A sad love story tat developed from Sgforums...
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very true..Originally posted by wudimax:i think u should give up on her, maybe when she relise life without u will be meaningless, she will come back to u.
Sometimes human will not treasure till she/he loses it.
ppl always take things for granted.. the only treasure it when its gone..
btw its also a tatic of love...
absence make the heart fonder.. -
my friend, you can't hurry love.
if you put on the pressure while she's trying to resolve her problems with her ex, you'll be the 'pest to detest'.
let her solve her emotional baggage first. if she can't let go, she can't move on.
if your feelings for her is true, it will stand the test of time. -
well, if she's under the pressure to accept him cos of the posts here, wouldn it hurt more if she chose to leave?Originally posted by ^sylvia^:hi shinta! but hor.. scully the girl is looking hor.. like that what if the girl nv choose him how after seeing our post..
i think we encourage him first lo~ since he haven't start out with her.. must give up liow very ke xi~ -
Hey Bladez87,
Just woke up and saw your thread.
I like this post by SillyMe>>>
The worst thing you could do towards a girl is to give pressure.
my friend, you can't hurry love.
if you put on the pressure while she's trying to resolve her problems with her ex, you'll be the 'pest to detest'.
let her solve her emotional baggage first. if she can't let go, she can't move on.
if your feelings for her is true, it will stand the test of time.
Surely everyone have the right to pursue what they yearn to have.
But to what expense of the end result?
I'd encourage you to think unselfishly(take a step back), cos it'll help you gain a more matured perspective of relationships in time to come.
It speaks not only your liking and attraction for her.
It also speaks of your concern for her. You care that she might become pressured or stressed up more than you wanting to get into relationship.
She might consider you being a gentleman and bonus for you.
Think about it for awhile. Ever heard from a girl whom just hop into a new relationship with your guyfriend. Telling her friends or to you that 'Actually i really miss my ex, i'm thinkin of him all the time...'
How would you feel for your guyfriend? Or rather if she's your girlfriend, you never know how she truly feels or what's in her mind no matter how many kisses or how long the phone call with you.
Well...like you've said. You're going to enter into the same course with her. 3yrs can make alot of difference to affect her again.
Don't rush, just ready for her to go.
Don't be upset cos she never belonged to you.
Don't give up cos you never know when she might be yours......in time to come.
Think think think
Cheers! -
haha thanx to all of u.
the fact is i cant give up n i wouldnt give up is bcos
the fact i bu gan xin is tat
most of time...
rejection happens when 1 party don feel for the other...
mine is,both feel for each other...both enjoy being with each other,its like...we r both so happy together...i tot relationships r meant to b make the other party happy n such...
but we r not together as a couple...
wat hurts more...
rejection by some1 who don feel for u
or rejection by some1 who feels for u...haix -
Don't worry, do what you want and go give your best shot....i'll be around if ya need me.Originally posted by bladez87:haha thanx to all of u.
the fact is i cant give up n i wouldnt give up is bcos
the fact i bu gan xin is tat
most of time...
rejection happens when 1 party don feel for the other...
mine is,both feel for each other...both enjoy being with each other,its like...we r both so happy together...i tot relationships r meant to b make the other party happy n such...
but we r not together as a couple...
wat hurts more...
rejection by some1 who don feel for u
or rejection by some1 who feels for u...haix -
thanx mcsquare...
drop me your number pal.lol
now got heng n mcsquare to add to my uncle agony list...
oh well...i suppose i can try my best ba...giving her a surprise...let her read this tmr.hopefully she makes the right decision of her choice n don regret it.
Gal i juz wanna say sorry for trying wat i shld not have>.<
shh don u guys ask wat i did...
damn forget wat i wanted to say... -
wah siao liao... another... AE86tofu???Originally posted by bladez87:thanx mcsquare...
drop me your number pal.lol
now got heng n mcsquare to add to my uncle agony list...
oh well...i suppose i can try my best ba...giving her a surprise...let her read this tmr.hopefully she makes the right decision of her choice n don regret it.
Gal i juz wanna say sorry for trying wat i shld not have>.<
shh don u guys ask wat i did...
damn forget wat i wanted to say... -
hmm anymore help?i m open to suggestions...
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Actually, you know what to do... right?
So why are you still seeking suggestions?
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Since U wanna get da shot on her. Heres some tips: do NOT panic. Stay cool & clear headed so U noe wat to do next. Alwaes be prepared for da worst, once U have a pic of da WORST case scenario, U dun feel dat much fear in U anymore (& in most cases, things aint as bad as yr presumed worst case scenario...)
Look into her eyes when U communicate wif her, show her U r not afraid. Tink TWICE b4 U speak & answer. There r betta answers when U paused & tink b4 speaking. Alwaes noe there r options ard U (In so many movies, there r alwaes Plan B...)
So far dis is all I can sae lah. Up to U U wanna accept or not. -
all the best... jia you!
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wish u all the best!
use sincerity to move her...
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Originally posted by bladez87:this is a story abt my relationship with a gal from whom i met from Sgforums.we chatted for a while n clicked very well.soon i fell for her,her personality.we have known each other for like 2weeks now...
1st day) she msg me via frenster den we exchange numbers.den i called her.we soon tok n tok n tok.we tok until like quite late b4 i had to hang up n go out.i enjoyed juz toking to her bcos we clicked spontanously.
2nd)i called her early in the afternoon.bored ma.den she oso bored.wanted to go cyndi fanmeet.but alone so don wan.den jio her go she don wan.den after tat we chatted until like 6pm+.unknowingly grew attracted to her...
3rd)wanted to go cyndi fanmeet at PS.again alone,so jio her again.oso no go...den in end chatted until a long long time.saw her pic...not clear tho...
4th)met up.bought lunch for me,of cos i paid her.she came my hse.a surprise.i tot she was kidding.we played crazy taxi.den after tat we went for a movie.starsky and hutch.watched n enjoyed.den she went woodlands library.n i went home.chatted from 10pm to 3am tat nite.popped her the question twice...at my home n movie...
5th)went over to her hse under pretext of using her comp.met her dad n younger bro.really used her comp.den went to meet her fren to give some tuitioning for maths.tuitored until 6pm.den went to watch dawn of the dead.den i sent her home n went home myself.
tok on phone till 1.30am.
6th)joined her n her fren again.went shopping with her n her fren.den sent her home.chatted on phone again.
7th)met her fren. me n her watch 50 1st dates.gave a surprize n she gave me 1 too...a peck on the cheeks.den after tat sent her home.n chatted again
8th)never meet.chatted on phone for a hell lota of time.
9th)went taka,met her cousin,den went to my former working place n met my ex colleagues.chitchat tok tok.den after tat went to a church service with her...altho i was damn uncomfortable...den after tat sent her back.waited for her to return from fren bbq at 1am like tat.den chat again
10th)sms a lot.chit chat a lot at nite.until like 12.30. tired 1 lehz...i got work so last nite tok lesser...
11)now currently toking to her...
she had a ex who was with her for 1yr+.she cant forget him.den she had another like march.n broke with him during april.a few days b4 knowing me.the reason for break was she ask her ex for patch n her den bf saw tat sms.broke with her,wanted to patch but couldnt forgive her so he gave up tat idea.i confessed i liked her on the day we met.not for her looks nor body...but bcos we r like so compatible we click n ....wateva...den i asked her if she likes me too.she admitted it.i jio her as my gf,but she refused.at 1st telling me she still have her 1yr ex in heart.den shortly after tat,she told me she had another ex(tat 1mth) n it was like ,she was still hoping for a patch with him.almost daily i went out with her after work.kept her company.she said i treated her very good,very sweet n nicer den her 1mth Ex.she said she gave up on her 1yr ex.but still she donno wat to do.we were kinda like enjoying ourselves till lsat nite.she told me her 1mthex called her n asked for a meeting.
i donno wat to do.n she oso.its like i really really like her.altho we know each other for a short time but its like the time we spent on getting to know each other really makes up for tat. she said tat if i met her b4 her 1mth ex.she mite(high chance) have gone steady with me.but rite now she is not sure of wat to do...
guys plz help...
me n her gonna b in same course same poly...so tat means...i will b meeting her for the next 3years. You are playing with fire by posting this here. Trust me, if she were to know about this, you are almost gone for sure. Nobody likes their story to be posted online ESPECIALLY in aunt agony section WHEN they are NOT the person posting, yet they are part of the story. You get what I mean.
Log in different nick, pte msg someone and seek advice if you wished.
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From 1 to 11, we can see how much you both have spend quality time together. Feelings brew and connect - usually, emotions will spark and liking will foster. In any other common case, you both would probably be together already.
Your concluding two paragraph says alot of things. First, too many things are rushing in - she cannot handle it emotionally. You met her for the first time and you told her that you like her and she actually felt the same as well - things are going too hasty. She needed space and time; therefore ex will definitely be used to buy some time for consideration.
You are like a rushing wind, this relationship will likely to be intense. Continue in this speed, at this current strength, you will see the passion dying down later in the future.
Why?
You wanted her so badly, then competiting against her ex - this put unneccessary pressure on her, which ultimately kills seduction. You enter into a relationship with her, it will be difficult for you to substain the first 9 months relationship, furthermore she is spolit for choices - you are merely one option.
You want to fight against competitor; you show her that you are the one and NOT tell her that you are the best among them. Let make her own decision - you just do your thing. You already asked her to be your girlfriend, then until the time she is ready and wish to commit, then let the relationship begin. If not, always presume she need more time.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
finally expert is here You are playing with fire by posting this here. Trust me, if she were to know about this, you are almost gone for sure. Nobody likes their story to be posted online ESPECIALLY in aunt agony section WHEN they are NOT the person posting, yet they are part of the story. You get what I mean.
Log in different nick, pte msg someone and seek advice if you wished.
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From 1 to 11, we can see how much you both have spend quality time together. Feelings brew and connect - usually, emotions will spark and liking will foster. In any other common case, you both would probably be together already.
Your concluding two paragraph says alot of things. First, too many things are rushing in - she cannot handle it emotionally. You met her for the first time and you told her that you like her and she actually felt the same as well - things are going too hasty. She needed space and time; therefore ex will definitely be used to buy some time for consideration.
You are like a rushing wind, this relationship will likely to be intense. Continue in this speed, at this current strength, you will see the passion dying down later in the future.
Why?
You wanted her so badly, then competiting against her ex - this put unneccessary pressure on her, which ultimately kills seduction. You enter into a relationship with her, it will be difficult for you to substain the first 9 months relationship, furthermore she is spolit for choices - you are merely one option.
You want to fight against competitor; you show her that you are the one and [b]NOT tell her that you are the best among them. Let make her own decision - you just do your thing. You already asked her to be your girlfriend, then until the time she is ready and wish to commit, then let the relationship begin. If not, always presume she need more time.
Cheers [/b] -
leave to fate ba....if she meant to b urs..she is urs...
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Eh yun quite busy leh, can't always be online, especially morning and afternoonOriginally posted by HENG@:finally expert is here
Anyway...
/me slip a cheque inside Heng's pocket. -
i hope she don get angry with me for doing this...by the time she read this post of mine...she angry anot already will happen...
Gal sorry...i did not get your permission n juz post it here...
regrets...for my actions...
pain in my heart...
thanx for your help ppl...thanx...needed support... -
wah simi cheque lai eh? blank cheque???Originally posted by Yunhaier:Eh yun quite busy leh, can't always be online, especially morning and afternoon
Anyway...
/me slip a cheque inside Heng's pocket.
eh dun count on me to be of much help. i always give lousy advice. -
Hmmmm... Maybe just give her more time, 'cuz it's like wat the others said is true, if she can't get over her ex-es, she can't give you her heart. And that might juz hurt both of u more when she feels that she cannot continue this facade anymore.
True, she might feel a hell lot for you, but fact is, i personally don't believe that a person can love 2 people at the same time.
You don't mind her past, but she probably minds it a lot. Perhaps she thinks that it won't be fair to you if she agrees to be your girlfriend, 'cuz she knows that all the time, she'll be thinking of her ex-es..?? (WoMeN!!)
But then again, is it REALLY necessary for you to get into a relationship so early? After all, there's still at least 3 more years of schooling and since she'll be in the same course as you, there'll be more than enough chance for you to call her out and spend time with her.
I think mayhaps you give her more time and let the both of you concentrate on ur studies 1st.. I believe that'll not only give her more time to think about relationship thingie and also build a better foundation for the two of you. Think about it, ya?
P.S: Maybe you should try to distance urself from her from now.. You don't wana hurt more than you already do..
Gd LuCk hOr!!
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oh.. guess she's under lotsa pressure lol.. anyway, we give him moral support and let him take actions or not lor~Originally posted by shinta:well, if she's under the pressure to accept him cos of the posts here, wouldn it hurt more if she chose to leave? -
she said i was too sweet for her...too nice...she don want hurt me...
she said...if i not so nice...she wld have gone with me...
bcos i so nice to her...it gives her a feeling of cheating on me...
so if i not so nice den...she wld not really care so much abt my feelings n went with me...breaking up will not b so hard for her to say so...when needed
haix...
b nice not good
b bad oso cant...
tell me wat to do...mayb i shld not treat the gals i like so well le -
Hmm...you should really read Dating Tips advices.
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Den heed her advice. DUN BE NICE TO HER.Originally posted by bladez87:she said i was too sweet for her...too nice...she don want hurt me...
she said...if i not so nice...she wld have gone with me...
bcos i so nice to her...it gives her a feeling of cheating on me...
so if i not so nice den...she wld not really care so much abt my feelings n went with me...breaking up will not b so hard for her to say so...when needed
haix...
b nice not good
b bad oso cant...
tell me wat to do...mayb i shld not treat the gals i like so well le -
Two statements from Master yun. You should really heed.
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
M© shake shake shake bladez87.
You wanted her so badly, then competiting against her ex - this put unneccessary pressure on her, which ultimately kills seduction. You enter into a relationship with her, it will be difficult for you to substain the first 9 months relationship, furthermore she is spolit for choices - you are merely one option.
You want to fight against competitor; you show her that you are the one and [b]NOT tell her that you are the best among them. Let make her own decision - you just do your thing. You already asked her to be your girlfriend, then until the time she is ready and wish to commit, then let the relationship begin. If not, always presume she need more time.
Cheers [/b]
Oi...wake up. And get your life. You still got a long way to go.
You might meet someone special in poly!? God knows!!!!
Come on. Wake up already ok?
It's time to gracious and let her be.