...
4th)met up.bought lunch for me,of cos i paid her.she came my hse.a surprise.i tot she was kidding.we played crazy taxi.den after tat we went for a movie.starsky and hutch.watched n enjoyed.den she went woodlands library.n i went home.chatted from 10pm to 3am tat nite.popped her the question twice...at my home n movie...
5th)went over to her hse under pretext of using her comp.met her dad n younger bro.really used her comp.den went to meet her fren to give some tuitioning for maths.tuitored until 6pm.den went to watch dawn of the dead.den i sent her home n went home myself.
tok on phone till 1.30am.
6th)joined her n her fren again.went shopping with her n her fren.den sent her home.chatted on phone again.
7th)met her fren. me n her watch 50 1st dates.gave a surprize n she gave me 1 too...a peck on the cheeks.den after tat sent her home.n chatted again
8th)never meet.chatted on phone for a hell lota of time.
9th)went taka,met her cousin,den went to my former working place n met my ex colleagues.chitchat tok tok.den after tat went to a church service with her...altho i was damn uncomfortable...den after tat sent her back.waited for her to return from fren bbq at 1am like tat.den chat again
10th)sms a lot.chit chat a lot at nite.until like 12.30. tired 1 lehz...i got work so last nite tok lesser...
11)now currently toking to her...
she had a ex who was with her for 1yr+.she cant forget him.den she had another like march.n broke with him during april.a few days b4 knowing me.the reason for break was she ask her ex for patch n her den bf saw tat sms.broke with her,wanted to patch but couldnt forgive her so he gave up tat idea.i confessed i liked her on the day we met.not for her looks nor body...but bcos we r like so compatible we click n ....wateva...den i asked her if she likes me too.she admitted it.i jio her as my gf,but she refused.at 1st telling me she still have her 1yr ex in heart.den shortly after tat,she told me she had another ex(tat 1mth) n it was like ,she was still hoping for a patch with him.almost daily i went out with her after work.kept her company.she said i treated her very good,very sweet n nicer den her 1mth Ex.she said she gave up on her 1yr ex.but still she donno wat to do.we were kinda like enjoying ourselves till lsat nite.she told me her 1mthex called her n asked for a meeting.
i donno wat to do.n she oso.its like i really really like her.altho we know each other for a short time but its like the time we spent on getting to know each other really makes up for tat. she said tat if i met her b4 her 1mth ex.she mite(high chance) have gone steady with me.but rite now she is not sure of wat to do...
guys plz help...
me n her gonna b in same course same poly...so tat means...i will b meeting her for the next 3years. -
Blade!!! I was in your position few weeks back. And is almost the same thing happened. I am telling you now although it's going to be very difficult. STOP ALL PHYSICAL ACTIONS WITH HER. Cause when u get physical, you will definitely build up emotions based on being physical.
Be normal frens, keep that distance there. Stay with her, talk to her. Keep her company. BUT ONLY WHEN SHE HAS FINALLY LET GO OF HER EX, then u move in to really woo n chase her all you want.
I was in your situation and under the mentality that i could let some girl forget her ex, we both had great time for 2 months, 1 month of going steady n it juz all crashed from there. We are trying to patch as frens now. We got physical damn fast, only until frenching and i really really genuinely loved her. She thought she did too, but turns out i was only her temporary sheltar in her moments of heartaches. She didn't realised she was doing such a thing to me only sometime later when she made a terrible mistake which i dun wanna talk about cause it's over.
But I'm telling you now. Learn from me. Stop all physical actions n juz be good frens. If u really love her, u can wait for her. Make sure she really lets go of her ex inside. It's a very hidden disguise to go under the situation where she tells u she loves u, looks into ur eye n all logic gets thrown out of the window. Haiz, dun go that way which i have experienced. Of course if u lucky, then u can successfuly detach her from her ex, if not... U will feel damn cheated and even worse!
The worse type of love is not unrequited love, it is when what you thought was true and real love was actually just a fake dream gone bad.
Learn from me. Dun suffer... =) -
thanx guys...esp heng mcsquare jewel n those i noe in real life.
thanx for your support.
me look damn tough n cool rite...don look like some1 who wld b bothered by r/s rite.lol.don judge book by cover wor...
hmm.man man lai she told me.she scared she cant commit...scared her feelings for me will fade off...don wan take risk.for her r/s is all or nth...
i like u but can't do anything abt it unless i wana see YOU cry<---said by her. -
HaiZ~ You are in this horrible situation which is hurtin' you so much huh? Seriously i don't know why she's doing this to you. Why does she claim to like you and yet refuses to be with you? Guess she herself is in a frenzy of emotions as well..
Since she has initiated a "man man lai" situation, then give her time bahx.. But like what Bontakun said:Den heed her advice. DUN BE NICE TO HER.
Maybe in that way you can distance yourself away from her and the heartbreak that you most probably might suffer will not be amplified.. Since she can't let go of her ex-es you guys won't be happy together even IF you DO get together..
After all, how would you feel if you know that whenever the two of you kiss, she's thinking of someone else? *SiGh* Maybe she's afraid of that too.. -
good comments ....
i guess many of us in in the same boat -
Just got to be persistent and show her how much u valued her... actions speaks louder than words... words are dirt cheap... so show her!!!
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do u want???Originally posted by bladez87:sighz...
her mom noe me chasing her
her cousin noe me chasing her...
her fren noe me chasing her...
she noe i chasing her...
juz now she come tell me...me n her will never b together... what m i to do?
then show her lor...
dont wait until too late and start regretting for not doing things at the right time... -
Originally posted by bladez87:sighz...
her mom noe me chasing her
her cousin noe me chasing her...
her fren noe me chasing her...
she noe i chasing her...
juz now she come tell me...me n her will never b together... what m i to do? If there is something you have to learn, learn this:
'When you chase a girl, don't let the fringing` whole world know - you are reducing your own chance drastically.
Learn to take your time. The ones that is worth your effort will take that amount of time. Take haste and you sacrifice your future.'
- CloUdiSm Remix III
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x 2Originally posted by Yunhaier: If there is something you have to learn, learn this:
'When you chase a girl, don't let the fringing` whole world know - you are reducing your own chance drastically.
Learn to take your time. The ones that is worth your effort will take that amount of time. Take haste and you sacrifice your future.'
- CloUdiSm Remix III
Cheers
Learn not to apply tension, pressure and calculate your cost before your decision.
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Don't mention about thanking us.Originally posted by bladez87:thanx guys...esp heng mcsquare jewel n those i noe in real life.
thanx for your support.
me look damn tough n cool rite...don look like some1 who wld b bothered by r/s rite.lol.don judge book by cover wor...
hmm.man man lai she told me.she scared she cant commit...scared her feelings for me will fade off...don wan take risk.for her r/s is all or nth...
i like u but can't do anything abt it unless i wana see YOU cry<---said by her.
It doesn't feel good to know that we've tried but yet couldn't bring you see the whole perspective.
But then again. None of us should feel personal about your problems.
No one judges you that you're tough lookin and cool.
Because the fact about humans is, everybody have their own sense of insecurity, time of loneliness, inferiority and struggles.
No matter how much people try to look on the outside.
Someday...the true self will reveal.
I'd rather she be scared IMO.
Chasing you away from a relationship could be a good move from her.
I've concluded that, she regards you as a good friend. Hence unable to love you like a lover. The paradox of liking yet unable to accept your love could led to only one answer.
She couldn't see future with you. And still awaiting for the 'true' one to pick her up.
Even though you felt that you should stay on. I respect that.
All i can say is, stay at your consequences.
We don't know that girl personally, it's hard to depicter her thoughts.
My final advice to you.
Learn and leave, admit that you've lost this round.
Do it right the next time round.
Cheers -
Hi bladez,
she has already made things clear about her feelings for you. the fact that she spoke to you means she wants to keep this friendship.
the ball is really in your court now. it's going to be painful and miserable for you, but you got to learn how to let go. do your best to remain as friends with her. -
just my own opinion..Originally posted by bladez87:thanx guys...esp heng mcsquare jewel n those i noe in real life.
thanx for your support.
me look damn tough n cool rite...don look like some1 who wld b bothered by r/s rite.lol.don judge book by cover wor...
hmm.man man lai she told me.she scared she cant commit...scared her feelings for me will fade off...don wan take risk.for her r/s is all or nth...
i like u but can't do anything abt it unless i wana see YOU cry<---said by her.
i tink tt this is a very clear scenario.. for me la.. i've always believe tt if a problem concerns only urself.. u can ren ding sheng tian.. however, if the problem concerns urself n some other third party.. u can only ting tian you ming.. ask urself this boy.. if one day u EVER discovered tt u're just a substitute for her ex.. will u be happy..? will u still be able to accept it..? i bet tt most guys wun be able to.. i'm one.. a substitute for a guy until she went back to be wif him again..
i tink tt both of u r very confused in ur mind now.. n confusion will often lead to mistakes.. mistakes tt one will most probably regret in life later on.. n it's not abt her... it's abt u.. dun give urself so much pressure.. dun give urself misery.. give urself time.. love isnt everything.. u're still so young.. got a bright future in front of u.. it may be hard initially.. but wif determination.. u'll definitely succeed.. try to go back to ur "previous" life.. a life whereby u dunno her yet.. a life when ur life is not affected by her at all cos u dunno her.. see.. if u're born in 1987.. so u're 17 now.. u've been living tt kind of life for 17 yrs right..? so it's just a reversal back to ur old life.. not much diff.. not much change.. ur situation only lack e most basic element.. time.. time will tell everything young man.. meanwhile.. live life happy.. n ya.. bookmark this place.. maybe when u come back n see this place a few months later.. u might laugh at urself for letting this thing trouble u..
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u noe u could be "scaring" her off by pushing on the accelerator too much.Slow down dude.Take it easy.It's not like ur gonna marry her.Wish u luck anyway...
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Originally posted by Accela:So very true.
But its not as easy as it seems. By itself, it is easy. But because human generally have poor emotional control and by allowing our personal desire and overwhelming emotions to have a mind of its own, it hinders our advancement to achieve our love goals.
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I know I am late in replying, but if you really love this girl dont give up. Just give her all the time she need, when she is ready to accept your love. she will.
I had a ex whom I waited 3 years for her to give me this chance though it's a long wait but it is worth it because I love her.
So if you really love her, don't give her pressure and wait paitently.
All the best to you bladez87.